soloyo215

I've been involved in threesomes, never involving me paying for any of them, so I cannot comment on what to expect from one involving providers. Most of my threesomes have been different in terms of the vibe, the level of satisfaction, spontaneity of it, the people involved, the situation around them and the gender of the people on it. It has always been a "go with the flow" thing, but some have not been great, art least for me. In a situation when I am paying, I imagine I will have more of a saying on how things will go. There aren't really any rules, which means that if one (or more) of you need a break, they can, I guess, if you're OK with it, within reason (I mean, for as long as the break is not 10 minutes after it started and for the rest of the session).

Meanwhile in Puerto Vallarta, where I am... (I really dodged a bullet) Edit: I spoke too fast, now I think I'd prefer snow. Happening right now.

To me this is one of those things that are very personal. If the guy has or doesn't have a beard is not deal breaker for me. Other things that are a non-issue to many, however, are an issue to me (like height). I've had good times with guys with beards and clean shaven. No preference of one over another. I myself grow mine very now and then, get tired and shave it.

First thing that came to mind is that no one is entitled to tell me what is appropriate or not (in that respect). I also think that if the athletes and their platforms are ok with it, who am I be outraged on their behalf? Furthermore, today the media and the public in general behave like the 70s never happened. As PhileasFogg mentioned and illustrated, there's nothing new in exploiting the sexual aspect of sports. There are so many more solid and impactful reasons to be outraged about so many bad things happening in the world, than seeing some athletes butt emphasized on TV doesn't make it to the top 1,000,000,000 things I'm outraged about. And honestly, I do not see any double standards at all in terms of gender, except maybe there is some when it comes to transgender athletes. Those I don't see featured anywhere other than in controversial stories.

Aside from the personal information related to the service that I am receiving, I have shared personal information with some providers. I have felt safe doing that. However, for some reason, some providers themselves have given me details about their personal lives without me asking. One of my favorite masseurs have shared quite a lot of personal information about him. I even met his daughter. Another provider after the session sat with me and had coffee and conversed. We got to know each other a little more. Another extended his friendship and we're friends. There was this one provider whom I confided quite some intimate details about me. I felt a different connection since he's mixed race like me and his ethnic and religious backgrounds are similar to mine. Again, we went over the accorded time without charging extra. The opposite is true too. There was this one guy I hired in Barcelona that gave me the creeps and I did not feel comfortable at all with him. It was a massage, and I just shared the minimum, said the minimum and left as soon as the time was up with little small talk. The rather seedy places where I have been are not conducive to sharing anything. It's all business, so in those situations I care more about my financial, health and personal safety, so no sharing any details about anything. I guess it depends on the setting. I share similar views, I am "a nobody", meaning that there's no high stakes in divulging information about me, plus people in my circle already know plenty about me anyway. They'd pay to know less, not more. I refrain to give anyone my credit card or pin numbers, though.

My two cents. Don't overthink it. If the provider agrees to mutual touch, you can simply let your hands wander. I imagine that means within the vibe that the massage provides, not coming across as a desperate predator. Let the masseur do his work. A good one will lead you to where you want to go (within what has been agreed).

I had self image issues as a young man, though I had times when I'd go out looking like a flaming queen wearing tight and see-through clothes. I once posed semi-naked for an HIV/AIDS prevention campaign poster. I had a two-hour naked photo shoot in 2024 (at the tender age of "not twenty anymore") in Puerto Vallarta, at a clothing optional hotel, so I posed all over the facilities, with some shots of me diving and by the play areas, with the photographer following me. My body is not exactly "model material" at all, but it was fun. I still have no clue what possessed me to do that.

Didn't know that about him. Thanks for sharing. Makes his death even more sad.

I can't speak for others, but I hired when I was young because I just liked the guy. They were nice, friendly, good company, good sex, so why not. I wasn't looking to hire, and I did have dates and casual sex outside of hiring. It was and felt different than it is now.

Not a big deal to me. I'd return.

I can trace my hiring street hustlers all the way back to the 80s. Not intending to hire, but some street hustlers in the area where I was living when I was college, approached me and I'd get with them and give them money. I guess I thought that because I didn't intentionally look to hire, it didn't count. That pattern continued through my 30s. In my 40s I was more concentrated in my family, so no hiring. Then, intentionally hiring, purposely looking to hire, about ten years ago.

I have to agree about this, but to some degree. I've always characterize most younger men as "too much enthusiasm, too little essence", BUT, I also remember how I was at that age, and I was not into exactly like that. There are exceptions, and with young guys I've experienced a range, some great, some not so. There are some young men who conduct themselves with the level of maturity and experience expected from older men. In all honesty, I've found both beauty and ugliness in all ages (or at least all of the ages I've hired).

In my city, normally in the early evening during weekdays, for no reason other than I work all day. When in NYC, mostly in early afternoon. When traveling, business or pleasure, pretty much any day, any time.

I actually was going to write "They make me feel cheap(er)".

I only had one 4-hand massage, so I am no expert, nor am I able to comment on "scammy" (though a single provider can scam other without the need of a second). My experience was not that great, but in my case I believe that it was lack of chemistry and the comments that they were making as they were massaging me. They make me feel cheap, as if I was in a budget 90s porn video. Guys were hot, but I felt crowded and not really part of it. Maybe they were into each other, who knows. I actually cut it short, which made one of the guys react negatively. Not a pleasant experience. My only recommendation is to see if you could discuss how you expect the experience to go beforehand. I didn't ask or said anything (I was new to it myself at that time). It's your time and your money, make sure that things go your way and that you get providers that can make sure that you are enjoying it. I can't say I won't do it again, but I am quite happy with one-on-ones.

Tricky. On one hand, it's business, so one can think about it as finding or trying a different subscription service. On the other hand, many times the reason why regulars become regulars is that there's good chemistry, connection, availability, reliability or at least affordability. In my experience when I've had to say no, I actually give a reason, not a lie. I don't necessarily give the main reason, but I prefer not to lie. No one likes rejection for another "better" provider no matter how emotionally intelligent the provider is, but I don't give excuses, I give real reasons even if what I say is not the main reason.

No. I can tell that for sure. My two worst experiences with providers were with men over 40. Terrible service and sloppy setup. One of them seemed like he was over everything, like I was his last customer before ending it all.

Nothing new there. Many people of many HIV statuses lie about their status, about being on PreP, about knowing their HIV status, about a whole of other things. My rule has always been not to rely on the word of the other person. I am the one responsible for all of my well-being, so I'm not going to make decisions based on what I read in a profile or what I am told.

You have choices. You can reach out and like others said, you can explain that you enjoyed the therapeutic part of the massage, but prefer to keep it therapeutic. He might or might not respect your boundaries. Another choice is to look for another just-as-good masseur that is strictly therapeutic. I can guarantee you that he's not the only skillful masseur. Another choice is schedule another appointment without saying anything and use it as a way of exploring. Based on what you wrote, seems like he might not be the best at taking a no, respecting boundaries or reading your body language if you're showing discomfort (if you in fact were showing discomfort), so if you reach out to him, he might take it as you wanting to explore more on the sexual component of the massage. And don't be surprised if you reach out to him and he ignores you. Many men get the cheap thrill that they like and move on. Just my opinion, and solely based on my interpretation of what you wrote.

Reminds me, I need to buy maple ham.

I used to tip, and quite well, but as others have pointed out, prices have gone up, plus I was tipping because I thought that it was some kind of unwritten rule. Now I tip only certain providers, only certain countries, and only if they go extra (extra time, extra activities, etc.).

Not a big deal to me. I have experienced that and I'm ok with it. First, I respect my body, so I don't force it to finish if it's not getting there. Second, not finishing doesn't diminish what I have already enjoyed. Third, I am a customer and I don't owe "finishing" to anyone. The times when I've experienced that, however, seems to have planted doubt on the provider, probably thinking that he didn't do the work right or something along those lines. Not only I have reassured the provider, explaining to him what I just wrote, but I have returned (and finished, and FINISHED, sometimes on/in him). Of course, I prefer finishing but if it doesn't happen, I'm fine with it.

I'd not helped at all. The times and society we're living in today, where people have gotten sued, killed, arrested, insulted, belittled and attacked, simply for wanting to help, it's not worth it.