soloyo215

Not a big deal to me. I'd return.

I can trace my hiring street hustlers all the way back to the 80s. Not intending to hire, but some street hustlers in the area where I was living when I was college, approached me and I'd get with them and give them money. I guess I thought that because I didn't intentionally look to hire, it didn't count. That pattern continued through my 30s. In my 40s I was more concentrated in my family, so no hiring. Then, intentionally hiring, purposely looking to hire, about ten years ago.

I have to agree about this, but to some degree. I've always characterize most younger men as "too much enthusiasm, too little essence", BUT, I also remember how I was at that age, and I was not into exactly like that. There are exceptions, and with young guys I've experienced a range, some great, some not so. There are some young men who conduct themselves with the level of maturity and experience expected from older men. In all honesty, I've found both beauty and ugliness in all ages (or at least all of the ages I've hired).

In my city, normally in the early evening during weekdays, for no reason other than I work all day. When in NYC, mostly in early afternoon. When traveling, business or pleasure, pretty much any day, any time.

I actually was going to write "They make me feel cheap(er)".

I only had one 4-hand massage, so I am no expert, nor am I able to comment on "scammy" (though a single provider can scam other without the need of a second). My experience was not that great, but in my case I believe that it was lack of chemistry and the comments that they were making as they were massaging me. They make me feel cheap, as if I was in a budget 90s porn video. Guys were hot, but I felt crowded and not really part of it. Maybe they were into each other, who knows. I actually cut it short, which made one of the guys react negatively. Not a pleasant experience. My only recommendation is to see if you could discuss how you expect the experience to go beforehand. I didn't ask or said anything (I was new to it myself at that time). It's your time and your money, make sure that things go your way and that you get providers that can make sure that you are enjoying it. I can't say I won't do it again, but I am quite happy with one-on-ones.

Tricky. On one hand, it's business, so one can think about it as finding or trying a different subscription service. On the other hand, many times the reason why regulars become regulars is that there's good chemistry, connection, availability, reliability or at least affordability. In my experience when I've had to say no, I actually give a reason, not a lie. I don't necessarily give the main reason, but I prefer not to lie. No one likes rejection for another "better" provider no matter how emotionally intelligent the provider is, but I don't give excuses, I give real reasons even if what I say is not the main reason.

No. I can tell that for sure. My two worst experiences with providers were with men over 40. Terrible service and sloppy setup. One of them seemed like he was over everything, like I was his last customer before ending it all.

Nothing new there. Many people of many HIV statuses lie about their status, about being on PreP, about knowing their HIV status, about a whole of other things. My rule has always been not to rely on the word of the other person. I am the one responsible for all of my well-being, so I'm not going to make decisions based on what I read in a profile or what I am told.

You have choices. You can reach out and like others said, you can explain that you enjoyed the therapeutic part of the massage, but prefer to keep it therapeutic. He might or might not respect your boundaries. Another choice is to look for another just-as-good masseur that is strictly therapeutic. I can guarantee you that he's not the only skillful masseur. Another choice is schedule another appointment without saying anything and use it as a way of exploring. Based on what you wrote, seems like he might not be the best at taking a no, respecting boundaries or reading your body language if you're showing discomfort (if you in fact were showing discomfort), so if you reach out to him, he might take it as you wanting to explore more on the sexual component of the massage. And don't be surprised if you reach out to him and he ignores you. Many men get the cheap thrill that they like and move on. Just my opinion, and solely based on my interpretation of what you wrote.

Reminds me, I need to buy maple ham.

I used to tip, and quite well, but as others have pointed out, prices have gone up, plus I was tipping because I thought that it was some kind of unwritten rule. Now I tip only certain providers, only certain countries, and only if they go extra (extra time, extra activities, etc.).

Not a big deal to me. I have experienced that and I'm ok with it. First, I respect my body, so I don't force it to finish if it's not getting there. Second, not finishing doesn't diminish what I have already enjoyed. Third, I am a customer and I don't owe "finishing" to anyone. The times when I've experienced that, however, seems to have planted doubt on the provider, probably thinking that he didn't do the work right or something along those lines. Not only I have reassured the provider, explaining to him what I just wrote, but I have returned (and finished, and FINISHED, sometimes on/in him). Of course, I prefer finishing but if it doesn't happen, I'm fine with it.

I'd not helped at all. The times and society we're living in today, where people have gotten sued, killed, arrested, insulted, belittled and attacked, simply for wanting to help, it's not worth it.

Yes, and it could be a good thing or a bad thing. One of my masseurs that I used to see regularly I had to stop seeing because he felt great talking about hings, but he started making up conversation during the massage when I wanted to be relaxed, quiet and in my mental happy place. I hinted him several times that I wanted quiet during the massage and I think he didn't get it. Another one who's a regular, I think he likes me, so he always goes over the time agreed and we had insanely great sex. He's also given me a ride home after, we've gone shopping, and I met his daughter. It's still a provider/client relationship. I think there's no rule for blurring boundaries or giving preferential treatment to some clients.

I agree about that being a marketing strategy. It's a fantasy. However, make sure that you find out what exactly "straight" means to the particular provider that you are interested in. You'll be surprise to find what that implies in terms of what he's willing (or unwilling) to do. Not my preference (I find nothing wrong with perfectly fine gay men, and to me "straight" doesn't mean "better"), but I don't see anything wrong with some wanting to fulfill a desire to be with a straight guy.

Yes, that was the only tour I was unable to take when I visited. Next April I'll be able to tell :-)

Maybe he has multiple personalities. Who knows? Too many providers, too many possibilities. You never know what might trigger a negative reaction in people.

My two cents, and please keep in mind that I'm talking hypotheticals, as I've never experienced anything remotely close to an entire week with a provider. I'd give half upfront and the other half at the end. Seems like a good compromise, especially since you know him so there should be a degree of trust in venturing to do that. Enjoy your time.

Last year I went to Oaxaca, Mexico, with the expectation that the place is like the cities in the coast or Mexico city. It turned out to be quite conservative and, though interesting in terms of culture, architecture and things to do, gay life seemed more like an afterthought. The availability of providers in the area was limited and not the best quality, especially in terms of safety. The experiences weren't terrible, but they were the least satisfying of the year. Guys I hired there were not the best providers.

I don't think "addiction" is the correct word to describe the times when I feel I can't get enough. In my case it's more like a binge of sort that stops at some point. After my initial first binge I've never been so actively hiring. I do hire but within reason and within my resources. I've never allowed hiring or providers interfere with my life, my family, my work or any other aspect of my life. I understand that one of the aspects of addiction is that it takes over people's lives, and fortunately, that's never been the case with me. My position is that for as long as it doesn't interfere with anything in my life, it's not an addiction, nor is it a concern of any kind. In fact, self-care was the original reason why I started hiring.

Personally, I can get a good sense of you and your looks, as well as the way you look now with your current pictures. Professional pictures definitely enhance your image, but personally, all I need dis to have a sense of how you look, and how you look now. Hopefully you don't decide to photoshop things to the point that they look unrealistic or misleading. Go for it.

Never the same experience, never at the same point, even with the same masseur. It does depend on what/how they're doing what they are doing, but it also depends on my mood and what I intent to get from the massage. Sometimes I've stopped a masseur from getting sexual with me.

I've seen (and felt) some who are quite thick. I can't attest for every picture, but I know for fact that some are real.

In porn, he's out of this world, with his award winning ass. Haven't had the pleasure of meeting him, though.