-
Posts
1,051 -
Joined
-
Last visited
Content Type
Forums
Donations
News
Events
Gallery
Everything posted by soloyo215
-
I find that unprofessional. Some of us can't care less about discussing politics, and as a client, the provider is supposed to provide an environment that leads to what he's paying for. The provider's job is to give the client a good time, not to make a political point.
-
Welcome. Feel free to ask questions, research the discussions and read as much as you'd like.
-
Without details of the interactions it's difficult to establish any thoughts on it.
-
What is it with unsolicited groping among gay men?
soloyo215 replied to + PhileasFogg's topic in The Lounge
Thanks, great information, but that doesn't address the question I asked. -
What is it with unsolicited groping among gay men?
soloyo215 replied to + PhileasFogg's topic in The Lounge
Even if that's a socially acceptable norm, which I don't think it is (times have changed, though people, injustices, violence, rape, prejudices and sociopolitical nonsense haven't), it still doesn't answer my question or address my point, which is, have there been instances when the "assault" to use your wording, has been welcome? In my experience, many people (including a lot of the "me too" people) complain only and exclusively when it works for their purpose, not labeling it "assault" when they like it. The "Me too" thing to me is a big fat failure. As some comedian pointed out, it became a tool for discrimination. The hashtag sign is also the pound sign. It makes more sense to call it "pound me too". It has not done a single thing to advance any rights, to end violence, to raise awareness. What it has done is creating more segregation more violence and more discrimination. Rather than a news story, there's research to support my statements (just go to Google Scholar or Pew Research and do a search on the effects of the Me Too "movement"). The Me Too Movement had migrated from a defender of the vulnerable, to a censor and then political machine that only serves to water down and detract from the Movement's original, righteous purpose. And of course, there are many of us who rely on reason and don't support any nonsensical definitions at people's convenience. So I ask again directly this time, what do you do when you like the "assault"? Is it still "assault"? -
What is it with unsolicited groping among gay men?
soloyo215 replied to + PhileasFogg's topic in The Lounge
Assault? Sounds a little dramatic. Unwanted advances, boundary crossing, poor judgement, harassment, not respecting personal space maybe, but assault? To me assault involves a level of aggressiveness where you need to physically defend yourself, not fend off unwelcome touch. REGARDLESS, I agree that it could be quite uncomfortable. However, if I could ask, had there been instances when you have welcomed such "approach"? I ask since this has been the topic of many conversations I've had with friends, family and in many other social settings for decades. The thing is that the vast majority of the time the person complaining does so only when they feel the touch and groping is unwanted, neglecting to recognize the other times when the same touching and groping has been welcome and wanted. Of course, I don't know you, which is why I inquire. Every time I have a conversation about this, that's my starting point. Many times we focus on the touch we don't welcome, neglecting to recognize that the same approach is used with the touch we have welcomed from other people. Just my thoughts, not law. -
Words in Escort Ads That make him an instant "Pass"
soloyo215 replied to + purplekow's topic in The Lounge
For real? There are ads stating that? -
Great information. Thank you for your efforts and for sharing it.
-
I have no interest in shaming or attacking you, though I do understand that some might be pissed (for lack of a better word) to find out that the reason is not happening is money, especially after so much support and advice was provided. When this thread started, I remember suggesting to plan for the worst case scenario. This might not be the "worst" scenario, but it's most certainly not the one expected. If it's not going to happen for you, what do you plan to do to move on from this, if at all? What's next, start trying to save money to make it happen in the future or forget about the whole thing? I'm not judging you or attacking you. Financial reasons are legitimate reasons to not proceed (though finances change). What's next for you? Hopefully you don't obsess and get creepy when you see him, nor it becomes too awkward, and hopefully you can come up with the money in the future. But how you handle this from this point on is important.
-
Seen him in porn and he seems to be the real deal. Versatile and willing to do a lot.
-
Words in Escort Ads That make him an instant "Pass"
soloyo215 replied to + purplekow's topic in The Lounge
There are certain words, but to me is mostly about the overall tone of the ad. I find some ads written in a way that I find off-putting. As for specific words: I'm a top Repeating that they are a top millions of times in a paragraph (looks like they are trying to convince themselves of it) straight Worship Don't waste my time -
First Time Ever: A Masseur Used Gloves on Me
soloyo215 replied to + 7829V's topic in Questions About Hiring
I hope they weren't gardening gloves. I agree that he might not be in the right line of work. There's no way I'll allow it. I don't pay to feel like I am a Petri dish full of germs. That's not going to fly with me. -
I was teaching a computer class at a Tech School in Perth Amboy, New Jersey. One of my students saw it in MSN News and told us in class. Later we could see the smoke from the Raritan Bay. We all saw online when the second tower collapsed. I felt guilty later because the first thing that came to mind was noting the physics of it, how "beautifully" the structure collapsed as it is expected from its structural design, without thinking about the people in the building. I used to hang out at the one an only little corner of the towers that stood, where the Borders bookstore was.
-
From Therapeutic to Fleshjack: Longtime Masseur Surprises Me
soloyo215 replied to + 7829V's topic in Questions About Hiring
I'd be very curious myself if I was in that situation. Sounds interesting. I think the reason(s) for the change can only be given by him. Without much knowledge about him it's difficult to establish or even guess a reason. A good following step [in terms of actions] is to just let him be in control of the situation as it seems he has been. As a masseur, there are no rules regarding what else can happen. He calls the shots. In terms of communication, I wonder how comfortable are you with simply asking. I think it's a fair question to ask, after years of sessions suddenly there's a change. Asking the right way and the right time, not coming across as greedy or creepy, can give you a clear idea of what's in his mind(set). -
Annoying influencers running out of ideas for attention. As other mentioned, I'd check the rules for photography and cameras in the locker room. Not all the gyms I've been to have a warning in the locker room, but there are policies around photography in most private establishments.
-
Most massages I've had cover my eyes when turned over. I've never have a problem engaging or being intimate with my eyes covered. I always manage, I guess. When I'm interested in the massage portion, having my eyes closed or covered keeps me in my happy place. When I want/expect extras, having my eyes covered has never been an issue. My body speaks for itself, I guess.
-
CDMX Spa experiences and recommendations in Mexico City
soloyo215 replied to NYCgymfitNEW's topic in Spas & Masseurs
Happy Ending. I have not been to Mexico City, but if you are on Facebook, there are several groups of massages for men there. Seems like there are plenty to choose from, and many look like good quality. -
Pool Boy Gardnener Construction Worker Priest, Elder, Pastor, Minister, all kinds of religious authority figures. Pilot Flight attendant Fireman Policeman Mechanic
-
What to do with a masseur besides anal f***?
soloyo215 replied to Callas's topic in Questions About Hiring
We don't know what you know. It's hard to suggest without some basic details (don't need to be explicit). -
Hiring a low donation provider w/o physical attraction
soloyo215 replied to viewing ownly's topic in Questions About Hiring
I agree that not all of the inexpensive providers result in a less than ideal experience. Personally I haven't experienced "toothless", "much, much older", or a picture of the guy in the profile that shows him in much better shape than he is now. There have been differences, but not to the point where I feel that I should sue for false advertising. I mostly stay away from very inexpensive providers. My thought is that my willingness to pay comes with an expectation of a level of quality. For poor quality I rather use some hookup app or website. The less expensive ones that I have ventured hiring have resulted in good experiences, have gone beyond the basics. The opposite is true too, some of the ones at the regular price or above have not been worthy of the expense. This is a high-risk setting for both sides of the business, so as clients there's always going to be a risk of being deceived, regardless of the price. Just my experiences, not law. -
Provider Proselytizing To Clients
soloyo215 replied to Heart It Deep's topic in Questions About Hiring
From the people who claim that Jesus walked on water. Sure, "I'm delussional". https://youtu.be/pCg-SNOteQQ?si=4KgMk-9eLaEgxHIQ -
According to their website, they are "Prebiotic fiber gummies for bottoms. Designed to eliminate long prep routines and increase confidence." You eat a gummy and you become a confident bottom or something.
-
We are living in real strange times. People want attention, people use coming out as a PR strategy, we now have the concept of "elitism by victimhood" claiming that they are entitled to do and have whatever because they are victims, and many people seem to think that they don't exist if they don't post and advertise everything about their lives in social media. "Struggling" with something has become a way of people obtaining attention and special treatment. I find it disgusting, especially since people who are really struggling and real victims are still suffering and now they have to compete with the attention seekers.
-
Provider Body Hair Differences on Profile
soloyo215 replied to + KensingtonHomo's topic in Questions About Hiring
I don't see a problem with inquiring about it. Body hair (and lack thereof) is a common preference. Of course, when I ask I try not to come across as creepy. -
Providers less and less willing to unlock private pics
soloyo215 replied to ThirdEye's topic in Questions About Hiring
Too many people trying to get pictures for pleasure and not for business reasons. Just my guess.
Contact Info:
The Company of Men
C/O RadioRob Enterprises
3296 N Federal Hwy #11104
Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33306
Email: [email protected]
Help Support Our Site
Our site operates with the support of our members. Make a one-time donation using the buttons below.