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When talking to the younger generation, I try to be more specific, both because they might not have heard of people from the past, and because they have the attention span of a gold fish. I'd say something like "in the XX decade, then senator XXX..." Also a new generation thing is assumming that every older person is some kind of pervert predator (in my case they got only the first part right).

That's strange. Not a great strategy for the provider. Well, you got two others.

I actually remember I read a book about the cases that the Espisodes of Law and Order are based on. Many episodes are inspired by true cases. My surprise is how many men have fathered children that way.

This might help Travel Gay Gay Passport Haven't been to London in a long time, but for what I remember, there wasn't really a "gayborhood" there, places are scattered. I'm sure things might have changed since 1999.

If that's child pornography, I'm the reencarnation of the Mother Theresa. He's either looking for attention, money, both, or needs some therapy. Just signs of the times we're living.

Not in my area. Not sure why my town has so few travelers, never great and their stay is too brief. However, I myself travel and have treated me from an entire harem of provides (within reason). Not sure if it's the novelty of a new place or if my town is just that lame. I'd say don't go broke, but that's the kind of problems you might want to have.

I wouldn't necessarily state it the way Lucky has, but I share the same sentiment. Why is that news? If you don't have job readiness skills, if you resent having a 9-5 job (like most-to-all of us do), but refuse to shut up and do it anyway, you'll go broke unless there are priviledges in place. What makes her so special or news worthy? Does she think that we working people love going to work? I had to learn to work the hard way since I'm first generation college graduate, and the only career advice my parents could give me was "Learn" (excellent advice, but nothing else). Was wonderful advice, but I did have to learn to work and behave properly in the workplace, sometimes the hard way. I did it, but prefer not having to do the 9-5 thing, however, I shut up and do it because the alternatives to the 9-5 thing are not suitable for me. How come I'm not in the news for it? In fact, I think that a success story like mine has more relevance than some stupid little brat complaining that she's broke. Grow the fuck up, that's my advice to her.

I haven't thought of any of my providers for holiday gifts, but it's not weird, IMO. It's a good gesture. Of course, goes without saying that it's a good gesture for as long as you're not creepy about it. I mean, there aren't any restraining orders in place, right? Joke aside, if it's coming from a good place, just because you want to shower him with a gift, by all means. On the other hand, if you are expecting something in return (other than his gratitude), be graceful if that doesn't work and all you get is his gratitude.

I don't see the need to tell my second, or anyone who's not my first choice that they are not my first choice. It has happened that I have gone with second or third choices at different times, but I don't see why I have to tell the provider anything about that. In fact, when I see choices, I don't necessarily think that the first provider I contact is a first choice; any of them could be the one I call first. Sometimes the first call is based on location, not necessarily based on what the provider offers. Also, it is my belief that if I decide to tell any provider that they weren't the first I called, I'm not sure that they will care much, for as long as service is provided and the entire event is properly managed. And yes, I've had very pleasant surprises when going to the provider that I didn't call first, actually, not really a surprise since them being in the list is because I believe that they can deliver the service I want. That's why they are in the list in the first place. But again, in my case most of the order of contacting is based on location. Side note: I imagine when you say "...you're on page 6 listed 145th", you're exaggerating, right?

That's what real clients should do. I know that there are some who are first timers, struggling with accepting their sexuality, insanely busy, working erratic schedules, and things alike, but all those things can be communicated. First time I reached out to a provider I mentioned that I am new to all this and I am interested in their service. However, I was clear and decided to go with it. I didn't reach out until I knew that I mean business. A time waster is like a window shopper, only that he's taking the provider's time. My rule is complete clarity about scheduling, availability and the service I am interested in. When that's been discussed, it's not wasting time, even if the provider of I decide not to book after the initial contact. So far there has been only one provider who I'd say was a time waster to me, due to unclear communication on his part and cancellation at the last minute without wanting to reschedule. I just moved on and didn't bother him again.

I don't understand it, but I guess there isn't any harm in asking. To me (emphasis in this bein solely my interpretation), that says about it being the type of provider who expects clients to be some kind of ATM, money suckers. Probably the type of providers that expect payments in what I call "modular ways": looking at me - $, touching - $$, playing - $$$, playing deeper with extras - $$$$, and so on.

I don't think that those providers who travel together but don't work together do so for the same reasons. It could be agreements between them, setting boundaries in whatever kind of relationship that they have, or they just travel together for other conveniences and don't really get along. I think about times when I've been sent to conferences with coworkers that I cannot stand, and we are polite and professional throughout the entire time, but there's no way I'm sharing anything social (leave alone sensual or sexual - ILK!!!) with any of them. I imagine that some providers treat each other as coworkers, with some level of detachment, maybe to avoid possible conflicts. I don't think the reasons are the same for all of those who travel with a partner. 4-hand massages don't do it for me, but there are providers who offer them, and some who are willing to partner with others. In a conversation I had with one of my providers, he mentioned that he's willing to work with another provider for a 4-hand massage. I have no interest so I didn't follow up on that conversation. If the issue is that they like each other too much to the point that they start getting it on and neglect the client, then I think it's on your best interest to not have it (unless you get off by seeing that). Neither scenario is good if it forces the provider to work with a partner that they rather not, or a partner that they can't get enough of. Just my thoughts.

I don't wear a watch now, and I cannot imagine me becoming wealthy enough to afford the luxury of a watch at that price. So, no.

I am aware of how within his rights the owner is in building a statue in his property. I have a now former friend who lives in Brooklyn, and he became a born-again weirdo. He went through the same opposition from his neighbors about building a giant cross in front of his home, and the neighbors lost the battle. He is entitled to place any religious image, figure, sulpture or structure, for as long as it doesn't violate codes, ordinances or laws. I think that the larger issue is the reaction to those religious things from some people. Some people are going to look at that and feel threatened for being non-believers, and having an uneasy feeling of being judged, oppressed, mistreated, proselitized on, and who knows what else. Those concerns are real, as there is a history of people who are that kind of religious (I mean the ones who always seem to need to be vocal and public about it) being self-righteous, always wanting to have the last word, not listening to anything else, preaching and proselitizing in every conversation that they have, not understanding that being nice doesn't mean an invitation for their religious recruiting, and wanting to be right about every single thing that they say. Placing religious objects representative of their faith normally also involves other activities, such as prayers, ceremonies, merchandise and or literature that invite people to join their faith. It's not just about placing an object; there are many other things attached to them. I find it distasteful, but they are in their right to do as they please for as long as they are not violating the law.

Good for gay catholics. In my experience, having grown up a non-catholic in a catholic-dominated society, I can see the importance and relevance of it, even from people who are no longer religious or religious but not catholic. In my observation I have seen the influence of the catholic religion in many gay men, them not even noticing how it impacts the way they think, act, behave and decide, especially around sex. It's very evident to those who can see it from the outside because we grew up out of that faith, but it's very ingrained in many people and don't even realize it. I know this is relevant to catholic LGBT people, so I'm glad to hear that there is at least a minor step in the right direction in reconciling some people's faith and who they are. My own beliefs are not relevant in this conversation, as it is about those who follow the catholic faith.

I don't think so. I grew up with computers (first PC I had was in 1985, first mobiule phone I had was in 1987). Been using electronic devices for over four decades. Those differences are just cultural. This presenting an issue that all people have regardless of age. Indecision and anxiety about reading a menu is not a generation problem.

According to who? So far the complains that I hear are reasonable, by the way, that's a word that the younger generation seem to have taken out of their vocabulary.

Why on Earth do we keep acting as if Gen Z-ers and Millennials are some kind of human mutation, different from the rest of the human race? Anyone who has to watch their budget feels anxiety when something that involves incurring in an expense is presented, being that a menu in a restaurant or anything else. Why is that news?

For me, I am with my immediate family during the holiday season, and in that setting it's really inapproproiate for me to even think about a provider. However, I know that the holiday season is a lonely, depressing and difficult season for many. The movie theaters, bars and many other venues are full during those days, as many prefer to escape the celebrations (for a number of reasons, not just sadness and depression). To me that indicates that it makes sense that some might want to treat themselves with a good time with a provider. I also imagine that there migh be providers who are on the same page, the holiday season might not be as celebratory, or they might prefer to cash in rather than celebrating. It's my believe that as providers you get to choose your clients and schedule, so not being available during the holiday season should be respected by clients as much as when you are not available at any other time of the year. I imagine the same goes for other relevant dates, birthdays, annyversaries, or just self-care. The holiday season seems to be rough on some people, though, so some clients might be extra needy. Just my thoughts.

I agree with you and you do make a good point. Focusing on your own clients and creating your own list (even a wait list) is the way to go. The only way where i believe knowing about numbers is when you are doing formal analytics, which I doubt many in this line of business do. Time spent in looking and/or worrying about others providers and clients is time that can be spent promoting your own self.

I once saw a masseur who had a pitbull just walking around and he wanted me to pat him. First and only time I've been that close to that breed. The massage wasn't too great, but the fucking in the middle of it was. Still, it was uncomfortable for me, and I didn't see him again.

Even if the structure is up-to-code and properly maintained, that type of collapse can happen for several reasons, some not related to the structural design. The official story is failure of the column(s), but no details on if it's due to material deterioration, excessive compression from outside forces or foundations issues.

It's a known fact that every city that has some kind of conservative convention or conference, all the sex venues become jammed packed during that time. I think that overall, the industry seems to be growing. I don't know about availability of clients, but I notice more providers visiting and being based in my city.

That's actually a good middle ground. I'll keep it in mind for the future.

Yes, but the providers who have done that have gotten the no when I've said it. Also, I am very clear. I state that at the time I'm not planning on another session, but maybe in the future, and that I will reach out to him when I'm ready. The provider has been respectful of my wishes, and I have reached out at a later time. Have you been that clear? I had one who called me after, but he was interested in becoming my friend. I chatted a little with him, but also stated that there are certain times/days when I am not available for talking. We talked a few times after and the he just faded. Today there are ways of dealing with pushy providers if they become pushy, but the most important thing is clarity and being specific about your boundaries.