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So back to the original post asking about Doxy PEP. Yes, it's been around for a while, but I think awareness has been increasing lately. A friend of mine mentioned it to me a few months ago, and the last time I saw my doc he suggested it before I asked about it. This was when I was doing my quarterly bloodwork and STI check, so it made sense that he'd suggest it in that context. I also had the concern about the potential for mass long term use of various antibiotics may accelerate the development and spread of antibiotic resistant strains of STIs. Doc said he is not too concerned given the relatively low dosages of the antibiotic, and provided they are taken as advised (just after sex). Take that for what you will... maybe the doc is a shill for the pharmaceuticals, but I know he also keeps up with the medical journals so I trust his judgement. I'm not obsessing over or wanting to argue over statistics; instead my thoughts are if Doxy PEP can prevent or lessen the transmission of STIs, that's something I'm interested in.

Though the question is directed at clients, I'll echo the request from clients to not wear antiperspirant. This is probably the most common request I get from clients, so nowadays before an appointment I'll shower so I'm clean, but don't apply antiperspirant or cologne. Some clients request smelling stinky, but most just want clean but not scented.

I guess this would depend on what the shirt and tie look like. Are they standard office wear, or something sexier? A shirt and tie can look hot and sexy, but can also look boring depending on the specifics. I work in an office during the day, and there are days where my attire would be in the realm of "boring." It's an office job after all, and in some instances it's appropriate to just fly under the radar. On those days, I would not want to show up to see a client wearing my respectable but unexciting work attire so I'll at least have a change of shirt in the car. But there is some leeway at my office, so on some days I'll wear a tighter shirt, or tighter pants, that can go from office to client appointment with just unbuttoning an extra button on the shirt. Here on the west coast, guys aren't wearing ties very much anymore, so I wouldn't wear one to meet a client unless requested. But wearing a blazer over an unbuttoned dress shirt or t-shirt is a common "dress casual" look and can work in most circumstances like a hotel lobby. I'll wear a blazer or wear a nice dress shirt if we're going to dinner, but otherwise I'll usually just wear a hoodie over a tank top with a good pair of jeans.

I'll agree with the others, the one way to find out is to give it a go. And as others have mentioned, this shouldn't be "I love sex so much, I should get paid for it." (i.e., monetizing your sex life). You would be providing a service, so you want to think of what value you are offering for the money. Some guys will get off on the idea of fucking a straight bud, so that could be your angle. Also how well this works will depend on where you are and what the market demand is... I'm a bit bearish myself, and while I do really well in some locations I get no luck in others. So how about those nasty fetishes? Care to share? Maybe some of that can be part of your pitch too.

Thanks for the report. It sounds like fun!

btw, for those of you interested in the Buff Daddy and Adonis events, don't forget to check out the Male Strip Clubs forum! @Buff Daddy does a great job with updates there, and there's lots of fun discussion.

I'll ditto the ditto! I follow his OF and am really impressed by how diligent and professional he is in how he manages it. He seems really friendly and genuine, and of course hot as fuck.

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Great to hear back from you. As others have mentioned we enjoyed your posts back then, and it would be great to have you participating here again.

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I tried Hunqz for a while, hoping to find an alternative or supplement to RM. But nothing but crickets… not much activity there in the US. Too bad since it looks like a decent site overall.

RM has an option in the privacy settings that can be toggled so that a profile does not come up in searches. I'm just guessing that that's what he might be doing. It's useful for providers who want to keep an active profile but are not looking for lots of new clients, and/or work on more of a referral basis.

Lol he is indeed sexy, even if he is misinformed.

… and yet new stores that are being opened are not covered in the news. Just the closures, only the bad news. We locals are bewildered by all this negative national coverage. Yes there are problems but the media is going out of its way to paint a dire picture, and it just ain’t so. It is not dangerous here, and the vast majority of the city looks great. Westfield is offloading all of their US properties in the next year, but it’s San Francisco Centre that makes the news. I guess reporting on Westfield turning its malls back to the lenders in places like Tampa Bay doesn’t fit the narrative.

That is simply preposterous.

I’m curious, what’s involved in hiring a female escort? This is just out of curiosity more than anything, but might also highlight how things might be different with a guy. I’m guessing that there may be female providers out where you live, but probably not a lot of male providers. The guys tend to concentrate in the cities, at least in my experience, and don’t tend to be located in the ‘burbs. My suggestion along the lines that others have suggested is to travel to NYC to meet a guy you’re interested in, and if you hit it off you can invite him out to see you at your place the next time. Another thought is to describe what you want in your RM profile, including BFE and your location. Who knows, there may be a guy who has reason to go out your direction, maybe he has family or friends there so would be amenable. When guys contact me through RM I check out their profile, and it’s really helpful to have that kind of info. And/or see who @Coolwave35 has in his Rolodex! I’d trust his judgment.

I'm not familiar with this theater group other than the news links you have provided. But my read of it is that they were wanting to offer an opportunity for playwrights by people who are otherwise often overlooked or excluded from more mainstream productions and venues. But in doing so, they may indeed be limiting their appeal and audience, which could lead to their financial downfall. But I would not necessarily conclude that wanting to be inclusive and offer opportunities to BIPOC and non-binary artists would need to be characterized as "finger wagging." Perhaps they just want to mix it up a bit and give others a chance. Sure, the pandemic might be used as a face-saving excuse by this group, as well as others who cite it as a reason. My favorite restaurant closed recently and cited the pandemic... I'll admit it was not as crowded as it had been before the pandemic so there was probably some truth in that, but they'd also been in business a long time and maybe they'd just had enough.

Happy Birthday to a truly remarkable gentleman @sf westcoaster! You show us all how it's done, with style, humor and love. Don't forget the cake!

I've never really understood why SF does not have strip clubs. Well, it had a couple of old-style theater strip clubs but those are long gone.

Terminal 2 is great, as is the new Terminal 1. They've really done a great job with these new facilities.

This is my experience. Pretty much all of my first-time clients book for two hours. My rates also have discounts for longer appointments, including two-hour appointments, so that might also serve to encourage longer meet-ups. If you're on the fence, my suggestion would be to converse a bit with the provider beforehand (either by text or phone call), get a sense of what they're like, and if there's good rapport that could help you feel more confident in trying a longer appointment.

Thanks for providing that context. I wasn’t aware of all that… it definitely explains a lot!

I believe the conversions to housing are focused on converting upper floor offices to housing, at least from this summary on the SF gov website. I'm hopeful but skeptical, as converting an old office building to housing is not easy or inexpensive, but at least it's a barrier removed. Meanwhile ground floors will be allowed to have a wider range of commercial uses. SF's zoning is notoriously complicated and unfriendly to business, dating from an era where cities tried to micromanage the mix of businesses through zoning. SF has not been alone in having done this, but in combination with unrealistic rents it creates a bunch of long-term vacant storefronts all over the city. The Castro suffers from this as well... a long-standing bias against chain stores and restaurants, combined with rents that are not viable for the independent small businesses that are intended to be attracted. That's all well and fine when the economy is good, but doesn't work when things aren't good or where there are structural changes to retail that make those old rules obsolete. So I'm glad the city government is taking action on this, at least in downtown, but it will take some time for things to sort out.

A friend of mine who works in SF government was assigned to a homeless task force team for 6 months as part of a rotation from her usual position. She told me the process of assigning people to available low-income units is unbelievably slow and cumbersome, and the result is that units sit vacant for months at a time while people remain homeless. There is a complicated pecking order and an involved process that I'm sure is well-intended and meant to be accountable, but is clearly ineffective. Now of course this is me quoting hearsay so take it for what it's worth!

Thanks, I was not aware of the SF reparations task force, I'd only heard about the state one. I'm guessing the formula is similar to the one that the state's task force came up with, but that's just a guess. And you're right, it's political so will end that part of the discussion here.