Nightowl

There have been a lot of discussions on CoM about massage extras and how to know if a masseur offers them, but I’m curious about who makes the first move. Do providers prefer that the client lay there like a bump on a log until they make an overt offer/suggest that an “extra” is available? Do clients wait patiently until they receive the all-clear signal? It’s always difficult for me with a new masseur, especially when I’m attracted to him. I want to pull him onto the table with me and get things started but never know when it would be welcomed. Who should initiate?

Earlier this year I was asked whether I was a cop, apparently because I asked for an erotic massage from someone who advertised them on RMass as one of his services. I couldn’t convince him that I wasn’t and he subsequently blocked me. His loss. That’s the only time it’s ever happened but I guess some providers are jumpier than others.

After. No one has yet asked for the money up front so I haven’t had to deal with that but I would be suspicious if they had. Depending on the provider, I either hand it to them or leave it on a table after we get dressed.

Interesting report. Can’t say I’ve been as diligent about my own statistics other than that about 40% have sucked me and I’ve sucked back, 40% have topped me, 20% have bottomed, and 10% have rimmed me or vice versa. I think I need to work a bit to achieve your level of success in some fields of activity!

$500 for an erotic massage. Lots of fun extras. Well worth it.

Roundness is also dependent on genetics.

I did not know that. Not a fan of Wagner but I did enjoy “Vikings”…..I’m going to have to remember that little factoid for future cocktail party chat…

I understand why he might want initial contact to be via RentMen but once you’ve had an exchange or two, sharing his number makes more sense, especially if one of you is running late and needs to notify the other.

Chinese is extremely difficult. It’s nothing like the Germanic or Romance languages that most of us learn in school. I admire your desire to attempt it though.

I’m a wee bit younger and I haven’t seen it stop either. I’m hornier than ever and getting more adventurous by the day. I hope it never ends.

I never knew where the rainbow bridge was used by humans or just pets…

I prefer “shuffled off this mortal coil.”

I usually know their true name before we meet for the first time. BeenVerified is a good research tool if you have one piece of information like a phone number. I only do incall massage so I usually have an address too. As for asking them their true name, (1) I usually already know it by the time we meet, and (2) I don’t ask for it so as not to spoil their false sense of anonymity. I myself only give my first name but they can research my phone number if they want more. I’m sure they have done so.

Eye contact is great. A lot of times guys just look at what’s going on below the belt but eye-to-eye contact is a completely different level of hotness. Intense eye-to-eye when one of you has a dick in your mouth is the best of both worlds.

Boredom at seeing the same thing over and over again is enough to keep me from watching too often. The only time I find myself watching a lot is when I’ve arranged to hire someone, it’s a few days away, and I’m anticipating what might happen.

With only three channels to choose from back then, you watched and sometimes enjoyed the best of your three options at any given time. I don’t remember what was opposite Bewitched but I enjoyed it but not for any knowledge or understanding of gay themes, gay characters, or gay actors. Perhaps those who discovered it later on watched it for other reasons; I just thought it was fun.

Do you mean balls? I scrub mine daily with lye and a wire brush.

Is his erection medically enhanced? Nausea might be a side effect…

I’ve read the original post several times, left CoM for a bit, then come back to read it again, all the while trying to figure out how to express how I am feeling about it. I’ve settled on “infuriating.” It infuriates me. It infuriates me that a provider can inflict hurt and humiliation on someone by rejecting them based on a photo. I hope guys who are rejected or ghosted based on appearance will identify these shalllow providers here on CoM so the rest of us can avoid them if we choose.

I agree. The relationships between characters is what drew me in during season 1. Now it’s just The Walking Dead redux.

Sounds fishy. You’re lucky he didn’t ask for—and you didn’t send—a deposit. Having read many of your posts here, I doubt you would have fallen for that…

Congrats on meeting your goals! I second the comment from @Lotus-eater about focusing on balance and stability. I’d also work on strengthening your core. A strong core will help ensure that your little friend remains visible even when it’s not standing at attention.

My guess is that, if a provider is willing to play on camera, he’d set up a JFF or OF presence and monetize it.

I’m of the opinion that my partner isn’t really naked if he’s got socks on. I want him to take *everything* off.

US size 13 here 😀