Holy Macaroni

As a client I’ve found that being a bit more of a mystery is a good thing.  Maybe I’m easy as I’m pretty vanilla.   Either there are going to be sparks, or there aren’t.  I think if I went in expecting exactly x, y and z to happen I’d ruin any spontaneity.

I once had a provider call me ugly in a roundabout way (it took me a moment to process cause I just couldn't belief he'd actually call me ugly to my face) but sure enough, he did. 🤣 He also asked me to drive him to his drug dealer and transfer a few thousands to his off-shore account (in my name so they couldn't trace it to him). But hey, he did buy me a cocktail at the hotel bar.

I have no clue what I just read

I happen to be an advocate against abuse towards men and boys in different parts of the world, and yes, there are certain concerns. A place like RM has had connection with people being in the business against their will, but it has been minimal. RM is monitored and supervised, and some other sites are also heavily monitored. Furthermore, some companies that run similar websites and other venues work in partnership with institutions such as ECPAT, which specializes in addressing the issue of exploitation of minors. Sadly, there isn't as strong of an infrastructure to protect those same children once they age out and become adults.
In my main profession, I actually designed training for healthcare providers to recognize signs of human trafficking in patients. Very difficult to do nowadays in times when everybody is ready to lynch whoever asks too many questions because they are "offensive", "intrusive", or "profiling". I know of other industries that provide such trainings, such as the airline industry.
Human trafficking also takes other forms, nut just sexual exploitation. Some men and boys are used for hard labor for no or very little money, with the threat of killing their families if they escape.
Now my experience: there is this one place in NYC where I received massages, and I noticed some things that just didn't look right, one of them being that the providers were showing certain underneath signs of submission or fear, even when they smiled. Additionally, the providers didn't speak a single word of English and were never the same; they had too many rotations.
I tried to do my own research, but I was discouraged because the place was already under investigations by the authorities, and suddenly it closed. What exactly happened, I do not know.
FrankR's list is right on point, though there are some signs that can be attributed to other factors. The one thing that I'd point is that adults are also trafficked and exploited, so the fact that the provider is a person of legal age does not imply that he could not be there against his will.
I know we come here for the fun part of the trade, but yes, there's is this nasty shadow that is, directly or indirectly, an effect of this not being a recognized profession.

I'm not sure that you, as a client, are in the position to figure this out unless it's so blatantly obvious that even a moron would know something is wrong.
For example, some escorts in the past worked for a well known agency (now defunct) which took a percentage of their fee in exchange for handling inquiries, making referrals, and scheduling appointments.  This was a voluntary arrangement from what I could tell (I never saw anyone suggest that these men were somehow coerced into working for the agency).  I never quite understood why that agency was so popular in its geographic area since I'd rather communicate directly with a provider and I don't know why a provider would want to give up part of his earnings for the services being offered by the agency, but it obviously worked for some guys.  This is entirely different than someone who meets a young homeless person, sets them up with their first appointment, and then controls their bookings and cash flow.
I once hired a guy with very limited English language skills, something I did not know until I showed up for my appointment with him.  Obviously someone else communicated with me in advance to arrange the appointment and didn't let me know they weren't actually the provider I was seeking to hire.  The appointment turned out alright and I'm pretty sure the guy wasn't being exploited/trafficked; he probably just had someone else handling bookings from him due to his language issues (not speaking English fluently in a country with mostly monolingual English speakers).

He had the nerves to text me a screenshot of my profile and called me out telling me that he cares about me and that he can't believe I'm doing it. I was in shocked. It shows that anonymity it's not a thing on the RM platform.
He's the second person I know that finds out and tell me (the other one was a gym buddy who also escorts but doesn't have a profile on RM).

Not you can, unfortunately. Not totally at least. 
Een if a person looks happy, or has no obvious physical signs of abuse, there is no guarantee that one isn't being trafficked. Not all traffickers or pimps necessarily abuse their escorts. 
Making prostitution legal alleviates this. Even in countries like the UK where it's semi-legal, this provides some legal cover. 

Tough question. I would be suspicious if:
1) the provider has someone that pulls the strings (communicates for him, collects a percentage etc)
2) the provider is living with the employer when you go to a massage parlour/spa (big red flag)
3) provider is too submissive and fearful of disappointing the customer or employer
4) provider does not have ID (younger than I thought and so I asked to check age) 
5) the provider appears to be living under the poverty line (clothing/shoes show age and wear, malnourished)
6) the provider shows obvious signs of physical abuse
7) the provider shows obvious signs of drug abuse (needle marks)
 
If you encounter 1 of these it may not necessarily mean anything, but when you observe more than one and your gut tells you so…you may be facing a case of human trafficking even if it is rather subjective. There is no way to be sure, other than asking personal and invasive questions. Best advice is to hire a known provider with reviews and a good reputation.🤓

If the escort explicitly says he is only interested in female clients, then I don't see it being worthwhile trying to convince him "bend the rules".
Best case, if you do convince him by promising to pay a big enough fee, would be you end up paying a premium for a lackluster experience.  There are plenty of guys advertising as bi or gay who will deliver a superior performance without paying extra.
 

One possibility is that they left the glowing review after their first appointment, and then subsequent appointments left the client feeling less than satisfied.  The only reason I raise this as a possibility is that I have had that happen to me but did not leave second, downgraded reviews because (in almost all cases) I couldn't really lay blame for my diminishing satisfaction solely on the providers. 

"ChatGPT, I want you to draw me like one of your French girls"

If the pics are AI generated then 100% profile is scam, I am wondering how these photos passed the verification of RM? I saw some profiles with verified photos but the pics are obviously AI generated or even like a cartoon. For those who don't know, you need to take a camera selfie photo with your name hand-written on a piece of paper for them to validate! 

I'm not sure how I feel about this.  I understand that the provider's time is worth consideration.  And, many a provider has been scammed or had their time wasted.
But, at the same time, the client is dealing with an unknown factor.  When booking an experience, a client doesn't want to end up feeling disappointed.  Many a client has been scammed.  They need to work through to make sure the provider is a good choice.
10 texts... hmmmm...  
I'm not sure how to quantify "serious" in this context.  Does it mean "if the client is booking" or "if the client is considering booking" or "if the client could be persuaded to book"?
I guess everyone has their own opinions.

I’m always serious when I inquire. This statement actually means “don’t contact me unless you will book me regardless.” 

As with so many of these questions there's no right answer and sometimes it’s about a providers preference, which of course should be respected, but the clients question also shouldn’t be seen as offensive.. My red flag is where when the response to such a neutral question results in anger or rudeness rather than a simple answer (I’d prefer no answer to rudeness).

Interesting flip to this.  I generally text asking if they have time today or tomorrow.  I started adding the tomorrow because I've had more than one scoff at same day availability. 
One guy told me he books at least a week if not 2 on advance.  
 
 

To repeat:  two months ago I asked about his rate and his general availability.  That is allowed. 
Assuming the beautiful man is still working, when my finances catch up, I will hire him.   
It's not like I fucking scheduled something and then flaked, or tried to negotiate a different rate, wise-ass.

It depends. A friend of mine did it and he found it led him into the wrong path of meeting people with bad intentions and into doing drugs. We talked about it and he told me he enjoyed the attention and the money but it took a toll on his health because of doing drugs. I helped him stop and now he is clean and has stopped escorting. 
I think it depends on your mental strength and your reasons for going into the work, and of course your age.
My friend was in his 20’s when he started and I think at that age you’re probably not mature enough to make sensible decisions. I started doing sex work when I was older and I think it helps to have some life experience otherwise doing sex work can eat you up. If you’re doing it to boost your self esteem then I think that can end badly because you keep needing a bigger hit if that makes sense. If you’re doing it because you enjoy meeting people and are interested in how they enjoy sex then that’s more likely to be sustainable. 
I’ve had only one bad experience with a client and I learned from that and from speaking with other sex workers about how to read signs and avoid bad situations. If you work professionally, with better quality clients and you keep it as only part of who you are then I think it’s a fabulous job. I love it.
I get to meet interesting people, make them happy, and I don’t have to sit at a desk or answer to a boss. Of course I still kiss ass….but it’s literally rather than metaphorically. Much more fun. 


 

Sometimes clients are a bit naive about rates, so the price comes as a surprise and then they say they can’t afford it. It’s just part of the business, I don’t mind them saying ‘sorry it’s more than I can / want to pay’ as long as they ask the price question early in the conversation. It’s very irritating when you agree a time / date and services etc and he asks ‘how much?’. I’ve assumed he’s read my website and has decided the price is fine…why get so far as to setting a time and the content etc only to decide you can’t afford it? 


 

this issue can largely be avoided by posting hourly rates on the various platforms designed for providers.  If a provider makes the choice to use social networking sites that prohibit provider ads, then don’t be surprised by the troublesome “clients” that come through on those platforms
 
not posting rates on RM, masseurfinder, etc is my pet peeve because it forces me to ask the question - and with recent price increases in major cities, it does make a difference in my decisions: $300 is a yes, $500 is a no.  I’m not a rate negotiator, but it seems like smart advertising to state clearly if rates are non-negotiable or if the provider is open to some sort of discount situation such as multiple hours, military, etc   
I feel like small subset of providers avoid posting hourly rates in the hope of engaging the client and then persuading/guilting them into a meeting.
why not just post the rates and make it clear ? I’d also suggest making it clear if the provider can host and a general description of the environment (downtown luxury hotel, etc).  The idea is to answer basic potential client questions and thus, avoid unnecessary interaction w the provider.  

That works for some, but not all private photos. It seems that the advertiser can specify whether he wants premium members to see the photos or whether everyone (including premium members) has to ask for a password.

I think you probably are. You won’t get him to respond to questions like that. He’s focused on your pleasure. Anyone doing this work with any degree of success will be able to give you the impression he’s also enjoying it, to the extent that you wouldn’t be able to tell whether that’s genuine or not. 
Also, one of the main reasons guys do this work is because being hired is a turn on in itself. Simply by you hiring him, and enjoying what he does for you is what gets him going. I know that’s the case for me, if a client is having a great time then that is exciting for me. The more my client is enjoying himself then the more I enjoy it. Clients ask ‘do you like x or y or whatever’ and the answer is ‘if it turns you on to do it then yes I like it’ (within reason of course!). 
So I think you’ll find it futile to ask what he likes, because you won’t get an answer. The best way to feel that he’s enjoying it is to relax and enjoy yourself. You’re the client after all. 
 

 

Okay cool. Thank you!

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Not trying to be difficult but I am puzzled by your post.  
Isn't making a deposit (money paid in advance of a meeting) equal to paying upfront?  
In both cases, the provider has your money prior to the two of you getting together.  

I guess I'm slime🤷🏻‍♂️