Lotus-eater

He has been around a long time. He called himself Surfer Cody back in the old massagem4m days. I had a massage from him in the late 2000’s and he presented as an affable, smoked-out surfer dude. Those pictures look like him though obviously aged. I recall the massage being decent. I never returned because I don’t like masseurs who are checked out and faded during a session. 

Thought this post may be helpful of those in search of a masseur in Palm Springs. These are provides I’ve hired since 2020 and present. These are just my experience so your session may not be that of the same as mine. PM me if you want more deets.
Dino:
Dino was also very present in my session. I know some folks had mentioned he was detached, but not for me. Lots of breath work during my session and things did heat up towards the end. Lots of MT and HE included. He’s a very handsome guy and his full body massage was very good also. Massage rate is more on the expensive side, but I would book again.
 
Tim:
Very good pressure full body massage. He was in his underwear until closer to the end where he whips it out and let you touch his very impressive piece and you get a HE. He’s a very nice guy and massage rate is very reasonable. 
Alejandro: 
Massage was meh. Movements and transitions weren’t synchronized. Nothing memorable to mention, but he is a very handsome guy. MT and HE included.  
Kris:
Massage was average, nothing memorable to mention. He is a very handsome guy and he tries to give you a good massage experience. MT and HE included.  
Frank:
Massage was full body and was quite good. He was going through something at the time I saw him so he cut the session short, but the good thing was he only charged me for half the session, which was what I had received. I would have rather he canceled the session and I would have been okay with it. MT and HE included and his massage rate is reasonable.  
Shawn:
Massage was full body deep tissue/swedish blend and very spa quality. He was very intuitive with finding all the knots. Shawn is completely therapeutic and he is in shorts the entire time. No MT/no HE. Massage rate is very reasonable for a therapeutic session. 
Stephen:
Massage was full body deep tissue blend and a very good one at that. He too was intuitive and was able to dig out the knots. Started off with him clothed and then as the session progressed, sensuality/erotic was incorporated. MT/HE included and his massage rates are very reasonable for what he offers. Great overall experience. 
Tarryl:
Massage is very deep tissue and I mean VERY!!! My feet are pretty sensitive so when he tackled them with the brute force of pressure, I had to let him know to dial back, which he listened and did. He’s completely therapeutic and wore shorts the entire session. His bulge did graze the back of my arms a bit during the session, which was a nice treat. No MT/no HE. Massage rate is reasonable.  

Maybe because Mom is not paying. I am. 

No tip. You don't tip people who set their own prices and keep 100% of the money.

The US is tip-crazy.
Tipping is supposed to be a thank you for services above and beyond the.standard.
Unfortunately like restaurants, masseurs in Spas are underpaid so your "tip" is much of their paycheck.
A private masseur will charge far more and doesn't need to give a cut to anyone else. So for very standard service no tip is required. Anything above and beyond:  the provider should be compensated with 20% to 25% depending on how far beyond the service went. Or round up to escort rates ($200 -$300) if sexual serviced were added to the session.
If I get a great massage and an exciting happy ending from someone who I am attracted to,  I will tip generously as a way of opening the conversation about the availability of additional escort services for the next meet.

Ensure mutual expectations on safe sex, drug use, behavior in public places, sexual dos and don'ts, and travel costs are conversations that happen BEFORE any meeting.

No. First of all, the communication problems makes it difficult to find out if they'll do what you want, or if they understand what they're getting into.
Second, I don't believe they have the experience and reliability to demand a full 300/hour (let alone more). They're new to the country ("influx"), and probably lack experience in SW. You don't start at the top of the ladder, and you don't charge that if you have 0 reviews.
According to providers in my area, Venezuelan refugees are primarily on Grindr and massively undercutting prices, but only through increased risk of a scam or bad session. I don't know if that's true, but that's what many of them believe, or at least tell their clients.

They're not allowed to turn tricks at the homeless shelter.

I agree with others on wrapping up and getting out of there. Good on you for writing a review.
It sounds like the OP scenario was for an escort. The following is in response to @KensingtonHomo’s comment regarding masseurs.
Regarding the BJ, it’s perfectly reasonable for anyone to charge you for sex work (and that is what it is). It doesn’t matter who is giving or receiving. It’s all the same.
Massage has an appropriate rate for it depending on your local market. If we had no boundaries on what we will do for a massage fee, every massage would essentially be underpriced sex work, or overpriced massage. We certainly have the latter available with the $200+/hr massage guys all over. The former you will find masseurs not charging extra but being picky about what they do with whom.
If you don’t want them to be picky, pay for the services you want. If what he quotes you is too much, pass. Don’t expect a masseur to give it all away for free to anyone who asks…for a reasonable massage fee. When he does, be a gracious client and tip him generously.
Giving the option for extras, in my book, is fine. Nobody is begging you to suck their dick as if you’re doing them a big favor. The service is about YOU and making YOU happy, whatever it looks like for YOU.
Big caveat here. Upselling is unprofessional. If you (client) are asking for extras and the masseur quotes you, no harm done. He has every right to say no or offer additional services for a fee. If he suggests or offers without any indication from you that you want extras, take it as a sign of unprofessional behavior and move on to better providers. Find them right here on CoM.

I've run into this more with massage than escorts. Some guys want to charge you to suck their dicks. LOL 

Miss Manners recommends never giving a why when declining an invitation; it just opens the conversation for debate about whether your excuse is valid. 

I get where you’re coming from, but off the top of my head…
Guys who are serious about the gym often like strict routines. It’s how they achieve amazing results. Some even see the gym as a job, it’s part of the work that enables them to be successful in everything else, including escorting. 
Maybe he has a trainer booked and can’t reschedule every time a possible client expresses interest. 
 
Or he has enough clients already, so doesn’t need to upset his routine to take an extra one. Not everyone wants to maximize.
 

Looks like there is ongoing “metoo” movement !
LOL 
 

Yesterday, I got my second Shingles shot (Shingrix), as my first was given to me the first week of October. The patient is supposed to wait at least two months between shots but no longer than six months (otherwise its ineffective), so I was right in the middle at three months. Since I turned 60 this year, and had chicken pox when I was 12, my PCP strongly recommended I get the Shingles vax.
Now I've heard so many horror stories about patients suffering from side-effects after the second dose (the pharmacist at Walgreens, where I went for both shots, explained in simple terms how the 'first vax' tries to fight off the second vax, not knowing they are working together).  
Here is a rundown of what some of the side effects are after the second shot (though not everyone suffers the same) : Nauseous, high fever, body aches, fatigue. According to the pharmacist, these usually kick in about 12 hours after you get the shot, and usually last about 12 - 24 hours. She recommended I pick up some chicken soup (enough for two days) at the Italian restaurant next door (I did) and take 2 Tylenol every eight hours over the first 24 hours, to keep the fever and aches away. Most importantly - hydrate! Drink plenty of water (I did).
Overall, I feel fine 24 hours after the shot. During the night, I got up to drink water every couple of hours (and go to the bathroom), and my lower back was a bit achy as were my legs. I got up this morning, took 2 more Tylenol and for the past few hours (sitting up watching TV, eating breakfast) the aches and pains went away.  I was never nauseous, I never had a fever - the Tylenol definitely helped. 
So if you're debating about the Shingles shot - and heard horror stories about the second shot  - I encourage you to put your fears aside and plan accordingly.  Hydrate, take plenty of Tylenol (to keep the aches and pains away), eat chicken soup and other proteins.  One thing which helped me was going for my shot this week while I was on vacation - this way I didn't need to take a sick day or personal time from my job. I recommend you plan to get it on a Friday (even before you go to work or on your lunch hour - your side effects will kick in 12 hours later), so you have Saturday to recuperate. Remember - you only need a Shingles vax once in your life - and you don't want to risk getting shingles (it's painful). 
I hope my sharing this experience helps those who have concerns. Everyone should be pro-active and get the Shingles shot if your 60 and older (some say 50 and older - ask your PCP). Feel free to ask me anything ! 
PS - Also on your list should be the annual flu shot, pneumonia (every five years) and TDAP (every 10). As for the COVID vax updates, that's up to you (my PCP has advised against it, so I have not been updating since 2021 - he believes we know have herd immunity).

Well, my friends that own a bar in Chicago sell them out of these for $10. They have to make a killing and everyone sees it. So…

It sounds like in this case the masseur takes the right approach by only scheduling appointments when the roommate is not home i.e. the functional equivalent of a dedicated space for the duration of the session. As long as nobody else is coming or going or present, that sounds fine to me. Also, he did the right thing by alerting you ahead of time. I agree, you should reschedule for a time that he has the privacy to offer you all the services you want, in an atmosphere you want.
A few of my workspace peeves:
Rule 1) no other people in/around your work space, or hanging around outside of it. The client shouldn’t encounter anyone besides a neighbor or doorman or stranger on the street or in a hall or lobby. Certainly not the masseur’s significant other, family, or friends.
Rule 2) no pets in/around your workspace. People have allergies and pets are distracting, even the most well behaved ones. Who wants a dog licking your feet or whimpering for attention in the next room or a masseur snapping their fingers or raising their voice to ask their cat to exit the room? Or worse, the pet jumps on the massage table. One of my clients told me he visited someone else and the masseur set out a glass of water for the client, upon request. The cat started lapping from the glass during the massage. I don’t blame the client for feeling weird about that.
Rule 3) provide a dedicated workspace
Rule 4) provide a sufficient buffer in between appointments so that clients will not cross paths on their way in/out.
These are just some of the problems with working out of the same place you live. If you live with other people, you must have a division of space that offers complete privacy, with a separate entrance and 100% dedicated bathroom. A client should never feel like their privacy is at risk or that they are being monitored.
One of my favorite masseurs worked out of his apartment and he had clients coming and going through his living room, which functioned as a waiting area. Appointments were back to back, no buffer, so you often saw his previous client leaving before you went in, and again in reverse on your way out. His partner lived separately at the time but was frequently in the living room too. So weird. It never bothered me, but I can’t imagine a lot of my clients would ever put up with that. Good thing his massage is so good. For him, I would have the appointment on the street in the middle of Times Square if it suited him. He is just that good. 

It wouldn’t bother me at all. But if it diminishes your experience then by all means reschedule. You are spending your money and you should be totally comfortable with the situation.  

^Behavior in real life.
 
^Truth. Recently I had a client from right here on CoM. He booked a 90 min massage. In person, he asked for more than massage, describing what he wanted (I so appreciate that btw) and we came to an agreement on the rate before starting. This is the right way to do it, unless you book everything explicitly ahead, which helps ensure I can plan better to offer exactly what you need.
I did my full back routine on him, and then before moving on to my arms routine, did some brief, playful erotic work that he was getting into and then he flipped over, unprompted. Since we didn’t get very far into the massage, I asked if he wanted to continue for a while longer, or switch to the bed for playtime. He chose the latter. We took our time.
After our activities concluded, we showered together. There was still 10-15 mins of his time remaining. I asked if he was satisfied with everything we had done, or if I can do anything else for him. The full time is his. I asked if he was satisfied with the massage time and he said yes. I was concerned because it was so short, but for some, the play is more important. As long as the client is satisfied, that’s all that matters to me.
Sometimes I go over, often close or right on time, and occasionally I go under as the natural flow of things take their course. The time doesn’t matter. Client satisfaction does.
Regarding the OP questions, there are no ugly clients. Just clients. We don’t care what you look like. Your money is just as good as the next guy’s. Hygiene you can control, so yes please respect yourself and your providers by taking care of that.
You never know what is going on with substance abuse. If you feel uncomfortable, cancel, or don’t see the provider again. It is not your responsibility to intervene or involve yourself. People with real substance abuse problems will get help when they decide to, not when someone says they should or calls emergency services.

lol. this site is rife with catty condescending comments and commentary regarding providers...

I posted a warning after being directly threatened by a provider who was high on drugs - other clients have left reviews on rentmen saying similar things about this provider-  I hadn't seen them as I had not used a VPN to view his RM profile.  (which also had outdated pics)
Nothing but calm and factual info - I presented everything in a factual perspective rather than an emotional one : despite the fact that I was threatened and swindled out of money and simply warning people to be careful. 
The OP thinks I should say nothing and just throw money and my safety away because the provider has drug issues, or other times has had to deal with bad clients - neither of those things are my responsibility.   Madness 
I treat ALL providers with respect. I am considerate, kind, punctual, clean and generally tip well. These basic curtseys were not returned. 
I agree with @secgoo that we in this community have an obligation to each other to alert each other for our safety, and I feel that anyone who reads the thread would agree. 
 
 
 
 
 

BEWARE
He seemed nice enough at the start however my experience was similar to this review (which can be viewed when using a VPN on RM site) wish I did that BEFORE I hired him this week)
Will only say this -
his pics are outdated ( he is clearly heavier now and has developed a bit of a belly) Once I went inside but it became soon clear he was high on drugs.   When it became obvious he couldn't perform, and I announced I should be leaving he became aggressive. Unless you want to pay to have someone high on drugs, sweating and waving their limp dick around demanding $400 in menacing way with broken English- AVOID AVOID AVOID. 
I paid and hurriedly left while he was yelling incoherently at me. 
Wish I could leave a review on RM but hopefully potential clients read this - Awful experience.

 

It would seem to be more useful to challenge posts you think are being unfair to providers directly in the thread where they were posted.  A vague post whinging about unspecific behavior is just an invitation to useless controversy.

Well, I suppose the objective of this site is to enable clients to provide commentary of providers.
This site is for clients primarily.
I would imagine (although I have zero evidence to support the theory) that we clients have a collection of providers that we hold dear. I know that I certainly do. I like to broadcast positive vibes about the providers that I like. I like to drum up new, fresh, reoccurring business for the guys I think favourable towards.
However, if there happens to be an encounter with a provider that I have felt particularly cautious or uncomfortable about, then I feel obligated to broadcast that to this community too. I try to do it in a factual perspective rather than an emotional one but I would most certainly broadcast every single detail of an interaction that was not a professional transaction between someone who is selling themselves as a business model and myself who is purchasing time with that person.
I understand that some providers are not actually in a great place mentally, emotionally or physically to be in this industry of client satisfaction, however, we *should* be alerting one another about providers like that.
Treat the providers with respect. Treat other clients on this site with respect. State factual reviews at will.
 

I go the full time. By that I mean once the client gets on the table and I start working, to the time their massage is finished. NOT:
Client going to the bathroom
showering
chit chat
paying
laying on the table for a while after, mind completely blown, and in quiet recovery
getting dressed
etc.
I plan buffers for these activities and to clean thoroughly before the next client arrives, and usually with enough to give myself at least a few minutes to respond to inquiries. For me, that’s at least 30 mins between one client ending their scheduled time and the next client’s scheduled time begins. The buffer allows me to go slightly over if necessary or offer the client a shower, and it gives me wiggle room to take a client early should they arrive more than 5-10 mins before their scheduled start time, or still get my current client done should they arrive late.
Clients showing up late I short on time, ending at their scheduled end time so as to respect the next client’s start time. When the next client is scheduled later, I accommodate the late client by starting and ending late. It’s all a matter of circumstances.
It boggles my mind why more of my peers don’t structure their appointments with reasonable buffers. It’s very important to me that each client gets their full time. It’s important to me when I get massages myself.
Honestly I have a hard time finishing my routine any faster than the scheduled time. Sometimes it ends right on time, often it runs over. But then again I am actually providing a real, skilled massage. A lot of guys in the industry are opportunistic rub-and-tug types with short term goal$.
I want my clients to return. I give them their full time, every time. Masseurs that don’t aren’t serious about their work, and they’re not working to develop long term clients. Skip the amateurs and unserious, pervasive though they may be. Go with experienced, consummate professionals.
Places like here are the best ways to find the good guys!
When a masseur massively shorts your time, please write a review stating the facts, both here and on whatever platform you found them on, like RentMasseur. It helps identify the bad actors and lead other clients toward the pros. Also, it motivates the bad guys to either a) improve their practice or b) exit the biz.

Some do. I let it be and never see them again after that session, reason being that I am naked and they are touching my body, so I don't feel in a good position (no pun intended) to argue or complain. I also give them bad reviews for that. It's a shady practice, and the appropriate time should be provided if agreed upon. The opposite is true too. I've had some providers who are not clock watchers and have given me extra time. And there are some who have given me exactly (sometimes feels like to the second) the expected time. It is a deal breaker if the provider steals time from me, especially if they make the assumption that because I "released" I'm done. The good ones continue and finish the time massaging, and some actually ask if I want to continue massaging.
I honestly think that those providers who try to cut the time short with clients are not great enterpreneurs. That affects their reputation and business, and even if they do it because they don't like a particular client, they get a bad reputation for it, even those who have a steady clientele should be respectful of their clients' allocated time.