Nightowl

I’d like a further breakdown of “hairy” that gives the location that is hairy. Chest? Back? Legs? Groin? Ass? Some hairy spots are very appealing while others are not.

I always carry a towel too but don’t usually secure it around my waist all that tightly. Accidents do happen… I haven’t been to NYC in years. It’s a different world from DC, where I am, when it comes to buttoned-up-ness.

Stiller and Meara were a classic comedic duo. Nichols and May were another favorite. Haven’t run into anything as good as either one of them in years. Never saw any of them naked though….

I’m an animal lover too and was just kidding 😀

Interesting that the older crowd complained. Older guys such as myself grew up at a time when gym class was mandatory in school and you took a shower in front of a hundred other guys every day. Being naked in a group was usually no big deal. I’m actually surprised that one of the 20-something guys @sniperdescribed above went naked since younger guys seem to be more modest. At the gym I attend, none of the younger guys ever undress completely and if they do, they wrap themselves in a towel before taking off their underwear.

If the dog runs away with it and gets sick, you’ve dodged a bullet.

I’ve got to give these guys credit for accepting their lot in life and making the most of their situation!

The appropriate response to the cock pic: “Is that all there is?”

Over the years I’ve stayed in many hotels that have very nice spas. I’ll usually get a good therapeutic massage and spend time in the steamroom and hot tub afterwards. My dilemma is always whether to go fully nude in the men-only wet room. My inclination is to carry a towel but let it all hang out but more often than not, some buttoned-up guy comes in with the spa-provided modesty bathing suit and shares the steamroom or hot tub. What’s the etiquette when you’re the naked guy and the clothed guy joins you? Some nicer hotels, particularly in the Southwest, have outdoor areas that are part of the men-only area. It’s particularly inviting to wander around the outdoor areas—hot tub, showers, garden—in the altogether but the buttoned-up guys invariably show up. What do others do in this situation? Secretly, I want more of the guys to be nude but that never seems to happen…

A new provider once tried to FaceTime me. It was a bridge too far.

Yes. I’ve already determined that there is a foundation of mutual trust and decency.

Further to a comment I made earlier about rejection, on a few occasions I’ve sent an unsolicited photo to a new provider once we have set up the appointment and details, and I know enough about him to have some level of trust in him. I do this because I want to give him an out if he doesn’t like what he sees when I get there. As a matter of fact, I just did it this morning….Yes, I know it’s insecurity on my part…

As a client, I wouldn’t use drugs and wouldn’t want to meet my provider and find he was high either. I want us both to be present for the experience. If he showed up at my house stoned I’d send him away. What @Gilfsonexperienced was rude on so many levels.

You could try posting “Mind if I DM you?” as a response to someone you want to go offline with. Sometimes they’ll DM you back with the go-ahead. If they ignore you, at least you won’t have wasted a lot of time on a long DM that goes nowhere.

That’s a reasonable approach. If they flaked once, it’s a risk to schedule them a second time without some kind of remuneration if they do it again.

I think there’s some validity to that. Though my education years preceded the advent of electronic devices, I always studied by making detailed notes of what I was trying to learn. When tests and finals came around, I was able to draw on the memory of what I had written on the page and even where on the page it was written, to get the information I needed.

It’s hard to continue this discussion without getting into politics so I won’t.

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I’m not really concerned about your first two rationales for withholding the photo since there are so many photos out in the ether that could be copied and used for nefarious purposes, it would be easy to say “I don’t know this guy who is blackmailing me. He must’ve gotten my picture from Facebook.”. If it was a nude pic of you, that would, of course be different. Your third item—rejection—might be the thing many of us would be most concerned about. Too old/young, too fat/skinny, too hairy/hairless, too many tattoos, etc, might lead to rejection. It’s all superficial but still a concern.

I’ve had experiences like that. Once the insults start, their only value is entertainment.

Love the natural pubic hair. Those were the days.

I have been impressed by how articulate many of the posts on CoM have been. It’s very refreshing given what one often sees on social media.

When I first saw this post I thought “Nah, doesn’t apply.”. Then I thought about it and saw that a guy I’d been with had made a JFF video with someone who advertises here on CoM and now I want to fuck him too. Fuck by association, I guess.

Self-reflection is always good. Uncomfortable perhaps, but beneficial in the long run. I admire you for making the effort and being open about it.

Oprah’s judgment came into question for me when she gave us Dr. Oz and Dr. Phil.