soloyo215

I'll be the judge of that.

I don't think that this is a regulated profession, so what I do is that I pay the regular amount unless he brings up that there's a new rate. When there's a new rate, I may or may not agree to pay, and sometimes I agree to the higher rate but give less or no tip, depending. Inflation is out of control in USA, so we all have to be mindful of our expenses, especially us the working class.

I'm not a provider, but I'm a gay man who hooks up with other people. I don't see the point of you bringing that up to him. If there's any interest in you on his part, he will mention it at the time when he feels ready and appropriate. It could be a different situation if he lies about it, or sustains a position against escorting while you know that he escorts. But if it's just a person that you met and hooked up with, if you have a real inteterest in that person, let him disclose at his pace. If otherwise you get a cheap thrill by brining people's information (not exactly secrets if he advertises), then act accordingly. Just keep in mind that who knows how many things we hide when we hook up with others. We all have our own things to tell or keep quiet. The fact that he's a provider doesn't make him any less of a human being. Just my thoughts, not law.

I think it may depend on the type of felony that he was convicted of, your own moral standards about it, and how well you know him. So far it seems like none of the people you made a recommendation has had any issues. Will you be comfortable asking him before talking about his record behind his back? That seems more in alignment with good morals. I also agree that at the end of the day, there is a very fine line between escorting and other illegal activities that might include incurring in other illegal practices, such as the use of certain substances, prescription drugs that haven't been prescribed, and who knows what else. So if the felony that your friend was involved in doesn't involve something that might put his prospective clients at risk, I don't see why it's your responsibility to disclose it. Furthermore, I do know a few providers who are in the business because they have a record and can't find suitable work. Also, he got caught and convicted. How many are there who have committed crimes and haven't been caught? Just my thoughts, not law.

When I look at profiles, I don't even look at the sexual orientation of the provider. If he's available, affordable, compatible with my needs and capable of performing as expected, I can't care less what he claims to be his sexual orientation. Personally I've met people who prefer to hire bisexual or straight men. I try not to judge them, I just let them be, that is, until it affects me. Once in a setting that I prefer not to give details about, there were a group of gay men talking about a number of topics. There was this gay guy who apparently had a problem with other gay men, stating that the moment that he finds that a guy is gay he wants nothing to do with him. In the same paragraph where he said that he only dates straight men ("very macho" in his words), he then stated how lonely he is, and that he doesn't seem to find a man who loves him. I just had to tell him, "Why on Earth do you want to pursue a person who, by the very definition of who he is, doesn't like you and is not interested in you that way?" His rather explosive, defensive, insulting and downright disrespectful reaction told me that he had no interest in challenging his premises, nor did he really had any legitimate interest in finding love. I know it would have been better if I just let him be, but it really rubbed me the wrong way that he had this attitude that "straight means better", or "gay is worthless". With that, I had a problem, but not with his preferences of what kind of man he prefers. In my youth, in my early 20s, I was a very angry young man. I became a hardcore activist for the rights of gay men and for HIV/AIDS prevention education made available to all. I used to call myself "heterophobic", meaning that I was not very nice to those guys who were sometimes struggling with coming to terms with their sexuality, and they considered themselves straight or bisexual. I used to say that I respect their sexual orientation, but I will treat them the way I treat heterosexual men (which wasn't nice). I had a "straight means homophobic" and "bisexual means closet case" attitude. It cost some friendships, and took some learning and time for me to come around and be less angry/resentful at straight men in general, and becoming more welcoming and understanding. So now I just live and let live (but don't fuck with me treating me like I am "less than" because I am gay).

I agree. As I say, I put my money where my mouth is when I say that I respect other people's beliefs and that I welcome diversity. Welcoming my brother with his beliefs and lifestyle is welcoming diversity. Diversity means ALL people.

Yes I've met them. I was the cool uncle to some of them. He's been responsible (at least financially) with all his childre, some of which are now adults who grew to become the finest people. Some are as conservative as he is, some are not. His son followed his steps and he's in the Army. I can see that. Hopefully with the additional information you're taken aforth.

Not to me. He's my brother and he loves me as much as I love him.

Well, in all honesty, he's not a bad looking guy. When we were young I was happy that girls were trying to get his attention and not mine.

Not in my case (gross). I have an older brother who is a hardcore Trunp supporter, retired Army Captain, and has children all over the world. I guess I just didn't want to be him. My two youngest brothers, one of them came out to me (only me) as bisexual. He says that he likes men, but he loves his wife and son with down syndrome more than venturing getting involved with men, but he talks to me about men he finds attractive and things alike, and I'm happy that he has me to feel safe talking about it. I have heard of similar stories about gay men having older siblings, but I also know many gay men who are only-child in the family, or who are the oldest in the family. Personally, it's good to research and study, but I don't need any scientific explanation for me baing gay. I am, and I love it.

I have had both types of surprises. As good intuition as I have, as intelligent and independednt-minded that I am, sometimes I am just wrong. The times when I have been pleasantly surprised is when the masseur doesn't look like "my type", and the times when I have been unpleasasntly "surprised" was exactly what you describe, not trusting my own guts or ignoring the signs of the possibility of an dissappointing/unpleasant experience. I can only speak for myself, so in my case I blame it to haveing "a type", emaning that when I look at a provider that looks right to me, I tent to want to believe that the experience will be perfect, and sometimes it hasn't been.

Preference or experience. The initial chat has been used by some idiots who want to get off without paying a cent because they are that cheap.

He doesn't know any single thing about that person, and seems like you did not inform him about having a roommate when making arrangements. To me that looks like a personal safety thing. Yes, you should have told him. He's coming to a home of a stranger, that alone has a degree of risk, then he's surprised by seeing another stranger hanging out in the house, without knowing who that person is or what the intentions are. I don't find the actions of the provider unreasonable. I've had unpleasant experiences with opposite roles. I've been to the place where the provider is set, and I have found people there hanging around, and it does not feel comfortable and pleasant. In fact, one of them had the roommates passing back and forth in front of me while I was getting the massage. IMO, both the client and the provider should be aware of other people present in the place where the event will take place, regardless of how "open minded" the people around are. The "I'm ok with it" thing or "I'll be a fly on the wall" thing is not the issue; it's a comfort and personal safety issue.

The factors for me to choose a lubricant are portability, price and ease of use. People laughed with/at the ones that open in the bag, but that is in fact and issue to consider. Of course, I highly recommend to use water-based lube designed and manufactured for that purpose, except for Crisco for fisting.

My social media story is a masseur in my town that also has a RM profile as an escort, but in Facebook, he popped up as a minister of a local church. In the "works at" section of his profile he has "It's Complicated". I imagine it is. I wonder what he does when one of his clients is also a member of his congregation (just vague curiosity, at the end of the day, people can choose to do whatever they want).

I think combination of all of the above, tax season, inflation, saturated market, election year, climate change (ok, those last two were made up, please have a sense of humor). I myself am booking less and saving more due to the uncertainties of the economy at this point. The bigger influences of my slowing down are the mixed messages about the state of the current economy. However, I do see a lot more new providers, which might be saturating the market.

Good to know. Learned something new. Thanks. This is why I keep it in I statements.

I do most of the time. Between 10-20 percent, based on overall satisfaction of the experience. No tip when I'd dissatisfied.

Nothing is, there are no specific rules for what goes on in those rooms, or how far a provider will go. Feel good if you feel good, set boundaries if it doesn't feel right. The provider will do the same. Yes, in my opinion. Seems like the provider either likes you or wants a larger tip. Scratch the part about the larger tip. "Supposed to", I do not know. I can only speak for my experience. What I do when I feel that the provider has gone the extra mile (or the extra inch, rather), I do tip more. However, a 40% tip is a little high. It might be that the provider might be taking it as you wanting more for a higher than usual tip, or again, maybe he just likes you. Since it's a 40% tip, personally that's quite high. Use your discretion, enjoy, but don't go bankrupt over it.

I imagine that you have first looked for providers that can acommodate for your interests (not all are). Their profiles might give you an idea of the things that they are prepared to provide. If you have chosen a provider who you know by their profile caters what you are interested in, you can ask in the initial conversation while you are coordinating the encounter. Always ask, never assume just because you read it in the profile. If otherwise you are either blindly looking for providers without knowing if they specifically cater to your interest, it's still good to ask, but you might want to be more sensitive to them. I know of at least one provider who (IN MY OPINION) overreacts a little when people ask him questions about things that are not in his profile. The same goes if you are interested in a provider that doesn't list your interest, but you are thrilled to talk him into it (willing to accept his fee, of course). Also, not sure how necessary your fetish is (not being insensitive, please read on), as there are some people who only feel aroused when doing things of their particular interest (aka, fetish). I know people and have friends who have different fetishes, and some have mentioned that they cannot function without the fetish. Others said that it's a preference. I imagine that can determine how relevant in the conversation it is for you. It boils down to asking the provider, but how you ask matters if the provider doesn't list openness to it, and when you ask might depend on how important it is to you.

The topic of hygiene has come up in the past. Like others have mentioned, I too make sure that I am at my best in terms of bein presentable for the provider. Not only do I care that the provider feels comfortable, but it's just basic to have good hygiene. As I mentioned in other posts, the reality is that some men never learned to properly wipe their own butts. It's just reality. I remember in another post, was about massages, a client noticed that the provider had dude wipes available. I'm not a provider, but some of the ones I know have mentioned that some clients might not show up at their best in terms of cleanness, although that doesn't necessarily mean that they have poor hygiene. I do not think it's on purpose, at least I don't think doing that on purpose is the norm. I woundn't call fetishes "gross", at least the fetish people I know are the cleanest, neatest people I've ever known. Having a fetish doesn't mean that you run your house and maintain your body that way. I'd just call your client and asshole for doing that to your towel.

I agree about that model, and many others that are more convenient. Unfortunately, in the USA the model is not the problem. Regardless of the model we have in place, they are always going to find ways of making it pricey, racist and difficult to access. The American culture is anti-education, anti-critical thinking and anti-equitable access. The model that we use doesn't matter in that respect. The moment we start admitting how we in USA do things, then we will start having real solutions.

That's a shitty move from RM, but I guess as a company that advertises hustling, why not joining it. I never trust reviews individually. I pay more attention to themes I find in reviews, that is, things that I see repeated multiple times. Number of reviews could be for many reasons, change of accounts, type of clients, etc. For a new provider I think it's always a little bit of a struggle to establish themselves as a reliable ecort. I don't necessarily care about how many reviews.

Leave and negotiate paying less than agreed. If I want to fuck a dead body, I'd break into the morgue. You are paying to receive an experience that you enjoy, and that's not it. Part of the fantasy (and the reason many of us hire) is for feeling desired and wanted, even if it's not real. That's poor customer service. THAT SAID, I know of some clients who can't care less about it, as they care more for having a way with a beautiful, hot man. That's why I'm keeping this in "I" statements, as I know that some men care more about the hot body than attitude or mental presence. Without attacking the provider, I'd give a review based on your experience, but there's a way to express your dissatisfaction without making it a personal attack,