Nightowl

Regularity. When I find someone whose company I enjoy and who knows what buttons to push, I become a frequent visitor. If he starts taking me for granted, I move on. I don’t usually explore unless I can’t get in to see one of my regulars and I find my body in need of attention.

Ain’t it the truth. We could start a whole new thread here on CoM asking guys to post about things they’ve done (or want to do) that would surprise/horrify/arouse/enrage people if they ever found out….

The only questions I’ve ever been asked in advance related to size and cut/uncut. No one has ever asked about health status. I always give my real phone number so they can easily research to find out whether I’m a soccer dad or serial killer…

Until a few years ago, my scoresheet was pretty dismal. Once I discovered the joys of my fellow men, my numbers have increased significantly. If I knew then what I know now, I probably would have become a provider.

Nope nope nope.

Now that I could get into!

If I’m going to bottom I need the top to demonstrate a lot of finesse, not just pounding. Different speeds, depths, and angles keep it exciting for both of us. I couldn’t bottom for 45 minutes nor could I top for that long. Numbness would set into the affected body parts and I’d just want it to be over.

I have several international trips scheduled this year but I’m not particularly worried about how I will be treated or perceived. I’m always respectful of others and their cultures and trust—perhaps naively—that people in other countries will respond accordingly. If I am challenged about the impact my country’s actions have on the rest of the world, all I can do is listen and, if questioned, respond honestly.

Yep. When it happens, I usually wrap my hand around it and enjoy the warmth and hardness. It is indeed a great feeling.

Taking a walk in solitude, clearing my mind of worries, then starting my day.

Saw the codetalker exhibit there many years ago. Was surprised it was in the Burger King but glad it’s still there. These guys were heroes.

I wouldn’t schedule him but that’s only because I keep my hiring life and normal life separate.

As others have said, it’s the unsolicited affection. Laying beside me as paid activities wind down, joining me in the shower, expressing an interest in me as a person…All of these are special touches that I’ve found to be somewhat rare.

I’m proof of that. I’m smokin’ hot and still hire. 😂

If you managed to find his erotic massage service via some kind of ad, you could just reach out to him and say you found that ad and would like to book him for those services. Sometimes guys will use different phone numbers for each place they advertise. If there’s a different number on his erotic massage ad, reach out to him on that one so he knows how you found him.

Needs more pics so we can see if he’s naturally blond.

I’ve wondered the same thing.

With no imminent chance of scheduling, particularly if they’re out of your area, there’s really not much a provider can do beyond polite response. To me that’s actually positive; they were professional in that they didn’t ignore me and left the door open for a future meeting.

I think this is a big reason. Many providers include links to their ads on hiring websites thereby giving up their anonymity and with it their freedom to say whatever they want on CoM since it might cost them potential clients if those clients don’t like what the provider posts (cancel culture). Several people have mentioned the fantasy aspect of hiring and that probably plays into it too. The more the provider posts, the more “ordinary” he becomes. Personally, I don’t hire for fantasy. I hire to spend time with someone whose physical and intellectual company I enjoy. I want to see providers active on this site precisely because it makes them (or most of them) human. I met one of my favorite providers through this site and have reached out to several others whom I hope to meet when I travel their areas. Their presence on this site brought them to my attention, which wouldn’t have happened had they not been active participants. … Providers can be subject to a lot of criticism here and I find that troubling. Maybe we need a new forum where providers rate clients. But I digress….

Everyone had to wear a specific school PE uniform with a jock, not just the sports teams. It never occurred to me (or anyone else that I noticed) to put it on over underwear but it wouldn’t really have made a difference since showering in a communal area was also mandatory. The coaches/PE teachers watched carefully to make sure everyone complied so you really didn’t have any option other than baring it all. In hindsight the whole situation does seem suspect…

Reminds me of a guy in HS—a fellow student—who always went commando despite being regularly scolded by the coaches. In those days we all had to climb the rope and watching him do it while his dick was sticking out of his shorts was always fun.

When I was in HS, a jock strap was absolutely required. You had no choice but to expose yourself to a hundred other guys.

I think some guys will put anything in their ad just to draw customers. A year or so ago I posted here on the forum about a guy who advertised for erotic but freaked out when I DM’d him to explain that I wanted erotic. That taught me to check this forum first, then RM or RMass reviews, before reaching out.

I feel your pain. I’ve got a similar situation with one of my regular providers. I’ll be interested in the advice you get from others on the forum. I want to raise my concerns the next time I see him but am a little hesitant.

Might be time to check the private photos of guys posing with their vehicles on RM to see if it’s true.