Nightowl

I suppose if he were to hire you again you might find out whether he had moved past any of those issues. My first gay experience was later in life and I had all kinds of concerns about what it signified about me, what acts I absolutely would/wouldn’t do, guilt, shame, etc, but I eventually came to accept that part of myself. I hope he comes to terms with whatever issues he has…

Weren’t there any spotlights trained on the bed so that the guy on his back could see the action in the ceiling mirror?

I’ve done that but I usually pull aside the liner too…

I can see the army of prudes in the U.S. mobilizing now to defeat the scourge of naughty bits being exposed to—gasp!—our innocent little children… I completely agree that nudity should be allowed wherever one is comfortable, especially now that I’m older and a little more in control of my erections…

He doesn’t know what he missed. The hottest experiences I’ve had have been when client and provider have their eyes locked as things get heavy. Looking to see what the genitals are doing is great but you can’t beat seeing the reaction in the eyes as things unfold.

One need only read some of the comments on CoM to get a taste of the negative attitude of some clients toward providers.

I eventually learned that there were things in my profile that attracted him, which jives with what you’re saying . Never learned what they were though since he ghosted me after I asked a few questions.

In other words, it’s a sacred dance. I did continue the conversation with the provider and learned that he liked my profile but when I asked him a few questions he stopped responding.

Exactly. If I can’t park, I won’t hire. I always ask prospective hires what the parking situation is. I find that having it in the ad is helpful.

I’m of the same mind. I don’t need the attraction, just the physical desire to pleasure and be pleasured. For me, the mind checks out when the horniness kicks in.

Just found this post. Tried to book him in January but he freaked when I asked for an erotic massage. He was advertising in RMass and that was among his offerings. Guess I didn’t miss anything.

I don’t care whose nipples are exposed and don’t care whether they’re covered with pasties. Everyone has them by nature, just like most of us have feet. Some have foot fetishes but should everyone have to cover their feet because someone finds them arousing?

I recently fleshed out my profile on RM and got “Hi” back from an unknown provider. I’m now intrigued. but not sure what his message is. Is that provider-speak for “I saw your profile and I’d really like to see if we could get together?” Unsure, I responded with “hello” and got “Hey man” back. Is this some secret dance that providers and clients go through before hooking up? Seems to me that, if a provider is going to reach out, he should perhaps be a little more direct. Thoughts? (To the provider in question: if you’re on CoM, feel free to elaborate. English or Spanish, both would work for me).

I have been nude for every massage I’ve had in the last 15 years. Only once did I leave my underwear on and that was at the direction of the masseur at a spa in a resort town. Makes we wonder if he’d had some of those boundary-pushing clients you mention and he was trying to avoid another one. (Either that or he found me so irresistible he didn’t think he could control himself with me lying naked on the table)

“I’ll stick up for you”

That would be the end of the “relationship” for me.

So far, everyone I have hired has looked like their pictures. A few listed their age as much younger but the man I met still looked like the advertised picture.

If it’s a new provider, I probably wouldn’t recommend either the “fine dining” or “drive thru” orders that @ApexNomadso appropriately describes. If it’s someone you’ve been with before and you know he’s likely to be game, the “drive-thru order” is probably fine. I personally never put that much detail in any text and usually talk around the topic. I recently told a favorite provider that I would be “clean, inside and out” which he corrected interpreted as my request that he fuck me in the ass.

I always called up another screen and searched for them. No ChatGPT then.

I was in a similar situation and everyone I know did the same thing you described.

That may be the difference in our perspectives. Yours comes from how the news was presented. Mine came from living it as a long term employee of the government, living and breathing 24/7 what others only regard as the nightly news.

Thank you for telling me my views are distorted.

I know and understand what you’re saying. Perhaps one’s outlook depends on one’s age. I am past looking for new jobs. As for listening to rumors, I guarantee that that is not what I do. I live in the DC area where what is happening is very real, close to home, and in the news daily.

A lot of guys only want cash.

That approach certainly works in normal life but in today’s situation, saying “I can’t change that” only works if you aren’t touched by what is happening (privilege). If your relatives or employees are being rounded up, you health isurance is at risk, or you job is in danger, I don’t see how one could say “oh well, can’t change that. What’s for dinner?”