Nightowl

When I first started hiring for sensual massages, my experiences were *exactly* what you describe. 80% therapeutic—usually very good—followed by a little bit of sensual touch and a happy ending. Now that I’ve had a good number under my belt, I try to explain that I enjoy sensual/erotic elements throughout the massage, not just at the end. The best ones I’ve found utilize gentle touch, eye contact, and kissing. I find it far more sensual than anything that is solely genital-focused. I think I definitely need to look you up next time I’m in London….

As enticing as reversing the client-masseur roles might be, I’d be insulting him if I implied that my skills were as good as his. Maybe I’m just too respectful of his experience. But if he’s strictly rub and tug, he’s not really a masseur and my decades of experience could probably match his…

In no particular order: good food, good books, exercise/activity, calm, human touch

I thought that too. Didn’t realize the original post was a few years old. Now that we’re on a down slide, 40,000 is only a few days away.

I book far in advance so waiting a few days isn’t a big deal. Life happens and there’s no way of knowing what the masseur is doing or where he even is that might be delaying him.

No

Grab your dick with one hand to hold it steady and rub the open palm of your other hand in a circular motion over the tip. The feeling is very intense. I don’t usually cum that way but it doesn’t take many “traditional” strokes after that to get me to explode.

I do at least 90 minutes, two hours if possible. I currently just hire for massage and that gives time for a decent massage plus extras, if they’re on offer. I like it when the provider takes his time and prolongs the anticipation.

Damn! I’m on the east coast.😢

I couldn’t agree more!

A friend and I were wandering around DC one night a year or two after the memorial was finished and we headed toward some bright lights that we saw in the distance. It turned out to be the Vietnam memorial. We wandered over to the lights and saw the memorial brightly illuminated with men in fatigue jackets sitting along the top of the wall, the memorial area itself crowded with people making impressions of names and leaving boots, photos, and other mementos at the foot of the memorial. We had forgotten it was Veterans Day. The sight of those veterans who had lost compatriots and the families of the men whose lives had been lost was the most moving experience I have ever had. I’ll never forget it.

I’m intrigued, not only by his hotness but also his shower massage. Damn, I don’t live anywhere near Walnut Creek any more 😢

Maybe they want to take as many clients as possible during their visit and don’t want to use up too much time traveling.

Have any guys at the lower end of your preferred age ever turned down a second appointment?

A horny Christian? Say it isn’t so!

If the guy shows that he knows what he’s doing and can still get rock hard, I’m okay with any age. Sure, it’s trial and error but that’s what makes it interesting.

If the “hand” card comes up during your reading you’re in luck.

yes

Yes! I’m always looking for someone new to test drive and search by city to find him. Having it in the post would be fantastic.

1978. I did see Fellow Travelers. Excellent and disturbing.

I am indeed!

I waited until way past my 30’s. I missed a lot of enjoyment I could have had.

I can only answer for myself and my own situation but I grew up during a time when anything other than hetero sex was “perversion.” When I applied for my first job in government I had to take a polygraph on which there were questions like “have you ever put your penis in another man’s mouth or anus?” Answer “yes” and you were eliminated. If you did it later and were discovered, you were fired. Once the LGBTQ+ restrictions were dropped, there were a lot more women who came out than men, probably because the agency I worked in was defense/military and heavy peer discrimination was still there. Faced with a NYT survey about sexuality, for the duration of the the decades I worked for the government, even though the LGBTQ+ discrimination ended, I would have answered “no” to anything other than “heterosexual” even though I have always known I am attracted to both sexes. Bottom line: my answers would have skewed the survey and I suspect you are correct that there are a lot more closeted guys out there who would have said “no” because saying “yes” to anything on the LGBTQ+ spectrum would have made it too “real”… These are my own thoughts and experiences on the issue only; nothing scientific.

Just stumbled on your post; I was thinking of posting something similar. You’ve expressed my feelings exactly. Thanks to all who help, support, and educate all of us.

I’m sorry for your loss and that you were in the situation you found yourself in with the new guy. I guess arousal is different for all of us. Glad you have found a way to get some gratification in the meantime.