PhileasFogg

Why’d they have to make an obituary (of sorts) and then put his mug shot up? kinda tacky IMO

@Jamie21, if you’re on this side of the pond, let me know - although -I’m guessing Mississippi wouldn’t be on your short list of places to visit 😉

I used to live in Nashville. I can’t swear to it, but I’m pretty sure that this is the name he’s used for the recent past There was something about the pics I couldn’t connect with to motivate me to contact him. Plus, I wouldn’t have been looking for a top.

@MikeThomas and @Gar1eth get a VPN. I use ExpressVPN and set my site to look like I’m a heathen from Chicago or LA. Works like a charm. Now, back to Matt Thomas

Ok, PS in two weeks. Recommendations for restaurants?

One other thing I’ll add is that if you upload a screen shot of the question into ChatGPT, it will give you the answers. It protects against the tricky questions designed to trip you up

IMO, it gives the harassed a context to have a voice, the harasser a warning, and the employer some insulation against liability. That doesn’t mean I like spending my time being treated as the lowest common denominator of human being I don’t like it anymore than you do. Before I retired, when I had to do these things, I can assure you that I was done in 15 minutes. I simply fast forward the videos, quickly hit the tabs, and answer the questions based on decades of experience and insight. And BTW, in my business, it wasn’t just harrassment training, it was about the equivalent of 42 hours of various compliance mandates - I still knocked through it all in about 2 hours.

Ironically, someone gave me your name with the highest recommendation earlier today!

I think higher returns always bring higher risks. Maybe it might make sense for the providers you know to share with you how they reconciled those same concerns and whether they think it’s worth the risk.

Guess what? There was an RM provider I met a month ago that wasn’t on prep. A bottom. He didn’t even know it’s free. Saw him again last night. He’s on prep now. Ignorance really is a thing. Hence my reason for raising the point for @Namelesswe must think about these things when exploring before the opportunity presents itself

Listen, I’m in rural Mississippi - you can’t imagine the looks I get when I ask to have my throat swabbed for STD’s. But I own my choice to be responsible. In fact, I have to explain to them what that means when they hand me a cup to pee into. But for @Nameless, I just want him to know it’s a new process of awareness and fun. He can find his own pace. Welcome to the club

Honestly, I felt neither confident nor at ease until I took charge of protecting my own health. I don’t disagree with you, but for those new in this space, there’s a lot of unknowns and anxiety about this.

update: I’m going to plan a trip to PS sooner than later. But for this one, we decided to stick with Island House. In 110 years, KW has had 6 Sept hurricanes. That doesn’t mean a distant one won’t screw up the weather, but we shall see.

put boobs on it and you described my first wife…15 years later and we are friends again. In other words, it gets easier each day to move on

🙋🏻 me…no need to lie. The truth always becomes obvious if you do. Just avoid the crap and tell the truth. Life’s easier that way

If it ruined your day, it’s because you allowed it too. I’m not trying to be snarky, but I’d encourage you to own your own happiness and don’t let forces beyond your control determine it for you. 30 yrs ago, that stuff bothered me. In my 60’s, not so much. Everything goes in cycles. It’s like the weather - if you don’t like it, it’ll change.

I’m not far ahead of your experience - say by 18 mo. Also bi and twice divorced So much is about chemistry. Stick with it, experiment with different guys and you’ll know when you’re ready to advance to different things and with whom. Well into the process, I can say two or three guys took my experience and my confidence to new levels. I’m a top and my first intercourse was very spontaneous with a yoga instructor doing an upper plank and sliding down on me. A couple of others multiplied my confidence and the rest is history. You’ll find those great guys and you’ll find some duds along the way too. I encourage you to view it as a journey. You may also consider getting on PReP and having some Doxy handy if needed.

Mommy, who’s Dean Cain?👶🏻

@SomethingFun, I’m glad you’re dealing with it. After 20 yrs of marriage, I learned my first wife had developed a secret life on the side and refused to be transparent. It wasn’t what she might have been doing that I couldn’t accept, it was the opaqueness Marriage has become easy. But divorce is not. You’ve seen the light and cut bait early. CONGRATULATIONS on owning your destiny.

I didn't mean to offend, but I'll also note that I was repeating what they tell me. I'm not trying to suggest it's a competition

So @purplekow, is it your belief that it’s our bisexuality that contributes to our tight assed disposition or something else? For me, it feels more physiological (although I’d never deny a psychological component) In preparation for the few attempts I’ve made, I actually went to a lot of trouble to try to “train” myself with no success. One very patient and trustworthy young man stayed rock hard for 30 mins barely getting the tip in and in his charming Australian accent finally said “nope, you’re just a top mate!” @Jamie21, I think my “total bottom” friends would say it’s not harder to bottom. Some of them have even described themselves as “lazy.” But I’ll tell you what, they seem to love it. In every case, they are not bisexual. For those of us on the left side of the pond - “faff” means “to waste time on unnecessary or tedious tasks, or it can describe the tedious and time-consuming nature of a task itself. In essence, it describes a situation or activity that is more complicated, difficult, or time-consuming than expected, often involving minor annoyances or fuss” 🤓. I think it’s going to be my “word of the day” all week 🥸

@purplekow, your story is my story. I tried a few times out of curiosity, and I’m done trying.

You know, before you changed your name from AtlTopGuy, you were the one on the attack. Don’t you deflect and gaslight We all simply focused on the positives about the guys you attacked. Call it like it is, but don’t deflect. I don’t think you know what mean girl is, but you clearly need affirmation Edited to ask: have you ever said anything positive about anybody here? Hell, when this post came up, you and two others were the poster children in my view

Sorry, I misunderstood

Regular phone. I have nothing to hide and I want anyone I contact to feel comfortable. I’ve never had a problem and if I do, I’ll deal with it 🤌🏼