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What Just Chuck said, plus there's the possibility that some scammer might have stolen other provider's pictures.

The only thing that is safe is not doing anything at all, period. From that point on, everything has a level of risk for your financial safety, your personal safety and your health safety. Personally I end contact with people who make me feel like I am some kind of giant fungus ready to infect everything and everybody around me. So in my experience, it's ok for me to act according to the level of risk that I'm willing to take, but it's not ok to treat a partner or provider as a source of "who knows what". When I do not feel comfortable with certain practices, I communicate it sensibly, and I state it as a preference (it reminds me of a workshop I gave/took in the 90s about "eroticizing safer sex"). That makes the partner I'm with comfortable with continuing, as I remain in control of how far I want to go, without the need of being too "reactive" to things. Nobody (that I now) wants to contract anything, and as a married man myself, I certainly don't want to negatively implicate my husband in things that I am responsible for. To me it's a matter of minimizing risk and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. So far I've never had a problem in that respect. I've gone quite "far" with some massage providers, but always within the level of risk that I am willing to take. However, it is a risk, regardless of how much you plan, know, test, pre-test, protect or prepare. Just my thoughts, not law.

I was fortunate to get not only my yearly salary raise, but also a salary adjustment. I'm a top-tier professional in my area, so I was in a position where I could demand more from my employer, and I got it. That has been quite helpful in keeping my lifestyle more or less the same. I have a lot of location flexibility, I travel and for decades I've been good at managing my money. I learned my lesson the first time I planned and budgeted, and then witnessing how inflation stroke. I know things are going to go up in price, so I plan ahead and keep my lifestyle within my means. Then, I just don't hire in NYC, period. $500/hr is just not realistic for me, end of the story. In fact, I'm not sure I'm willing to pay that much even if I can afford it. For now I have been able to maintain my lifestyle. Not sure what the future holds.

The photo below from his profile tells me that the other pictures might be older. Seems older in that one of the set. He might want to advertise as posing as very young.

Thanks for sharing. Great to know.

Not my favorite thing either. However, some past sexual partners have asked me to cum on their faces. I've done it, but it doesn't give me any kind of memorable pleasure.

I haven't, but just want to recommend to move this thread to the Men's Health area. Seems more like a health-related thread.

In certain cities, in certain countries, yes and more. In USA, no, never. In Canada, kind of (great looking guy with terrible sucking skills).

That what we really want is a massage 😆 Regarding reviews, I tend to pay attention to reviews (before finding out that they can buy fake ones) only there are several and I start seeing a theme. That gives me a better sense of what to expect. I, of course, ignore reviews that have nothing to do with the masseur or the experience ("Didn't like it because it was raining that day and I hate rain"). Now I'm not sure about this. Fake reviews are not a new thing, so I guess that if they sell is because they are effective.

It has changed in time, but some turnoffs (with exceptions) have been: long hair, guys who are much taller than me, what I call the "it's your lucky day" attitude when approaching me, guys who are too feminine and FTMs.

We (husband and I) are actually working on making a move out of the USA. We both speak several languages, are well traveled and understand (and respect) cultures of the people where we are and visit. That opens many possibilities for us since we know plenty of places in the world that are great to live in and where we feel welcome. We have talked about several South American countries, A few in Europe and some in Asia. However, we are still in the decision process. We are leaving the USA, that we are very clear about. Also, if you find a GoFundMe in this forum, please send the link 😁

One of my providers told me that he does reverse roles. I think I'm not good at giving massages, so the idea of me requesting that never crossed my mind. That reminds me that yesterday my super hot Cuban therapeutic masseur told me that he himself needs a massage, and I asked him "who could be worthy of massaging you, with your superhuman massage skills? [In my mind I added 'and that hot body of yours']". He told me that his wife is also a physical therapists and she gives great massages. Masseurs need love too, I guess,

Nothing. Tips are earned (at least that tip).

No, but because I don't abuse it. I take time between massages, I'm also very selective about places and providers. Additionally, I do like a good therapeutic massage for the purpose of relaxation or physical therapy, and I enjoy that. I do feel like if I do it too often or too many times it will lose its appeal, so I [think] I understand where you come from. I never thought of reviews as spoilers. Now I wonder.

The 80s and 90s. No. I also trust my rather good intuition. At the end I made it on my own by other means.

Traveling Fine dining Good sex Jesus (my Mexican provider) Money to pay for all of the above

As a young man, I had opportunities and plenty of offers, but I declined. The reasons were several, ranging from the off-putting approach from some of the men who solicited me, to an immature sense of pride, feeling great about making it on my own without "shortcuts" (as I saw it then). I also used to have the belief that this profession is wrong and shouldn't exist. Today, I still believe that I made the right choice back then, but for different reasons. I also prefer to be on the side of the business where I am. I just want to enjoy the fruit of my decades of work, living and learning, maturing and prospering.

My two cents: Regardless of "geopolitical context of hyper medicalization and pharmacology", I don't think of providers or compare them to a meal or an entertainment venue, where you have to pay regardless of the quality of the food or show. I think of providers as contractors who are responsible for delivering something that both parties agree upon, and where there are conversations about expectations, similar to a contract. This situation doesn't look to me like a "buyer's remorse" situation from the consumer, it's a failure to deliver the expected service based on what is agreed, from the person contracted to deliver it, and the reason for the poor delivery is not beyond the control of the contractor, meaning, that it's not because of any accident, the weather or any out of the ordinary circumstances. It was, to borrow a line, because of geopolitical context of hyper medicalization and pharmacology, which is something that the provider/contractor can have control over, which makes him accountable for the improper delivery of services. As such, in that situation I would have expected an adjustment in the agreed amount. Otherwise, I can easily see providers just promising things and then doing whatever they want simply because they think that the agreed money is guaranteed. Just my thoughts, not law.

"toxic" something has become a recent trend to define behavioral patterns that are unhealthy harmful, and disguised as beneficial, loving or healthy. It's based on things like passive-aggression or obsession with denying reality. @mike carey Thank you. I have something to listen to in the plane on my way back home soon. I'll comment then.

Never done an all-nighter, so I can't comment on that. In my experience, without rushing, I feel comfortable with having between an hour and an hour and a half, not rushing and not being a one-minute man. Went for two hours and it was ok, but not essential. I have a husband, so that is also factored in when deciding how much time (and money) I'm willing to dedicate to/with providers.

True, but even that almost half the country alsohave very conservative views around sex and sexual expression. Let's not forget that either.

From the link: "But despite the lack of evidence, the mere thought that the sex tapes might exist has sent some people online into a frenzy about them." Just another non-story to keep it alive and people expecting something relevant to happen. BTW, shouldn't we call it something other than sex tapes? Tapes are a little, like, obsolete. Just sayin'.

Another self-important "influencer" trying to get unearned, self-serving attention.

Well, maybe. If you watch the Investigation Discovery channel, there's a show named "Deadly Women", where they feature crimes committed by women. Other shows also have episodes of people who have killed their spouses to avoid the shame of divorce, or because the spouse was masturbating or deriving sexual pleasure from something other than another person. So yes, there are people who seem to think that murder is less embarrassing than sex.

In the USA, it's part of the puritan and christian heritages. It's more tolerable to kill than to masturbate. The place that they give to anything sexual is beyond belief. Spouses that have that attitude towards their partners masturbating to porn are just projecting their own insecurities and inadequacies around it. Masturbation is just men being men, nothing more. We do it, we like it, and we enjoy it. The rest is just nobody's business.