This thread is three years old and closed
but I'd like to revive it. Some of the rules in the thread (only on work trips, one-and-done, don't fall in love) were mentioned in Dany Levy's movie "Good Grief."
Background: Hubby of 20 years and I never discussed rules, but our relationship was open: we had three-ways with a few escorts, and independently hired masseurs and escorts. Then, on a trip to Florida, we visited LeBoy and hubby connects with one of the dancers. Before I know it, they are visiting each other twice a month, and then the dancer moved closer to us in NY/NJ. After getting over the initial hurt, I have come to accept the situation. Hubby seems happy and takes good care of me and family (and his boyfriend); I am free to have fun outside the marriage. I'm not ready for divorce yet; too many financial connections (and kids).
One friend told me to accept that I'm in a polyamorous relationship, except that I don't have a romantic relationship with anyone else ... right now. That might change soon. So now I ask: how are the rules different for open vs. polyamorous relationships?