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Sure. They want others to address them as "they", but they still refer to themselves as "I", not "we". How convenient.

The whole thing looks to me like publicity stunt. The long coverage, the bragging, I mean, background stories about activism and elitism by victimhood, and the fact that not taking HIV meds is not as horrible as it was back when there was less known and less treatment for it. When I compare that action with when in the 90s people did that and actually died, or when there have been people who have set themselves on fire, or going on long hungre strikes, then you see how silly that guy looks (or should I say "those guys look"? Or maybe "guys" is not correct to use, so "those *** look"?).

Maybe he's one of those "gender queer" types who uses they as his pronoun. In any event, it's insane, but I wish this is the first time I see people pulling that nonsense.

I have heard and read similar posts expressing the same. You try some, you like some, you keep some, you love some more than others. I've also known of others who prefer finding one or two and forget about the rest of the universe, and that works for them. You were able to reach out to the other providers and work everything out. It shouldn't be different with the one that you have. Keep in mind that he doesn't know any of what you thought to make him the one to reach out.

I graduated from NYU last year at... not 22 anymore. Same here and with all the males in my family. We look better older. My two cents. This is not exactly a regulated profession, there's no code of ethics. That means that each provider establishes his rules as he sees them fit. If a provider wants to give a dicount or discriminate based on looks or age, there's nothing anyone else can do other than deciding to becoming or not his client. I imagine it will feel great to be told that because I'm beautifull I'll pay less, but if it doesn't happen, who cares. I personally have a dedicated budget already, and if a provider is above it, too bad, too sad.

Depends. Some men are not that great at cleaning that area, some are, and some actually like it dirty. I have met guys who treat the cut/uncut thing the way some people treat politics. I have a hard time understanding people who have this polarizing mindset about it, but again, I have my own quirks, so whatever, I just let them be.

None. Let him be. Especially since he has safer sex with you. The only difference between him and many others is that he lets you know. Providers are in a high-risk line of work, that's no secret. Having first-hand knowledge and details about it might cause concern, but the way I see it, it's just awareness. I've herad of The Eagle in NYC. Seems to be the one of that type of establishment that has survivied. In my experience, the sex party scene in NYC is almost exclusively unprotected sex. Rarely have I seen a person using protection. And that's since way before PreP. That's not exactly that cut and dry. It depends of what you do and through which orifice. This is best thought of as levels of risk, rather than in absolute terms. Doing something increases or decreases the risk of transmission. That's why health educators (like I was once upon a time) use the term "safer sex" instead of "safe sex".

You might be right. The newer generation seems to be more into spontaneously doing things than planning ahead. I see a similar effect in my work with the younger crowd, "planning" to them is just making a mental note a few minutes before the meeting. Just my opinion, not law.

The provider might need to have a saying on it, so I believe that as much as we could suggest you to propose availability and timing, you might still need to obtain the input from the provider. When reaching out, have an idea of the setup, including timing, so you can let the provider know. Also, providers might have experience in setting up a 4-hour session. I guess that depending on what is expected to happen, it could be as simple as scheduling a time/space, or as complex as bringing and setting up equipment and gear, or traveling. How simnple or complex the session will be can determine the logistics of it. (I feel like I said a lot and nothing at the same time).

Yes. Your point?

Again, not judging. Just curious. What do you mean versatile is too much of a risk? Risk of what exactly. I'm just trying to understand. If you're not comfortable replying feel free to ignore.

Long ago I learned that people have preferences, some people have fetishes, and some people are just very clear about what does it for them and doesn't do it for them. I want to agree about just "enjoying men", but I have to admit that there are quite a long list of men types that I want nothing to do with, leave alone get sexually involved with. I wounldn't judge. It might be just the craving of the hour that will go away as soon as it's satisfied, or it might be tied up to preferences, fetishes, even trauma. I just try to meet people where they are.

Not sure if this might help, but versatile doesn't mean that you have to do everything with the provider; it means that they are willing to top or bottom (at least in some instances). That might expand your choices. Any reason why they have to be strict bottoms? Is it off-putting for you to know that they are capable of topping another human being? Not judging, just inquiring.

Happened to me. A provider was much older than in the pics. The thing is that he still looked great, so I didn't mind. If his current appearance was not that great, then I might have made a different decision. I didn't hire him again, though.

I think that some of those rather shady proividers show signs one way or another. At least that has been my experience. Yes, some providers block people befor the reviews. It's an ongoing and known issue for many of us. What I wonder is if there's anything that can realistically be done. Also, to be honest, let's put things in context. What did we have back before RM, reviews, ability to search people's information online, etc? We had to either rely on word of mouth or take higher risks with providers. That means that even with reviews that we can't fully trust, it's still better than how it used to be back in the day, for both clients and providers. It's definitely not a reliable system, but it's definitely much better today, especially since forums like this exists where people can support each other with information about providers and by clients. When it comes to reviews, what I do is that I read as many as I can (when there are many), and I start noticing a theme emerging. That's where I find some information that can make sense and feels more reliable. Another issue with reviews is that two people might have completely different experiences with the same provider, and none of them are wrong. First, there are many poor reviews ("I didn't like him"), reviews that are just downright stupid ("I didn't like the curtains of the place"), and reviews that concentrate on parts of the experience that are not important to you ("He shaved"). I look for reviews that talk about punctuality, time spent, delivery of what he offers in his page, and of course, overall performance. So yes, one cannot just blindly trust reviews.

I guess. Philadelphia continues as racially segrega... I mean, a "city of neighborhoods" as it's always been.

Maybe I need private tutoring?

I actually like the guys who don't show off their muscles. Just my own personal taste, I find flexing and intentional display of muscles off-putting. The muscles are visible and noticeable anyway. So not intending to put people down, I am more curious about muscle worshiping. I don't get it. What is it about the display of muscles that makes people throw money at them?

Well, I speak Spanish. If I can get a few names, what area it is that you are referring to, maybe a few links to their profile, I can communicate with them. Info, please.

Run for congress as Republicans.

For a response to see if there's any sign of life or interest, 24hrs. For me to start looking for another provider, between 1-2 hours.

In my experience, that is just all across the entire gay universe, not just in this industry. Dismissive, undecided, full-of-it assholes are found everywhere in any industry that is service oriented. What I'd suggest is that is a person has wasted your time in the past, don't continue wasting your time entertaining him or trying to make a point. There's absolutely no gain on your part by doing that. Personally, I don't have to have the last word in every interaction. I can ghost, ignore and move on without having to explain things to people. That same thing happens in dating and trying to meet people online. For example, last year I met a person online who was going to coincide with me in Barcelona. I proposed to meet and share a drink at a bar. I thought it will be great to meet a friend in person during vacation. We agreed on a date/time/place to do that (he actually suggested the place). The time was 10pm. I showed up at 10, he was nowhere to be found. I still had a great time, I shared with other people I met right there. Left the place about an hour later. The next day (get this), he told me that he was there at 8pm and left at 9pm, and went back to the place at 11:30pm. I'm sure he's a grown up man, so I don't have to explain to him what 10pm means or how time works. I just moved on. When he saw no reply from me, a day or two later, he sent me another message wishing me a good trip. Who knows what was going through his mind that he decided to purposely stand me up like that. Don't know, don't care, the important part is not to waste time entertaining people's games. Another time was some guy I was dating way back when. I had something to do on a Saturday at 2pm. I told him that we can talk before 2pm or after 4pm, that I wasn't available between 2pm-4pm. That was before the popularity of mobile devices, so I had an answering maching at home. When I came back home at 4pm, there were about ten messages from him, getting nastier as they progressed, and they were all left between 2pm and 4pm. That last of those messages said things like "Why are you doing this to me?" Again, I didn't waste time entertainning nonsense. I was done with him right then and there. Our word and your time are valuable. I personally do not get involved in arguments over other people's nonsense. Not having the last word is not as important as my own wellbeing or my valuable time.

I gave no more than two tries in one conversation. If I keep getting one-word responses, I just move on. Sometimes I don't even end the conversation, just simply move on. To me that's a reflection of what I could expect in a live session, so I don't bother. Not once have I gotten any follow up or anything after I stop.

Yahoo News? Good God. I consider it the Esquire of online news. That's nothing compared to the "articles" I've read there that sound like they were written by an 11 year old whose first language isn't English. For real, I gave up with reading any "news" from there due to their very unprofessional reporting. Not only their article have terrible spelling, grammar and punctuation, but they are very sensationalistic and misleading. At some point they decided to do away from comments because it became an echo chamber of hateful remarks. I believe that they have commenting back. I'm not surprised that they act that way. They just can't care less.

Hello. As a client, I have to say that it's possible to become successful at the business as a masseur without a certification, especially with your prior experience. However, a certification that can bring you to a high level of masseur quality will be useful to get the type of client that looks for a massage only, or a massage with extras where the massage part matters most. I think you have to look at the kind of clientele and reputation that you are interested in establishing as a masseur. Do you want to be known for the extras, for the quality of your massage, both? From a business perspective, you can make money out of bad quality massages, but your clientele will be different. It is my opinion that some providers of massages don't hold certifications and do mediocre massages because they use it as a cover for escorting, or due to lack of knowledge, thinking that a massage is just some easy rub with some kind of cream. In USA, massage certifications varies from state to state, so a good course and certification requirements in your state (I assume that you are in USA, if not, something similar might be the case in your locality) can help you with becoming a quality masseur. There are only a handful of massage prociders that are excellent without any formal training or certification, so that's possible, and I guess that you should also look into your own current ability to learn and know the human body in that respect.