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When I was a young pup just getting started I advertised in the back of the Bay Area Reporter, with a line ad. No pic at all! Those were different times for sure.

I've been the "dinner date" for guys a few times, where we've met with their friends but he did not disclose the nature of our relationship. We'd agree to a cover story. I don't think this is a hugely unusual scenario, probably happens more than one might imagine. I'll admit these situations can be a bit weird, particularly the deceptive part. I know for the clients, they honestly want me to meet people they're close to, and I enjoy meeting them for sure, but I also wonder what those people are thinking of who this person (me) is and where did I really come from. Perhaps I'm just the latest guy to sit at the table, part of a long line of others before and after me 😉 I don't think those critical here are being judgy as much as they're just focusing on what happens if the best friend buddy finds out he's been deceived. I know when I've discovered when a friend has deceived me, it's put a damper on the relationship. Could there be a scenario where the hiring was more out in the open, along the lines of the Big Bang Theory clip? Probably not, unless you guys are really good friends, and he wouldn't be put off by the idea of hiring a guy. Another thought... impress your friend by approaching a guy you like in the bar and saying hello. For me, it's taken years to get the guts to do that myself... kinda like jumping into the chilly swimming pool, don't think about it, just dive in and do it.

For what it’s worth, RM does indeed start some of their texts with “hey”. When my most recent sponsor placement expired I got a text that read “Hey, RentMen Sponsor has been completed. RM Media”. Some texts start with “Hello”. But I haven't been asked to provide any other documentation... yet 🤨

I did a video with him a while back. Loads of fun and a fantastic bod. Worth the trip to SJ.

Oh yes I forgot about that! Daddy carried the tradition on for a while too.

… and damn I miss Secrets! 😢

Moderator’s Note: This thread is supposed to be about whether there are places to go in DC that are still worthwhile now that the nude places are gone. Please stay on topic, thanks!

Since 2002 for me. 22 years! Fair to say this site and the folks here have been important to me.

Have a look at lodgeny.com. I haven’t been to any myself but I subscribe to their emails.

I prefer to buy my the tickets myself and get reimbursed. Sometimes the client sends the reimbursement in advance, other times I receive it when we meet. I've never had a problem getting reimbursed. As @BenjaminNicholas mentions, it's a leap of faith from both sides. It's worked for me just fine.

His Gofundme has now raised more than $200K towards a $300K goal. Nice work if you can get it! The squirrel was cute, so it's a shame it came to this. Not sure I'd want to keep a racoon as a pet though... sure they're cute, but also quite scary.

Yes, you can filter. First, click on the little round magnifying glass icon on rent.men or rentmen.eu and enter the city you want to search. Then, click on the little icon next to it that shows the three lines (see below). You can then filter by position, age, etc.

I agree it seems predatory to solicit day laborers for sex when they're out there looking for more conventional labor gigs. Sex work is not the same thing as hauling, landscaping, etc. It's a big leap, and gets into things like their sexual identity, family and marital status, etc. I'd expect if a guy was hired for a conventional labor gig and was interested in providing sexual services, he'd make it known, especially if he knows the client is gay. But otherwise it's too much of a leap. The other thing is I've found the guys tend to cluster together at the hiring sites. That's probably as much for their own safety more than anything. So it would be weird to go up to a group of guys to solicit. This just seems more like fantasy fodder.

Yes 🙂

Anyone shopping for condos in California nowadays will find this kind of HOA fee not too unusual, particularly for older complexes that are in need of major repairs just as a factor of the age of the buildings. Roofing, repairing degrading balconies and decks, water intrusion, replacing windows, repairing pools, not to mention maintaining the grounds. Also, the State is now requiring HOAs to carry larger reserves, so these higher fees are meant to build up the reserves rather than requiring people to shell out an assessment when big repairs are needed. On top of that, insurance costs have increased significantly. I'm told the costs are triple what they were just a few years ago. $1200 is definitely on the high end, but it's not unusual to find HOA fees in the range of $700-$900 per month on a 1970s or 1980s vintage condo. But with all that, factor the cost of maintaining a single family home of the same vintage. My husband and I own a house in SF and regularly need to shell out for repairs and maintenance. We just repainted the house this year, replaced the crumbling driveway, and now the sewer lateral needs replacing. $$$

When I was growing up in AZ we never heated the pool. It just got heated naturally as the weather got hotter. And yes, the aerators to cool the water!

I'm booked at InnDulge. Looking forward to joining the gang this time!

Same same same... I had let my ad expire for a bit. This month I decided to renew as I have some travel coming up, and got the same message that my Visa on file was no longer valid. Fortunately like @azdr0710 I had an old MC stashed away, so dusted it off and that went through. If I had to guess, I wouldn't be surprised if Visa was trying to do some housecleaning in the face of their legal issues. If they're already being accused of being monopolistic, they may be particularly concerned about any other business activities that might come under scrutiny.

I’ve wondered myself how the guys learn their moves. A suggestion is to check YouTube… there are tons of male stripper how-to videos there. At least that would be a place to start. Calling @Buff Daddy… any other suggestions?

As others have mentioned, it's mostly the provider's decision. The exceptions is where Rentmen's filters move an explicit pic to the private gallery. People will have different reasons for deciding what to put in the public gallery vs. premium or private galleries. Some will just put everything in the public gallery and not bother with the other galleries. Others might only show their face in their private gallery, or only their explicit photos there. For me, the photos I had in my public gallery were the ones I was OK having random people come across and browse, and I'd use the private gallery for the more explicit photos that I wanted someone to have at least a basic RM account to see. I'd provide access to pretty much anyone who wanted it, and it gave me a chance to say hello and thanks at the same time. The premium gallery feature was added a few years back, and I never really understood what the point was since there's also a private gallery. I think as suggested this was probably a pitch to help get more subscribers to pony up for premium. Over the years I haven't noticed much difference in whether someone with a basic account or premium account would end up booking. Right now I'm on hiatus so I only have one photo in my public gallery. I put all the rest in private, and people who had already been given access can still see those even though I let my profile expire. As shown in the screenshot below, providers are also required to have a "G-Rated Main Photo." RM says that's for areas where there are restrictions on what can be shown in the basic profile photo. The screenshot also shows RM's rules for photos.

As a provider, I tell my husband about each appointment and where I'm going. Part of this is for safety, and part of it is just communicating to him what I'm up to. He used to be a provider himself so he gets it. At the end of the appointment I text him to let him know I'm on my way home, and if he doesn't hear from me he'll send a text to see if everything is OK. Fortunately I've never had something happen like what @Vin Marco describes. Yikes!

Fixed!

It’s about time for a remake…! Channing Tatum, now that’ll get me feeling nice and tingly, among other things.

Actually, it was only ONE poster who instigated this, and everyone else rose to this hunk's defense. I'm not going to honor the critic by naming them here, but it was truly trollish behavior. Personally, I'd kill to have an ass like yours @Evin Alexsander, not to mention the other goods. For me, no amount of squats will ever get me there! Some people are just gifted in all the right places. 😛

Thanks for sharing your experience, and welcome to the forum!