Nightowl

I usually know their true name before we meet for the first time. BeenVerified is a good research tool if you have one piece of information like a phone number. I only do incall massage so I usually have an address too. As for asking them their true name, (1) I usually already know it by the time we meet, and (2) I don’t ask for it so as not to spoil their false sense of anonymity. I myself only give my first name but they can research my phone number if they want more. I’m sure they have done so.

Eye contact is great. A lot of times guys just look at what’s going on below the belt but eye-to-eye contact is a completely different level of hotness. Intense eye-to-eye when one of you has a dick in your mouth is the best of both worlds.

Boredom at seeing the same thing over and over again is enough to keep me from watching too often. The only time I find myself watching a lot is when I’ve arranged to hire someone, it’s a few days away, and I’m anticipating what might happen.

With only three channels to choose from back then, you watched and sometimes enjoyed the best of your three options at any given time. I don’t remember what was opposite Bewitched but I enjoyed it but not for any knowledge or understanding of gay themes, gay characters, or gay actors. Perhaps those who discovered it later on watched it for other reasons; I just thought it was fun.

Do you mean balls? I scrub mine daily with lye and a wire brush.

Is his erection medically enhanced? Nausea might be a side effect…

I’ve read the original post several times, left CoM for a bit, then come back to read it again, all the while trying to figure out how to express how I am feeling about it. I’ve settled on “infuriating.” It infuriates me. It infuriates me that a provider can inflict hurt and humiliation on someone by rejecting them based on a photo. I hope guys who are rejected or ghosted based on appearance will identify these shalllow providers here on CoM so the rest of us can avoid them if we choose.

I agree. The relationships between characters is what drew me in during season 1. Now it’s just The Walking Dead redux.

Sounds fishy. You’re lucky he didn’t ask for—and you didn’t send—a deposit. Having read many of your posts here, I doubt you would have fallen for that…

Congrats on meeting your goals! I second the comment from @Lotus-eater about focusing on balance and stability. I’d also work on strengthening your core. A strong core will help ensure that your little friend remains visible even when it’s not standing at attention.

My guess is that, if a provider is willing to play on camera, he’d set up a JFF or OF presence and monetize it.

I’m of the opinion that my partner isn’t really naked if he’s got socks on. I want him to take *everything* off.

US size 13 here 😀

Some guys are into feet.

I’ve noticed this with one of my favorite providers and, while he still gives me a great erotic massage experience, he no longer does some of the things we did when I first started going to him. Letting me stimulate him until he cums no longer happens and there’s not as much anal play. I miss those things and have told him so but to no avail. I’m not sure why it has changed but I don’t think he’s being inattentive or phoning it in. It could be that after a dozen or so visits, I’m not as exciting. On the up side, when I first hired him, the experience was 60% therapeutic massage and 40% erotic. Now it’s about 40% therapeutic and 60% erotic, just without a few of the nice touches I had earlier.

IMO, if there was time left in your session that you had paid for, their attention should have remained on you. I can’t blame you for feeling disappointment. The best experiences I’ve had have been chatting with the provider as I got dressed or lying side by side after the fireworks were over. I probably wouldn’t go back if I had the experience you did.

Rumors are swirling around that there is a move afoot to make porn illegal, which would either kill OF or force it to become broader in its content. Maybe he’s just trying to unload it before that happens.

Are you asking a question or just venting?

True, it never hurts to ask… As for age, multiple spurts over the course of a day during my youth were certainly routine.

You’ve chosen a risky way to start your adventure, hiring someone to come to your hotel when there will be coworkers there. I would have recommended incall as your first experience, if possible. I hope it all works out well for you, though, and you become an addicted enthusiast like the rest of us. I wish I’d discovered CoM before my first experience and could have reached out to the experts for advice like you did!

A provider who sees a lot of clients in a day may not want, or be physically able, to cum for all of the clients he sees in a day. If he did, his dick would probably be red, swollen and raw. In addition, some providers have OF or JFF channels and save themselves for filming. I consider myself lucky and even flattered if my provider cums; flattered because it indicates—to me anyway—that he feels comfortable completely letting himself go in my presence. If he’s moaning as he cums, it’s even better.

I appreciate your stance on this. If I was a young man, just realizing my attraction now, I know I would do things differently.

Though I knew I was attracted to guys when I was growing up, I came of age at a time and in a family situation that prevented me from ever doing anything about it. I followed the expected, traditional path—marriage (to a woman), family, house in the suburbs—and suppressed my attraction to guys for several decades. Established in my comfortable, loving environment I was happy and content, and still am. It has only been over the last few years that I’ve allowed myself to act on my attraction to men through hiring for erotic massage. The experiences I’ve had with other men have been satisfying and sometimes amazing, but I have no desire to risk the good things in my life by coming out or hurting the people I love. Perhaps some would label me a coward but for me it was a choice.

No experience but am interested in any details anyone has as well.

I hope you’ll keep digging into this; it’s interesting. You mention distance and drive time as non-starters for some clients. That is definitely true. Convenience is another issue. A lot of potential clients might live close to the city where sex workers are concentrated but avoid going into the city because of traffic, insufficient public transportation, parking difficulty, etc. In cities like DC, this is definitely an issue and even with one of the higher saturation rates per your analysis, it might as well be a wasteland for guys living as close as 15 miles. If only the providers located in the city would “travel” to a local hotel outside of the city center for a few days every once in a while so that those of us on the outskirts could sample their wares, so to speak. But I digress…