peter831

There's a big difference between "unwilling" and "passive" participant. Unwilling (and unable) is intrugal to the definition of "rape."

Easy there with the judgement.

It’s not about having a sophisticated and experienced client base here and out there.  It about having a diverse community.  Jarrod seems to think that his business model is the only one that works.  

I think @Jarrod_Uncut sometimes feels he’s “educating” us. Unfortunately my feeling is that this forum represents a fairly sophisticated and experienced client base. Not sure a lot of minds are going to get educated/changed here. 🤷🏻‍♂️

I agree that there are many nice providers here.

If the attitude shown on this forum is any indication of how some escorts market themselves, it’s easy to see why clients decide not to hire after initial contact.

This is topic pops up every few months. We have many past threads covering the subject. Here are a couple to reference:
 

Why wasting his time?
I simply don't reply and if I'm interested a year later and he's back in town I will reply to his message and schedule a new appointment. 
I think you're overthinking this issue. 
Just don't reply or say you don't have the money to rehire now but maybe on a next trip. 

Moderator note…I think the question has been discussed and opinions stated. Let’s lock it down.

"Handsome" and "In Shape" are not mutually inclusive .  There are many handsome men that are out of shape. And there are many in shape men that are ugly.  This will undoubtedly confuse@marylander1940. (Tagged out of courtesy).
The problem lies within the title of this thread.  Some interpret the question as "Discounts for in shape AND good looking AND younger guys (must be all 3)" while others mean "Discounts for in shape OR good looking guys OR younger guys (need not be all 3)"

And as such, he is no doubt aware that there is no forum requirement to @ someone when you talk about them. And no, it is not a 'common courtesy' to do so. Rather it is rude to demand that people do so.

Same. You can tell the guys who really love sex and love doing it with a variety of people and don't have a ton of hang-ups. Some of them are strikingly beautiful but most are more average good looking or a specific type. I also find there's more variety in body type and fitness regimes. They tend to be active in sports or exercise that's mostly outside of the gym. 

Maybe he'll let you suck his caaaaack - (with apologies to the people of Boston).

Nothing. Reached out and didn't hear back at all. Radio silence.

If it's clear he's checked out part way into the session, I think I'd simply say things don't appear to be working out between us and say we can cut it short and offer half the fee.  There is a possiblity that could get confrontational, unfortunately, so it depends how he appears to be reacting how I'd proceed if he demanded the full amount.  Your ability to extract yourself from the situation safely is most important.

Don't providers automatically assume that? I assume that no matter what is being purchased most people check out the options.

That's what you tell yourself, but that's not the truth.

Bump.  

My usual procedure:

First, I make the Initial booking. Let's say it's Wednesday night and the appointment is for 9 p.m. Friday night two days later at my place. I tell the provider that I'll reconfirm around noon Friday and then again one hour ahead. I do that for two reasons. One: If he's been burned by no-shows, this might make him feel better about my legitimacy. Reconfirmation usually involves one text: ("Hey, I'm still on for 9 tonight at my place if you are. Looking forward to meeting up."). Two: I've been burned by no shows or very late providers. Checking in one hour ahead usually helps in finding out if he's got it in gear to be on time or not.

If I book same day: Let's say I book at noon Friday for 9 p.m. that night. I'll reconfirm around 5 to 6 p.m. and then again at 8 p.m. 

If I book at say 4 p.m. Friday for 9 p.m. Friday, I'll just reconfirm the hour before. I'll just reconfirm one time if it's seven hours or less. 

A simple reply to his initial communication of "Thank you for letting me know. However, I'm not hiring at the moment." would be sufficient and doesn't invite a response.
 
A response like you noted needs no reply. He offered his availability, and you won't be changing your mind, so no reply is needed or expected I think.

I had a good experience a couple of months ago. 

37.8% of statistics are made up on the spot.  It's probably the same with reviews.

There were more providers listed as positive undetectable in the past but a lot of them now left the health status section blank.

Last night I made arrangements to see a provider I've met before just 7 blocks away. I'm at 16th and T NW and he was staying at 11th and U NW.
He asked: "How long will it take you to get here?"
"Whatever it takes me to get dressed and walk 7 blocks" I said to him. I got dressed in less than 2 minutes, walked out of my place and texted him: "I'm on my way at 11:02 PM.
I asked him at 11:04 PM: "What's your apartment number and the code for you to let me in?" 
He replied at 11:05 PM: "Are you here?" I said "NO" and he asked "Are you on Uber?', I once again told him I was walking 7 blocks to get to him. "What's your ETA?". 
I replied: "Are you high?". I had to cancelled, I can't handle this goldfish / microwave mindset they have when it comes to others. I might have overreacted but I had enough. 

The younger generation's way of thinking is the result of parents from our generation telling them that they deserve everything good and nothing bad. That has translated into self-entitlement, self-centeredness, and attention seeking. It's not that cut and dry, but overall, culturally speaking, that's what we can normally expect from them. Additionally, some providers seem to think that because we're the clients and willing to pay them, that we are also willing to wait or put up with whatever nonsense they come up with.
Like others have mentioned, be clear about the scheduling and timing, and cancel if he's not willing to honor your schedule. Of course, within reason, meaning, sometimes there are legitimate reasons for being late.