Nightowl

As others have said, it’s the unsolicited affection. Laying beside me as paid activities wind down, joining me in the shower, expressing an interest in me as a person…All of these are special touches that I’ve found to be somewhat rare.

I’m proof of that. I’m smokin’ hot and still hire. 😂

If you managed to find his erotic massage service via some kind of ad, you could just reach out to him and say you found that ad and would like to book him for those services. Sometimes guys will use different phone numbers for each place they advertise. If there’s a different number on his erotic massage ad, reach out to him on that one so he knows how you found him.

Needs more pics so we can see if he’s naturally blond.

I’ve wondered the same thing.

With no imminent chance of scheduling, particularly if they’re out of your area, there’s really not much a provider can do beyond polite response. To me that’s actually positive; they were professional in that they didn’t ignore me and left the door open for a future meeting.

I think this is a big reason. Many providers include links to their ads on hiring websites thereby giving up their anonymity and with it their freedom to say whatever they want on CoM since it might cost them potential clients if those clients don’t like what the provider posts (cancel culture). Several people have mentioned the fantasy aspect of hiring and that probably plays into it too. The more the provider posts, the more “ordinary” he becomes. Personally, I don’t hire for fantasy. I hire to spend time with someone whose physical and intellectual company I enjoy. I want to see providers active on this site precisely because it makes them (or most of them) human. I met one of my favorite providers through this site and have reached out to several others whom I hope to meet when I travel their areas. Their presence on this site brought them to my attention, which wouldn’t have happened had they not been active participants. … Providers can be subject to a lot of criticism here and I find that troubling. Maybe we need a new forum where providers rate clients. But I digress….

Everyone had to wear a specific school PE uniform with a jock, not just the sports teams. It never occurred to me (or anyone else that I noticed) to put it on over underwear but it wouldn’t really have made a difference since showering in a communal area was also mandatory. The coaches/PE teachers watched carefully to make sure everyone complied so you really didn’t have any option other than baring it all. In hindsight the whole situation does seem suspect…

Reminds me of a guy in HS—a fellow student—who always went commando despite being regularly scolded by the coaches. In those days we all had to climb the rope and watching him do it while his dick was sticking out of his shorts was always fun.

When I was in HS, a jock strap was absolutely required. You had no choice but to expose yourself to a hundred other guys.

I think some guys will put anything in their ad just to draw customers. A year or so ago I posted here on the forum about a guy who advertised for erotic but freaked out when I DM’d him to explain that I wanted erotic. That taught me to check this forum first, then RM or RMass reviews, before reaching out.

I feel your pain. I’ve got a similar situation with one of my regular providers. I’ll be interested in the advice you get from others on the forum. I want to raise my concerns the next time I see him but am a little hesitant.

Might be time to check the private photos of guys posing with their vehicles on RM to see if it’s true.

I don’t hire specifically for oral but I love both giving and receiving, though no one has yet brought me to completion with his oral skills. Mutual completion, with swallowing, is one of my fantasies.

I’m responding to @seattlebottom’s comment, not @Gar1eth

I’m the same way. I don’t see the point of small talk when I don’t care about the other person, have no interest in him/her, and probably will never see him/her again. It’s why I tend to avoid parties.

Bliss Bodywork, outside of DC. He’s a very talented guy.

With a masseur I ask for sensual when I schedule, then, when I’m on his table, I ask if he does erotic. I figure that signals to him what I want. What happens next is what he’s comfortable with. If I hire an escort, the expectation of sex is pretty clear so being direct is easier.

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers. The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below. In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

My memory is different and involved a coach who was instructing a HS freshman on how to shower after gym class. The coach was dressed but the poor kid was naked but both were in the shower area. I don’t recall if the coach ever touched the kid but I remember that I was uncomfortable with the the whole situation and glad it wasn’t me. Back then in the 70’s, everyone showered together after gym class but I never felt awkward about it until then.

I suspect that those who are saying “just my opinion” are trying to head off anticipated negative comments from self-proclaimed experts on CoM who delight in setting others straight with their vast knowledge.

I find that my ass likes a nice Eckrich polska kielbasa

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow. Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars. Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times. Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon. To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know. My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

Some guys don’t get any charge out of having their nipples touched. Odd that they’d declare them off limits if their clients get off on touching them though.

I’m with @SometimesBi. I just want the masseur to do whatever he wants with my body. He has carte blanche.