Nightowl

If the provider is scheduled that day for filming for JFF or another site he’ll probably save himself for an explosive money shot on camera. A little dribble doesn’t sell as many subscriptions.

Two things: When we slowly undress each other and when I’m not the only one who cums.

A few tattoos of significance can be attractive since there are stories behind them. A mess of tattoos of cartoon characters, not so much.

I hire the same guy every few months. Since he’s on JFF I find myself watching his videos in the days before we have a live session. By the time I get to his place I’m pretty worked up.

On a related note, some sites allow clients to set up profiles complete with descriptions and photos. Do providers actually “shop” through client profiles or is setting one up a waste of time?

Start with a sensual massage rather than erotic and look for someone who has his own studio if you can find one near you. That way you can bail if you don’t like the look of it or how the session goes (after paying, of course). 60 minutes is enough to start but it goes by fast, so even 90 isn’t too much. I don’t recommend starting by hiring an escort. That could be too much for your first experience. Sensual massage differs by provider but you can usually expect him to touch intimate areas of your body (ass/asshole, balls, cock) and you will likely get a hard-on. Don’t try to hide it; that tells the provider he’s hitting the right spots and giving you pleasure, so don’t be embarrassed. If you’re uncomfortable with what’s happening, tell him. If you like what he’s doing, tell him that too. The most awkward moments for me my first time with a sensual massage were at the beginning. I wanted sensual but didn’t know how to ask for it and wasn’t sure what was “allowed.” As a first-timer you might just want to tell him “I’ve never done this before” and let him take the lead. With a sensual massage you’ll probably get a happy ending. Whether that qualifies as losing your virginity is yours to determine. Full-fledged sex is also available for hire with escorts and some erotic massages but I really wouldn’t recommend starting there. I guarantee you that right after your first sensual massage you’ll be ready to schedule your next. As for telling him you’re a virgin, I personally don’t think he needs to know if you’re just getting a sensual massage but that’s your call. If you’re booking someone with the intent of having full-blown sex, you probably do want to let him know…BTW, my thoughts are from the perspective of a client. Providers will have another perspective that may differ.

The word “masturbate” was never mentioned in my childhood. No warnings against it and no talk from Dad about what it was. It didn’t exist. I discovered it by accident in the bathtub one day, initially alarmed by the intensity of feeling I was getting as I casually rubbed my dick. After that I sought every opportunity to do it again (and again…)

Yes, please.

I recently gave a provider twice what he asked for that exact reason. His price was way too low for the full service he gave me.

Therapeutic: hundreds. Erotic or sensual: 15-20. I wish I’d discovered erotic a long time ago.

Ambient music only. Anything with words is distracting and anything with a beat will cause me to start fucking to the music, which isn’t necessarily a good thing.

Give me a guy with a hairy chest any day.

I get tired of hearing “fuck yeah” in the heat of the moment and “fuck that pussy” completely threw me when one guy used it. I’d rather hear moaning without discernible words.

I tried to schedule with a guy who advertised erotic massage and when I asked for it, he accused me of being an undercover cop and blocked me. I figure if you put erotic in your profile and post nude pictures, you shouldn’t be surprised when someone asks for erotic….

If I end up sucking his dick it’s because I want to. I don’t recall ever going limp or losing interest when I’ve got a dick in my mouth. I’m paying for an erotic experience. Giving someone else pleasure is part of it. If I can make him cum, I go away happy because I know he was into it too. When the masseur is as aroused as I am and I can satisfy him, it’s worth whatever I paid. If all I get is an HE and he remains limp and disinterested, I probably won’t go back. Making the masseur cum is one of my goals.😀

He’s not being penalized. You’ve just opted not to hire him because he lacks one of your hiring criteria, an available mouth. The mask would be a non-starter for me too. (dcguy20 : If you’re actually in the DC area, could you DM me with who this guy is? I might have the same situation since I’m in that area too)

So am I

I’d had a number of really good massages from other guys I found on RMass and decided to hire a guy I’d never gone to before for a 90-minute erotic. After about 10 minutes it was obvious he didn’t know anything about massage but I figured, fuck it, let’s see where this goes. I was a little optimistic because he was naked and had maneuvered his dick into my hand, and didn’t seem to mind where else my hand wandered. After about 20 minutes he flipped me over and started working on my dick. Since it was so early in the massage I didn’t want to let go yet but I couldn’t get him to slow it down. He didn’t seem to understand why I would want to do that. After a few failed attempts to calm things down my body took over and I couldn’t hold back. There was still a lot of time left so he worked my legs for about 10 minutes, then started on my dick again. Though I was hard there was no way anything was going to happen again so quickly. I finally had to stop him and end the session. Nice enough guy but he didn’t know what he was doing. I noticed a few months later that he no longer advertises on RMass.

I always tip generously because I want to send the message that I value the masseur’s time and appreciate what he does for me. In my case—an older but not decrepit man—I want to keep the door open to return, especially when the masseur is in young and in demand and could easily turn down future appointments from a guy who is no longer as hot as his younger clients. I don’t consider his taxpaying practices at all. If a big tip makes me stand out as a desirable client, I’ll keep doing it.

Since I asked the question… -used to go to a guy who would start at my ankles with two-handed up-and-down strokes, moving upward slowly. The anticipation of waiting for those hands to reach my inner thighs and by-then raised hips was unbelievable. -very gentle touching around my hole. I’m not usually a bottom but gentle probing is great -gentle stroking and cupping of my balls. A lot of guys seem to ignore that area, unfortunately.

I usually schedule mid-morning in the hope that the masseur isn’t already spent. Can’t depend on that though. Some masseurs are also active on JFF and they save their load for filming.

Just curious but am wondering what gets fellow hobbyists going during a massage other than direct stimulation? What just doesn’t do it for you?

I never understood the difference anyway. Collapsing it all under “sensual” just says there may be a little more to the massage than muscle relief (wink wink). What happens once you’re on the table is between you and the masseur.

Happened to me recently too. Nice surprise but not common in my experience.

We all suffer from that same dilemma with a new masseur. The first sign that something more could happen might be if you discover his hard cock right next to your hand on the table or if he maneuvers it into your hand. Better yet if you discover his cock near your mouth. If he was clothed when the massage started but is eventually naked, another sign. Signs that you are up for more will probably be dictated by your body. If he touches the right places you’ll get a hard-on, which he will notice. If you’re lying on your stomach and he’s massaging your inner thighs, raising your hips to give him access to your cock also signals openness to extras. Even with all of this, there’s no guarantee he will be as open to extras as you are since he may have four massages scheduled that day. I once tried the direct approach once I was naked on the table: I asked him what the rules were. He said “there are no rules.” Music to my ears.