Nightowl

I have found that, the more I see someone, the better it gets.

I just put the cash on a table, in or out of an envelope. No one has ever counted it in my presence but some have texted me their profuse thanks when I am driving home.

I’m reminded of an old Maria Muldaur song: “It’s not the meat, it’s the motion.” Words to live by.

The only thing I’ve noticed is that older (over 50) guys are better than younger guys at remembering what you’ve done together before, what you like, and what you’ve talked about doing in future sessions. Maybe they take better notes about our sessions. I’ve had both age groups stand me up or forget I was coming so I can’t draw any definitive conclusions.

I don’t know who it was specifically but it was probably someone with a (very) hairy chest, possibly Sean Connery or Tom Selleck.

I don’t share much personal information with the guys I hire until I’ve seen them a number of times and most of them don’t seem all that interested. I do use my real phone number, however, so they can easily find out more about me if they really care. Since I almost always hire for incall, I usually know a lot about them by the time we meet too…

I’ve got one favorite masseur who I’ve seen 15-20 times over the past four years and found an escort last year who I’ve already seen five times and hope will be around for a long time. Both are good at both massage and erotic elements/sensual elements and I fervently hope they’ll stay in the business, though I do worry that one or both will quit the business or move away. I agree that finding someone who checks both the massage and erotic boxes is difficult. Unfortunately I’m not in LA anymore so have no recommendations but I wish you luck in finding regulars who become favorites. Your dilemma is one we probably all face, unfortunately.

No one has ever asked me for a loan and if one did, it would have to be someone I trusted and had seen many many times before I’d even consider giving him anything. Even then, I’m not sure I’d give him anything. To me, asking for money crosses a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

I can’t imagine being so interested in someone for a sexual encounter that I’d be willing to fly him out to my location, let alone fly him business class. If we’re traveling together, that’s a different story.

When I was young, being naked with a bunch of other guys, particularly in a locker room, wasn’t a big deal. Sure, you checked each other out but it didn’t usually go beyond that. Nowadays, when I’m changing in a locker room, I’m often the only one who gets completely naked. I miss the days when you could be in a locker room talking with other guys with no one really concerned about who was naked and who wasn’t.

I was at my desk in a government building that was reported to be one of the targets. We weren’t hit but our work lives were never the same after the attacks.

As a client, I usually let the guy I’ve hired take the lead, even if I’ve seen him before. I know I need to get over that…

The only thing I do other than hire escorts/masseurs is subscribe to one of my regular hire’s JFF. I was seeing him before he started the JFF and I enjoy watching his videos because I can put myself in the shoes (so to speak) of the guys he films with. (I can also relive one of the sessions I had with him since it’s also out there on his JFF). I don’t subscribe to other OF or JFF sites or hire strippers.

A masseur I used to frequent once told me that four hands is appealing but is ultimately distracting as four hands roam over your body. All four can’t be in an erogenous zone—no room—so you end up with split sensations, one set of hands exploring between your legs and another working on your calves. I’ve never had the experience (though I would like to) but this was one of the reasons he stopped offering it

Rich and good looking together is a rare combination. I hope your acquaintance has a backup plan.

I knew I kept mine for a reason.

Exactly. There’s very little that I do in my life that is for me alone and indulging in this hobby is one of them. I feel great after a session and always look forward to the next one. I’m not wealthy but my budget always takes into consideration the physical needs that being with another man satisfies.

I actually don’t worry about height too much. To me it’s only noticeable if we’re standing, perhaps kissing, and when we’re blowing one another.

I hear ya. I like the idea of bottoming and enjoy it when it’s slow and careful but when it’s the pile-driver technique that causes me to wince with every thrust, I can do without. Loved your story though. We should all have an introduction to gay sex as erotic as that.

Sounds amazing! If you don’t mind my asking, why don’t you bottom any more? Seems like you really enjoyed it.

Your journey is an inspiration for us all

I considered the loss of my gay virginity to be the first time a man got me off. In my case it was a happy ending from a masseur.

I am feeling the same way. Casual connections are easy; genuine connections are hard. I want a group of men I can be honest with and talk about more than “things” like sports, movies, and the like. I feel the need for a genuine bond. I’ll be very interested in hearing whether Mingleo helps facilitate that.

Says he’s got 10 years of experience but I’ve never seen him when I search DC ads. Maybe he relocated (or rebranded?)

“How much is oral? Is that with or with cum? And throw in a side of fingering please.”