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I thinkl that the economy is not as great as some people want us to think. Inflation has made people rethink where they allocate their money. I agree about high-end providers, but at the same time I havew known of them promoting themselves independently, and seem successful. Also I've seen websites that feature only a few providers (at a high-end cost). Great interesting discussion.

Some providers want to keep it vague. I ask and get answers. It's always good to ask, anyway since there are some that are clear in the ad but not necessarily truthful.

None so far. I've found No's in all the cities I've been to, but I've also found good providers. So far no city has been a no-no for me.

Can't speak for people in my city, but I rarely hire people in my city because the options are either limited or not compelling to me, even though it's a large city. I actually believe that it's a common practice for clients to take a break from hiring due to a number of reasons, and I don't think that there is a rule that establishes that one has to hire consistently or constantly, as if we have to fill some kind of quota. No one is obligated to hire what is available simply because that's what's available. I take my breaks due to other priorities, family and life responsibilities, finances and budget, traveling, health issues, or just because I need a break from sexual activity or massages. One important rule that I have is that hiring to me is part of my self care, but also part of my leisure, which means, that I'm not going to neglect the other aspects of my life over hiring providers (maybe if I win the lottery... nah, even if I win the lottery). So time off is a given to me.

Some do. I let it be and never see them again after that session, reason being that I am naked and they are touching my body, so I don't feel in a good position (no pun intended) to argue or complain. I also give them bad reviews for that. It's a shady practice, and the appropriate time should be provided if agreed upon. The opposite is true too. I've had some providers who are not clock watchers and have given me extra time. And there are some who have given me exactly (sometimes feels like to the second) the expected time. It is a deal breaker if the provider steals time from me, especially if they make the assumption that because I "released" I'm done. The good ones continue and finish the time massaging, and some actually ask if I want to continue massaging. I honestly think that those providers who try to cut the time short with clients are not great enterpreneurs. That affects their reputation and business, and even if they do it because they don't like a particular client, they get a bad reputation for it, even those who have a steady clientele should be respectful of their clients' allocated time.

What makes you think that being new to a place makes them naive? When I first arrived top USA, there were a few Americans who learned a few lessons from me the hard way, thinking that having an accent or being a migrant makes you stupid or naive. The way some times people have to hustle to survive and make a living in their native countries actually gives them a lot so ftreet smarts. Of course, some might be in fact naive, but not because they are new to the country.

I am the same when it come to height. I prefer guys my height or shorter (not too much shorter, though). As for penis size, sometimes I don't even look at that part of the profile, so I guess to me it's always a surprise. Only one time I came across a provider that had a penis that seemed disproportional to his entire body. My experience with him was ok. I think that as human beings we have our insecurities, so we might maximize or minimize some things. When it comes to size, I stopped following where it's supposed to be measured from, which means that there isn't a standard starting point to measure from, another reason for me not to care for listed size. Regarding circumcision status, same. I know many men who value that, but I don't. That can translate in me not being too caring about some those details. Height is the one thing that I look and avoid. What matters to me more is the overall experience in terms of chemistry, personality personal hygiene, financial safety and personal safety. I've hired providers and I've hooked up with men of different types.

Well, let me use this thread to express my gratitude and respect to providers. I would hug them, but I'm afraid that my hand will slip down to their butts.

First thing that came to mind was "Whatever, dude".

I am mature and experienced in life enough to understand that we are different people and that we process our life events the best we can and in different ways. I put my money where my mouth is when I say that I welcome diversity, and that includes diversity of thoughts. I have liked some of your insights in other people's posts.

There never is a guarantee, even when you are in the room with the provider, so I agree that the best strategy is to remind him of your appointment (without being creepy/desparate about it).

Excellent point, and I don't disagree. I didn't intend to neither put down those who actually volunteer, nor to refer to specific individuals. I'm talking about the culture, which allows for more generalizations. No way am I suggesting that there aren't any youth who are doing a wonderful job at volunteering, especially those who I've seen at pet shelters.

There has been a shift in culture in that sense (IMO). Many young people seem to think that ranting online about the environment, being disorderly in marches and displaying similar behavior online and offline is what volunteering and activism are. Also, a lot of the inititatives are now sponsored by private companies for PR purposes (which don't do much for the community, especially long-term), and (at least in my city) there have been protests and activism against non-profit organizations that are supposed to help communities and not only aren't, but they have discriminated against the communities that they are supposed to serve. Some of those places now have questionable reputations. The older generations can still volunteer, but I have seen (in my circle, at least), a lot of disappointment, and an attitude that they are the ones in need, so they perceive volunteering as taking away from their own needed resources.

Looks expensive and he doesn't list any certification, experience or massage training.

Kind of. I think that masseurfinder tend to have more therapeutic-only masseurs, but I have seen that site used as cover for those providers who want to keep their offering of extra$ on the down-low. I believe both sites allow advertising of providers who don't have any formal training or experience, so in that sense, they are both freestyle.

Hello. Welcome to the forum. I can only speak for my experience. The massage parlors I've been to in NYC are more full of young masseurs who look exactly as you describe them. I myself, prefer people who are not in their 20s. Here are my thoughts: Yes, it's possible to find a masseur who is more mature. However, that doesn't guarantee a great experience. One of my worst experiences getting massages was with a mature man who was quite unprofessional (though not at a massage parlor). It's possible to make a request when calling. I went to the East Men Spa recently, and I got a masseur who was in his 40s, and I got a great experience with him (massage only, didn't offer extras, and I didn't ask for extras). I didn't ask for a masseur of a certain age at that time, but they had him, and he was great. The other Spas I've been to have offered young (or young looking) men. As masseurs, I have received a range of experiences in terms of the quality of the massage. That means that you can get a good massage experience with a young, well-trained man, and you can get a horrible massage from an older man. My suggestion is to just call and ask. So far when I've made specific requests they have been able to accommodate (though sometimes it has taken time). So some places are willing to work with your requests and accommodate within reason. I forgot which facility had this gentleman, who is in his mid 40s, provides a great massage, provides extras (and as a side note, if you are into men's size, he will not disappoint you). I booked him in private, but I saw him listed as part of the staff in one of the places, (but now I can't remember or find it). It is not a black-and-white thing. No one can't tell that it's not possible to find a masseur who can fulfill your requirements. It is a matter of more likeliness. In my opinion, you can just reach out and inquire. There's nothing to lose by just asking. Those are places of business, and I'm sure that they want to cater to all clients who they can make money of. If you find what you're looking for, I'd be interested to know.

I did work at my local MLK Day of Service several times. This year I was away in a different city. I have volunteered plenty in my lifetime and at this point I feel that the younger generation seems ready to take the reigns. I agree that there should be more people involved in volunteering in general.

Your Man in Arlington brought a point related to geography. Snow hasn't slowed me down because I live and work in cities with transportation that runs in spite of snow. I imagine that people who need to drive might have to consider the transportation issue during the snow. I think the providers might have more accurate info. I wonder if they get more bookings, more cancellations or both.

I don't see myself having any of that done, but I don't hate them. Like every fashion trend, some look really good, some look really bad.

Lat year I had my first one, so in my 50s I only have one but plan to get another one to cover a scar, next year. I haven't, I just started. I only have one that I just retouched, so no. I think that the tattoo thing has evolved from what it used to be. People seem to be more open to not judge people with tattoos, as before. I mean, I remember once hearing some radio evangelist trashing and bashing people with tattoos, stating that people who have then are these lost, empty souls who now belong to Satan, or something to that effect. It was just disgusting hearing that. The newer generations seem to be more accepting of them and less stigmatizing about it (just my observation and experience).

They should make a documentary about a day in your life.

Loved that episode. Well made. And I agree about people giving too much weight to reviews that can't be fully objective, can be quite inaccurate and can be fake.

Personal attacks and replies to them are not a "varies story and nuance". That is always unnecessary, even within the topic. I'm keeping it real myself.

Pass.

Yes, definitely. I posted before about my trip to Spain last September, where I was in a mainstream hotel, and booked a massage. I was asked if I wanted a massage from a "chica or chico" (girl or boy) and I said chico. I wasn't expecting anything to happen other than a nice relaxing massage after using the pool and sauna at the place. Boy, was I wrong! We almost break the massage table. It was surprising since the whole event didn't look like it was going to be conducive to sex. I also am one of those who sometimes want the massage and the extras, and sometimes I am more interested in the extras than the massage, though not always. In fact, there have been times when I've been offered a HE and I've declined. Like Sam Miller, I look online to see if I can get a sense of the provider or place being willing to offering extras. I like having the option and decline if it doesn't feel right for me at the time.