Nightowl

7.1 inches? That’s a little…precise.

The providers charge what they want to charge, I pay what I want to pay. If/when the two align, we have a great time together.

I get enough information to determine whether to hire based on what is available from a basic membership. Getting a glimpse of the dick I’m hiring is nice but not something I’m willing to jump through hoops or pay premium fees for. As for jacking off, there’s enough free porn out there to satisfy that purpose.

It does get harder. When I was young, friendships formed with people who were all in the same situation as I was. College, job, you name it. We bonded out of common interests and difficulties. Finding people with the same interests later in life has been more difficult. It’s compounded by my disinterest in bonding over “things”—sports, superhero movies, etc—and my desire to form connections over common feelings, attitudes, and, yes, emotions. Joining clubs related to hobbies won’t necessarily provide that. Mens groups geared toward inner thoughts and desires might help but those are hard to find. Sorry, I realize I’m just commiserating….

I had the same thought. The more conservative states in the U.S. may be requiring stricter controls.

I get a little bit of both. A couple of nude erection shots and a lot of blurred “premium only” pics. Makes no sense.

When the massage transitions from therapeutic to erotic, it’s eyes open. I love having our eyes locked as things heat up.

That’ll be me in a few decades.

For a mere $1000 he’ll let you suck him off in the aircraft hangar before he takes off for his next destination.

I’ve seen him about a dozen times. He’s a really nice guy, really hot, and has great hands. I always leave his studio eager to return. His schedule fills up quickly though so you have to plan about a month in advance if you want to see him.

Hey, it’s worth a try.

How would this differ from the Lounge?

Nice. Lying on my back with the masseur above me, his erection in my face, is one of my favorite “massage” positions.

I personally don’t think videos are important but I’m just one man. I don’t need to see you in action in order to decide whether to hire. Everyone uses different search criteria to find their preferred providers. My recommendation would just be to be truthful about your physical description, your preferences, and what you offer. Where you’re given the chance to write about yourself (description, interview) make it count. The more intriguing it is, the better.

If I were in NYC I’d hire you. CoM is a great place to spark interest and if enough of our members give you a chance, enjoy their time with you, and write reviews you’ll be on your way.

I’m on the older side, I still get horny, and my plumbing still works. I haven’t yet had a provider refuse my business because of my age though I suppose it may happen someday. If/when it does it will be his loss.

I think you’re right. I posted earlier this year about a guy who advertised erotic massage on RMass (before it was banned as a category) but freaked out when I asked for it. He clearly wanted to increase his client pool by adding sensual and erotic to his ad but had no intention of following through with either.

I’m surprised that you’ve had a number of top/vers guys who only want to bottom. Wish I could find some since there are few in my area who advertise as bottoms. Must be like unicorns in my area.

I’m not sure I’d call it gaslighting but it was definitely indoctrination that became deeply ingrained. I’ll probably always try to be courteous and respectful verbally, but once I’m with a provider in the heat of the moment, my body usually takes over and does—or tries to do—things that my brain and mouth would be reluctant to ask for. … I agree that we can’t constantly give a shit about everyone and everything. Now in my old age I reserve the right to say “Fuck it. I don’t care what anyone thinks.” It’s a lot easier now than it was a few decades ago.

I went to one once on a road trip. Never again.

Everything he does during your contracted time together is on your dime. If he wants to do something that you don’t, ask him to reimburse you at his hourly rate.

Not wanting to cause offence is still something I wrestle with. My upbringing taught me that when you hire someone, you treat them respectfully and as a professional. I’ve sometimes found it difficult to ask for what I want because my upbringing tells me it’s disrespectful to ask someone to rim me or cum in my mouth. Even in person, I hesitate. When the provider is direct and opens the door to those activities, it is indeed a relief.

If you’re out and have nothing to hide, go for it.

If he was charging 16K for a weekend back in 2023, it’s probably at least 18K now.

I don’t mind the taste or essence of anchovies; I just don’t want the whole eyebrow in my salad.