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Well let's change this! I just posted a notice for an upcoming trip to Phoenix. I think the reasons people have mentioned here make sense for why there haven't been posts in that forum. And the lack of posts creates a disincentive for those who might otherwise post there. I'd thought of posting for some past trips, but when I checked the forum and saw it was empty that put me off. It's like walking into an empty restaurant, and thinking there must be something wrong with the place otherwise there'd be people there. I don't do a lot of travel though, so won't be able to contribute to that forum very often!

I tried Hunqz, and yes in theory it would be an alternative. The user interface is ok, not great but not terrible. But how do you get people to migrate there? When I had a profile there it was crickets...

I think the context here is important. This was a known trusted client, and the prospect of introducing the boyfriend into the mix had already been discussed. So it's not the same thing as having it just sprung out of nowhere. But yeah, surprises don't always go over well, so it probably would have been better if the client had said something ahead of time. Personally I would not have been too bent out of shape given the context. When this has happened to me, usually the client at least mentions first that he wants to mix it up with a third, and asks if I'm ok with it. Once though many years ago I arrived at an appointment and all the client said was "a buddy stopped by, I hope you don't mind." As it turns out, the buddy was a porn star who'd I'd long admired, so I didn't mind! But it did throw me a bit, first with the surprise itself and then with who it was.

Lol, yes I should have said "if one asks oneself." Though one of my Baltimore clients did mention that not a lot of guys come through there, but he also seemed to be into it so I didn't think too hard about it. Also your point earlier about a city being good or bad the first time, and the opposite the next time rings true. I used to totally bomb in LA, to the point I said never again. But more recently when I've visited it's been decent. Either I've changed or LA has changed, or it's just luck of the draw.

This is the first I've heard about it, but I'm guessing RM will be phasing this change. I just moved a couple of dick pics from private to public, so we'll see if I get snared. If this change sticks, it will require providers to develop yet another workaround. Providers in the US already have to do that with their fees. Some have their fees in an autoresponse in their instant messages. In my case I have a stand-alone web page with my rates that I point clients to. I suppose a stand-alone gallery might be in the cards... 😐

I realized I never reported back on this... My parents tried Hello Fresh for a couple of weeks but discontinued it because it involved too much time and energy preparing the meals. They liked that they didn't have to go grocery shopping, and they liked the novelty of the dishes and thought it was fun, but said it was still a lot of work to prepare the meals. Mom can't stand for long periods so it was difficult for her. I took a couple of kits myself to try it out, and yes it's a fair amount of work to put the meals together. However it was interesting, some of the preparation was more involved than my usual day-to-day cooking, so I felt like I was learning something. It could be good for someone who wants to hone their cooking skills a bit. So with Hello Fresh out of the picture, I turned to craigslist and found a chef to come and prepare meals a couple of times a week. It took a couple of tries. The first chef was a real primadonna and ended up quitting when we asked him to reduce the sodium content. But he referred us to someone else, and he's been great. His cooking is not fancy but really good, and he makes enough so there are leftovers for a couple more days. Plus he is sexy AF, and super charming. They're very happy with the arrangement. And if M&D are happy, I'm happy!

I've found this too, I do well in the secondary cities. Last year I had a great time in Baltimore for example, meeting some solid clients (one of whom had me join him on a trip a few months later). There was also enough demand to stay longer if my schedule had allowed it. It can be a bruise to one's ego if you ask whether they are hiring you because they're really into you, or are they just hiring because there are few local choices. But in the end, who cares! The important thing is that you're being hired. I agree with the others that you need to advertise further in advance to get the right exposure. Try two or even three weeks in advance. You need to give people a bit of time to mull things over.

Yes. Maybe they got hacked?

This is the most obvious red flag. Serious clients tend to get down to business without too much back-and-forth. Exception would be a client making arrangements for a more extended appointment or travel, that could justify more coordination. But eventually you'll develop an intuition for who's bullshitting and who's for real. As for sharing nudes, there are photo collectors out there, or at least guys who are just curious and want to see your stuff even if they have no intention of booking. You'll have to decide if you're OK with that. Personally I don't care too much, I unlock my private pics for pretty much anyone who asks. There does not seem to be any correlation between who I unlock for vs. who books, at least in my experience. I always follow up by saying "I hope you like the pics" and some just reply yes and that's it, while others go ahead and book.

This is a variation of a very common scam. I get a variation of it about once a month, though it's never been from a woman. It usually mentions a very generous client who is traveling into town, is very specific with dates, etc. Often they say they are representing someone else and wanting to set things up on their behalf. They follow a similar pattern.

It’s ok to ask directly in advance. I’ve had guys contact me to ask about BB and if it’s ok to breed or cum inside (however you want to characterize it). So no need to be shy, if it’s important to you just ask.

I’ve found paying to be a Sponsor gives good visibility and is worth the money. Same with RM of the Day, if you can find an available slot. I haven’t tried Platinum boost so can’t speak to that.

In my experience this kind of manipulation is part of what to expect in an appointment where PNP is involved. I don't indulge, but have from time to time agreed to an appointment where the client indulges. In these instances I've found the issue is sense of time gets lost for the client, and it's hard to end these sessions within a reasonable timeframe (let alone get paid).

Last time I was in Palm Springs I went with a buddy to the Bear Wear store: Bear Wear Unique Clothing for men of all sizes. Fun gifts and sexual accessories - Bear Wear BEAR-WEAR-ETC.SHOPLIGHTSPEED.COM Bear Wear Boutique, in the heart of Arenas District in downtown Palm Sprints, is for the community. Featuring Men's Apparel, Swim, Shirts, Shorts and accessori They had a lot of fun, stylish things for big guys. I think the swim shorts look especially good on a big guy. However unfortunately their website shows most of their offerings being modeled on slim, chiseled bodies, which seems counterproductive. I'm guessing these are the stock images that are provided by the manufacturers. In any case, the swim shorts and the short/shirt sets are fun and look good.

Lots of great suggestions here. Ultimately the only way to see what it's like is to give it a try. I still remember my first client, back when I was just a young(er) thing. I had a severe case of imposter syndrome, and wondered whether I could really carry this off. Would someone actually pay me for this? Not only did he say he had a good time, but also said I was not charging enough. That seemed like a good confirmation. Initially I was advertising erotic massage, but after the first few massages I realized I really liked the sex part better. I know masseurs who say the exact opposite, so some of this is figuring out what you really enjoy. For me, I decided I wanted to offer escort services, and I really enjoy it. It can take a while to get traction as well. New and fresh will have appeal, but others will wait around until they've seen your listing for a while. So it's important to keep the listing going for a while so that potential clients will be thinking of you over time. Don't be alarmed if things take a bit of time to get going, and as the saying goes, don't quit your day job just yet. On Rentmen you need to get at least the Gold subscription, as nobody will see you in a crowded market if you have a Basic listing. Signing onto a sponsor listing can also really broaden your visibility. On the other hand, you may be a wild success right out the gate, and then you'd have the issue of how to manage your time and not get burned out. I've known some really busy guys, and being able to manage the volume has been an issue for them. Or if you're keeping your day job and trying to accommodate a busy hiring schedule, that can be stressful too so put some thought into how to balance things so you're in a good space for your clients and for yourself. This site is a great sounding board so don't be a stranger!

Happy Birthday PK! May all your wildest dreams cum true… 😛

Lol I’ve rented pickup trucks on more than one occasion so I’d fit in with the local context. The prices are usually really good, and it feels so butch!

It's always possible to cherry-pick news stories to suit one's narrative. This can also be done to present a more positive narrative. Here are headlines from this past week that present a more optimistic narrative: From the San Francisco Business Times: "San Francisco Sees Siginficant Jump in Return-To-Office Study" "IKEA on Market Street Set to Open This Month." The story mentions that "San Francisco is the first pioneering U.S. site for the company's new urban-centric format..." From the San Francisco Standard: "Out-of-Town Zillow Users Are Lusting After San Francisco Property" "Downtown San Francisco’s Return to Office Highest Since Covid" Interestingly, the San Francisco Chronicle is really, really negative. I had a hard time "cherry-picking" any positive stories from that source. My earlier observation that vast majority of the city looks great also implicitly acknowledges that some areas do not look great. And yes, the Federal Building on 7th Street is an awful blighted mess. 6th Street had traditionally been the City's "Hamsterdam," but it has become marginally better in recent years. Meanwhile, 7th Street has declined. Seems like the trouble has migrated towards 7th. The design of the Federal Building doesn't do any favors. Generally I like modern architecture, but that building is just butt-ugly. It's built like a fortress, and was further fortified after 9-11, so its perimeter is a no-man's land that is conducive to nefarious acts. I didn't know that policing of the building is handled by Federal Protective Services. We all know that there are legal limitations to prohibiting people from camping on the streets, despite the blight it brings, thanks to that frustrating court decision. So I suppose the Fed's hands are tied on that one. But it seems like the drug dealing could be cleaned up.

From The San Francisco Standard: People Are Having Sex in Robotaxis, and Nobody Is Talking About It SFSTANDARD.COM A 2018 study said the spread of self-driving cars was likely to mean more sex on the road. San Franciscans are making it happen. My favorite line: As for our adventurous couple, Alex and Megan, they said they’d do it all over again. “I was just along for the ride,” Megan said. “Literally.”

I had something similar happen with a client about 10 years ago. He picked me up after work from my office job, and was horrified with what I was wearing. I was surprised, I thought it was a nice shirt but he said that the fit did not do me any favors. When we got back to his place he had me try on a really well-fitting blazer and I saw what he meant. As others have mentioned, you want clothes that fit well and are flattering, but you don't want them to be crazy tight.

Me too! I don't follow the Friday Funnies thread regularly, but turn to it when I need to lighten my mood. And I think of @jackhammer91406 every time 😘

So back to the original post asking about Doxy PEP. Yes, it's been around for a while, but I think awareness has been increasing lately. A friend of mine mentioned it to me a few months ago, and the last time I saw my doc he suggested it before I asked about it. This was when I was doing my quarterly bloodwork and STI check, so it made sense that he'd suggest it in that context. I also had the concern about the potential for mass long term use of various antibiotics may accelerate the development and spread of antibiotic resistant strains of STIs. Doc said he is not too concerned given the relatively low dosages of the antibiotic, and provided they are taken as advised (just after sex). Take that for what you will... maybe the doc is a shill for the pharmaceuticals, but I know he also keeps up with the medical journals so I trust his judgement. I'm not obsessing over or wanting to argue over statistics; instead my thoughts are if Doxy PEP can prevent or lessen the transmission of STIs, that's something I'm interested in.

Though the question is directed at clients, I'll echo the request from clients to not wear antiperspirant. This is probably the most common request I get from clients, so nowadays before an appointment I'll shower so I'm clean, but don't apply antiperspirant or cologne. Some clients request smelling stinky, but most just want clean but not scented.

I guess this would depend on what the shirt and tie look like. Are they standard office wear, or something sexier? A shirt and tie can look hot and sexy, but can also look boring depending on the specifics. I work in an office during the day, and there are days where my attire would be in the realm of "boring." It's an office job after all, and in some instances it's appropriate to just fly under the radar. On those days, I would not want to show up to see a client wearing my respectable but unexciting work attire so I'll at least have a change of shirt in the car. But there is some leeway at my office, so on some days I'll wear a tighter shirt, or tighter pants, that can go from office to client appointment with just unbuttoning an extra button on the shirt. Here on the west coast, guys aren't wearing ties very much anymore, so I wouldn't wear one to meet a client unless requested. But wearing a blazer over an unbuttoned dress shirt or t-shirt is a common "dress casual" look and can work in most circumstances like a hotel lobby. I'll wear a blazer or wear a nice dress shirt if we're going to dinner, but otherwise I'll usually just wear a hoodie over a tank top with a good pair of jeans.