soloyo215

My two cents: I know there have been experiences in the past with vague or no responses, or worse, conflicting responses. However, this provide is not the other providers, so seems to me that inquiring about it is the best course of action, even if you get yet another vague answer. Personally I take vague answers as a reflection of how the experience is likely to go if it happens, so that is information I like having. It's not unreasonable to mention that there's apparent conflicting information, and there's a possibility of it being an honest mistake on his part. If I get a vague answer, i take it as I'm either not interesting enough for him, or I am second or less choice, which is not what I expect. Best.

Hard to tell. Some people seem to think that when one is "generous" that means that it's an invitation for exploitation or to see how far they can go with asking for more. They don't necessarily see it as "generosity". Instead, they look at it as "he's willing to pay this much, so I can ask for more, then". There's also the possibility that he charged less expecting the "overly generous" thing to kick in, but it seems like it didn't, hence the additional charge. If he's a provider that you see often, I wonder if you feel comfortable just going directly to the source and asking him. If you like him that much, you can express that you don't want misunderstandings about your generosity to be the reason to stop seeing him. I think that's a reasonable conversation to have.

Your call. I have received some inquiring details about providers or destinations. I don't see any harm in providing information about that. No one has ever inquired about any of my personal information, so I feel safe sharing the info they ask about. That said, I personally don't like going into specifics, especially about masseurs. Masseurs go as far as they want, and my guess is that it depends on the client, so to avoid giving them a sense of guarantee about what they should expect, I keep some things vague.

My two cents. I am in PV right now, and I agree about Anthropology, down the drain. Wet Dreams got on my nerves. They had a cover charge the night I went, the guys were pushy, not the best quality, and one after another like making a line offering me a private. The setup behind the bar looks great but was empty. Not a great night. The B-Mine was great, but didn't have many guys (I know it's slow season, but I counted three strippers and one of them was just sitting waiting to get fucked in front of everybody by some other one at the live sex show (didn't know that they had it, and didn't stay for it). Club 69 had some kind of Cirque du Soleil type of act with some dancer going up and down wearing a mask and some kind of robe. The biggest turnoff was how many damn women were there (say what you like, I don't think they belong there), and the way they were acting was even worse than their already off-putting presence. So, my recommendation is to go to PV during season, when there are plenty of strippers, better weather (there's a hurricane south of PV) and hopefully better luck. It's never occur to me to use card to pay anything there, and always in pesos.

It's not the same with each provider. Some are quite personable and some are more "all business". I don't think I have a preference.

Sorry to hear. Rudeness to me is an epidemic. Has to be terrible if they make newyorkers look welcoming. The Asian countries I've been in, people are quite polite (at least in commonly public areas, like train stations and buses).

Now that's the Florida I know.

The masseur is in control of how far things go, which is why it costs us, clients, less. However, in my experience, there's no specific rule or "protocol" that I know of. How things go can vary by country. In USA, RentMasseur had the option for providers to offer erotic massages, which can clear the path to further communication. Back then I asked for that option, and depending on something (my mood, I guess), I'd ask for certain things right away (such as if he could massage me undressed - never got a no). In other instances, I felt his body close to me during the massage, and I'd give hints of interest in more. His reaction will determine if I'd go further. I am respectful of boundaries if it doesn't. In that situation, several things have happened: (1) things evolve silently and as it becomes less massage and more extra, (2) a change in direction and back to massage [annoying and makes me feel rejected, but oh well]. (3) the masseur inquires if I'm interested in more since he's also interested in more [that is, $] too. I initiate when I know that it has been talked about before the appointment in the first communication, and also when I feel his body close and touching me (I take that as an invitation). I do it physically, rarely I say anything. I also initiate when I know that he also has a RM profile, which to me implies that he's open to more (of course, for more). He initiates when we both start naked, or when I don't have a full idea of what to expect, when the initial communication is not fully clear. What others have said cannot be emphasized more. Let him do his job. Things will evolve. Not sure if this helps. This is just my experience.

Some idiots convince themselves that vaping isn't smoking, so yes, it doesn't surprise me that something like what you wrote happens. I've heard people talking that nonsense, I have witnessed, and also have witnessed people vaping in places where smoking isn't allowed because "I'm not smoking, I'm vaping", having to get thrown out by security.

Odd question. If a person asks me that I'd really recommend him to get his vision checked. Questions: Do you look, move or act like a law enforcement officer? Or maybe there was something in the conversation that made him think that you were looking for certain information? Hopefully it's not like he's developing some kind of paranoia.

My two cents: "Ask me" in my experience has meant willing to do things, but for an additional charge. Seems like a way of up-selling extras. I'm sure that's not the case with all, but that was my experience.

Ensuring that you're not getting ripped off is not being an asshole. That said, I've found no specific best rule or best practice. Any action around how payment goes always carry a risk, IMO. So far it's been only one person who asked for cash upfront that turned out to be a terrible experience. I was new to this whole hiring thing and didn't know better. Asking for cash upfront was not the red flag, or at least not the biggest. The subject of cash upfront has rarely come up, in my experience. When it does I've stated that I prefer to pay after and the provider had agreed. Can't comment on overnight or weekend-long services.

There is a way. It's called a profile.

Which?

Sad to hear. Doesn't bother me whatever people decide to call a person's death, for as long as it's respectful.

I'm so sorry to hear. My condolences.

I've known that they sell way more than coats since way back when I was able to get curtains. Quality everything in USA has been degrading for decades now too. No surprises there either.

Posting the link doesn't violate copyright. That has been discussed and decided in courts for decades, mostly around sites that provided links for downloading pirate copies of software and media, but it applies to most-to-all posted links. Case closed. About the picture, I don't know. Probably. I haven't read the fine print of the sites where they post them. It is a private site, and the user agreement might involved acceptable use of the images used, though it might be around releasing responsibility from the site if people use them for other purposes.

When I was young and hooked up with other men, sometimes I not only gave a different name, but created a complete persona, different work, different type of family, I even faked accents, or faked that I wasn't proficient in the language I was speaking. Other than getting a cheap thrill out of it, I had no reason to fake my name (at least consciously). I'm sharing this just to say that there might not be a deep, complex reason for not wanting to give his real name. Aside from the standard having something to hide and a lot to lose, sometimes it's just a way of detaching from the work and keeping his personal life personal. Good connection or not, the provider might still see it as work-related, and not part of his personal life. Just my thoughts.

Out of curiosity, do those people who ghost you are of certain age range, on the younger side? I'm inquiring because I work close to people who do HR things (hiring, posting jobs, etc.) and it seems like ghosting people have become common by company HR people after conducting interviews with candidates, sometimes at the time when they are about to or promise that they will make an offer. I'm not an expert in that area, but what I hear is that the newer generation of hiring managers are incurring in similar practice that they do in social media. And by the way, I've heard about that ghosting thing in hookup sites, in social media and even in private forums like this one. I have been ghosted, but I don't take it on me or my looks or anything about me. Some people are just jerks. Regarding sending pictures, I have a couple of times, but normally I don't. Didn't get ghosted when I sent my pictures, and got ghosted in communication where I was never asked for one.

I don't have a clever name for those, but reading your post makes me wonder if there is a market for that type of "service". What I'm thinking of is when I was young, the way some men approached me (sometimes offering me money, sometimes not) seems like they would have been happy with a person who can't care less because the client can't care less either (about interacting or what/how the person is doing). There are social hookups that seem to be similar, where one person or both don't necessarily have any interest in interacting with the other person. In a provider/client setting, it's quite unprofessional to act that way if the provider is offering something and not delivering. Now we are stepping into not meeting clients' expectations. If that's the case, I'd also go with "unprofessionals", I like that term.

I'm sorry that happened, but I'm, glad to read that you didn't lose money or more time. There are plenty more out there. There are some providers (and non-providers, for that matter) that are too used to lie to get out of something. I've known people that compulsively tells whatever comes to mind to get out of a commitment, even if it doesn't make sense. I agree with dodging a bullet. Best.

Yes, with a provider and in other settings. Terrible thing.

Well said, and thank you for sharing this. Those words I quoted I found to be your most powerful words. I personally live and let live. That said, both sides of the coin do exist. Opportunistic young men trying to get older men's money are real, and are out there. Manipulators, hagglers and people who love taking advantage of the elderly do exist, and they are real. So I don't attack either side, those who are legitimately in love with each other in spite of age (or socioeconomic status), and those who are in it for what they can get. We are all living in the same planet.

I agree, yes. Sex is not viewed by many as anything healthy, leave alone making it legal to sell it. Unfortunately, this is where we are in the United States. I also don't believe for a second that the raid has anything to do with fighting illegal activity.