PhileasFogg

Other than sexting to arrange plans, I have no need unless the provider wants to communicate. About a year ago, I had one guy who kept trying to engage me in texts with leading comments. Then I’d respond and he’d say “hey, I’m gonna need $50 if we are engaging like this” We had several appointments, I always wondered if he’d ever show - and I ultimately cut my losses (time and financial) and moved on. I subsequently learned his reputation in the NOLA market isn’t good at all. So I see sexting for $ in advance of a meeting as a huge red flag In my view, good providers receiving a fair price should view reasonable amount of foreplay as part of the business model. I always promise that I won’t bother them with endless texts or promises for freebies but the good ones are willing to build anticipation

I agree there are plenty of situations where “the customer is always right” simply doesn’t hold. But in the moments when it does surface, it’s usually because the power dynamic makes it so — he with the gold tends to set the tone, for better or worse. That said, whether provider or purchaser, one truth applies universally: the Dowager Countess had it right — “vulgarity is no substitute for wit.”

I am not in a position to comment on anyone else’s experience, but I can speak clearly about my own. I’ve known Angus for over a year and we’ve traveled together multiple times — two weekend trips (Nashville and New Orleans) and a weeklong trip to Iceland (I took that profile picture of him at sunset in the Icelandic igloo) Across every encounter, he has been consistently patient, intuitive, respectful, and completely attuned to my comfort and preferences. One moment in particular stands out: when I was exploring whether bottoming might work for me, Angus was the first person I trusted to even try. He stayed patient throughout, listened carefully, adjusted when needed, and handled everything with a kindness and affirming tone that I genuinely appreciated. After 20 mins of coaching and effort and barely just getting his rock hard head in, without even an iota of frustration, he finally said “Phileas, let’s face it mate, you’re just a top and that’s OK” I also noticed I am his 69th five-star review on RM, and I see there is now a 70th. His track record of satisfied clients reflects what I’ve experienced repeatedly — professionalism, care, and consistency. He’s bright, well educated, intuitive, and has a disposition to serve I vaguely recall seeing this post weeks ago and thinking, “This doesn’t resemble the Angus I know.” We all process experiences differently. While I didn’t comment then, I’m glad Angus had the opportunity to respond with factual context so prospective clients can see the full picture. That’s my experience, and I offer it simply as another perspective in support and affirmation of this remarkable young man.

I like giving AND receiving

Personally, I don’t think modesty should ever be criticized. It should just be accepted. I’ll add that if I were in a locker room full of modest men, then I’d feel a little pervy being the one guy walking around like “hey! Look at me!”

It’s called a “starter dick” for those new to bottoming.

More likely he’s either exhausted or on anti depressants.

I agree with that and I’ve been called a “mean girl” here for advocating that very point in this forum. But this is a repeated occurrence. Now, if the expectation is that he must cum and that takes him off the market for a couple days to insure it happens, I believe it’s the client’s responsibility to pay extra for the forgone income But FTR, my ex wife told me to “cum now” so often that I stopped wanting to have sex. I generally go an hour or more and sex is aerobic exercise for me

Uninformed Perspective: You're agonizing over this because you have a good heart and you don't want to hurt his feelings. But perpetuating your own dissatisfaction is not the solution and he's a professional and should know how to process rejection. I will offer this thought - the fact that he put the issue back on you saying that your constructive feedback is "off putting" really doesn't sit well with me. It's not a professional response. Just my additional 2 cents since, although I think you know what to do now with everyone's feedback, I suspect you're still feeling like a heel and shouldn't.

Just be honest with him and lay it out like you did in the last paragraph - time for a break, if you're in town - let you know, but other than that - you're needing something more. As I'm generally a weekend scheduler, I know that each planned encounter costs a small fortune with planes, hotels, etc. There are other guys you can fly in.

I'm OK with sloppy seconds

Cuteblondeboy is in LA. We’ve met twice and have a third trip on schedule in Feb to Palm Springs. He’s awesome! AngelGabe is the TransMan and in NOLA. We have our second meeting planned this weekend. He is well educated and worldly with an edge of sarcastic humor that matches my own. Looking forward to our Friday meeting. 🕺🏼

I’ve arranged 4 threesome’s in recent months. Most notable being recent experiences with cuteblondeboy/FTM_AngelGabe and last weekend with Roman_Speers/AshtenSky. I once had a regular indicate he’d prefer not to participate in a threesome His reason was that, whereas in an orgy he could tap out if he needed a break, in a threesome he felt he needed to stay engaged. Silly me, I never considered that But, while in my 60’s, my catholic school upbringing has still left me somewhat naive in certain things. So, I’m curious - should a threesome be a completely “go with the flow” exercise, or are there certain techniques/routines that keep everyone engaged and satisfied? Please share your favorite examples if you have any.

Oh yeah…and NObody calls me “Daddy” except my kids

Punctuation and complete sentences 👍🏼 Transit confirmation 👍🏼

He’s very bright and articulate

Well, I am in Atlanta for a weekend with Roman Speers (my second one) and we invited Ashten to join us for the evening last night. I’m still floating…they are both super sweet guys, incredibly sensual with the flexibility of slender youth. Definitely both keepers and they tag teamed well unfortunately, Ashten is taking a break from RM for a bit, so I’m pleased that we were able to connect to make the evening work. Roman is super sweet with golden brown eyes that just suck you in to Latin sensuality. AshtenSky - Male Escort, Gay massage - Atlanta | Rent.Men RENT.MEN AshtenSky Gay Escort in Atlanta, Georgia, available for Modeling,Available for videos. |... Roman_speers - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Atlanta, GA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Atlanta, GA - Roman_speers: Roman Speers

I wanna party with you!

kspa, hmmm, Kansas Schloastic Press Association? 🤓

No drugs has quickly gone to one of my main requirements. since you’re looking for good cities, I wonder if there is a list of cities that are more likely to have PNP or not. But that might be a topic for another thread.

To be fair, the counterpoint to enjoyment might warrant “combat pay” in which case I would expect that the base price would be increased for the second visit….tip or no tip

I corresponded with a provider the other day that didn’t renew RM. he basically said it was because of the complete lack of respect from clients who treated him like crap and acted as though they owned his time and his body

They get an inquiry saying just “hey” or “I wanna fuck!” Or “Can you come over now”

You're completely right. In my experience, I wouldn't have progressed to that point until I think mutual trust was established.

I understand completely and feel the same way. But would you, for instance, go the extra step of arranging a video call?