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My hubby has violent dreams like this sometimes. Once I was downstairs and heard him calling out, and I could hear things being thrown around the room. He'd gotten out of bed and was clearing things off the side tables but was not awake. His bad dreams usually involve being chased or getting in a fight. The dogs have learned, and now sleep on my side of the bed!

The end of an era! ... and hopefully the beginning of a new one! I must give props to Ace for teaching me so much of what I know now. You know, flogging and stuff. Ace, you've been a great friend and colleague, and you sure as hell better not disappear on us entirely. It's always a bright spot to see you when visiting Palm Springs, and I look forward to hearing about your new endeavors. Meanwhile gents, book this man! You will not be disappointed... 😈

I met Nihal once, and my experience was consistent with @soberguy’s except he’d just moved to a house in SF. Very sexy guy and a good skilled massage. But the price is steep and has also prevented me from repeating. But if he’s visiting and it’s a one-off, sure I’d recommend him!

YES! I made that mistake once… never again.

If this were a vin diagram, I think there would be an overlap between preference and racism. Sure, people may just have a preference for what turns them on but would not otherwise be racist, but for others I think it's one of the same. It sounds like that was the case with the dancer. I agree you did the right thing to bail. But you could also have said something, even as simple as calmly saying "damn, that's really offensive." I think it's worth calling people out on their bs, but it can be hard in the moment if you are caught by surprise. I mean, who expects someone to say something like that? But don't let this ruin things for you or wreck the fantasy. There are jerks and there are good guys, so find the guys who are good through and through and stick with them.

The guy doesn't seem to understand boundaries. Such as: 1. Keep your porn and day job identities separate. Did he really need to disclose on Twitter that he's a judge? 2. If you're a civil servant, don't tweet crude epithets at councilmembers under your known identity - even if the councilmember deserves criticism. Being a public servant comes with some responsibilities, particularly if you're in a judicial capacity. This seems to be where it unraveled for him. Shouldn't this stuff be obvious?

I haven't been enough times to get a sense of any difference between Fridays and Saturdays. It seems more like it's either a good night or an "off" night, and you never know until you give it a try. The neighborhood is South of Market (SOMA), which is relatively safe but you still need to remember you're in an urban environment so take the usual precautions. On Fridays and Saturdays there are lots of people out and about going to bars and clubs, so it's active. I go there a lot, and lived there several years ago, and never had any problems. The biggest concern would be a car break-in, but that applies pretty much anywhere in the city. Just don't leave anything exposed that might attract attention, not even a phone charger cord. Sadly there is nothing like the Nob Hill anymore. That was the end of an era! Lots of bars have gogo dancers, but nothing nude like Nob Hill or Campus.

Yeah, I’ve been to a couple of the cumunion parties there, but not in a long time. I always enjoyed it. There’s a good selection of play spaces, and a nice range of guys.

It was indeed a feature on men4rentnow.com. I would respond to many of those client posts, but I don't think I ever once got hired from one. I'd get appointments from the regular channels where the client would contact me, but not when it was a client posting looking for a provider. Men4rentnow had a long, miserable decline. Terrible, dated user interface. Terrible customer service. I think it also became quite expensive at the end, which was counter to its awful UI. It pretty much put itself out of business. On rentmen it is really useful when clients include in their profile what they are looking for. I'm not sure if that's what @DrownedBoy is referring to, but it helps to get a sense of what they want. I check the client profiles of who contacts me, or asks to see my private pics, but very few have much on their profiles. I wish more guys would use that feature!

I’ve met Magic Mike for photographs, and found him to be very friendly and engaging. We didn’t get intimate so I can’t speak to that. I’m not sure if he hosts at his place but it’s very nice and you won’t have the experience you had with the other provider. Word of warning (or encouragement as the case may be!): Magic Mike’s tool is gigantic. One of the biggest I’ve ever seen in person!

Well he’d certainly be the benchmark by which all others would be measured!

From time to time I’ll check in on the forums on adonismale.com. Plus there’s lots of eye candy there.

The guy on the left I recognize from Chaturbate. His profile says he's in Colombia. https://chaturbate.com/mikey_sta/. His shows are sexy and he seems like a fun guy.

So far you're doing all the right things... you've posted your travel dates in your RM ad. I see you also posted a notice in the Traveling Providers section. One thing I've found when traveling vs. at home is I get more live phone calls when traveling. At home I usually don't pick those up, but when traveling I've found these are often guys who are ready to set up an appointment. They know you're in town for a fixed amount of time and they want to get down to business. So if you have a block of available time and someone calls, it's worth picking up the call. The other thing you could consider if you're wanting to establish yourself for future travel is signing up for a Rentmen sponsorship. I just tried it out for the first time last month and the number of guys checking out my listing has gone up significantly. Sure some are looky-loos, but others are for real and will remember you if you post a travel date in their city some time in the future. It's a hundred bucks but I think it's worth it. @Coolwave35 has a great idea with the Adonis nude party. Talk about great exposure to prospective clients!

I created a profile on Hunqz a while back, just to try it out. I wish Hunqz would get more traction in the US but for now it’s nothing but crickets.

Rentmen Basic: $29.95 if recurring, $35.95 if just a single month Rentmen Gold: $79.95 if recurring, $99.95 if just a single month Rentmen of the Day (if you can find an open spot - they're seldom available) $48.00 for Western or Eastern USA, $12.00 for Canada for 24 hours RentMen Sponsor: $99.00 + requires Gold membership for a total of $178.95 per month Interview of the Day: $24.00 Platinum Boost: $24.00 for 24 hours Rentmen Personal Banner/"Pornstar Special Ads" (eg Dario Owen): $350.00

Pay, yes. But verification of photos is optional.

Ha yes I just noticed that too! So yes, it’s been more than a while lol.

It’s been a while since I got verified but I’m recalling something about receiving a code, writing it on a piece of paper, and sending a selfie back with the code on the paper. The other day I was looking at a guy’s profile and one of his photos had him holding the paper with the code, and it brought it back to mind. Maybe the guy just can’t be bothered to jump through those hoops? Does he at least have any reviews?

All of my clients are over 40. A good number are in their 70s and 80s. No upper limit. When I’m deciding to unlock or decline, age is not a factor, but other aspects of the client’s profile are. Biggest red flag is if they’ve posted several negative reviews, or it could be something in their description. Is there any possibility that there is something else in your profile that might give a provider pause?

Lots of guys have underwear fetishes, but the specifics of the fetish is all over the map. Enthusiasm for "tighty whities" is very common, and perhaps closest to what you describe. When I was younger, the advertisements and department store catalogs for conventional underwear showed scenarios along the lines of what you describe, with guys just hanging around casually in their underwear. As a kid, I expected that that's what guys did together, like in the locker room. As an adult, I look back at those old advertisements and find them amusing, like really, guys just hanging around together in their underwear? Seriously? Nowadays underwear advertisements and photos are way more sexualized. And of course nowadays in the locker room guys change into their underwear under their towels 🙄 Maybe do a image search for those vintage underwear ads, you might like what you see.

Welcome to the forum! From a provider's experience, I can tell you that you are not alone. Lots of guys have a good sense of what they like, and what they don't like, and that's okay. It is not unusual for a client to tell me specifically what they like and what they don't like, and for guys I see regularly I know what's on the table and what's not. We're all wired a bit differently, and as others here have commented that wiring can change over time. But you're under no obligation to like what others like just because it is presented as a norm. So whether you're seeking a provider or a hookup, that kind of specific direction can be really helpful. Don't be shy about what you like, this is supposed to be fun.

Hey @12is12, to my knowledge there aren't any dancers participating in this website, so you're unlikely to get responses either here or in the strip clubs forum. There are escorts and masseurs here, and I know at least one is skilled in modern dance, but none that I know that are exotic dancers or do lap dancing. For whatever reason those guys don't frequent these parts! But there are guys here who know dancers, so if you ask your question maybe they would know, or could ask one of their dancer buddies.

I'd suggest proceeding as a bit of a mentor. You don't have to be over the top about it, but you can give him some gentle direction. The basics in setting up the appointment, and then during the appointment you may need to take the lead. Also negotiate the fee ahead of time, and if he waivers on that he may need some guidance. A lot of us probably have stories to tell similar to @Jamie21. I remember with my first client at the end of the session he told me I wasn't charging enough. I really didn't know my value, or how to present myself. I've benefited from having lots of good mentors along the way, ranging from clients to other escorts. Early on I hired an escort I was interested in to see how he set things up with the appointment, how he conducted the appointment, but also of course to get our rocks off. And for those who knew @Guy Fawkes, he was never shy about giving advice and relished serving as a mentor.

Sorry you're not getting responses. The two bars I'm familiar with are Hula's and Bacchus, both in Waikiki. Not sure what the gogo scene is like... last time I was in Honolulu was Summer 2021, things were still in Covid restriction mode, and I wasn't able to get into Hula's due to occupancy limits. Maybe put a post in the Travel Desk forum? You might get more general intel there.