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First thought is "fuck you, carry on". Second thought is that he might have a rather long list of clients who love the aggressiveness and him claiming to be straight. I too want to ask him to host.

Extremely unlikely. No. That said, that's just me. There might be interest in that "sides" thing from people who prefer that or are only able to do that. Best wishes.

He seems like a honest business person. What I have heard is the opposite, some providers demand more, not less, for consistent services. To me that means that if he wants to implement some kind of business model, he should make sure that his demographic will respond positively to it. Some might feel like "a client" if they are members of a discount club of sort, which could take away the "focused/exclusiveness" fantasy that some clients prefer to have in regards of the type of relationship that they have with the provider. It could place the provider in certain type of category, and some might not be appreciative of that. Just my thoughts.

Which is exactly why, as stated before, I can't care less about what others think, say or do with what I share. I am not in charge of caring for other people's "perceptions" (aka, biases, stupidity, prejudices, poor cognition, among others). That's not my responsibility, end of the story. I'm confident about what I say and why I say it. Whatever others decide to do with it is on them; it's not my job to show them the light, not may job to make them like it.

I can't believe how many people became biased about him. He didn't "get away" with anything. There was a lot of fuzz about him, attacks and portraying him negatively. I watched the ID special documentary about him, and all it was in there were accounts of him being a jerk, people making exaggerated accounts of things that they "witnessed" or "experienced", but none involved any actual illegal act. He was convicted of the things that he did that violated the law, regardless of all the noise around him.

I remember only one user here who was insufferable for always trying to find ways of attacking others at a personal level (tried to attack me for my intelligence). I don't know if that person was booted out or blocked, but that's the only user that can think of as aggressive. To me, I can't care less about other people posting negative comments, and if I don't find them to be the type of comment that adds to the thread, I just skip it. I'm not an admin here, so it's not my job to monitor or facilitate conversations. I myself post things that can be perceived as negative, but normally I keep thinks in I statements, and I make sure that it's something I am confident about, it's first hand information, it's verified information, it's my own experience, or it's a strong opinion that I have. If others react in certain ways about it, it's not because I'm just babbling or not knowing what I am talking about. Like my mother used to say: "Every time you say something, make sure that (1) you know what you're saying, and (2) you know why you're saying it". If you need acceptance, can't take criticism, want to make friends at any cost, then what you post might need to have certain appeal. Just my thoughts.

Not that many of those around anymore. I grew poor so I did my own shoe shining.

We are in the era where people convince themselves that they are "the best" at something simply because they themselves say so in social media. We are living in a post reality world.

Because some people are willing to pay for companionship or dates. You don't need to be a provider to know that.

Most of the cashiers I deal with in my city are these nasty overweight black women that look as miserable as their ridiculous wigs. So, no. I don't have a favorite cashier.

To some people the use of mood altering substances is part of the fun. I know of some who cannot feel comfortable having sex with another man without using alcohol or drugs for "courage". Sadly, providers are the ones who have to deal with that nonsense. Not condoning him at all, he was quite disrespectful to you in many ways, one of them assuming that it's ok for him to get high without you knowing about it. Sorry you went through that. At least he wasn't one of those who gets violent when drugged or drunk.

I've been asked for a pic 3 times, the first 2 in USA. I didn't think of blackmailing, particularly since the people who matter in my life know that I hire, and my employer has more important things to worry about. I know that's my employer's position since it already happened. Apparently somebody wanted to blackmail or mess with an employee and started sending pictures and emails about that employee and it had no effect. The 2 times in USA I sent the picture (face), the provider either liked me or wanted verification of authenticity. The experience went well on the two instances. The third time was in Havana, Cuba. The only concern I had was that the guy was into santería. He also sent me his picture (and, Good God, was he hot!). I had a great time with him too. I never woke up at night acting funny, nor was I possessed by Changó, so nothing happened after, and if my picture is being misused in Cuba, who cares. I like discretion, of course, but though I prefer anonymity, I don't feel anything other than worry about my personal information being divulged, but nothing around being ashamed or embarrassed. Signs of not being too discrete, in my experience, show in other ways before booking, so I have not proceeded with a booking if I feel like the guy might not respect my privacy or discretion. As for rejection, well, it's bound to happen. Nobody likes rejection, but I prefer it before wasting [more] time and money in an unworthy provider. No, I wish, not really. I love my job and will never be doing nothing. Yes, yes-ish, no. That doesn't matter. Assholes, bigots, racists and religious nutjobs and are everywhere in the USA. It's not wise to think that we are better or worse because we are in a red or blue state. My neighborhood is full of rainbow flags all over, and I am still quite hated for no reason.

My two cents: I know there have been experiences in the past with vague or no responses, or worse, conflicting responses. However, this provide is not the other providers, so seems to me that inquiring about it is the best course of action, even if you get yet another vague answer. Personally I take vague answers as a reflection of how the experience is likely to go if it happens, so that is information I like having. It's not unreasonable to mention that there's apparent conflicting information, and there's a possibility of it being an honest mistake on his part. If I get a vague answer, i take it as I'm either not interesting enough for him, or I am second or less choice, which is not what I expect. Best.

Hard to tell. Some people seem to think that when one is "generous" that means that it's an invitation for exploitation or to see how far they can go with asking for more. They don't necessarily see it as "generosity". Instead, they look at it as "he's willing to pay this much, so I can ask for more, then". There's also the possibility that he charged less expecting the "overly generous" thing to kick in, but it seems like it didn't, hence the additional charge. If he's a provider that you see often, I wonder if you feel comfortable just going directly to the source and asking him. If you like him that much, you can express that you don't want misunderstandings about your generosity to be the reason to stop seeing him. I think that's a reasonable conversation to have.

Your call. I have received some inquiring details about providers or destinations. I don't see any harm in providing information about that. No one has ever inquired about any of my personal information, so I feel safe sharing the info they ask about. That said, I personally don't like going into specifics, especially about masseurs. Masseurs go as far as they want, and my guess is that it depends on the client, so to avoid giving them a sense of guarantee about what they should expect, I keep some things vague.

My two cents. I am in PV right now, and I agree about Anthropology, down the drain. Wet Dreams got on my nerves. They had a cover charge the night I went, the guys were pushy, not the best quality, and one after another like making a line offering me a private. The setup behind the bar looks great but was empty. Not a great night. The B-Mine was great, but didn't have many guys (I know it's slow season, but I counted three strippers and one of them was just sitting waiting to get fucked in front of everybody by some other one at the live sex show (didn't know that they had it, and didn't stay for it). Club 69 had some kind of Cirque du Soleil type of act with some dancer going up and down wearing a mask and some kind of robe. The biggest turnoff was how many damn women were there (say what you like, I don't think they belong there), and the way they were acting was even worse than their already off-putting presence. So, my recommendation is to go to PV during season, when there are plenty of strippers, better weather (there's a hurricane south of PV) and hopefully better luck. It's never occur to me to use card to pay anything there, and always in pesos.

It's not the same with each provider. Some are quite personable and some are more "all business". I don't think I have a preference.

Sorry to hear. Rudeness to me is an epidemic. Has to be terrible if they make newyorkers look welcoming. The Asian countries I've been in, people are quite polite (at least in commonly public areas, like train stations and buses).

Now that's the Florida I know.

The masseur is in control of how far things go, which is why it costs us, clients, less. However, in my experience, there's no specific rule or "protocol" that I know of. How things go can vary by country. In USA, RentMasseur had the option for providers to offer erotic massages, which can clear the path to further communication. Back then I asked for that option, and depending on something (my mood, I guess), I'd ask for certain things right away (such as if he could massage me undressed - never got a no). In other instances, I felt his body close to me during the massage, and I'd give hints of interest in more. His reaction will determine if I'd go further. I am respectful of boundaries if it doesn't. In that situation, several things have happened: (1) things evolve silently and as it becomes less massage and more extra, (2) a change in direction and back to massage [annoying and makes me feel rejected, but oh well]. (3) the masseur inquires if I'm interested in more since he's also interested in more [that is, $] too. I initiate when I know that it has been talked about before the appointment in the first communication, and also when I feel his body close and touching me (I take that as an invitation). I do it physically, rarely I say anything. I also initiate when I know that he also has a RM profile, which to me implies that he's open to more (of course, for more). He initiates when we both start naked, or when I don't have a full idea of what to expect, when the initial communication is not fully clear. What others have said cannot be emphasized more. Let him do his job. Things will evolve. Not sure if this helps. This is just my experience.

Some idiots convince themselves that vaping isn't smoking, so yes, it doesn't surprise me that something like what you wrote happens. I've heard people talking that nonsense, I have witnessed, and also have witnessed people vaping in places where smoking isn't allowed because "I'm not smoking, I'm vaping", having to get thrown out by security.

Odd question. If a person asks me that I'd really recommend him to get his vision checked. Questions: Do you look, move or act like a law enforcement officer? Or maybe there was something in the conversation that made him think that you were looking for certain information? Hopefully it's not like he's developing some kind of paranoia.

My two cents: "Ask me" in my experience has meant willing to do things, but for an additional charge. Seems like a way of up-selling extras. I'm sure that's not the case with all, but that was my experience.

Ensuring that you're not getting ripped off is not being an asshole. That said, I've found no specific best rule or best practice. Any action around how payment goes always carry a risk, IMO. So far it's been only one person who asked for cash upfront that turned out to be a terrible experience. I was new to this whole hiring thing and didn't know better. Asking for cash upfront was not the red flag, or at least not the biggest. The subject of cash upfront has rarely come up, in my experience. When it does I've stated that I prefer to pay after and the provider had agreed. Can't comment on overnight or weekend-long services.

There is a way. It's called a profile.