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Nothing. Tips are earned (at least that tip).

No, but because I don't abuse it. I take time between massages, I'm also very selective about places and providers. Additionally, I do like a good therapeutic massage for the purpose of relaxation or physical therapy, and I enjoy that. I do feel like if I do it too often or too many times it will lose its appeal, so I [think] I understand where you come from. I never thought of reviews as spoilers. Now I wonder.

The 80s and 90s. No. I also trust my rather good intuition. At the end I made it on my own by other means.

Traveling Fine dining Good sex Jesus (my Mexican provider) Money to pay for all of the above

As a young man, I had opportunities and plenty of offers, but I declined. The reasons were several, ranging from the off-putting approach from some of the men who solicited me, to an immature sense of pride, feeling great about making it on my own without "shortcuts" (as I saw it then). I also used to have the belief that this profession is wrong and shouldn't exist. Today, I still believe that I made the right choice back then, but for different reasons. I also prefer to be on the side of the business where I am. I just want to enjoy the fruit of my decades of work, living and learning, maturing and prospering.

My two cents: Regardless of "geopolitical context of hyper medicalization and pharmacology", I don't think of providers or compare them to a meal or an entertainment venue, where you have to pay regardless of the quality of the food or show. I think of providers as contractors who are responsible for delivering something that both parties agree upon, and where there are conversations about expectations, similar to a contract. This situation doesn't look to me like a "buyer's remorse" situation from the consumer, it's a failure to deliver the expected service based on what is agreed, from the person contracted to deliver it, and the reason for the poor delivery is not beyond the control of the contractor, meaning, that it's not because of any accident, the weather or any out of the ordinary circumstances. It was, to borrow a line, because of geopolitical context of hyper medicalization and pharmacology, which is something that the provider/contractor can have control over, which makes him accountable for the improper delivery of services. As such, in that situation I would have expected an adjustment in the agreed amount. Otherwise, I can easily see providers just promising things and then doing whatever they want simply because they think that the agreed money is guaranteed. Just my thoughts, not law.

"toxic" something has become a recent trend to define behavioral patterns that are unhealthy harmful, and disguised as beneficial, loving or healthy. It's based on things like passive-aggression or obsession with denying reality. @mike carey Thank you. I have something to listen to in the plane on my way back home soon. I'll comment then.

Never done an all-nighter, so I can't comment on that. In my experience, without rushing, I feel comfortable with having between an hour and an hour and a half, not rushing and not being a one-minute man. Went for two hours and it was ok, but not essential. I have a husband, so that is also factored in when deciding how much time (and money) I'm willing to dedicate to/with providers.

True, but even that almost half the country alsohave very conservative views around sex and sexual expression. Let's not forget that either.

From the link: "But despite the lack of evidence, the mere thought that the sex tapes might exist has sent some people online into a frenzy about them." Just another non-story to keep it alive and people expecting something relevant to happen. BTW, shouldn't we call it something other than sex tapes? Tapes are a little, like, obsolete. Just sayin'.

Another self-important "influencer" trying to get unearned, self-serving attention.

Well, maybe. If you watch the Investigation Discovery channel, there's a show named "Deadly Women", where they feature crimes committed by women. Other shows also have episodes of people who have killed their spouses to avoid the shame of divorce, or because the spouse was masturbating or deriving sexual pleasure from something other than another person. So yes, there are people who seem to think that murder is less embarrassing than sex.

In the USA, it's part of the puritan and christian heritages. It's more tolerable to kill than to masturbate. The place that they give to anything sexual is beyond belief. Spouses that have that attitude towards their partners masturbating to porn are just projecting their own insecurities and inadequacies around it. Masturbation is just men being men, nothing more. We do it, we like it, and we enjoy it. The rest is just nobody's business.

I know of Reddit and have followed some in the past, but I'm not fond of social media in general. The read is interesting, maybe I'll take a closer look. Thanks for sharing this.

Without mentioning names, I remember a threat here where one of the providers disclosed being hired for that type of setting. I'm sure it's possible. I personally gave up anything that involves more than two people (including me), but I've enjoyed groups configurations in the past.

In my experience, although I've known of FTM (trans men), they have been a very tiny minority in comparison with the availability of gay men. That might be a reason why there aren't that many discussions about them. I do know of them since the 90s, so they have been around and available for some time. However, it was in time after being widely known that it seems like the largest demographic for FTM providers are gay men. That might be another reason for them having more visibility recently, and almost anonymity in the past. I know of many men who have curiosity for them, but I have no idea of how many actually satisfy their curiosity. I personally have no interest in FTM providers, but they are out there, available just like other providers. In my experience and opinion, they are just not that many. It'll be great if an individual who is a trans man could join and give their perspective.

Yes, I have.

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Not a concern at all. This is just another sensationalistic headline with enough information to cause reactions.

In my experience that's just BS, and exactly what you imply it's for; it's supposed to be enticing, and supposed to excite you ant to please you. I don't care either way. Sometimes I've responded with some kind of smart remark, and sometimes I just let them know what does excite me. I don't talk about my genitals. I care more about cleanness, the attitude attached to the hole, and if the person is attractive to me. So far I've been perfectly fine with what has been presented to me.

It's not an easy thing to care only within the confines of the scope of the type of relationships that we have with providers. It is high risk work and we cannot interfere with how they do it. I don't take them for granted, and I respect boundaries, but I don't think it's my place to get into their personal lives. That said, if they reach out to me for help (real help, not that they want money) I'd be decent and help. I've helped strangers, some of them thankless, out of being a decent human being, and I've helped fuck buddies I've had, so why not helping a provider that I know (and had good times with).

For real? Do people want another financial and emotional spanking? Crazy. Interesting I was just having a conversation with my husband about (I guess) the first Fyre Festival. I saw a re-run of the story on it in CNBC, the "American Greed" show. I was telling him that the essence of the idea is not bad, had it been carried out properly instead of it being the scam and fiasco that it was. Billy McFarland is as unbelievable as the idiots who choose to follow him.

I think, and this is just my opinion, that the question is a little too general. It is as complex as human sexuality is. I'm not sure all bottoms like being treated the same way, excited the same way or by the same person. One can be skillful, attractive and hot, but have no chemistry or not be liked by a given person. I guess that the one thing that makes a good top is to find the think that a given bottom likes the way he likes it, given that such bottom is actually attracted to such top.

Sad news. RI.P. Thank you for the good times you gave to many of us.

My guess is that it's a "higher-risk situation" fee. You might not have any ill-intentions with the provider, but that's not necessarily the case with others. They are in a foreign land probably with little knowledge of their rights or how to protect themselves. Just a guess.