PhileasFogg

My opinion is that if you look at a picture of some who - let’s say - is REALLY 25, but LOOKS 40. Are you going forward just because of his age? To me, we read a number and we see a picture…we make a decision based on what we see, not what we read People are smart enough. Age is a number. If they don’t look what the say and you don’t like what you see, move on. But, if you don’t believe the number and you do like what you see, you’re probably going to move forward. Right?

Good point. It’s hotter in September in Palm Springs vs Key West. But the humidity is incredibly low

I have a trip planned with a companion in five weeks to The Island House in Key West. Current tropical forecasts are iffy on how that might go with a higher than average incidence expected for named storms. So, we are considering a gay/clothing optional resort in Palm Springs instead? Are they comparable destinations? I love the bohemian vibe of Key West. Does PS have that? If you favor PS, recommendations on resorts and/or location? I’ve read other posts here, but some are dated and I’d appreciate as much current insight that anyone can offer

As noted in the triangular theory, it’s Romantic Love. but as @JayCeeKy previously noted, it comes with the same dopamine triggers. The connection you’ve described is exactly what I seek in guys I see a second time (or more). Personally, I prefer to think of it more like friends with benefits. I’ve evolved to focusing on a small circle of guys that are dependable, whose presence I enjoy, with physical compatibility. The fact that I happen to have wealth and they seek to build wealth is a one of the mutual benefits in the interaction. (And I use “interaction” very intentionally)

As Donny Osmond said “ one bad Apple don’t spoil the whole orchard” you can still block folks if you choose

I don’t pay for sex, I pay for time. My charming personality 👹 and awesome 🍆 are the spark that triggers the possibility of sex. 😉 The platforms noted above offer a lots of skanks (kind of like the Wild West) and they tend to favor youth . They’re also platforms of opportunity where scheduling time can’t be planned like an appointment.

I wish I could rebut your position, but what happened was indeed unacceptable. And I’m sorry he treated you, and others, like he did

You’ll know it if you experience it

AMEN! There’s two types of guys here, those who seek providers as commodities and those who don’t. “Connection” doesn’t exist in commodity mindset. I don’t say that to judge, because everyone has a different need. But for me, I will not allow myself to be criticized when I express that every interaction is not just an act - but I also acknowledge that boundaries are still necessary. LIFE is 15,000 shades of grey….and beautiful paintings have been painted with grey.

You’re definitely on a roll! @azdr0710, why don’t you contact Budd and ask him?

No, but once I had a guy blurt out “I Love You” in the middle of a session. We did have a really good chemistry and he’d sent some signals that made me wonder before that. Things became awkward after that. But a little level set might be warranted to define “what is love?” According to Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, there are three dimensions to Consummate Love: Passion, Commitment, and Intimacy. I think humans often confuse hitting on one or two of those with love. Personally, I’m not looking for anything with a Commitment, but I need to “like” someone I have a physical connection with (that’s Passion and Intimacy aka “Romantic Love” where I think someone might think they “love” an escort…when in fact you’re closer to friends w/benefits). In the experience above, I had to turn down the “intimacy” a notch with the guy to be sure things didn’t heat up for him. so, the answer to your question for me is “no” But I seek a small number of guys that I can both like and be physically attracted to

In the 90’s I had chronic suffering from epididymitis - the result of my kids running into my arms and kicking me in the balls as their feet dangled while swinging in my arms. Occasionally, the pain was quite severe. So I went to doc in the box where I had the cutest young red headed dr seeing me. I described the problem and she got a little ruffled saying “we need to examine it, but I must have someone in the room with me” so, she steps out and gets a nurse. then, halfway hyperventilating she describes what we are going to do - sit down and drape this sheet over your lap - unbuckle your pants and belt and push them down under the sheet - then stand up holding the sheet to shield yourself. I comply…the dr reaches under the sheet and starts feeling around blindly I’m standing there trying to not make eye contact with the nurse in the corner who’s trying not to make eye contact with me. as the Dr feels around she suddenly exclaims “oh! That’s a big one!” “Young Frankenstein” comes to mind and my spontaneous response - with proper inflection and tone - was “well thank you Doctor!” at this point, the nurse in the corner is muffling a laugh as am I. Finally, I said “oh! You mean my epididymus?” oops, I guess I shouldn’t have been so easily flattered, eh?

I don’t disagree. Of course, your avatar has an interesting quote attributed to him ”never apologize. Never explain” Maybe he should, maybe he will - but either way, we should make our own decisions based on principle and not on what he might or might not do. I’ve said enough. I’ll shut up now but strength comes from doing more than one must - dine in free will

It’s my sense some of the attackers have been run out of town too 😉

Made my first one a month or two ago and I’m glad I did!

I appreciate the efforts of the admins and the results they achieve. I’ve also noted a few things: 1) there are some people here who have nothing good to say about anyone. As I note this, I instantly disregard their comments. They’ve cornered themselves into irrelevance. 2) there are some VERY long term members of this group and, inevitably, some interpersonal conflicts have festered and become evident to new users without an obvious sense of history. It is what it is

I hear RM is anything but user friendly.

Prompted by this reminder, it’s probably appropriate to point out that everyone has a bad day every now and then. As to JesTwink’s response to the situation, I’d note that it’s embedded in immaturity (in the same way I might have done decades ago), youthful exuberance, and delusions of invincibility. Immaturity is not something uncommon to someone billing themselves as a twink. While he’s received quite the public flogging here and should feel embarrassed by his behavior, maybe it’s time for us to be the greater men and let this one fade into oblivion? As @Alchemy notes, there are those who found no fault with this guy. I know I’ve doubled down on bad mistakes in my youth, I’ve learned from them, and adjusted my future behavior accordingly. I'm glad the internet didn’t exist when I was young. ( My first professional performance review said “Phileas needs to understand that sugar attracts more flies than vinegar”…criticism I learned from and took seriously for the next four decades) Therefore, if it were a vote (and I deferentially note it’s NOT a vote), I’d favor letting this guy go from this endless loop of pinned criticism. There, I clear my throat, look down at the podium, turn a little red as I swallow hard - and get off my soapbox. 🙃

Maybe? Maybe Not? Sometimes the experience means more than the view.

He’s an odd dude, but gives a good massage. He’s straight.

I’m with @sniper But I will also note that a few years ago, I needed to relearn how to walk. My form placed by body weight on the opposite side as my weight bearing leg causing pain in my knees that was starting to impact my distance and speed. what I do now I call my “Stayin’ Alive Walk” because, when exaggerated, it resembles John Travolta.

Exactly. I wouldn’t be happy with Cankles

Frankendick?

I’m not familiar with the use of fillers, but aren’t they prone to “migration” when pressed or squeezed?

It is. And he does.