Nightowl

Some guys are into feet.

I’ve noticed this with one of my favorite providers and, while he still gives me a great erotic massage experience, he no longer does some of the things we did when I first started going to him. Letting me stimulate him until he cums no longer happens and there’s not as much anal play. I miss those things and have told him so but to no avail. I’m not sure why it has changed but I don’t think he’s being inattentive or phoning it in. It could be that after a dozen or so visits, I’m not as exciting. On the up side, when I first hired him, the experience was 60% therapeutic massage and 40% erotic. Now it’s about 40% therapeutic and 60% erotic, just without a few of the nice touches I had earlier.

IMO, if there was time left in your session that you had paid for, their attention should have remained on you. I can’t blame you for feeling disappointment. The best experiences I’ve had have been chatting with the provider as I got dressed or lying side by side after the fireworks were over. I probably wouldn’t go back if I had the experience you did.

Rumors are swirling around that there is a move afoot to make porn illegal, which would either kill OF or force it to become broader in its content. Maybe he’s just trying to unload it before that happens.

Are you asking a question or just venting?

True, it never hurts to ask… As for age, multiple spurts over the course of a day during my youth were certainly routine.

You’ve chosen a risky way to start your adventure, hiring someone to come to your hotel when there will be coworkers there. I would have recommended incall as your first experience, if possible. I hope it all works out well for you, though, and you become an addicted enthusiast like the rest of us. I wish I’d discovered CoM before my first experience and could have reached out to the experts for advice like you did!

A provider who sees a lot of clients in a day may not want, or be physically able, to cum for all of the clients he sees in a day. If he did, his dick would probably be red, swollen and raw. In addition, some providers have OF or JFF channels and save themselves for filming. I consider myself lucky and even flattered if my provider cums; flattered because it indicates—to me anyway—that he feels comfortable completely letting himself go in my presence. If he’s moaning as he cums, it’s even better.

I appreciate your stance on this. If I was a young man, just realizing my attraction now, I know I would do things differently.

Though I knew I was attracted to guys when I was growing up, I came of age at a time and in a family situation that prevented me from ever doing anything about it. I followed the expected, traditional path—marriage (to a woman), family, house in the suburbs—and suppressed my attraction to guys for several decades. Established in my comfortable, loving environment I was happy and content, and still am. It has only been over the last few years that I’ve allowed myself to act on my attraction to men through hiring for erotic massage. The experiences I’ve had with other men have been satisfying and sometimes amazing, but I have no desire to risk the good things in my life by coming out or hurting the people I love. Perhaps some would label me a coward but for me it was a choice.

No experience but am interested in any details anyone has as well.

I hope you’ll keep digging into this; it’s interesting. You mention distance and drive time as non-starters for some clients. That is definitely true. Convenience is another issue. A lot of potential clients might live close to the city where sex workers are concentrated but avoid going into the city because of traffic, insufficient public transportation, parking difficulty, etc. In cities like DC, this is definitely an issue and even with one of the higher saturation rates per your analysis, it might as well be a wasteland for guys living as close as 15 miles. If only the providers located in the city would “travel” to a local hotel outside of the city center for a few days every once in a while so that those of us on the outskirts could sample their wares, so to speak. But I digress…

Just curious: Does the data represent only sex workers who identified themselves as that specific city or does it include those in cities nearby? In other words, did everyone in your “San Francisco” category identify as such or does it also include men in Sausalito, Berkeley, or Moraga?

That’s an interesting point about using one’s name. In the four years I’ve been hiring, I’ve always given my name but your comment makes me realize that no one has ever called me by that name during a session. …

Definitely consider going to massage school if you can. Clients like me who have been getting massages for a long time will appreciate your skills. The fact that you care about what irritates your clients is admirable.

I guess I’ve been lucky. My favorite provider has taken extra time with me when we’ve both been enjoying ourselves and we’ve sometimes lain naked, chatting in each other’s arms after the paid session was over. It was incall, so that makes a difference, and it wasn’t in NYC….

Interesting question. Split attention (cellphones) is a biggie that’s well-covered here so I won’t elaborate. For me, the biggest thing that pisses me off is a provider who advertises massage, doesn’t know a thing about massage, and spends five minutes pretending he’s giving a massage before grabbing my dick and acting completely incredulous when I try to slow him down because I really do want a massage. I also hate it when I see a new provider who doesn’t know what I want, doesn’t take the time to ask, and greets me curtly, saying only “get undressed and get on the table” before charging into his set routine. The best massage providers communicate, know what they’re doing, and intersperse therapeutic massage elements with erotic ones, taking care of my muscular kinks and stresses while at the same time keeping me aroused and anticipating what may happen next. I should add that, so far, I’ve only hired for massage, so I haven’t taken the plunge into the full Rentmen experience.

If the pictures are similar, I would say there’s such a thing as too many. A whole slew of “posed” pictures leave me cold and 25 pictures of the same body part can be boring. I usually get all the information I need to decide whether to hire based on the first few pictures in the ad. If the provider selects them well, he’ll grab my attention.

You don’t seem to be asking for advice so I won’t give you any, just wish you good luck and relay my hope that maybe things will be different this time.

It probably wouldn’t have been a great experience. Kind of hard to be your best after being put through the security gauntlet.

I wonder if he’s paranoid that you’re either going to harm him or come back later and rob him so he’s taking pictures in front of his building for future evidence if he needs it. My bet is that he forwarded those pictures to someone immediately in case anything happens to him. Far-fetched but I can see it happening.

I think he was expecting you to offer an alternative, “ How about Tuesday?” By saying you’d try another time he figured you’d contact him later. Unless he’s desperate to see you, I wouldn’t expect him to be the one to offer alternatives.

Is it possible that he doesn’t keep clients in his contact list for your personal privacy so when your number came up it didn’t identify you? Possibly a stretch I know…

The only time I use cash now is when that’s the only form of payment accepted for an erotic massage.

I thought you’d never ask. Big enough to get the job done plus a couple of inches.