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No, but following. He's handsome.

To say the least. Seriously, look into that people pleasing thing (trust me, I know a lot about it). It can get you killed one day. I don't have any Grindr horror stories because I've never been in it, precisely because of what I just read, and because I prefer in-person meeting people. Of course, nowadays it's almost impossible, but I am part of that almost.

The first thing that came to mind was "No shit!" I try to be sensitive, but in my experience there are very few bisexuals who really enjoy sex with both genders. There are many who use it as a way of doing precisely what you describe and attribute it to their sexual orientation, which to me sounds more like an excuse for them to make money doing the minimum, or to disassociate from what they are actually doing. Others just use it as a marketing strategy, stemming from the premise that bi and straight are supposed to be more desirable and consequently bring more business. I honestly thing that we should always try to be thorough when we see a profile that we like. I personally try not to be blinded by the things I like reading about and ignore the ones that might be red flags or signs of possible dissatisfaction down the line. That scrutiny should be with all people we see as potential hirings. I'd think is other than sexual orientation, there's more that those providers have in common. That will give me a better picture of what I tend to gravitate towards. Of course, easier said than done when you see a profile of a person who looks really nice. I find your post interesting. Thanks for sharing this.

Not an expert, but as a consumer, I'd suggest to think about what makes people interested. A great physique does help, but I've left or stoipped watching guys with great physiques that are boring as hell. The physique is only one aspect of engaging the audience. Audiences nowadays have the attention span of a gold fish, so catching their attention mihg require more than just looking good. I'm not sure I agree with it all being "about the cock" only. Yes, it's as good and important, but the same thing that happens with the physique, a great cock that does nothing can get boring. Then there are the ass-liking people, some of which are quite thrilled by that more than penis. Just my thoughts, not law.

I know I'm not a provider, but I've done plenty of work in non-profits dedicated to the physical and mental well-being of men, especially gay men, including a sector of the provider community that is typically at higher risk, so something that can be mentioned is that yes, condoms definitely help reducing the chances of an STIs, but does not eliminate them. Some STI's can be acquired orally by just kissing, and there are other things that are not necessarily considered STIs that can also be acquired with sexual contact, such as a the flu, crabs, and others. My point with this is that it's important to remember that there's always risk, and what we can do is reduce the level of risk, not eliminate it. Yes, condoms help and are recommended for those who want to use protection, but we should keep in mind that all they do is resuce risk. It's a false sense of security to think that using condoms will not require ongoing testing if you are sexually active. Also, there is a sector of the provider community that takes good care of themselves, which also reduces the risk of spread and transmission. I imagine you are greateful that the provider who called you did so. There's another sector of the provider community that is at a higher risk since they just work on the streets. Of course, that provides a higher health and personal safety risk. Regardless of the use or non-use of condoms, as a sexually active person, I still make sure that everything is ok and get tested for things. I have a good relationship with my doctor, and (now a) she has conversations with me where I am candid about who/what I've done, for her to determine the appropriate testing recommendations. My concern is that some people might just feel that they don;t need to test or that they are completely safe because they use condoms. Just my two cents.

Never done it and never occured to me, but great idea. I've had a vichy shower and body scrub, but never showered with the masseur. Love the idea. I always schedule a 90-minute massage, mostly because I take some time to shut down my mind and really relax, but using some of the time for showering sounds really good. Thanks for the idea.

I remember a pair of twins who did porn and were providers too. Unfortunately, it was a long time ago, early 2000s, and also either one or the two of them got in trouble with the law and went to jail. I haven't read this before posting, but there's a story about one of them. Other than that, all the twin/brother thing that I have known of is either 70s-90s porn, or stories that I have been unable to verify. Personally, I did get together with twin brothers, and also with father and son, and with two brothers. Hey, I'm allowed to brag a little. 🙂

Absolutely you made the right call. Thanks for sharing.

Glad that you got out before the appointment. If I get bad vibes from an exchange with the provider, I normally trust my instinct. Not even because of anything bad happenning, but more because I will be uncomfortable throughout the session, which defeats the purpose. I also read discussions about havibg a degree of trust when something doesn't look or feel 100% right. I wonder if you could share details? What happened? What gave you bad vibes, and what made you want to cancel?

I actually post reviews with no expectations of having a response to it. The negative reviews I've left were not replied to, but the profiles were taken down. One of them reapeared with a different name, the other is not longer in the website. No response could be a good thing or a bad thing. Hard to tell. I wouldn't dwell on it. Didn't know that a provider can have reviews taken down just because they don't agree.

I think that this practice is included as an option in the providers' profiles in providers' websites. That can give you an idea of who's up (or down) for it. In my observation, like every other practice, there are some who love it, some who don't and some who specialize in it. I know of a masseur who seems to be quite dedicated to that practice (most definietly not a critique or complaint)

You won't husr anyone or anything by being prepared for protection. The use of condom (and any other object for that matter) is something that can be discussed in the conversation that leads to the encounter. As you can see, many see it as a matter of preference, and some are quite judgemental around using condoms (or not). If you are a paying customer, it's ok for you to expect to receive a service to your satisfaction. That does require to speak up about protection and about everything else that you deem important in the encounter. No one is to impose their preference on you when it comes to safer sex.

Absolutely, but you can find West Africans in East Africa, Japanese in Cuba, and Chileans in Brazil. And all of them all over USA. All of them advertising.

Didn't know about the ignore feature. Thanks for sharing about that. I have no plans on using it, though. I don't block people. I put them in their place.

I think that's a matter of what you feel comfortable with when you hire. Also, the reaction to that has to be different from different people. I for once, use humor when someone I'm with shoots earlier than expected. I just say "you didn;t last me a round" and laugh it off. Also, whet you do and how you handle it AFTER is as important, and different people tkae that in different ways. Up to you. Some like don't give it too much importance, but some might.

Start earlier. Happens to me too. I just wait.

What's your sexual position? CEO of my own sex life.

Hello. My two cents. I don't think geography influences the size of the penises of the gentlemen who live in a given location. If you use websites where providers advertise, their profiles specify those things that you can decide are important to you in your decidion to hire. The profiles clearly state penis sizes, sexual position, as well as other details. Thugh here you will find reocmmendations for specific providers and events, I don't think that it will be likely to see someone telling you "Go to this stae because it's full of tops with large penises". There are websites like rentmen that can help you search and narrow the results based on your specific criteria. Best wishes.

The panorama seems to be changing. As the market keeps getting saturated with providers wanting to make money, their quality keeps lowering. It's a sad reality. I have experienced some providers who have't been responsive, but I've also experienced some who have responded, but way later, I mean weeks later. As others state, there are many reasons why a provider might not get back to you, and they range from poor attitude towards their own work or their clients, to legitimate reasons around their availability. I think it's good advice to keep those who have been responive, let the rest go, and not to get hung up on an unresponsive provider.

I think some of us do walk faster. For being gay? I couldn't tell, and trust me, I love observing men walking. I guess this gives me a research project. 😁

You can require a condome from a provider. I think the level of risk and safety should be defined by you if you are a client, and placed in your profile if you are a provider. What you don't have is living afraid and concerned after the fact, and having to get tested and living with the constant concern for doing something that you are not comfortable with. As a client, you can require the protection that you feel comfortable with, just like providers provide information of what they do and how.

The communication via text, in my opinion, can easily reflect the way you communicate over the phone. The difference is for the most part, the medium used. At first it might feel a little strange that you are "documenting" things that you normally converse about in voice, but so far, unless you are in a situation where documenting a conversation might become harmful to you, text is as reliable. It's just a different medium.

Normally I don't have a set "grace period". In my opinion, you did good, communicating and letting the provider know that you are waiting, and providing ample time for him to respond. Seems appropriate to you, with enough time to hire another one if available at the moment. No respose from the provider could have been for a legitimate, fair reason, but if you haven't heard anything after, I think your grace period was appropriate. Just to be fair, I have communicated the day after to see if there's a legitimate reason for the last minute ghosting. Things happen, so I give the benefit of the doubt. However, after that, if I don't hear from the provider, then either I was completely ghosted, or something major happened that makes the provider unable to communicate. I move on afterwards. Sorry to hear. It sucks after so much discussion. Seems odd too, in light of there being testimonials about his quality, and because there was good communication before.

I don't, but I know people who have had the same interest and they couldn't find a s pecific couple, so they hired the male and the female independently, with the discussion of what was expected. My friend said that he had a great time, but it was quite expensive.