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It’s been a while since I got verified but I’m recalling something about receiving a code, writing it on a piece of paper, and sending a selfie back with the code on the paper. The other day I was looking at a guy’s profile and one of his photos had him holding the paper with the code, and it brought it back to mind. Maybe the guy just can’t be bothered to jump through those hoops? Does he at least have any reviews?

All of my clients are over 40. A good number are in their 70s and 80s. No upper limit. When I’m deciding to unlock or decline, age is not a factor, but other aspects of the client’s profile are. Biggest red flag is if they’ve posted several negative reviews, or it could be something in their description. Is there any possibility that there is something else in your profile that might give a provider pause?

Lots of guys have underwear fetishes, but the specifics of the fetish is all over the map. Enthusiasm for "tighty whities" is very common, and perhaps closest to what you describe. When I was younger, the advertisements and department store catalogs for conventional underwear showed scenarios along the lines of what you describe, with guys just hanging around casually in their underwear. As a kid, I expected that that's what guys did together, like in the locker room. As an adult, I look back at those old advertisements and find them amusing, like really, guys just hanging around together in their underwear? Seriously? Nowadays underwear advertisements and photos are way more sexualized. And of course nowadays in the locker room guys change into their underwear under their towels 🙄 Maybe do a image search for those vintage underwear ads, you might like what you see.

Welcome to the forum! From a provider's experience, I can tell you that you are not alone. Lots of guys have a good sense of what they like, and what they don't like, and that's okay. It is not unusual for a client to tell me specifically what they like and what they don't like, and for guys I see regularly I know what's on the table and what's not. We're all wired a bit differently, and as others here have commented that wiring can change over time. But you're under no obligation to like what others like just because it is presented as a norm. So whether you're seeking a provider or a hookup, that kind of specific direction can be really helpful. Don't be shy about what you like, this is supposed to be fun.

Hey @12is12, to my knowledge there aren't any dancers participating in this website, so you're unlikely to get responses either here or in the strip clubs forum. There are escorts and masseurs here, and I know at least one is skilled in modern dance, but none that I know that are exotic dancers or do lap dancing. For whatever reason those guys don't frequent these parts! But there are guys here who know dancers, so if you ask your question maybe they would know, or could ask one of their dancer buddies.

I'd suggest proceeding as a bit of a mentor. You don't have to be over the top about it, but you can give him some gentle direction. The basics in setting up the appointment, and then during the appointment you may need to take the lead. Also negotiate the fee ahead of time, and if he waivers on that he may need some guidance. A lot of us probably have stories to tell similar to @Jamie21. I remember with my first client at the end of the session he told me I wasn't charging enough. I really didn't know my value, or how to present myself. I've benefited from having lots of good mentors along the way, ranging from clients to other escorts. Early on I hired an escort I was interested in to see how he set things up with the appointment, how he conducted the appointment, but also of course to get our rocks off. And for those who knew @Guy Fawkes, he was never shy about giving advice and relished serving as a mentor.

Sorry you're not getting responses. The two bars I'm familiar with are Hula's and Bacchus, both in Waikiki. Not sure what the gogo scene is like... last time I was in Honolulu was Summer 2021, things were still in Covid restriction mode, and I wasn't able to get into Hula's due to occupancy limits. Maybe put a post in the Travel Desk forum? You might get more general intel there.

Also in the 90s was that iconic Samsung microwave ad: I recall it caused quite a stir at the time, and arguably put Samsung on the map as a "cool" brand.

I've noticed the same. Chaturbate is requiring performers to update their age verification, and they're using an AI biometric age-verification tool. You upload the front and back of your government ID through your device's camera, then an oval pops up and you center your face into the bubble. The AI then analyzes your face. Interestingly, the day after I verified my age with Chaturbate, I reserved a rental car with Sixt rental car. I got an email that invited me to "save time at pickup, verify your driver's license." I thought that sounded appealing, so I logged on, and found they are using the same type of process as Chaturbate, with the photo of the ID and the facial biometric scan. I'm guessing this is an implementation of the EU Digital Services Act. Here's some info: https://ec.europa.eu/commission/presscorner/detail/en/IP_22_6906 Sure, I can see this for porn sites, but why the rental car? Oh yeah, you need to be 25 to rent a car. Sixt is a German company, and the Digital Services Act is not specific to porn. As the article says, the DSA applies to all digital services that connect consumers to goods, services, or content.

I've had a couple of times as a client where I've gone to see a provider and he's only provided me with the building address. In both cases they said they don't like to give out the apartment number in case the client finds their way into the building, goes looking for the unit, and talks to neighbors or the security folks. For someone you've never met, you just don't know what they might do or say. So it may be discretion more than anything. In one instance he was waiting for me in front of the building when I arrived, which I liked because then I knew I was at the right place.

Lol that reminds me of a similar instance. A client told me he was staying at the Marriott and gave me the room number. At the appointed hour I went to the hotel and went up to the right floor, but the room number he provided me did not exist. In fact, the numbering system was entirely different! At first I thought I'd been played, but then realizing the room numbering system was different it dawned on me that I might be at the wrong hotel. Sure enough, there was a new Marriott a few blocks away that I did not know existed. Fortunately it was not too far away, and we had a good laugh about it.

Folks, play nice or leave the room. Thank you.

I'm OK using the RM chat feature. My only issue with it is that it is inconsistent in sending me a notification that there is a message. Sometimes I get a notification, sometimes I don't. I log into RM maybe twice or three times a day, so if someone leaves a message through the chat I may not see it for several hours, whereas if they send a text or go through Whatsapp I'll get the notification right away.

Personally I found the story interesting, even if it did take a long while to get to the point. It kinda reminds me of those old Paul Harvey "The Rest of the Story" shows.

Don't beat yourself up over this, it was your first experience hiring. You've learned what you like and the next experience should be better. You had mentioned that you had told him that you wanted to face fuck him, then fuck him, so he may have thought you wanted him to be relatively passive. That doesn't explain his lousy post-coital bedside manner however. But for what it's worth, with some clients after they've come, they're getting dressed and heading out the door, so maybe he'd expected that until you indicated otherwise. Or on the other hand, he could have just been a lousy lay. I wouldn't get hung up on the racial angle, as I'd expect this has more to do with expectations (which changed during the session), and chemistry. But also if you're in the midst of a session and then you think to yourself of something you'd enjoy more, definitely let the escort know. Like, "hmmm, this isn't really doing what I had thought it would... let's just make out instead." But if you're worried, look for statements like "I welcome the full range of ages, races, ethnicities, and body types" (which is in my profile). You might also want to suggest a 90-minute session. For me, that's a great amount of time since it's less rushed than 60 minutes, but can still be kind to the budget and schedule. Let it be known you want to talk and get to know each other first, even for just 15 or 20 minutes. I've had some clients say they want to chat beforehand, and even ask if they can bring along a beverage, or meet in the hotel bar. Live and learn... it may have been an expensive lesson, but consider it an investment towards enjoying future sessions!

Thanks @BeamerBikes. I just moved it to the FAQ section, which should allow it to be updated. I believe it’s only the threads in the FAQ section that are able to be updated. Please give it a try and let us know.

I really like her perspective on things. And as a somewhat mature escort myself, I can fully relate! I'm glad she could live life on her own terms, even if her family didn't appreciate it.

I sleep naked, whether with someone or alone. However a few years ago I wanted to get a pair of traditional pajamas. I wanted to have a pair just for the sake of it, and also thought it would be fun to have for a photoshoot... going for that dad look. I got a pair of plaid flannel pjs at Target, which it turns out I never wear. If it gets really cold, I'll just put on a pair of gray sweatpants or sweatshorts and either a t-shirt or sweatshirt.

I’m not sure that would scare away the scammers. I’d think they’d just change their approach, if they bother to pay attention to that kind of detail at all. Meanwhile you’ll offend or hurt legit Asian Grindr guys who are just wanting to meet up for real and have nothing to do with the scam. Your choice of course, and I’m not trying to be PC, just I find those race filters to be pretty mean regardless of which races they target. That’s a whole other discussion of course!

Oh yes, how could I forget? My parents had that book in their bedside table too. My older sisters and I discovered it, and went through the pictures. "Look, they're making a baby!" we'd exclaim. Somehow the gist of the book escaped us, but it also hinted that adults did things behind closed doors that we didn't totally understand. The other thing we noticed in the Joy of Sex was the styling of the models. They were drawings, but realistic. The man had long hair and a beard, and the women had hairy armpits. "Ew, they look like hippies!" Of course now I find men with long hair and beards attractive, so go figure.

I recall my dad sitting me down for "the talk" but can't remember anything about what he said. By then we'd already had sex education at school, so I told him that and our talk was very short. The sex ed was in 6th grade and was the typical things of boys in one room, girls in the other. We boys were shown a dated film that went over the various things that would be changing. I remember a diagram of a man that mentioned that hair would be sprouting in various places, and then little circles popped up around the pubes and arm pits. Afterwards, we talked about it on the playground. The part about nighttime emissions sort of scared me, and I remembered telling a friend I hope it just comes out when I'm peeing instead. Clearly the film didn't do a 100% job of explaining things! As a teen, one day I was with mom walking our dog, and we saw a couple of duck mating. The male duck jumped on the female, bang bang bang and then it was over in probably ten seconds. My mom said to me, "you'll want to take more time than that."

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. I’m thankful to be part of this community!

Slap on the ass, sure that can be fun. Slap on the face, hell no.

I agree with you, an appointment is not booked until a date, time and place have been confirmed. Recently I was traveling and there were a couple of clients in your position of not having full control of their schedules. Both told me they'd understand if I would be making other arrangements given their inability to commit to a date and time. I thought that was fine. In the end I was able to accommodate one once his schedule stabilized, but not the other. It can be difficult for the providers when prospective clients are not able to confirm, but it also goes with the territory. This is true of any service trade, or sales for that matter - the deal isn't sealed until it's fully confirmed. If someone can't deal with that, they should find another line of work that offers a predictable salary. Your policy for paying for canceled appointments is very respectable btw.

Lol I’m glad I wasn’t the only one to be clueless! Perhaps there needs to be an instructional manual for newbies. Or in modern practice, instructional videos.