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Sometimes I have laughed at names, sometimes because they are clever and sometimes I laugh at them, but the only time that I skip a provider because of the name is because it's misleading. If there's a name like BigHungTop4and the profile says "bottom" and "4 inches", then I skip.

Ageism. Some providers do discriminate and treat men of certain age differently, and that include providers who are over 40. Age discrimination has been quite common in this world and in the gay community in general for quite some time now. You might not be too aware because it might not be in your mind, that might not be how you think, but it's present.

In that case, there shouldn't be any problem. You might not be the first client who likes one more than the other. That also means that the one you like better might have his own way of communicating, independent to the other. Be discreet, just in case.

Any reason why anal specifically? Giving or receiving? That, IMO, falls in the category of sex, if you get sexual pleasure from it.

When I've been out of the USA, I've met providers who indeed don't include USA in their visits. The reason one of them gave me is that he has plenty of business outside the US (mostly in Europe, but he goes to Japan) and he's doing well. He's not "avoiding" the USA, he's just too busy. The other told me that he tried it and wasn't too successful because of the language issue, which in other countries doesn't seem to be as much of an issue as it is in the USA (his thoughts, not mine). Interestingly, when in Barcelona, I actually met a provider from DC. He said that he makes good money, enough to maintain his apartment in Spain and his living place in DC. He says that there's a "more laid back atmosphere" there (my reply to that was: "In Barcelona, Spain? Are you sure?"). He seemed happy and levelheaded. As for thinking that there is an overall sector of the provided population that avoids the USA or the reasons, I'm not sure that I put a lot of thought in it. I could only guess, and my guess might be similar to why many wealthy travelers avoid USA, or come to USA just to be able to say that they visited it. The American way of living is not for everybody. Some are successful, some are not. Some like it, some don't. There might also be fear over coming to the USA with only a visa and ending up arrested for illegal practices. Just my thoughts.

Good to know. I'll be in Dubling in September. I'm looking around for how things look over there.

I have to agree with pubic_assistance. Doesn't look like you will get your money back. Without giving you a lecture about deposits or no deposits, what I wonder is why that conversation happened after the deposit was made? If you are ok with the deposit, it should be used to ensure the appointment, and the appointment should be locked only after you have that discussion, when you have a higher degree of certainty of what to expect. It's not about the deposit, it's about the timing. Why giving a deposit before having that conversation?

Good advice. My initial contact is simple, polite and to the point. It's made for the conversation to start. What happens after has depended on the type of response that I get. it's a two-way street, and if I don't like the way the reply comes across, I'd politely end the conversation. It's supposed to be a mutual agreement with mutual comfort for both. That's the best way for both parties to get what they want..

Probably he increased his price and didn't want to tell you. Probably he makes more money with extras, meaning that you should have actually touched him so he can negotiate more for more. Or maybe he just can afford choosing his clients. It's never good to feel rejected, but I don't think it's that deep. It may have nothing to do with you. You are you and there's nothing wrong with you talking, if others don't like it, it's their choice.

Not a great practice. Seems prone to an unsavory end. I have not encountered that, but I almost always tip. Not sure what I'd do, but I do like the idea of pushing it back at him and have him give a number. His unasked-for extras, his issue to deal with.

Block him, call the cops. File a report. Chances are you are not the first one he does that to. If you are in USA, there is some information here: FBI and Partners Issue National Public Safety Alert on Sextortion Schemes WWW.JUSTICE.GOV Sextortion: A Growing Threat Preying Upon Our Nation’s Teens | Federal Bureau of Investigation WWW.FBI.GOV The FBI wants to warn parents, educators, caregivers, and children about sextortion, a crime that involves the solicitation and enticement of a minor to engage in... For the most part it caters minors and teenagers, but the infor can be useful.

So I didn't feel safe. I'm not going to say otherwise if that's how I felt. You want to force me to believe and feel something I don't? Last time I checked, I am the one who chosses if something feels safe to me or not. Am I on trial here?

It's subjective. I feel at risk easier than others, I guess.

Both. Was fun. Hiring can be tricky because the level of risk is high. I saw local classifieds advertising massages, but I noticed them whne I was about to return. It's like in every poor country, risk is always there, it's a matter of how much and aht type of risk you are willing to take. The renters of privatew rooms do monitor who you bring, and ask for the ID of the person who comes with you to your room.

Just wanted to share my thoughts on my recent trip to La Havana, Cuba. First, the process of going was not as difficult as I thought. The "visa" that I'm supposed to get is just a tourist card that they didn't even ask for. I took it to and from Cuba and no one bother asking me for it. With AirBnB, now it's a lot easier to identify private places to stay that are not in the list of banned places by the American government. The one where I stayed was awesome, with more than what I was expecting (including the hot-looking manager of the property, and yes, I tried, but he said no). Considering that it's a different culture, a different system and struggling in many ways, it was great seeing how the locals seem to be happy around and about. I went to the ballet, the theater, I was near a library, I enjoyed the stunning architecture of the city (even in bad shape). You can tell that once upon a time, Havana was a splendorous city. I did get sun poisoned one day, but didn't care. Walking aournd the old city was incredible. Something that stroke me as intersting is that in spite of the poverty and crumbling architecture, there are several new hotels in construction, so there's this contradiction of the old and beaten down and the new. Nightlife was awesome, the places to socialize were incredible. When it came to the "jineteros", there were a few that came in to me and my friend to "greet us", but nothing pushy. I had a great time, and of course, always conscious of personal and health safety. I felt relatively safe, but I took many precautions. No unsavory incidents (neither experienced nor witnessed).

I agree about not being too forward, but the discussion can be integrated in a conversation. Just start with saying hello, and that you came across his profile and your are interested and want to know his availability. From his response then you can start the discussion. You don't need to act like you are a form to be completed. Have a conversation. Providers are there to provide and to accommodate. If you are pleasant and clear, the provider will accommodate. You'll be fine.

Interesting. Been to the sauna in Berlin, and of course, like the one in Munich, puts all the ones in America to shame. I love that the atmosphere in those places in Europe is a lot more social, and provide facilities for more socializing, not just sex. Thanks for sharing this. Great find.

Rest in peace.

That's the PR part of the announcement. My best guess is that we will never hear that the family isn't supportive. That part speaks to the general public, and helps maintain a good image, which can impat the athlete's career, endorsements and the business aspect of being an athlete. So yes, we hear the same thing time and time again, but the reality is that the public needs to get educated and also be reminded. We're talking about a culture that doesn't promote a lot of critical thinking, and some people who seem to have the attention span of a gold fish. I do know an American professional athlete who came out and his family was not supportive, but they "were very understanding, even celebrated it" in front of the media. The reason for that is money and the athlete's career, as well as the career of the people aroud him who depended in him. That might be why we don't hear much about rejection; there's money at stake, and probably the athlete might be supporting the entire family. It's the same thing when I was a young professional, coming from poverty. My family din't reject me, especially when I was subsidizing some of their children and fixing their homes. But I heard many times their true opinions of gay men when they were referring to others, and when I overheard them talking to other people about it. Extreme and public rejection doesn't seem to happen a lot (especially stoning), but it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist, it's just not a great thing to advertise, and it's not in the best intertest of the industry.

The Pew Research is conducted in USA. Additionally, most professional athletes compete internationally, so that matters in this context.

Well, out of the top of my head, here is what I based it on: Here: Views of Homosexuality Around the World | Pew Research Center WWW.PEWRESEARCH.ORG Despite major changes in LGBT rights around the world, acceptance of homosexuality remains sharply divided by country, region and economic development. and here: Russia’s moral barometer: Homosexuality unacceptable, but drinking, less so | Pew Research Center WWW.PEWRESEARCH.ORG Nearly three-quarters of the Russian population (72%) think that homosexuality is morally unacceptable, with only 18% saying it is acceptable or not a moral issue. and here: Just a moment... JOURNALS.SAGEPUB.COM and here: Four Homophobia in Sport: Fact of Life, Taboo Subject WWW.DEGRUYTER.COM Four Homophobia in Sport: Fact of Life, Taboo Subject was published in Taking the Lead on page 73. and here: Just a moment... WWW.TANDFONLINE.COM and here: Just a moment... JOURNALS.SAGEPUB.COM Those are actual studies conducted, not the opinion of people based on their experience (which can be as valid). Happy reading.

In terms of being news, I agree. However, homophobia in sports is quite pervasive. Also, at some point, to some of use things become repewtitive, but the newer generation is fresh to many things, and it might speak to them. If we are a community, we should think about the impact on others.

This whole thing is unfortunate.

Yes, it is. Human trafficking is an issue worldwide. The larger problem with the exploitation of young adult men is that there aren't as many resources dedicated to help young men as there are for women and girls, and for boys.

Several reasons. First, handling cash is no longer as inexpensive, with ATM Fees and transaction fees. Second, cash can and has put people at risk of robbery. Third, the newer generation is not as worried about annonymity as the older generation. Fourth, having transactions documented can be used to trace people, which gives the provider an extra layer of protection. The system of paper check has always been flawed and very prone to forgeries, and used for scams.