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Other than letting them know as soon as they start slipping into that pattern, I don' think that there's much else to do. It's their behavior and business. They should not be taking their customers for granted that way. DrownedBoy brought good points about certain behaviors being the result of getting too comfortable (I'm paraphrasing and interpreting) and being inexperienced. In the past I have ended relationships with providers because their behavior have changed, and not for the better. I have let them know that I do have expectations every time. Drug use and mental health can impact the work that they do.

I'll never be the same at a wedding reception.

I agree on both points. I am living proof that there are changes in attitudes. 20 years ago it was unthinkable for me to have a tattoo. Regarding people's treatment of their distaste for tattoos as "despicable monsters" as you put it, that's fairly common with all kinds of other preferences, from race, age, height, body type, to circumcision status, you name it. Never understood the "strong emotions" around certain things.

Yes, of course. I was only pointing at the people who my community deemed as "street people".

I come from both a religious background and a generation that associated tattoos with "street people". Used to be that only certain sectors of the population had them. They used to symbolize some kind of gang, having served prison time, and people with tattoos were part of circus attractions as something extremely exotic. I believe that there are remnants of those views on tattoos today, along with social and religious stigma, associated with certain behaviors. Of course, there's the matter of personal preference. My personal views have changed to the point that I have one now on my left arm. Having a tattoo or two is not a deal breaker to me. However, having face tattoos, and having the head, neck and face areas covered with many, especially to the point where the face is no longer a face but a canvas, that makes me react. My reaction normally is "Why on Earth?" not one of rejection. Under the tattoo is a human being, even if he doesn't do it for me as a provider.

Back to the original topic, to me it's a red flag when there are way too many of those "pet peeves". It's like those personal adds where some have more of half of it stating "no this, no that, be this, be that, have this, don't bring that", ad nauseam. I'm not sure how many of those are too many, but at some point the provider might start coming across as demanding or off-putting for having so many preferences or "requirements". If they remain in business is because there are some clients who are ok with those pet peeves.

I don't think so. We do have the choice of stop watching them is we want. We don't have to see every single one of them. It's that simple to me. That said, I'm more annoyed with them having the same picture presented many times, or variants of it (cropped, recolored, etc.). That annoys me more. Still, I can just stop looking at them. That's not a big deal to me, but it's ok if it is to others.

Not delivering what they promise, especially when it's deliberate because they start talking shit to divert. Getting recorded without my permission.

I agree with this. Also, anything that requires effort an long term planning has become quite unpopular. People prefer pills, injections and anything that gives them instant gratification and no responsibility. The way society in general thinks and is conditioned to make decisions have changed too. Things like learning to make better decisions, measure foods and not succumb to social pressures are also less important to people.

They keep making shit up. Bunch of useless terms and labels, something to further create more divisiveness.

MF is a massage website full of sexy men wearing sexy outfits, showcasing their bodies, many offering erotic massages, many with profiles in RM, and with reviews that hint something else provided. What do you think?

I hate porn closeups myself. Maybe without mentioning top or bottom, asking "which one is you in the video?" seems like a reasonable question.

Love the term "zoomers" 🤣. I agree that there is a generation of vague, if at all responses. My experiences in Vegas have been similar, just weird or vague responses if I get any. Other than saying "it's not you, it's how things are there", I can't offer any solution.

One of the Spas I go to, I get pedicure, manicure, massage and blow job. They also offer facials and other services, but those are the ones I've gotten. So yes, there are individuals and facilities that can accommodate for other ways of pampering ourselves.

My two cents: I think that they do and they don't. My guess is that they have to be in that city for some reason and they figure that while they are there, they might make some money. Looks to me that the primary purpose of the visit to that city might not be his work. He might want to make a quick buck while he has to be there. At least that's what I think makes sense for him to try to schedule a client that way. I think about me as a client, in instances when I have found myself with nothing to do for one night in a foreign city (waiting for a next day flight, at a conference, or similar situations), and I try to find something (or someone) to do. I reach out and sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Just my thoughts.

I don't think that your question "stirs the pot". It's quite appropriate for this forum, as it goes to the core of its objectives. I can only speak for my experiences. I do use reviews, but don't take them as law or advice. A good review keeps it about the experience, and provides a balance feedback. Sometimes a bad review is about aspects of the experience that have nothing to do with the provider (i.e. "it's a shady area"). I look at reviews as a group and start seeing themes. That's what I mostly pay attention to instead of emotional/angry bad reviews from some people. That said, I also look at them not as a source of reliable information, but as people's impressions, some of which are very "specific". Ultimately, I decide the level of risk I am comfortable with.

I can see a section like that being abused and weaponized. I see it as the source of many unsavory discussions, arguments, and even lawsuits for slandering. I don't think it's a good idea. Just look at the answers here and see that some people are already calling it "public shaming", arguments about who's really the scammer, what is in fact a scammer, what to do when one person feels scammed and another had a great experience, and things alike. Bad idea, and it even hasn't started.

In essence it's fine, but that's not permission to be fully trusting. Always caution. A good strategy is to as questions about setting, what exactly is he offering, location, etc. I'd treat it the same way that I deal with a hookup with a hidden agenda of wanting money. The app is just the means. The cyberspace is no different than the rest of the world. full of scammers, hustlers, and good and bad people.

It depends 😁. Really, I've gotten a spectrum of levels of enthusiasm, so it varies from provider to provider. The reasons can be from bad or no chemistry, to being the last client of the day, to being the first client of the day, to his mood, to my mood, I mean, so many things can influence how the experience goes. Nothing worse than getting an unenthusiastic, "what a chore!" hand job, but I still get it 🙃 (maybe that's why the word job is in it).

In a massage setting, there isn't a specific rule on how to go about touching. I just reach out and try. I've had various degrees of success with that approach. However, if the mutual touch is the primary reason for it, then I suggest to just ask for it during the booking process. Nothing wrong with respectfully inquiring about it.

"...turning his "multi-faceted business empire" into a "criminal enterprise" over two decades." When I read lines like that one, I deem it unreliable and sensationalistic.

Don't know about LA, but if you've been in Philly, you'll be fine in Baltimore. There's never a guarantee of safety or happiness in any place. There are safer areas and less safer areas. Like any city, Baltimore has its good and bad areas, and "gayborhoods" are dying (using the excuse of acceptance and equity to invade valuable areas that we were once able to consider ours).

If you made communication and have his number, why not using it. The reasons for deleting the account doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to talk to you. That would be making assumptions.

As a client, I value the information that I read here, and the feedback that I get in PMs. That said, I treat the information I get here the same way I treat reviews: They are personal experiences, which means it might not be mine Fake sources are always going to be present I try not to let my confirmation bias get in the way, looking to confirm what I want to hear about a provider Multiple sources of information can give me a better sense of what I'm looking for. I see themes and experiences that show similarities. At the end of the day, both the information here and reviews are not to be taken as guarantees, nor as assurance.

I have been asked for a picture several times. I only sent it once, back when I was inexperienced in this, to a provide in Columbus. The provider who received it complimented me, and we he was excellent, and he seemed to enjoy me as much as I enjoyed him, or he's a great actor. I do not know if the outcome would have been different if he didn't like what he saw in my picture. As soon as I learned better, no pictures.