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Greetings folks... As you might have noticed, this site has been offline since around mid-day Tuesday. Our prior hosting provider decided that they are unable to continue hosting our website and had ended service to us. Unfortunately they did not provide any notification to me about this decision and I was forced to move the site to a new server without any sort of heads up. This includes arranging for the new hosting company, configuring the new server to meet the technical requirements, getting a copy of our current data, restoring that data (over 300GB of files), recovering the database (over 18.5 million records in that database taking up 11GB of space for the DB alone), and reconfiguring the software itself to run in the new environment. While migrating there was also some technical issues that I ran into that required me to coordinate with Invision's technical support team. So that back and forth added additional time to the mix as well. And to pile on further… all of this occurred while I'm traveling for my day job. So I've been doing this while in a hotel in between doing my day job on the road. There are most likely several other things that will need to be fixed still and I'm working through them. For example, email may only be partially working. I still need to setup things like SPF and DKIM for the new server so our emails don't flag as spam. There are other settings that might need to be redone to work in the new server as well that I'm not thinking about yet. (As you might have imagined, I've not had much sleep during this whole process.) But anyway... you get the idea. No... we're not going anywhere! This was a minor setback but we'll continue to move forward. Thank you all for your understanding and support! Rob

Gentlemen, The moderators could use your help. Many of the reports we receive deal with merging threads, usually about providers, and moving threads to the correct forum. Before posting a message or starting a new thread, please check to see if the topic is in the correct forum or thread. If it’s regarding a provider check that the topic is not already being discussed in a previous thread. Everyday we are merging threads and moving them from the Deli to the Spa or to Questions. Remember, each forum has a brief description of what topics it covers. If you are reporting a thread that needs to be merged, always include a link to the other thread. Also, always include a reason for submitting your report. Thanks to all members who follow these guidelines and contact us when action is required.

From missionary position to missionary work in under 30 seconds.

I recently retired and soon after my move to Palm Springs, I started going to the gym each day. My intention was just to improve my level of fitness and, as the gym is one which caters to a very high percentage of gay middle aged men, to ogle those men who have not been remiss in going to the gym. The gym has many very muscular men and lots of fit men of all ages. Going to the gym has been much easier as I know that there will be all kinds of eye candy there. The people have been extraordinarily supportive of a fat old man doing walking laps. I have receieved unsolicited encouragement from dozens of people at the gym and it has made this transition to a healthier lifestyle much easier. On the first day, I walked a mile and when I was done, one of the trainers came to speak to me and encourage me to keep at it. Several days later, I saw him again and I asked to speak to him about an eventual training session. He asked me what my goals were at the gym and I told him that my immediate goal was to be able to get up off the floor unassisted. He said that he likes people with realistic goals and there should be no trouble reaching this milestone. He left, I sat for a bit taking in the view and then went to rise from the chair only to have the leg twist and buckle and I landed on the floor. After the inital shock of being on the floor wore off, I looked around and no one was coming to give me assistance and so I need to get myself up. I eventually succeeded just as some men noticed me and came to assist. They were fairly hot looking and I was tempted to throw myself down to the floor just so they would help me up. Instead, I thought, well my first goal was accomplished so time to set a new one. My follow up goal had to do with activities at the gyn and my personal appearance. As a fat men over 60, it had been awhile since I had seen my penis without the use of a mirror and some belly shuffling. So my goal became to see my penis. Only two methods came to mind, lose substantial gut or get a bigger penis. I would have preferred the getter a bigger penis option, but that did not seem viable, so I opted for the lose some of the gut al.ternative. Two month later, my walking sessions have stretched to almost an hour and I have increased my distance by 2.5 times the original. Clothes are looser and energy is higher and yesterday was the day the second goal was accomplished. There, while looking down at my feet, was an old friend I had not seen for years. He looked good but a bit less robust than I remembered him. Still, I was happy to see him and soon afterward he appeared to be happy to see me. So now that I have reached my second plateau, do any of you have any suggestions as to what the third goal should be? I intend to continue going to the gym, even through the summer inferno of Palm Springs but a fun and achievable goal makes the whole process easier. I will be adding some light weight training to my regimen. I have considered that a pec bounce might be the next goal but I am open to suggestions.

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I only pay escorts to talk about things like NY vs Chicago pizza, conspiracy theories and geology. They insist on having sex with me afterwards for free. Who am I to turn them down? 🤷‍♂️

Never confuse Grindr and RM. They usually serve two very different purposes. If someone makes the mistake of calling me out as an escort on Grindr, they are usually ignored. My profile makes zero mention of that side of my life. It's strange that some guys can't read between the lines. Don't judge an escort for having his own personal likes and needs.

Listen I love this group, you guys are amazing, but please do not share my PRIVATE MESSAGES with masseurs you meet. A few months ago, I met a regular client who said to me "did you post something on this forum that was negative?" I said what are you talking about. He said he met a client who SHOWED HIM MY RESPONSE to a message about his work. I was shocked. I said " don't have clue and if it was negative then why am I here?" Please be careful with what is shared here. Private messages should remain so. No mad just concerned. Terp

We’ve all seen it happen: A benign thread on this site that gets derailed by haughty and venomous users who seemingly delight in belittling and bullying others. Sometimes their comments reflect an inability, or maybe an unwillingness, to accept that others simply disagree with them. Perhaps more disturbing are the times when their spite and snark emerge with no clear provocation, leaving the rest of us to wonder whether participating on this site is worth the hassle. Either way, this mean girl dynamic — the bullying of fellow users into submission and silence — is difficult to avoid on Company of Men, and it undermines this site as a space where all of us can convene and connect. Outside of reporting such behavior to site administrators — an imperfect response that raises its own set of challenges — I see no clear path toward curbing this dynamic on CoM. (If others have suggestions, feel free to share.) I am naming it here for the benefit of others who, like me, are troubled by the mean-spiritedness of some of our fellow site members. You are not crazy; some of our peers on CoM are terribly unkind, and their petty and spiteful communication styles can make it difficult to spend time here. And sure, this is not unique to CoM. Aggressive and malicious comments from others pervade practically every online domain imaginable. But I find the mean girl dynamic on CoM particularly disheartening because of the purpose of this site. As a gay man of a certain age who is often invisible in bars and clubs catering to the gym-bodied under-40 crowd, and who engages in the type of encounters discussed on this site, I don’t have many people that I can talk to about my specific “extracurricular activities.” (I imagine this is the case for some — not all, but some — of you as well.) I was so relieved when I finally discovered this site after years of wasting time and money on unskilled providers just looking to make a quick buck. I was also incredibly grateful for the outlet (and on some days, the lifeline) this site provided during the COVID lockdown. CoM has the potential to nurture a spirit-lifting camaraderie for those of us who struggle to find it elsewhere. I wish some of us weren’t so seemingly hellbent on tearing others down. Note: I have not named any specific users in this post, as the issue at hand extends beyond any single user. I implore anyone who chooses to comment on this thread to follow suit.

Glad you’re back. Thanks for your hard work in keeping this valuable forum alive!

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism. So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary. But if you travel far...tip accordingly. All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen.

It’s just good manners.

This kind of thing never ceases to amaze me. As gay men in the dating world, we all stress about our insecurities.. Is he into me? Am I hot enough for him? Am I doing it right? Do I live up to his other sex partners? Hiring a provider is the one scenario where you can - at long last - unburden yourself of all that bullshit. And if you're hiring the right provider, and he cares about your experience, he knows it's his job to create a safe space and to facilitate that unburdening. The lengths that we'll go to to sabotage that unburdening really speak to how deep these insecurities cut. Give yourself a break from worrying about the bullshit! Let yourself enjoy the purity of the actual situation you have available to you. Let your provider be the one to worry if you like him. Let him be the one to worry if you'll hire him again. And let him have the freedom to compartmentalize his private sex life the way he pleases.

As long as his rod and staff comfort you. 🤷🏼

There’s no accounting for taste. I disagree with a lot of people’s opinions on this site as I’m sure they would disagree with mine.

Let sleeping dogs lie. If the guy wants to bring a third in and it's his relationship, he needs to man up and do the asking. Not you. If this goes South, you could end up losing D) All of the above.

It’s really helpful if the provider’s city, as well as his name, is posted in the title. “Dick in Des Moines” “Boner Boy in Berlin” Thanks all!

Dear comrades, I am the OP, but I have changed my username from lostlonelysoul. Details below. Thanks for all your recommendations. I eventually booked a 2-hour session with @Simon Suraci. I have been eyeing for him on both RM platforms for weeks even before I made my post. But his home base (SD) is way too far from me. So I gave up until I saw his travel location coincided with my business trip. It was meant to be. Let me start by saying that his ad/profile pics definitely do not do him justice. He is 100X hotter in person. You need to see him for yourself. Per your suggestions, I originally made a massage appointment, but as soon as I told him what I truly desired, he did not hesitate to switch gear and led me to the bedroom. Needless to say, I was consumed by stress and anxiety initially. He had a magical way to put me at ease. Aside from being handsome & sexy as hell, he’s intelligent, funny, and kind. Before I knew it, I had my first kiss, my first embrace with a man, my first time touching another man’s naked body all over, and…… I’ll let your imagination run wild to fill in the blanks (many, many, many other blanks indeed). I was (and kind of still is) in a euphoric state for days afterwards. Luckily, I have no important deadlines or projects on hand; otherwise, I’ll be doomed, for that session was the only thing I could think of ever since. @Simon Suraci exceeded every expectation I have for my first rendezvous and I am so glad I made the right choice for my many, many firsts. I bet he will forget about me very soon, but I am 100% certain I will remember him for the rest of my life. Frankly, that was one of the most memorable experiences I have ever had. I'll surely pay close attention to his traveling schedule from now on. Thank you all once again. No longer lost; No longer lonely (even though still alone); My soul has been salvaged; The gate of heaven has been unlocked; Let the wild ride begin + continue

I'm back in Ohio, it's Spring, and I have a new great-grandson!!!🎉😄😍

How many times do you answer the phone in your real life when someone who calls isn't already in your contact list? For me: ZERO

The framing of your question is interesting. You ask 'How could they still provide a great service', but then you said that you didn't like it when they revealed they had a partner. So your summary question, 'How could you adjust your guilty feeling to enjoy the experience?' captures what you are actually asking. It's not how they can do it but how can you manage your feelings about it. My answer to the whole question is that if a provider has a partner, they are already dealing with how to manage it. They may still be coming to terms with it and their relationship, or they may have a settled routine and a partner who understands and accepts (at least to a point) their work commitments. Clients probably should not fret about how the provider manages it, and allow them the space to manage their lives as they wish. Providers perhaps need to be judicious in whom they tell as they cannot be sure whether it would be an issue for a client. Whether a client can deal with the idea that their provider is 'cheating' on a partner is something for the client to deal with (and it's really none of their business whether the provider and their partner think they are cheating). If the client can't deal with any feelings they have about a partnered provider, that's an issue for them to resolve, not the provider. But in the end, if a client can't come to terms with the idea they can walk away.

I always tip my regulars. I aways tip providers who go above and beyond in ways that genuinely surprise and touch me. I suffer from migraines. One night, rather than cancel, all I wanted was to nap, close my eyes and be held in the provider’s arms for two hours with the lights dimmed. I asked him to wake me up when the two hours were up and he needed to leave. About six hours later, I woke up—and he was still there lying in bed next to me. When I asked why he hadn’t woken me, he simply said, “You were sleeping.” He became a regular. And then later a genuine friend.

Usually an escort's retirement is announced via formal, engraved notices. A sophisticated script font - often Florentea or Modernline - is de riguer in the case of a long-time provider. Most times the retirement is accompanied by a dinner at the local Applebee's. The dinner is by invitation-only. Guests are limited to fellow providers, gold star clients, and family members. It is closed to the general public, i.e. no gawkers, groupies, or dinner crashers. The typical retirement gift for the Guest of Honor is a gold watch. Sometimes a gag gift will accompany the watch, such as a leather belt with a notch in it for every client who made a substantial donation to the escort's kids' education fund. Hope this helps... BTC 🤡

Greetings! I implemented a change this morning to require new accounts (less than 30 days old) to require moderator approval for new posts in an effort to mitigate some of the recent increased spam attacks. Once a new account has 5 unique pieces of content approved (new topics, replies, etc), they’ll automatically be updated to no longer require moderator approval. Again, this is only being done as a spam mitigation mechanism. I’m not looking to censor new users or prevent discussion. Posts that are not spam and that don’t violate the community guidelines will be approved as quickly as possible. I would just ask that folks remember we have a small team of volunteers who moderate the site and this is a side gig for all of us. So if it takes a little bit of time for us to see/approve a topic, it’s not personal! Thanks! Rob

One’s an order at a fine dining restaurant, the other’s you yelling into the drive-thru speaker at 2 a.m.

Personally, I think you’re going about this line of work for the wrong reasons. Monetizing your sex life, for one. This phrase neatly summarizes the sentiment discussed in so many other threads on these forums. It just doesn’t work. A much larger number of men would do it if that’s all it took. For another, your primary interest is in the income, not meeting needs you personally are well suited to fulfill. Nothing wrong taking a fair income for delivering high value services to a willing clientele; however, it takes a lot to provide m4m services effectively and be successful. More than looks, and certainly you need experience and talent either on the massage table, in the bedroom, or both. Plus marketing and business savvy, patience, emotional maturity, boundaries, people skills, and many other soft skills. You’re going about it quite casually. This is serious work. To do it well IMHO, you need to do it for the right reasons (beyond a quick buck). This is about meeting very real human needs, not Grindr with the slight caveat of money changing hands. It takes empathy, compassion, and a selfless, service oriented mindset to do a good job. Missing these big picture items, you will likely burn out, and not succeed. Then you’re just another mediocre provider of many, the likes of which the men here pick apart mercilessly and publicly for both shallow and legitimate reasons. Then you inevitably fade into the background and quit 6-24 months after starting. Don’t be that guy. To succeed and sustain, you need to keep on your best game and continue to grow and get better. A short sighted, half ass effort in this biz is immediately apparent to everyone, from the ads you post to the first impression you impart to every new client in person. Lastly, I personally feel you are already in a much too vulnerable position being in the US on any visa, student or otherwise. It’s one thing being a US citizen and kicked out of your apartment lease because your landlord knows or suspects you are a masseur or sex worker. That sucks, but it’s quite another scale of consequence to be kicked out of the country for the same. I wouldn’t jeopardize your life. I need to refrain from saying anything further to expand this point, because it wouldn’t conform to the forum guidelines. Be careful, is all. You already have an excellent opportunity studying here doing something you presumably have a long term goal to fulfill. I would hate to see something bad happen to you or to miss out on your dreams over a quick buck side hustle your heart was never truly into in the first place. Just my take. Do what you will. If you want to do it anyway, some of the others here have already made some good points about not showing your face, not using your real name, taking steps for plausible deniability, shifting some risk onto others by tagging along on 4-hand gigs, etc. There’s more to it than all that, for instance how to properly declare your income and pay taxes, and how to set up a business entity to do so legally. In the end, it’s not always about what you are actually doing, but what Uncle Sam discovers about his missing slice of your pie that catches up to you and ruins you, but that’s a whole other subject. My advice is don’t go there. Be safe. Enjoy the incredible opportunities you already have. I too was a dirt poor college student many moons ago. I was disciplined. I budgeted. I made it work. Money won’t always be so tight.

Only thing getting burned out is my bank account!

Yes.

Age should not be a barrier to having a fulfilling sexual experience, especially with an escort. If it feels like it is, you haven’t found the right escort. They are out there.

I think you’re over thinking it. It’s all about finding the right partner and finding a fulfilling experience. Once you find that person, invest in something recurring.

Nope if someone is hiring me a man to have sex with them they are not straight. Are some of them married with kids sure. But they are bi. Or at the very least heteroflexible. Class repeat after me… if you have sex with a man and you are a man you are not straight.

Hello, I'm a newbie who has spent more time than I care to admit browsing and searching this forum over the past several months. First of all, let me say that the advices, reviews and experiences shared by everyone here were a huge help in taking the leap with my first hire. I'm a closeted bisexual man who tends to read obsessively on topics I'm anxious about, so thank you all for maintaining this open and supportive community. A few weeks ago I hired someone from RentMen and I figured I'd share this first experience now that I've had some time to process it. Who knows, maybe it will help someone down the line, just as previous posters have unknowingly helped me. So, here we go. I hired a different provider than I had originally in mind, someone of a similar age and with good reviews on this forum. The booking process went quite smoothly thanks to the numerous threads about first-contact etiquette. When I contacted him I stated that I saw his profile on RentMen, I was looking for a 3-hour outcall in a hotel in my city, offered a few options of dates and times, and sent him basic informations about myself. I also mentioned that this would be my very first experience with a man, which made me quite nervous, and I wanted to make sure he was OK with it. He was very reassuring, we discussed what I wanted to try, my goal for the session, my limits, etc. We confirmed the rate and time, and it was all set in less than two hours. I was so nervous the day of the appointment, I felt like a teenager on his first date. I had put his rate in an unmarked envelope very visibly on a table, I offered him something to drink and we talked for a while. The conversation was easy, he asked questions about me and my expectations, told me about himself, his life, how happy he was to help me go through with this, etc. Mutual oral was the only specific thing I requested when we texted initially, since I knew that I'd feel comfortable trying, so it felt natural to start there. He took the lead, asked me to help him get undressed, he guided me to touch him and he taught me how to blow him (never realized a dick would feels so smooth in my mouth when it was like a steel rod in his boxers 😅). It was absolutely awesome and I was ecstatic when he came in my mouth. We continued fooling around and having some fun, talked for a bit and then he was on his way. Was it everything I was hoping for? Probably not. While I thoroughly enjoyed going to town on this stud and I'm glad I got to explore this side of myself, there were moments where I felt somewhat self-conscious and out of place. It still felt like a hookup, which I guess it was, but at the time it made me wonder if this hobby was really meant for me. Not at all the provider's fault however, he was lovely, patient and kind. I usually enjoy sex the most when I have developed some trust/intimacy with the person I'm with, so I'm guessing having a regular provider is probably what I'm looking for. I think I was trying to get it to live up to years of built-up expectations, which was unrealistic. Instead, I'm now trying to focus on the positive aspects of the experience, since I still loved it. Recently, I was thinking about which country to visit this fall, and I realized that I was also looking up the providers available in those countries. I usually travel to explore food and culture, but I guess Men can be another form of cultural exploration. It confirmed what many of you have said — this hobby can indeed be quite addictive. 😉

Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage, but sometimes the horse wants to be unharnessed and frolic with a mare that catches his eye. My partner and I were happily married, but I was nevertheless sexually attracted to a variety of men, though not interested in a romantic relationship with them. We agreed from the start that ours would be an "open" marriage, so both of us had occasional sex with other men when circumstances were suitable. Back then, the commercial open marketplace for gay sex didn't exist, except for street hustlers, who usually were not my type. As we aged, opportunities for sex with attractive men became very limited. Then one day, I happened to be alone in NYC, and in the Advocate I saw an ad for a sex service. Curious, I went to the address, told the man at the desk what I was in the mood for at that moment, and he directed me to a room to which he would send someone. I waited in the room for about ten minutes, and in walked a guy whom I could never have picked up cruising on my own. We had great sex, then I dressed and went back to the desk out front, and paid. Soon I learned about finding freelance providers on the Internet (I had just bought my first desktop computer), and from then on my only sex outside marriage was with the professionals, because it was quick and easy, with no danger of becoming emotionally involved with someone just because we had sex.

I just wanted to come on here and express my gratitude for this site and all of you posters! I never thought I’d find community on a message board primarily devoted to male SWs, but here we are. Thank you all for discussing topics most of us don’t have the opportunity to talk about in person or on social media… I truly appreciate the (mostly) respectful banter!

🥳 G’day @mike carey and Happy Birthday to one of the hardest working moderators we have. Thank you for volunteering your time to keep this site a most enjoyable and informative place to visit. Your hard and dedicated work is most appreciated. Enjoy your special day! Cheers! 🥂

To end the speculation, it’s on!😊 For those who like to plan ahead, mark your calendars for April 11 (Saturday) and April 12 (Sunday), 2026. Information about the activities will be forthcoming at a later date. I hope many of you can attend as I look forward to seeing you!🎉😄

Yes 🚩! My second hour is 15% less than the first hour. I don’t publish rates longer than 2 hours but the % reduction would be about the same. It really depends on the set up and my willingness to do a longer session. I generally am not keen to do multiple hours so I’d price it accordingly. I had one guy ask me for my rate for a 4 hour booking. I gave him a number. He divided that by 4, came up with an hourly rate….and then asked to book just an hour. Smart. Of course I said ‘sorry it doesn’t work like that, the first hour is more expensive’ so he said ‘ok I’ll book just the 4th hour then please’ 😳

Please trust that we are already doing our best to make our spa better. We pay attention to every positive and negative review from our customers, and we make improvements based on the feedback. However, we have our own standards for deciding whether or not to terminate an employee. You mentioned your issue was not resolved and asked me to fire Adem. My answer is: I will not fire Adem, because many other customers appreciate and enjoy his service. Another reason is that the complaint you provided about your experience with him was vague and unclear. If you are very dissatisfied with that particular session, we are willing to offer you a refund. If you don’t feel comfortable seeing him again, you are welcome to choose another therapist or visit a different spa. Most of our staff here are young people in their early 20s, and it’s natural for young people to make mistakes. I hope everyone can be more understanding and patient with them. Especially during this difficult time, they truly need this job. As you may have noticed, there have been changes in our schedule, and for those employees who have seriously crossed the line, we have taken termination measures as well.

I am ready, willing and able to pay top dollar for top escorts. But I am very picky. The way I afford this hobby is by picking only guys who flake on me, change travel plans abruptly, or, my favorite, don't respond to me at all. I haven't closed a deal in years. I save a lot of money that way. 🙂

Hi guys, I'm Alex_Twink. Honestly, I wasn't sure if I should write this or not because I didn't know whether to give this more attention or just let it go. This man has been insisting a lot about whether l'll be able to cum during our session together. He kept asking me about it several times, even going as far as asking when the last time I would cum before seeing him would be. I don't like feeling pressured, and that's why the night before we were supposed to meet, when he wrote to me again and asked about the same thing (whether | would finish), I told him it was better not to meet at all. I explained that I felt pressured and uncomfortable. I also didn't want to risk not meeting his expectations or having him feel like he was wasting his money if I didn't finish. So yes, 1 told him it was best to cancel our date for both of our sake.

How is it I nearly missed a chance to post a bunch of ass shots?? I must be slowing down. Keeping these PG13. I guess…

Hi, I'm SaintV. Most people call me Saint. I am an industrial engineer, A first responder with the fire dept, and a closeted gay man. I am 34 years old and kind of new to this, so please cut me some slack. I have been looking for a place to talk openly about myself and maybe meet some like minded individuals. I have read through a bit and am trying to integrate myself into this forum. Don't know much else to say, but just wanted to introduce myself.

Your synopsis suggests you already know your best option is to engage a more compatible provider.

Because it's often less expensive than dinner and a movie for two, and way cheaper than getting married then divorced.

When I was 21, guys cruised and approached me everywhere (and I do mean everywhere, 24/7. I never charged anyone, but I also never said no. Every now and then someone wanted to charge me, and my response was always, “why would I pay for it when I can get it for free?” But I was naïve, young, hung and desirable. Now I’m (ahem) 30something years past 21, and while I’m still attractive, I’m not approached or cruised remotely like I was then. While my looks may have changed, my libido hasn’t. If I knew then, what I know now, I absolutely would have been a sex worker. By charging for it, I would have had the same amount of sex I did for free, but I’d have avoided toxic jobs, and I would be retired by now. My point is, I applaud the young guys smart enough to provide for those who want it, and I applaud the guys that can afford to buy it as often as they like. Those who have hired understand they can cut through the red tape to get exactly what they want, free of unwanted entanglements. For some it’s about sex, for others it’s living out kinks and fantasies they wouldn’t dare try at home. And for others, being with providers enables a client feel desired, loved, safe and physically connected to another. Some guys want a weekend fling, others just want a great massage with a happy ending. But a good provider can do any and all of that. Like any job, some truly care about their clients, they enjoy providing a service that includes love, kindness and empathy. Others point and shoot and collect their rent money. In the end, in a good client/provider combo, everyone gets what they want. It should be legalized for sure, and should have been for centuries. The world would certainly be a better place for it.

I had 2 clients on Valentine’s Day. Neither of them wanted flowers or a card…

Sexual adventurer that I am, I have so many stories. Problem is I forget which ones I have written about before. Let's try this one. My first job out of college was in Iran, (during the era of the Shah, before the Islamic Republic), when I was in my early 20s. I lived in a small provincial capital...probably about 20,000 people. The day I moved into my house, the doorbell rang, and it was two students. There was Farid, one of those stunningly beautiful boys we have all seen on countless TV newscasts...light olive skin, piercing dark eyes, black hair, long eyelashes...a real looker. Upper class city stock. His friend Salman was village stock...coarser facial details, dark swarthy look. Mr. Butch. Could have been a leather number in training if he lived here. They came in and we tried to talk in their high school English and my weak Farsi. They saw I had a stereo (newly purchased on a layover in Beruit) and said "Play the Beatles". (That's how long ago this was). Then they said, "Teach us the Twist." So we started dancing, ass to ass to ass, and of course it was blistering hot, so we soon took of our shirts. Then one said lets take off our belts. This was really odd. A few minutes later, he said, lets take off our trousers. Iranians wear layered pants...trousers on the outside, then pajama-like long underpants, and then boxer shorts. So I was in my boxers and they were in their pajama like pants. By this time I could see right where this was going. Me, 21 or22; them younger; me, a foreigner; an Islamic country. First day, in my house, with no window coverings! Well, judgement went out the window, and we were soon writhing on the floor naked. Soon Farid, the pretty boy, was on his back, legs in the air, spreading his cheeks. I grabbed some Nivea face cream, lubed up, and he took me like a champ. The next thing I knew, Salman was in my ass, and I was the white filling in the middle of an oreo. It was incredible on a whole bunch of levels, not the least of which I had prepared myself for two years of beating off and nothing else in this conservative country. Before they left that evening, we did it twice more. Fast forward to the next day, and the door bell rings, and it is another youth, Nader. Tall, thin, sophisticated, better English, in a white shirt and slacks. We talked as best we could, had tea, when out of the blue, he asks me, via sign language, if I had fucked Farid the day before. I shook my head NO. Why not, he said, everyone else does. At which point he is looking at my crotch, starts stroking his dick, and pulls me in for a deep kiss. This ended on my bedroll on the floor (furniture hadn't arrived yet), and him fucking me. Pure bliss. Well, not so pure. He had a beautifully developing body, with his torso dusted with teen-aged hair just starting to come in. Moslems are circumcised, and use a depilatory on their body hair. We fell asleep in each others arms. An hour later, the door bell rang and I could see it was Farid and Salman, who invited themselves in. I had Nader's shirt around my waist, Nader was laying on his back on the bedroll at full mast, and a great four-way ensued. It turned out that Farid and Salman were lovers, that Farid indeed was the town peg board, and that all three of them were part of what I can only describe as a roving orgy of young unattached men. In traditional Iran, men are kept away from women until marriage, so the guys are all doing each other. There were numerous parties, in someone or another's house, featuring the local rot gut vodka or rot gut beer, hashish, and cock and ass wall to wall. A well-known secret. The camel in the living room, if you will. Enough for now. How about some other travel stories, guys?

Honestly, you may just have to get over it. He isn’t your boyfriend; he isnt “cheating” on you. You are both consenting adults so be a good customer and let them be a good provider without attaching emotional or societal baggage that adds no value to either of your lives. 🤓