PhileasFogg

I know a lot of members here have a firm rule: no face pics, no hire. We all have our boundaries, and most of us have them for perfectly valid reasons. But in the last few weeks, I’ve had two extraordinary experiences with providers whose profiles don’t show their faces — encounters that never would have happened if I followed that rule. One was just this past weekend in New Orleans with SamRockdale. @SamRockdale is an exceptional young man whose personality, grounding, and connection far exceeded what any picture could convey. (His 7 five-star reviews speak for themselves.) The other was last month in Iceland with someone - nameless - who prefers to keep a low profile but has built an incredibly strong reputation with over 60 five-star reviews. Because I tend to advocate for providers’ perspectives in these debates and their rights to be respected, I’m genuinely curious why some clients maintain such a strict - and risky to the provider - requirement. There are other ways to “meet” someone — video chats, voice calls, verification through reviews or references — that still respect a provider’s desire for privacy and do not require a face pic on an uncontrolled public forum. In today’s world, privacy isn’t just reasonable; it’s necessary. These guys already give a lot of themselves in this line of work. To me, the choice not to reveal their face often signals that they have meaningful lives outside this space — careers, families, social networks — which can actually make them more grounded, well-rounded, and appealing companions. So I’m honestly interested: what drives the “no face pic” rule for those of you who hold to it? What risks or concerns outweigh the potential of meeting someone great or seeing their face in a different way?

If I recall, nurses draw the blood based on Doctor’s orders only In similar situation, I asked the nurse to draw the extra blood in advance of the Dr’s orders At the same time, I was in the web portal sending the Dr a text telling him I wanted to add my STD tests to the list I now simply plan in advance using the web portal

I frequently receive feedback about the thoughtfulness of my initial inquiry. It says who I am, physical/health characteristics, what I’m inquiring about, what I like, etc. I hear story after story of providers receiving inquiries like it’s a dating app Often the response is a reflection of the effort put in to the inquiry.

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Probably relevant to note that viagra and cialis are enablers IF arousal occurs. They aren’t an elixir for lack of arousal, but they certainly help.

This reminds me i need to order mine.

@DMonDude, trust me, there’s plenty of money to spend. I think the question might be how much a providers appeal might be to married vs unmarried men. Married men need to get away - perhaps in their own city IF they aren’t busy with family obligations, but more likely travel for business or a group meeting without the family. Bentonville (as an example) has vast amounts of discretionary wealth but it’s a small town and someone on the down low could easily be caught in the act. You’ve got to go where the professionals are traveling without their family or else risk taking a flyer in a smaller market with advanced marketing. @JB_Studio38, since you’re not sharing your profile, we can’t assess, but are you at least refreshing it frequently with new content and even prose?

I will admit hesitating to use the word thug because of potential racial overtones. But when I think of a thug, I see it more as an attitude than a skin color

I’m curious, why aren’t you linking your RM profile here?

@JB_Studio38, I live in a small market. The pickings are slim (or simply stale) and I don’t even look in the local ads. I suspect that’s what you’re seeing in these markets - clients just aren’t looking. I focus on traveling with/to regulars or importing talent (usually regulars) to a larger city 100 miles away A thought - put some travel location dates out there weeks in advance to see what kind of exposure it gives you. That way you are catching the occasional searcher like me to see if you get any advance interest.

I’ll look for that number in case they call me in Mississippi 🤪

Is it specifically a massage you’re looking for? I don’t know this guy but if there’s any other criteria that interests you, let’s discuss in private message if you prefer

Earliest review is 2017 and last one is 2022. Something doesn’t connect for me - “negative, on prep” but no bareback. I’d never judge someone being safe and being honest about it up front, but it is unusual in the current environment

Maybe in some cases — but the real question is what you do when that pivot happens. If someone shifts the boundary in person, you either stay or you leave. Your decision in that moment is the only “proof” that matters.

Isn’t pre screening the hook ups part of avoiding such harsh treatment?

I’ve pondered the idea of taking a place in Church and Wellesley for a month or two next summer. This makes a compelling economic case to do so if that “average” price represents a quality experience!

Thank you @MikeBiDude. All good — different opinions make the forum lively, and I’m perfectly fine with the discussion (and observing the rhetorical techniques that some use to deflect from weak arguments) Just to re-center things: I’ve now spent two full weekends with this young man — one in Palm Springs and one in New Orleans — and my time with him has exceeded expectations each visit. We already had a third weekend planned for Palm Springs (in three months), even before this weekend’s awesome reunion He’s been on RM since MAY and (excluding my two) already has NINE 5-star reviews. For anyone assessing what actually matters, these firsthand experiences and consistent ratings speak for themselves.

all true. Look how many different guys there are and we see all the different attractions. BUT, you are casting shade - UNNECESSARILY - to suggest that yours is the only view that matters and casting dispersions through a telescope from a distance. Let it go please or continue proving that there are also different opinions on whether someone has any sense of propriety or not.

appreciate you casting shade on my opinion 🙄 There are a couple of relevant facts, 1) his blond hair is pressed against my face right now and not yours 2) you’re relying on photographic assessment and not reality. And so if you say he’s lying, then you’re saying I am too based on your limited perspective. And now you suggesting he’s not cute…you’re wrong and he’s angelic and adorable too You’ve made your opinion clear. Thank you. I disagree and suggest I’m in a better position to draw a conclusion than you. So, can you let it go please? edited to add. As of this morning he had many more positive reviews than most RM guys. I guess that refutes your lying assertion, right?

Last night was a complete blast as CuteBlondBoy and I were joined by FTM_AngelGabe for some fun and dinner. It was a night of “firsts” for each of us. I have to say that this young addition to my weekend with CuteBlondBoy was smart, witty, sensual, energetic and exceeded both our expectations. It won’t be my last visit with Gabe who is a recent addition to the New Orleans scene. i can’t think of a better introduction to the FTM experience than Gabe! Ftm_angelgabe - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in New Orleans, LA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in New Orleans, LA - Ftm_angelgabe: Horny intellectual (trans man)

Are we refocusing this thread on hair color again??

Message him on RM and the auto reply will give his number. I’ve suggested he change that and he probably will

Haha…I think forum rules prevent me from posting THAT picture 😅

I’d encourage you to consider one other factor - we all talk about cost of living, but we don’t talk much about cost of employment. The upper Atlantic and New England suffer from high taxation, high cost of living, but because soooo many people live there, relative wages may be lower. Pondef options in a low tax state like Knoxville or Chattanooga.

Shared with his permission. This morning in New Orleans!