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You might have not done anything wrong. You never know the reasons for it, even when they give you one. I have been denied services for not wanting to send a picture of me. In that respect, yes. Also, keep in mind that the massage industry is getting more and more cluttered with bad and unprofessional masseurs looking for easy money. That means that now we have to navigate for good professional masseurs who have a clue of what they are doing. I also recommend to give it one or two more days, and move on. I wouldn't dwell in wanting to know why he didn't respond, nor in looking into my own behavior to explain it.

Credit cards companies have approved and sent cards to dogs. That's not a reliable form of ID for that purpose. Other forms of ID have your picture and other details, which can also be borrowed or stolen, but OF can cover their backs legally.

I'm not a provider, but as a client, hiring providers has improved my mental health. In fact, that's how I discovered all this. Massages were recommended to me as part of my plan to improve my mental health. I wanted to support the LGBT community, so I googled "gay massage" (I now find the naivete funny). The rest is history. I also know of at least one person who hires as part of strategy to improve his sexual wellness. There's a difference in the degree of, and how people handle their mental health issues. There's a difference between feeling depressed, feeling suicidal, and the root of the depression and suicidal thoughts. Also, some mental health issues stem from internalized homophobia, some of which has escalated into harm. I have not encountered a provider that makes me uncomfortable out of behavior related to mental health, so I cannot comment on that. I also know (as per some of my providers) that the work itself can take a toll on mental health if not conducted properly.

Last night I went club hopping in PV and stopped by Club 69. I was not impressed, unfortunately. The facilities look great, but the guys there look like they were missing their mobile phones. Bored and boring and not engaging at all. At first I thought that it was just me, but then I saw them there just lined up sitting and conversing with each other, not paying attention to the patrons. Strange. Wet Dreams had too many clients and not enough guys (Saturday night, I guess). The place looks great, though I saw some old woman there doing some kind of work on a computer. She was right next to the wet dancer. Odd location. Some of the guys go around asking for tips in exchange of touching their dicks. They were friendly and not pushy. They were just not enough guys. Tried to get in at CC Slaughters, but didn't make it because it was infested with women all over the place. I so hate this trend of women hijacking places meant for gay men. Not the vibe I'm interested in. Ended up at the B-mine again, and had a great time with a young muscle guy. It was less crowded and the guys are always very engaging, friendly, diverse and hot. It's a new club so the staff is also very accommodating. Great atmosphere.

Ambiguity in the lyrics was how we used to express our feelings publicly in the arts, just like Jean Claude Pascal's Nous les Amoureux, written by Maurice Vidalin.

When I started getting massages, I didn't know much about how this is supposed to be communicated and/or negotiated, so I didn't mention HE, sensual or erotic to the provider. However, some providers offered it. My first one started rubbing my penis and asked "Is this the type of massage you're looking for?" I politely said no (not to make him feel bad), but he did offer. Same with others, even when they are sensual, some try to upsale. In other instances when I have wanted more, I have communicated it and asked how much for more during the massage, not before, but with the understanding that more services imply more pay. I say that I understand it costs more. That's how I solve the issue of little clarity. I do know that there are one or two people who want to pay massage prices for escort services. They shouldn't do that, but in my case, in the beginning I didn't know much about any of this, so it's not always that we're all trying to get more for less. I did learn fast.

Yay for me. When I want a good massage, I have just the right providers. Also, outside of the US, there are plenty of masseurs that give you the option. They are great at both with or without the HE. It's just a matter of looking. I do like having the option if I ask for it.

Last night at the B-Mine I saw one or two twink types. I'm sure if you ask they will find one for you.

Since 1996 I put a candle on my window on December 1st to commemorate World AIDS Day. It's been a few years since I gave up expecting institutions to care for it, including HIV/AIDS organizations. Out of wanting a break from my Engineering career in the 90s, I took a part-time job doing HIV prevention education and outreach, and next thing I knew, years later I ended up with a full career in the field. Did plenty of work and activism, became a trainer for prevention education educators and outreach workers, did a lot of great work that made me feel human (unlike computer-aidded design). Though I don't think I was that successful with educating gay men, I do feel Iike I made a difference in other communities (minority women, currently and formerly incarcerated, active drug users). I have good stories to tell from my HIV/AIDS prevention career days. I commemorate World AIDS Day to remember those that I and others lost to AIDS. They will not be forgotten, at least not by me.

I don't think anything about it at all. I had a great time in Rio and plan to return in 2026.

Often, but not always, and I don't necessarily base my decision in what I read here. Sometimes what people post is based on their personal taste, not on things that I look for in a provider. I do, however, look at "themes" in what people post when there are extensive discussions on a given provider, and that can give me more information than one or two personal experiences. I do pay attention to things like "scammed me", "left early", and things that are not very ethical or that we shouldn't expect. However, I don't always look people up here all the time.

I'm in PV now and last night went to the new B-Mine Bar. Great place, similar setup, diverse dancers (some bear types). Of all the people I hooked up with the Bouncer. The place has the open dance floor, VIP rooms, and playrooms where one can do more. It's in the same corridor where the others are. The place is great, new and very welcoming.

Happy birthday. Sorry you didn't enjoy the experience. I prefer not to comment on anything else, as there seem to be some things that might or might not be fabricated for avoiding giving the full service that you expected, and some things seem more out of your personal preference. 2025 might be a good time to start exploring new people. Best.

@Charlie and @CuriousByNature: I'm sorry for your loss of a loved one. And I loved reading your words. My condolences to both.

Got it. Never saw it that way before.

I think that's supposed to be good for you. You have the opportunity of choosing when to see a client at your convenience. Furthermore, I have used the "I'm flexible" line to flirt, meaning that (although I know it's a massage), it can be used to your advantage. I recommend not to see/treat it as a bad thing. you have the upper hand that can help you with your scheduling clients. I fail to see anything wrong with saying "I can see you at this or that time". I know some clients are a pain and then might say "I can't at those times", but that's just how people behave nowadays.

I make it less awkward (and I think the provider too), by conversing about something. I hand the money while talking or listening, and that's that.

It should be ok if he specifically states that it's ok to contact him. worst that can happen is you get a reply in a bad tone or no reply at all. I've reached out to reviewers, and I've gotten short answers, unrelated answers or no answers. I'd ask, but keep in mind that you have no control over how other people respond.

Aside from not supporting X, is there any other advantage of using it? Is it like X, or are there differences?

Not too many. I used to treat myself once a year in my vacation. The massage was part of a vacation pampering day (I'd get a haircut, pedicure, manicure and massage). I "discovered" (or paid attention for the first time) to erotic massages last year, and at first I got one once a week, then I started being more picky, want the masseur to know what he's doing, so I now have a group of masseurs I contact about once or twice a month. I prefer quality in the experience rather than letting the appearance of the masseur be the driver of my decision. After all, a bad massage can hurt my body.

There's a flip side to that. I don't look "gringo" at all, and when I went to Rio, I was quite overlooked, neglected and ignored, actually. It's certainly not as great either. Getting too much attention for the wrong reasons or neglect and ignored for the same related reasons, both bad.

Lucky you. Sounds like fun. Good call walking away, if you ask me. In my overall experience, the vibe is always different when I go. Sometimes feels very attention-grabbing, and sometimes it feels like I am at the library. Can't wait. I arrive on a Saturday so that's going to be my welcome treat.

I know of some providers that have told me that they can be called at any day/time. Seems like some have ability to accommodate for different schedules. There's no harm in inquiring if the provider can accommodate for that time of the day.

Sorry to hear about that. I have had great times there, and the dancers have not been aggressive. However, I'm sure that the ones there now are not the same they had when I last went. I saw aggressiveness from some of the patrons, fighting for the dancer's attention, though. I'm going now in December. Hopefully I'll have as good experiences as I've had in the past.

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