Nightowl

That third leg is pretty impressive!

I wonder how many guys who call themselves “vers” actually bottom. I would imagine it’s a designation used to draw in as many prospective clients as possible.

I have no problem in general with providers contacting me. A note of thanks following a session is great. Likewise, with providers I’ve seen before, I welcome texts at any time provided they’re discreet. Because of my personal situation, I don’t want to receive a text while I’m at the family dinner table that says “Enjoyed fucking you last week. I’ve got an opening next week if you’re available.” A provider reaching out to say he’s available, however, is nice, especially when we both know the rapport and chemistry are good. I’m less enthused about messages on RM and RMass that are vague or just say “hi.” If a provider wants to reach out via message on those fora and tell me why I should hire him, I’ll listen.

Love the use of the “model” in the context of OF (and JFF). Never understood why you aren’t just called “performers.” Must have something to do with professional actors’ unions….

I think his cock is looking out the window.

Depends on what he says when he contacts you. The fact that he didn’t throw away your contact information after you saw him is a good sign. I’d probably respond back with “I had a great time. When can we do it again?”

I usually fold the bills for the flat fee together in one pocket with the anticipated tip bills folded together in another pocket. A trip to the bathroom after I get dressed allows me to change the tip amount if necessary.

When you’re on your stomach and all you can see are the guy’s feet through the face cradle, all of the guy’s good looks mean nothing (unless you’re into feet)

Exactly!

I’m not a fan of the totally bare genital look. It may make one’s attributes look bigger without the surrounding forest, but to me it’s off-putting. I prefer a moderately trimmed forest, on myself and the guys I’m with, preferably with a smooth/near-smooth sac…Never had any professional manscaping done myself. I’m not even sure where to find it. The idea of it sounds intriguing…

That’s quite a load to cum from one…lamp.

It’s only an amenity if it’s the provider’s driveway.

The empath in me would want to reach out and see whether he’d like to come back but that would probably freak him out.

I suppose if he were to hire you again you might find out whether he had moved past any of those issues. My first gay experience was later in life and I had all kinds of concerns about what it signified about me, what acts I absolutely would/wouldn’t do, guilt, shame, etc, but I eventually came to accept that part of myself. I hope he comes to terms with whatever issues he has…

Weren’t there any spotlights trained on the bed so that the guy on his back could see the action in the ceiling mirror?

I’ve done that but I usually pull aside the liner too…

He doesn’t know what he missed. The hottest experiences I’ve had have been when client and provider have their eyes locked as things get heavy. Looking to see what the genitals are doing is great but you can’t beat seeing the reaction in the eyes as things unfold.

One need only read some of the comments on CoM to get a taste of the negative attitude of some clients toward providers.

I eventually learned that there were things in my profile that attracted him, which jives with what you’re saying . Never learned what they were though since he ghosted me after I asked a few questions.

In other words, it’s a sacred dance. I did continue the conversation with the provider and learned that he liked my profile but when I asked him a few questions he stopped responding.

Exactly. If I can’t park, I won’t hire. I always ask prospective hires what the parking situation is. I find that having it in the ad is helpful.

I’m of the same mind. I don’t need the attraction, just the physical desire to pleasure and be pleasured. For me, the mind checks out when the horniness kicks in.

Just found this post. Tried to book him in January but he freaked when I asked for an erotic massage. He was advertising in RMass and that was among his offerings. Guess I didn’t miss anything.

I recently fleshed out my profile on RM and got “Hi” back from an unknown provider. I’m now intrigued. but not sure what his message is. Is that provider-speak for “I saw your profile and I’d really like to see if we could get together?” Unsure, I responded with “hello” and got “Hey man” back. Is this some secret dance that providers and clients go through before hooking up? Seems to me that, if a provider is going to reach out, he should perhaps be a little more direct. Thoughts? (To the provider in question: if you’re on CoM, feel free to elaborate. English or Spanish, both would work for me).

I have been nude for every massage I’ve had in the last 15 years. Only once did I leave my underwear on and that was at the direction of the masseur at a spa in a resort town. Makes we wonder if he’d had some of those boundary-pushing clients you mention and he was trying to avoid another one. (Either that or he found me so irresistible he didn’t think he could control himself with me lying naked on the table)