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From time to time I'll do a broadcast on Chaturbate for fun. As the names of viewers scrolls down, I see there are a lot of women's names. But are they really women, or are they guys pretending to be women? Many of the names seem suspect, names like Candi, Ashlee, Cheri, etc. But then again my own username is pretty silly too. Just curious, does anyone know of women who watch cams like Chaturbate? Or is it all make-believe? Or maybe they're trans women? Doesn't matter to me one way or the other, just wondering.

You made it into the Hyatt? That's great! I was too slow to register this year so will be staying up the street at The George. Staying at the Hyatt is really fun. We haven't posted on this in a while but planning some Forum get togethers that weekend. I'm not sure how many people will be coming this year, but I'll be there and welcome meeting up with others!

I stayed at Santiago in 2019, and had it booked for 2020 until it had to be canceled. I really liked it. The grounds are beautiful, the rooms are really nice, and the staff was very friendly and helpful. Guests were friendly for the most part, and action was to be found if you were looking for it. This year I stayed at InnDulge because I wanted to be around other Forum members. I found that more fun, as I felt a bit alone at Santiago. Sure I met people there, but it's not the same as having people you know staying at the same resort. If others are interested in Santiago I'd be game! In any case, I'd recommend it.

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Right now the vaccination restrictions are on the local and county levels. Yesterday San Francisco's vaccine requirements became effective, which requires proof of vaccination for entering indoor bars, restaurants, gyms, and other crowded places. I went to my gym yesterday and had to show my vaccination card, and they entered it into their system so I only have to show it once. Interestingly, I received a notice from the gym earlier that said proof of vaccination would be required for all of their Northern California locations, not just SF where it's required by the local order. I'm guessing other businesses may go this route, either because it's easier to implement across the board rather than have a patchwork, or maybe they expect orders like this to expand to other areas in the future. It might also be a way to get customers back... I've noticed a drop in attendance at the gym, and at bars since the delta variant has taken hold and people have had to return to masking. I'll admit when I went to the gym yesterday I liked the idea that everyone in there was vaccinated (at least among customers... employees have an additional month to comply). So as much as it may seem the vaccine requirements might drive some customers away, conversely it might attract others to come back. But of course the vaccine cards are easy to forge. There has already been a booming cottage industry among college students, as many colleges and universities are requiring proof of vaccination to be on campus. It's just a piece of cardstock after all, and a blank card could be easily produced using a simple laser printer and card stock. However a forged card would not be able to be matched against a database.

I think this has a lot to do with what's going on. I've been involved with an OF group that has a bunch of guys doing naked yoga for the OF page. This week, the guy running the group reported that the page was deactivated until they provide for each and every model appearing on the page (1) a photo ID, (2) a signed release form, and (3) a photo of the model holding the ID and release form. OF also gave them language that they need to include on the release form. To me, this seems like the kind of stuff we've become accustomed to since FOSTA-SESTA, and would suggest a need for better record-keeping for OF to keep itself out of trouble. I'm sure the credit and bank issues are real as well, so they're being pinched from multiple directions. But it seems more palatable to blame the changes on the requirements of the creditors, rather than issues with consent documentation.

In addition to @Juan Vancouver, I liked @FrancoDiSantisxxx from the early days. Franco was here for just a few years, but at the time I was just starting escorting and I really appreciated his insights.

Ack! I'm not trying to be politically correct here, but this is just wrong. It's along the lines of saying that all short men suffer from the Napoleon Complex. These stereotypes are inaccurate and really damaging. I've worked for many women, including my current job. I've also worked for many men. Of all of them, some have been great managers and leaders, and some have been not as great. But no relation to gender. I like my current boss, and while she is tough, that is her job as director. She is also fair and ethical, and she has our backs. She is part of the reason I have stayed in the job as long as I have. My last supervisor was indeed fastidious and territorial to work with, so I know what that's like. He was a gay man. Take that for what it's worth. I would not attribute his qualities to other gay men; it was just him. But to answer your question, yes I've worked with lesbians on a number of occasions including currently. The HR director for my organization is a lesbian, and we get along very well. A few years ago I was on an interview panel, and my gaydar pinged on one of the women being interviewed. She reminded me of lesbian women I knew, and in her resume there was mention of playing on a women's softball team (and you know what that means, right?!?). But what was important was that she rocked the interview, and had the best skill sets of all of the interviewees. The panel was unanimous in choosing her. She has been an outstanding employee and is still with the organization. I never found out whether or not she is a lesbian; it doesn't and shouldn't matter. I am sympathetic to your concerns, as working with a difficult employee can be awful. I've had my share, and know how toxic it can be and how hard it can be to dismiss a troublesome individual. But of the difficult individuals I've worked with, there has been no pattern regarding gender, race, or sexuality. Jerks come in all stripes. A better approach to sussing out how someone might fit into the team is to check the references. While here in California and the US there are restrictions to what a past employer can say about a former employee, you can usually get a sense. That's at least a better approach than making judgements based on appearance or past experiences with others.

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I could see shaving off years (or alternatively, adding years) to reflect how the escort looks. I used to shave years off the age in my ads because clients would tell me I looked younger than my age. I don't think they were just trying to flatter, since people in my family all tend to look younger than their ages. So I wanted the age in the ad to reflect what people might think based on my appearance, rather than wishful thinking or delusion. I know another guy who did the opposite, adding years to his age because he looked older and wanted to appeal to guys wanting someone older. This year I finally put my age as 50. I don't know whether or not I look 50, but I'm enjoying being in my 50s and wanted to reflect that in my ad. Also the idea of a guy escorting in his 50s is intriguing to me. Time to own being a daddy!

I think this is an interesting thought. I have a friend whose adorable, friendly pit bull mix has been stolen twice. We presume it was to have it show up in a dog fight. We put up a reward and got the dog back, both times. Perhaps the Rottweiler that was dumped at your house was too friendly or timid to be a good fighting dog. I think chips can only be checked at an animal control facility. I was at the vet last week and someone showed up with a friendly, well cared for pit bull that they had found running around a shopping center, and the vet said they were not authorized or did not have the means to check or read a chip. They directed them to take the dog to the SPCA to check for a chip. The other thought, which might not be practical given your travel schedule, would be to foster the dog for a period of time until a permanent home can be found. We've rescued a couple of dogs, and each time we cared for the dog for 4-6 weeks before a permanent home was found. It might be that the rescues are not in the position to take and care for the dog themselves, but if you were able to foster the dog for a time they might be able to find a permanent home for it after some time. You may have already found this link, but just in case: https://rottweiler.rescueme.org

I swim a lot, and admit I love to wear speedos. I have a whole collection of them, which my husband finds very amusing. I chuckle a bit when I see guys swimming laps in trunks or board shorts, but can understand if not everyone wants to wear a brief. The other legit options for swimming are jammers (long, almost to the knee) or square cuts (Speedo calls them "aquashorts"). I wear each depending on the pool and the weather. Some guys look better in one type compared to another, or find some styles more comfortable than others. Speedo.com has a great selection of all styles. So many to chose from... too many to choose from. Which is why I have amassed so many!

I was wondering this too, so did a quick Google search to try to get some background. According to this, the academy is a four-year program with 4,000 students. It is also selective: according to the article, police work in Egypt is a popular career, and the police academy attracts many more students than it can handle. So my guess is the guys in the parade have been selected as the cream-of-the-crop, from an already-selective group of men. I'm also guessing it's probably a big deal to be selected to be in the parade, sort of like making it into a pageant but way more butch.

I was in the Castro today, and with it being a warm sunny day it was very active. Though the City is still not what it was pre-Covid, it seems to be bouncing back pretty definitively as everyone has had cabin fever. Plus the parklets (impromptu dining areas in the parking spaces) are fun and creative, and are being well utilized. Though it's warm today, that could change tomorrow if the fog rolls in. Be sure to bring some layers, as weather can get chilly and windy in the summer. Hoodies are great to have along with you. A museum experience that is fun and a bit offbeat is to go to "NightLife" at the California Academy of Sciences on Thursday nights. It's just for adults (21 and over), bars are set up around the museum, and there is music and cool light displays. You get the run of the place, and can bring your cocktail with you as you check out the exhibits. You need to make reservations, and right now it's only every couple of weeks, so check your calendar and make reservations if it would fit with your trip: https://www.calacademy.org/nightlife

I hadn't noticed that those are bathrooms facing the floor-to-ceiling glass... (I'm a bit slow to pick up on things sometimes). Well that's exciting! I suppose the guy on the lower floor could do a naked chef thing, just to keep up with the neighbors above.

These could be marketed as “view condos.” View of what is tbd however!

Nice job! Looks great. Thanks for all your hard work on this @RadioRob

It's not just you... shorter shorts at the gym (and outside of the gym) have definitely become a trend. I have a couple of short gym shorts myself that are designed to be worn commando. Oddly perhaps, it goes in parallel with guys wearing shorts over compression pants, which creates a lot of coverage. So cover up or strip down, your choice!

Steam rooms will be allowed to open starting tomorrow. Time will tell what it’s like. So far the Market Street location has been very quiet, operating way below capacity, but that‘s probably because so many of the offices downtown are still closed. I haven’t been back to the Pine Street location yet.

I've escorted off and on for more than 20 years. When I started I was at the upper age range of twink/twunk, and now I'm firmly in the Daddy category. When I was younger, I'd say 90% of the time the client wanted me to bottom. Now being older, it's completely flipped so that I am the top nearly every time. Perhaps those who have chimed in who like twinks can let us know if they prefer the escort to be bottom or top. For staying hard, there is no shame in using Viagra or similar. As a professional, your job is to show up ready to go, and doing what you need to so that you're hard is part of being professional and showing consideration for your client. You want him to have a good time, and if you're confident your dick will stay hard it will allow you to have a good time too.

There have been questions about whether there will be the annual gathering in Washington DC next January over MLK weekend. Though it's many months away, I thought I'd start a new thread with the info so people can start planning ahead. So first off, yes it will be happening. I'm committed to making sure it happens, and thank those who have offered assistance. Thanks in particular to @Keenan for getting the ball rolling in this earlier thread. As with past DC gatherings, the weekend will span the MLK weekend, and coincide with Mid Atlantic Leather (MAL). There wasn’t one this past January because it coincided with the inaugural, and also covid. But assuming we’ve turned the corner with covid by January, we’ll be back in 2022. For those of you who may not be interested in MAL or the leather scene, not to worry! Traditionally the DC gathering has coincided with MAL because it's a long weekend and many of us are in town, but the forum gathering is otherwise independent of the leather activities and is welcoming to all forum members. You may choose to sample some of the MAL activities, or go "whole-hog", or alternatively forgo them completely. That's up to you. The Events We’ve followed a familiar script for the events over the years. However we’d be interested in people’s thoughts about possibly switching some things around, and finding a replacement for the strip-club evening. Welcome Happy Hour – Friday early evening – Cocktail Hour at or near MAL. This is an informal kickoff to the weekend, dovetailing with MAL. Great for those attending MAL, or who may just be curious in checking out the scene. Leather and uniforms are welcome but not necessary; jeans and t-shirts are totally fine, or you could right from the office in your suit (for those who appreciate men in suits!). For those who want to stick around and eat, we’ll also reserve a table at the hotel so we can saunter over and get some food while enjoying the eye candy. Weekend Happy Hour– A couple of years ago we added an informal get-together at a gay sports bar in the Dupont Circle Area on Saturday afternoon. It’s a change of scenery and has been fun. This will be either Saturday or Sunday afternoon, depending on the brunch. The Brunch – This has been the main event, and has traditionally been on Sunday. However Keenan made a good point that it coincides with the MAL contest, as well as the MAL brunch. Maybe we try it on Saturday for a change? If we did that, we’d swap it with the Saturday sports bar happy hour, which would then move to Sunday. It would allow people to meet each other at the brunch earlier in the weekend, and still have a chance to get together the next afternoon. Strip Club? – One of my favorite events of the weekend had been the visit to the all-nude Secrets bar on Saturday night. But alas, Secrets is no more. Any new strip clubs or gogo bars to check out? I've been monitoring the Strip Club forum... The Poll So how about this idea of having the brunch on Saturday, instead of Sunday? Let us know what you prefer with this surveymonkey poll: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/K2PF3DM We’re looking at either having the sports bar happy hour on Saturday and the brunch on Sunday, or vice versa. Don’t care? That’s an option too! Accommodations Generally speaking, DC within “The District” (i.e., DC proper) is easy to get around on foot, Metro, cab/rideshare. The weekend’s events will be mostly in the Dupont Circle area or at the Hyatt Capitol Hill (walking distance to Union Station), so anywhere near or between those locations will be convenient. Rooms at the MAL host hotel are already sold out, and they’re also sold out at the hotel across the street. But they still have arrangements at some of the neighboring hotels. Here is the link to the reservations page: http://www.leatherweekend.com/hotel/ There are several other hotels in the immediate vicinity of the Hyatt, within walking distance, that are not affiliated with MAL. However just as many forum members are likely to be staying at other DC locations, including the Dupont Circle area. If you have a question about a particular hotel you’re considering, post the question in this thread and you’re likely to receive feedback. Interest List If you're interested in attending, please send me a direct message and I’ll add you to the interest list. Be sure to include an email address, as the final itinerary will be sent by email, not PM. I won’t share your email address with anyone. If you've already contacted me and I've replied back to you, you're on the list. Questions and Suggestions If you have general questions or suggestions for the gathering, please add a reply to this thread or send me a PM. There is plenty of time to plan things so interested in suggestions.

It's made us closer too. Perhaps TOO close... we like spending time with each other, and as I've started going back to the office on occasion I feel a little bad leaving him at home. And to think I used to go to the office every day! Codependent, yes.

He’s sex on a stick!

... and @Lucky’s spouse is quite handsome too. Did I already say that? ?

Embarrassing mistake, sorry about that guys! I wish I was still sitting next to the pool... ?