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In my dating history, I've had guys hung up on things that I've shared with them, on religion, family history, my last name, my ethnicities, my change of careers and past relationships. Some have become quite annoying, repeating and bringing up the topic. To me that has been a reason to end it. I've brought the question directly to them, asking why he keeps bringing up the topic, and if there's anything that bothers him about it. Never got a direct answer, and what I get from the whole interaction is that he's being passive-aggressively, showing that he has an issue with me. What issue? I do not know, but also don't care to find out. A person who is unable to get that he's making me uncomfortable by constantly bringing up a given topic, and continues doing so in spite of my boundaries, shows that he might be a boundary trespasses, being disrespectful from the get go. Just my experience, I can't tell that that's the case with you and your date. I'd suggest to just ask him what's the deal with him bringing up the matter.

Just my experience. The vast majority of the young guys I've been with (hired or hookups) are "too much enthusiasm, too little essence". I don't discard younger guys, but I scrutinize them more when hiring or hooking up, even now when I am their "daddy". The rest of the daddy thing I just see as a preference the same way that some prefer certain physical attributes or activities.

Interesting reading. I personally don't like the way the story is told. Seems biased towards presenting only the salacious side of the story and portraying only him as the wrongdoer. I'd like to know the background of the accuser, and also how Equinox ended up hiring that guy without a background check (or hiring him anyway after a background check).

As others have said, in a settled way or directly, you can communicate what/how you want. I doubt that the provider will be offended, annoyed or hurt by you telling them what/how you expect things. Best.

I think I understand. I relate to that situation. That is one of the main reasons why I rarely bottom. Very few tops (in my experience) are not that great at taking the time when someone is not into the power top or aggressive top thing. Some of us have to be led to like it, and some tops are just not that experienced in that. I agree about communicating that with him, especially now that you have had encounters with him. I'd suggest that you can frame it as trying something different or new, as expanding your range of activities. No need to mention anything about him not knowing how to do things. He actually might know and he's just not sure what approach works best for you. You can use your history to improve your encounters. If he's a young man, chances are that he's still in the learning curve of the business. Properly communicated, he can become the top of your dreams. Aside from just communicating what/how you prefer, how you present it can also help it become a better way of connecting with him. Turn the negative into a positive. Best.

I find that unprofessional. Some of us can't care less about discussing politics, and as a client, the provider is supposed to provide an environment that leads to what he's paying for. The provider's job is to give the client a good time, not to make a political point.

Welcome. Feel free to ask questions, research the discussions and read as much as you'd like.

Without details of the interactions it's difficult to establish any thoughts on it.

Thanks, great information, but that doesn't address the question I asked.

Even if that's a socially acceptable norm, which I don't think it is (times have changed, though people, injustices, violence, rape, prejudices and sociopolitical nonsense haven't), it still doesn't answer my question or address my point, which is, have there been instances when the "assault" to use your wording, has been welcome? In my experience, many people (including a lot of the "me too" people) complain only and exclusively when it works for their purpose, not labeling it "assault" when they like it. The "Me too" thing to me is a big fat failure. As some comedian pointed out, it became a tool for discrimination. The hashtag sign is also the pound sign. It makes more sense to call it "pound me too". It has not done a single thing to advance any rights, to end violence, to raise awareness. What it has done is creating more segregation more violence and more discrimination. Rather than a news story, there's research to support my statements (just go to Google Scholar or Pew Research and do a search on the effects of the Me Too "movement"). The Me Too Movement had migrated from a defender of the vulnerable, to a censor and then political machine that only serves to water down and detract from the Movement's original, righteous purpose. And of course, there are many of us who rely on reason and don't support any nonsensical definitions at people's convenience. So I ask again directly this time, what do you do when you like the "assault"? Is it still "assault"?

Assault? Sounds a little dramatic. Unwanted advances, boundary crossing, poor judgement, harassment, not respecting personal space maybe, but assault? To me assault involves a level of aggressiveness where you need to physically defend yourself, not fend off unwelcome touch. REGARDLESS, I agree that it could be quite uncomfortable. However, if I could ask, had there been instances when you have welcomed such "approach"? I ask since this has been the topic of many conversations I've had with friends, family and in many other social settings for decades. The thing is that the vast majority of the time the person complaining does so only when they feel the touch and groping is unwanted, neglecting to recognize the other times when the same touching and groping has been welcome and wanted. Of course, I don't know you, which is why I inquire. Every time I have a conversation about this, that's my starting point. Many times we focus on the touch we don't welcome, neglecting to recognize that the same approach is used with the touch we have welcomed from other people. Just my thoughts, not law.

For real? There are ads stating that?

Great information. Thank you for your efforts and for sharing it.

I have no interest in shaming or attacking you, though I do understand that some might be pissed (for lack of a better word) to find out that the reason is not happening is money, especially after so much support and advice was provided. When this thread started, I remember suggesting to plan for the worst case scenario. This might not be the "worst" scenario, but it's most certainly not the one expected. If it's not going to happen for you, what do you plan to do to move on from this, if at all? What's next, start trying to save money to make it happen in the future or forget about the whole thing? I'm not judging you or attacking you. Financial reasons are legitimate reasons to not proceed (though finances change). What's next for you? Hopefully you don't obsess and get creepy when you see him, nor it becomes too awkward, and hopefully you can come up with the money in the future. But how you handle this from this point on is important.

Seen him in porn and he seems to be the real deal. Versatile and willing to do a lot.

There are certain words, but to me is mostly about the overall tone of the ad. I find some ads written in a way that I find off-putting. As for specific words: I'm a top Repeating that they are a top millions of times in a paragraph (looks like they are trying to convince themselves of it) straight Worship Don't waste my time

I hope they weren't gardening gloves. I agree that he might not be in the right line of work. There's no way I'll allow it. I don't pay to feel like I am a Petri dish full of germs. That's not going to fly with me.

I was teaching a computer class at a Tech School in Perth Amboy, New Jersey. One of my students saw it in MSN News and told us in class. Later we could see the smoke from the Raritan Bay. We all saw online when the second tower collapsed. I felt guilty later because the first thing that came to mind was noting the physics of it, how "beautifully" the structure collapsed as it is expected from its structural design, without thinking about the people in the building. I used to hang out at the one an only little corner of the towers that stood, where the Borders bookstore was.

I'd be very curious myself if I was in that situation. Sounds interesting. I think the reason(s) for the change can only be given by him. Without much knowledge about him it's difficult to establish or even guess a reason. A good following step [in terms of actions] is to just let him be in control of the situation as it seems he has been. As a masseur, there are no rules regarding what else can happen. He calls the shots. In terms of communication, I wonder how comfortable are you with simply asking. I think it's a fair question to ask, after years of sessions suddenly there's a change. Asking the right way and the right time, not coming across as greedy or creepy, can give you a clear idea of what's in his mind(set).

Annoying influencers running out of ideas for attention. As other mentioned, I'd check the rules for photography and cameras in the locker room. Not all the gyms I've been to have a warning in the locker room, but there are policies around photography in most private establishments.

Most massages I've had cover my eyes when turned over. I've never have a problem engaging or being intimate with my eyes covered. I always manage, I guess. When I'm interested in the massage portion, having my eyes closed or covered keeps me in my happy place. When I want/expect extras, having my eyes covered has never been an issue. My body speaks for itself, I guess.

I think that the more it is discussed, the less public it becomes, and the bigger issue it becomes. Seems like you made your point, were responsible, recovered from the injure (presumably) and decided to keep the provider's privacy. You also discussed the issue about the apology, about the issue of the provider learning about your post about the issue with the injury. Hopefully no further issues get created from this discussion about the issue of the other issues.

Happy Ending. I have not been to Mexico City, but if you are on Facebook, there are several groups of massages for men there. Seems like there are plenty to choose from, and many look like good quality.

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We don't know what you know. It's hard to suggest without some basic details (don't need to be explicit).