soloyo215

We tend to be more risky than women. It's just how we are.

Thanks. It was both the ship and the hotel in Panama. I wish I could say the same, but unfortunately, my experiences is that we are tolerated and that's for as long as we comply with their norms, which are quite homophobic. However, I trust that you have experienced that country much more than I have. Thanks to all. I'm not sure what happened there.

I'm not wealthy, but have some disposable income, with some of it dedicated to providers. I go with providers as far as my means allow me to. I never go over budget with them. I do not know what would I do if I had money enough to spend 6 figures in provider. I feel happy with what I get within my means.

My experience with this is when I've hired older providers. Some have acted that they are over everything, but that is on the first try, not that they have been regulars or during other visits (I never returned to those). My regulars have always been very reliable and seem happy to see me; the quality of their work and their warmth when they meet me has not changed. I think that part of the reason they become my regulars is because we have good chemistry and (at least it seems like) we both enjoy the experience.

My experience is that the "exploration" has never ceased, but it's not that I am necessarily looking for anything new, but rather respecting what my body and my psyche needs at a given moment. There are a number of things that I know I don't like or care for without trying them, but that aside, I like exploring, and sometimes, the exploring involves a new provider, sometimes it involves a different practice, setup, approach or place. At the same time, I do have my regular providers who I trust and like seeing for different reasons, from a simple, guaranteed high-quality massage, to whatever that is not a massage. As I grow older, I also notice that certain things that used to fascinate me no longer do, as some become repetitive, and some, I just lost interest in. I see this as not a straight line, but as part of experiencing life. One of the principles that I learned to establish is to really listen to my body and to think with the upper head first. The familiarity of the guys I see regularly sometimes takes the back seat, especially when I travel to new places. It's not an "either/or" thing for me.

I am currently in a cruise thorough the Panama Canal. We decided to spend a couple of days in Panama City before boarding. I was unable to access this website from anywhere in Panama and in the ship while we were in the Panama region. The ship is now in Costa Rica, and suddenly here I am. Don't know if anyone has tried accessing this website from Panama, but I'm just wondering. Panama is quite stup... I mean, conservative when it comes to the LGBT people and their rights. Does anyone know?

I am completely shocked... that Playgirl still exists. Good for him, I guess.

Seems targeted to me. I don't think that all sex workers are being detained the same way.

I'd just move on to another provider. Some people don't seem to realize how they come across when they make those stupid lists about " no this, no that". There are definitely better ways of stating your preferences. That tells more about what to expect of them, especially when socializing. I don't see that changing any time soon, so I don;t waste my time with that kind of people.

Thank you for the appreciation. Think about my "analysis" of your commentary.

I know it's a joke.

Maybe it's to keep it "D.I.C.K.H.E.A.D.", but I can't help but notice that the scoring doesn't seem to have anything around level of danger, personal safety, health risks, and things alike, which IMO, are more important than some of the other ones listed. I don't know if I am being discussed, but so far my hiring has gone well, so guess I'm doing (or looking) alright.

I've seen people from my past, from work and other places, show up at gay venues and events, never as masseurs or escorts. Most of them have avoided me. Probably because of my "charm". I am an acquired taste, so especially at work, not every person sees me as friendly or trustworthy (and I like it that way). That's a long way for me to say that it's unlikely that your scenario will be something I relate to, so I can only guess. My questions are, when you worked together, did you feel attracted to him? Did you sense a possible chemistry between the two of you? Sometimes we work with attractive people, but that doesn't mean that there's a good connection or chemistry. How far do you want to go in the massage? I know you want sensual, but that means too many different things to different people. What do you expect to happen afterwards? Do you know if he left that workplace in good terms? That last question addresses possible feelings of connecting with people from a place where he might have not felt happy. Those are the things I'd consider, though I know that some others might not care for any of it. I'd be curious to know what eventually happened.

There have been some people who have been cured, and there have been certain people who have been found to be completely immune to HIV. That said, there's still no mainstream cure for HIV infection and no effective vaccine yet. I actually met a man in 2013, a German American gay man, who got cured by accident. He had leukemia and HIV, went for an experimental treatment for the leukemia, didn't work, but it cured his HIV, but they have no clue how and were unable to reproduce the same effect on others. My guess is that the provider might have had some bad experiences with a person who might still have the views of HIV from the 80s and 90s when there wasn't any effective treatment and many gay men were dying. I have come across some people who still hold to those beliefs and treat HIV+ gay men as "the lepers among the lepers". Another possibility is that now that with PerP, PreP and other prophylactic treatments, some feel like there is no need to disclose their real HIV status. My personal policy is that I am the one responsible for my actions and decisions, and I cannot rely solely on the other person to decide whether to use protection or not. The biggest question to you is how what you read in the profile will influence the level of risk that you are willing to take with a given provider? There's no right or wrong answer to that, but there's accountability and responsibility for the decisions that we make.

Wish him the best. I don't follow his music, but it seems like another case of substance abuse.

Sorry to hear. There's no way of knowing that their "act" has changed. I think of it as a natural resource that has been run down by tourists. Still beautiful but worn out and abused to maximize profit.

I just ask. As others say, sensual means different things to different people. Sometimes I get a vague answer, sometimes I get a very specific list of what to expect from each type of massage. If you want a sexual experience, hire an escort. With a massage it could happen, but it's not something that you should expect or demand.

Fuck no! First, who the fuck are you to say that, and what proof do you have? Did we have bad apples? Yes, but some seem to forget that we were actually forced to unite against the AIDS threat because nobody cared, including the government. Also, it'll help to put things in context. Think about all the rights that we didn't have, the way society and the media portrayed us, the way our families treated us, the way we had to hide who we are so we could do basic things like getting a job. People see to have this convenient amnesia about how things really were back then and judge us through the lens of how things are now. Furthermore, even if what you say is true, what's your point? Does that make it ok to be mistreated now? Is that supposed to entitle or justify what they are doing to the "community"? How does that make things look any better?

I agree with him. This so-called "community" is not a community at all. It's more divided and divisive than ever. It's like some people want to steal victimhood for the attention. They want to remove "gay" from existence and our flag as if it never existed. It's disgusting. I don't see a community at all. The worst part is that the newer generation is trying to tell me who and what I'm supposed to be. So the can go eff themselves.

He's almost perfect for me. I have a thing against guys who are much taller than me, but based on the testimonials here, I may make an exception. I'll be traveling next month and will look for him.

I don't send my picture, and I don't do deposits. If I don't do business with them, providers are like subways, there's always a next.

I fisted Jesus. Jesus is a masseur provider I see in Mexico, and since I met him back a few years ago, I always look for him and fist him. I know the practice of fisting is not rare nor is it weird, but it's weird how it happened in my case. When I met him the first time, I went to get a massage, not even an erotic one. I'm not into fisting at all, and to this day I have no clue how my fist found its way into his butt in that first session. The thing is that I loved it as much as he did, and now I look for him when I go to Mexico. I don't even think about fisting outside of those 4 walls of his studio.

So I decided to have fun with ChatGPT about this. My prompt: "Write a post for a forum thread for gay men. The subject is about the definition of versatile/top and versatile/bottom." What it returned (it made the assumption that I'm the one starting the thread): Here’s a clear, respectful forum-style post you could use: --- **Thread: What Do “Versatile/Top” and “Versatile/Bottom” Actually Mean?** I’ve noticed that a lot of guys use the labels *versatile/top* and *versatile/bottom*, and sometimes people interpret them differently. I thought it might be helpful to break down what they generally mean in practice. **Versatile (vers)** means someone is comfortable with both roles during anal sex—both topping and bottoming. When someone adds **/top** or **/bottom** after versatile, it usually indicates a **preference**, not a strict rule. * **Versatile/Top (vers/top):** This usually means the person can bottom but **prefers to top most of the time**. If the chemistry or situation is right, they’re open to bottoming, but topping is their default or favorite role. * **Versatile/Bottom (vers/bottom):** This means the person can top but **generally prefers to bottom**. They might top occasionally, but bottoming is what they enjoy more often. So a simple way to think about it is: * **Top:** only or almost always tops * **Bottom:** only or almost always bottoms * **Vers:** happy doing both about equally * **Vers/Top:** mostly tops, sometimes bottoms * **Vers/Bottom:** mostly bottoms, sometimes tops Of course, these labels are just **shortcuts for communication**. Everyone’s preferences can vary depending on the partner, mood, chemistry, or situation. Some people also use the terms differently, so it’s always best to talk about expectations with a partner rather than relying entirely on labels. And it made the following suggestion: If you want, I can also write a slightly more casual version, a shorter version, or one tailored for apps like Grindr/Scruff discussions. === ChatGPT sounds a little contrived to me. My personal thoughts about those definitions are that they don't mean much to me in reality for the following reasons: 1. Historically, in this life I've flipped more "tops" than I care to admit. 2. Sometimes the providers use those labels as part of their marketing, asking for more money for "making an exception" and do the opposite of what they advertise. 3. As you can see from the replies, it means different things to different people, as their experiences vary. 4. Those labels don't accommodate for the wealth of sexual practices involved in sexual expression. Furthermore, they seem to address only this one part of a sex session that involves penetration, leaving the rest of a sexual encounter out of the discussion, which is while profiles provide additional information about what people are into. In the end, what helps me clarify expectations is asking the provider. However, also in my experience, some have been sensitive to the subject, particularly those who I call "I'm a top, I'm a TOP, I'M A TOP!!!!" guys. They carry their being a top more zealously than some people carry their political or religious beliefs. So I ask, but I also ask tactfully.

My two cents (pun intended): What it means is that some people are ready to argue, "cancel", be "offended" and become verbally abusive simply for one stating ones' opinion. Others seem to have difficulty separating opinions from facts and need that basic explanation of the difference. Others start dwelling in secondary details instead of the main idea of a post. I imagine you're not in social media if you need clarification on this. The "my two cents" expression is another way of me saying "for what is worth". I typically use that expression to mean that my knowledge or experience in a given matter is not at expert level, or that it's not based on reliable sources of information. It's also a way of stating what I guess or believe on a given subject Just curious: why the need to question that? Why not leaving it alone? Does it bother you to the point that you have to have a discussion about it? Are you just observing and commenting or criticizing and judging?

Not in USA. I've had freebies in other countries. I've gotten friendships and time spent together outside of the client/provider relationship, but no sex involved. I don't consider a provider going over the time "free", but if that counts, then yes.