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Looks AI-generated, especially the top right one. Never seen that ad, but thanks for sharing. I'll know if I come across it.

You're not hideous (as far as I know 🙂 ). The masseur is an asshole in the way he handled that. I don't believe something spooked him, he might just be the kind of asshole who caters only his own preference instead of being professional and cater the intended public (within reason). If things were the way you posted them, I don't see any bad action on your part. I have known and met many gay men who are that self-centered and careless about what other fellow gay men feel or have to go through, and are quite dismissive in that way. Fortunately, that's not represenatative of the larger provider community. Unfortunately, in the recent years the field has gotten saturated with many people wanting to make money or just have fun and get paid for it, hence, a growth in unprofessional behavior from many providers. Additionally, the concept of "ghosting" has become a thing in recent areas. The same is happening with people looking for work, getting interviews, and at the time of the offer they get ghosted. That seems to be a thing that is common to see in many other industries too. I encourage you to look for another provider. Also, this is the perfect place for you to mention that provider by name and share your bad experience, so others don't have to go through the same unprofessional event. Sorry that happened to you.

The way I see it, it's a combination of chemistry, hygiene and preference. Personally I don't do the exact same thing with different people because of those things. I care about those things and will not do what doesn't feel right, even if in other instances I've enjoyed it. That doesn't mean that I am willing to do everything there is to do out there, but when it comes to certain practices I consider what I crave at the moment in combination with the above-mentioned.

Only if requested, and rarely they have requested a picture. I was requested a picture of my face "for safety reasons". I agreed, but I have never volunteered my info prior to the encounter and never had a problem (on my side, at least, can't speak for the provider's side). I like reading the providers' perspective. It's always good to listen their side.

I have asked a provider to wear a mini skirt and call himself "Anna". Clients pay for making some fantasies that they have, to come to live, and that involves all kinds of simple or complex background stories that may or may not be based on reality. So half truths, and no truths are quite common when it comes to the "content" of the experience. When it comes to the logistics around the experience, I figure that some lies are just a way of letting me know that I shouldn't care for details or for things that don;t concern me, so I accept some lies out of respect for privacy or only who knows what. When there's a pattern of lying, when the provider is always late and with a different story every time, or when there are inaccuracies in what he says he provides versus what he's willing to do, then those lies are addresed. I personally don't think that the "if someone is deceptive about small things, chances are they will be deceptive about the big or important things, too" applies to everything and everyone, I remember when I was young I used to lie a lot, out of inexperience in how to handle certain things and people, and it was to keep people away from my personal life and business. I was also protecting myself from people who never gave me a good vibe, or didn't look right to me. I also have a good BS detector, and depending on the circumstances, I might show or directly communicate that I am having a hard time believing what I'm hearing. However, for as long as I get what I need/paid for, I don't dig too much into what I am told, unless I feel that there migh be a threat. Important lies that I address are more around my personal safety, drug use, agreed-upon amount , agreed-upon service, or hygiene. Other than that, if I like the guy why should I care if he lied about why he was late once or his real age? I tend to look at the overall experience and the context. Just my thoughts, not law.

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You can get to love each other, form a family, get together, be there for each other, but the issue is going to surface, always. Even if one of you "sacrifices" for the other, there will always be your true preferences. It can change in time, but in my experience, (a) relationships always involve compromises, it's a matter of what you're willing to compromise on, and (b) overlooking things like that can create resentments and more conflicts. I couldn't tell go ahead or move on, as it is a personal decision what they want to do in conflicting things in a relationship. You like what you like and he likes what he likes. Best.

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Some of us are in our 50s and 60s, so...

One of the issues of this not being a recognized profession. I'm sure a good market analysis or analytics can shed some light on the most likely and most common times clients want services. I agree that a great number of the "target demographic" might be people that after 5pm might want to be with family or with other responsibilities. Personally I have some flexibility in my schedule, and I'm technically in a 9-5 job, but I can book at pretty much any time of the day. I can see that being challenging for others.

If she looked like those girls, I'm sure the Butler would have carried her personally.

For those who care, an update: I didn't get Malaria, no murders, and no nightmare stays, no kidnapping, no terrorist attacks, no paying bribes (if that's how you think things are there). Knowing what I know about how things are in countries like this (not my first time), all I had to do was look closer and trust my gay inctinct to find what I wanted. First, the sex part of the vacation is just one piece of it. So are the annoying traveling habits of my inlaws. The rest was quite enjoyable. The resort has an amazing spa, one of the best facilities I've seen, but sadly with female-only staff. The event of using those facilities was amazing, had all the bells and whistles oand a great pampering. Outside the resort there is this mini-mall type of place where they have merchandise for sale, eateries, a bank, etc. They have a barber shop, so I went to treat myself with a haircut. I ended treating myself with the barber too. Lovely gentleman with a beautiful smile, classic dominican charm and sexy as hell. Had a great time with him. As for my inlaws, my oldest sister in-law did the same thing I did, which was to explore on my own, step outside of the resort and go on by myself. All in all, this is not my preferred type of vacation, but considering that this is already the third time that I travel this year, and that there are two more trips coming, I don't see a burden in one vavacation where some of my loved ones want to share, even if they are bad travelers. My hypocondriac sister in law kept up with the act all the way through, but she became the burden of our assigned butler, definitely not mine nor my husband's. My disabled sister in law found her way of having fun by the pool playing games with the staff in charge of the activities for guests. The rest, I just don't have to justify myself to anyone. Next year I'm going to Santo Domingo, though for a specific purpose and with one of my brothers.

More of a subject that we tend to minimize. Yes, legalization has proven to be beneficial in terms of public health, and with mixed results about a tax base influencing economies. The way I see it is that it's no different than the rest of the world. Some are responsible with themselves and their bodies, some are not. It's on us to protect ourselves and designate our own acceptable level of risk, considering the reality that it's not regulated and not legal. I am completely against the criminalization of HIV, so although a person can be reported for transmitting it to another person, the victim will have to admit that he was soliciting. No easy answers or solutions in that respect. Other than calculating our level of comfort with the risk we get involved in, there's not a lot more.

Hard to tell. This is only me, but I use reviews for seeing patterns and fakeness. When the reviews are real, you start seeing themes that can give you a notion of what you could expect. That many 5-star reviews could happen, but I'd be concerned of those being real. I get more from the initial conversation, trying to be specific (although sometimes it does feel strange being very specific, my issue). Also, aside from reviews there's this forum where we can discuss providers and people can share some of their knowledge of a particular provider. If he has that many reviews, high chances are that at least one pf the participants in this forum can provide some insights.

You are paying for him to be your boyriend, so I imagine that it involves a lot of pretending and acting. He's providing you with the experience of someone giving you close attention. Only the provider can tell if it's real interst or not. Chances are that since it's a for-pay situation, it is acting. Nothing wrong with enjoying it, but I'd suggest not to get sucked into a fantasy that can cost you your money and self-esteem. Be careful about how far you should go with that. It's their job to make you feel wanted, accepted and desired. Don't lose sight of that.

Don't be sad, and don't pretend to be happy when you're not. Don't go to bars if you're not going to have fun there. Bars are places where many people pretend to be something they're not anyway.

I used MisterBnB to book a place in Puerto Vallarta, and saw at least one that was clothing optional. Didn't like the location, but was in fact intrigued. Decided that where I was going has plenty of options to get freaky, so didn't look into it any further. I think that's a good option, considering that some people might have different inferences of what clothing optional or nudity permitted means. It could help having communication about what it means and if/what the limits are. I keep in mind that that's the place where I also expect to have a good night sleep and peace and quiet when I need to. I'd be thrilled to know if you go ahead and book it and to hear about your experience.

Well, considering that I am half Dominican, I think that you should check your American self-serving shit before insulting a country that chances are you've never been to. So feel free to stop talking out of your ass and go fuck yourself, asshole. Nobody's asking for it. Stop right there, not worth addressing so many erroneous presumptions about my or my husband's family, nor my vacations, my traveling, nothing. Thank you. BTW, my in-laws are normally lovely people. just not great travel companions. They have thrown surprise birthday parties for me, they have been there when my husband has been sick or when I've been sick, we get together for Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc, and as I said before, they get along among themselves much better than my own family. Also one of them does have a disability that affects her cognition. They're just not the best people to vacation with. Here are a few pictures of the "shithole" where I'm staying.

My position is that people can like and dislike based on age as much as they prefer. My only problem is that some seem to just have their preferences; they also attack those who differ in their preferences. That's where I intervene to either educate or set boundaries. One thing is what you like, another one is attacking others who don't share the same preference. When it comes to me, my saying is "I find both beauty and ugliness in all ages, shapes, races, ethnicities and types". Those things are not necessarily the most dominant factors for me to decide hooking up or hiring. I respect, so I can demand respect.

Gentlemen, thank you for your thoughts and for sharing your own horror stories. A rather strange type of solidarity. Much appreciated, though. Update: Yep. definitely been to Santo Domingo and it's richer in options. All-inclusive resorts are not necessarily my type of vacation, so this was purely to please my husband. Oddly, I've been to La Romana, and I've hooked up with people there without any issues. So I wasn't able to flip the Butler, but as I have always said, it doesn't hurt to ask. I asked him if he flips and he said no, but he had a few names of guys who will gladly help. Something in the back of my mind was telling me that there has to be some kind of covert activity. I'm sure there have been this type of requests in the past. I was referred to a few local providers, two of which I chose, one Dominican, the other Haitian. They were perfect, affordable, safe and hot as hell. Had a great time last night. As everything in the DR, they were versatile in many ways, one of which was that they also sell merchandise, so I got mugs, t-shirts and other souvenirs from them. Today I saw the Butler and he did notice my change in mood for the better. He was discreet but inquired about "how was my day". I rarely come to places where this type of things are more underground than easily accessible. I still feel that it was risky to ask the Butler if he flips and for info, but I'm glad I did. This chain of resorts is gay friendly (yes it's also LBT... friendly, but I'm talking about me) and this is an adults-only resort, so I guess that I'm not the first to make this type of request. I also decided to tell my in-laws that I need "me time", so I haven't seen them. I'm glad that I was able to please my in-laws, please my husband and now please myself. Now I feel like a real vacation.

Great advice. I have been thinking about the same thing. There's a mutual interest in traveling with me and one of my masseurs. I've been wanting to reach out to him to share information about one destination that we both are interested in, of course, I'm not interested in traveling with him. I think what you posted is a good idea. Thanks.

Husband insisted. It's his family and there are compromises, obligations and responsibilities that come with being married. Besides, even with all that, they are a lot better than my family. But yes, you do have a point. We're not doing this again.

Working on it. He's hot. Yes, definitely a dog would have been a much better companion.