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I had come across several months ago this web site: http://www.sugardaddyforme.com

 

It is for both Male and Female Straight/Bi/Gay. Some of the males are looking for "Sugar Momma's". I didn't care for the site and asked the administrator to remove my profile because it didn't even allow to delete ones own profile.

 

I wonder if anybody has experience with this one or can compare the two sites?

 

Thanks!

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One interesting observation about my SA experiences thus far: I've encountered all kinds of guys - naive, suspicious, inexperienced, unrealistic, modest, boastful, tentative, etc., but I've only come across one game-player. A guy in Houston who was very interested in me very early. He was highly interested in meeting me ASAP and nailing down a date and time. I looked around and it turns out he had a string of BackPage ads he had run in several cities in the Western US.

I mentioned it in passing - it was by no means a disqualifier for me - but his tone changed and he became even more persistent except he began including dollar figures and things he would do. Thanks but no thanks.

 

I see a fair number of RM guys on SA and it doesn't change much from my perspective except that 1) it makes the financial discussion much easier, and 2) I become wary of the relationship being a generic escort assembly-line experience.

 

I agree. I had only one really bad guy. The rest were in the range you described. I think the worst are the "tentative" guys or the guys who aren't really sure they can do something like this. These are not pros. They often don't know what to do even if you've discussed it thoroughly. There are also many straight guys and I've had those. They end up coming out to your place or something and often can't perform. I do feel a level of sympathy for all the types I've encountered. Most are doing this because they are desperate but .... at the end of the day, I don't want to be your "test drive experiment."

 

Glad I'm not having to do it right now and will enjoy Valentine's Day with my "guy" who I'm cooking dungeness crab risotto for tonight when he gets home after a long day with clients.

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Just don't take advantage of all those cute "pound puppies" as one may bite back ;)

So true....and taking advantage of the "desperation" I sense in some of the messages would be easy. I never have, never will....similar to my "not if they have drank too much" rule. I won't take advantage.

 

One new friend I've met from SA has become just a "friend" we've never had playtime, don't plan any at this point. He needed a short term helping hand/listener and I was there for him.

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Like anywhere you are meeting people, you need to spend enough time to be discerning about the person you meet. Seeking Arrangement is as littered with young men, with strange ideas as any other site where people are offering themselves to spend "time" with strangers in exchange for cash. Most of the young men, I have talked to, are actually spending time asking questions, getting to know each other and feeling it out before they offer any one on one time, and less than half put a price tag on an initial meeting. I would say, in my experience, 1/3 of these young gentlemen are escorting in the traditional "by the hour" format.

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So true....and taking advantage of the "desperation" I sense in some of the messages would be easy. I never have, never will....similar to my "not if they have drank too much" rule. I won't take advantage.

 

One new friend I've met from SA has become just a "friend" we've never had playtime, don't plan any at this point. He needed a short term helping hand/listener and I was there for him.

Well said and worth reiterating. Behaving ethically and treating those who are truly in a difficult circumstance not of their making invites good karma. Being honest and 100% transparent with your intentions will benefit everyone in the long term.

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Yeah and thats why I would rather get paid by the hour as an escort. Having a sugardaddy seems so amazing in your head, but in reality those kinds of things rarely happen in the first place and then if they do they rarely last. I would rather escort, we both know from the get go what were both getting out of it, and then my ass leaves lol. Like I said from my experiences no one wanted to help me financially and if they did, it was much less than what I would get from escorting. It's like pulling teeth talking about financials even though its a sugar daddy website and the site even lists has a section on how much you can do... (most profiles say negotiable) The guys however did want to treat me out to dinners/gifts etc, aka they wanted a relationship. Problem is dinners are nice and all but Im going to still have to escort if you want to be in a relationship since ur only want to treat me to dinners lol

 

Seeking arrangement just has so many layers to unravel, you don't want to sound like gold digger even though the website is called seeking arrangement... yet you don't want to be taken advantage of... :D;)Ive also had guys from seeking arrangement after they have taken me to dinner, take me to their place so they can try to get some free sex... lol. Which is sad because Im sure many newbies are pressured to give it up first time they meet as they want to make a good first impression so the sugardaddy sees them again. Or other times I ask how much allowance they can do and they said well let me test out how good the sex is and then ill tell you.. REALLY... how stupid do you think i am :(:p:p

Clearly, [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER], it's not for you.

I enjoy unraveling the layers myself. And with success, at least by my goals.

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Ive also had guys from seeking arrangement after they have taken me to dinner, take me to their place so they can try to get some free sex... lol.
Ummmm...that's called having a NORMAL RELATIONSHIP with someone. Having you been so focused on pay for play, that you forgot how MOST people do it ? The majority of these young, men are not interested in a series of strangers paying their rent. They want one successful older man to take responsibility away from them, and in exchange offer themselves as a "constant companion"....aren't all relationships between younger and older pretty much the same thing ?
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the website is called seeking arrangement and has "a section of how much a sugardaddy budget is" it isn't a normal relationship or even a traditional dating website. But then again in any relationship each person is getting something from the other whether it be love, money etc, don't get upset when someone is looking for an allowance on their as thats what the foundation of the website is. Muah it isn't for everyone, I was just giving my opinion on what happened to me, I'm sure you can find someone who isn't just looking for money on there, I however was just raising awareness on how either side should be honest and not take advantage of one another :)

What I meant by normal, is that people don't always PAY for sex. When you are shopping for a rich husband, you're not charging by the hour.

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I haven't been on a date in so long so I don't know what thats like anymore

CLEARLY ! The only dates I've ever been on, that did not end in sex were in High School and with girls...and even with most of them, I got laid. I would point out that any beautiful woman, who's dating a successful business man is putting out on a regular basis in an effort to win the grand prize. No one brings home an escort to meet their mom.

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Meet in a hotel

Suite for the first time? No please meet in the lobby or something for your own

Safety!

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Yes of course...we met at a local cafe for a bit to get acquainted. He is sweet, earnest and not interested in pay for play or being "kept". Just likes older men. BOY DOES HE!!! Wow!

 

He will be treated to nice dinners and gifts from me because I choose to do that. I in turn will be treated to some of the best sex ever! OMG!!!

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I know seeking arrangement is more of a process, those kinds of arrangements don't happen overtime. You do have to have test dates to see if your compatible, but what I was saying is that its not the best thing to take someone to bed first time you meet someone if your trying to have this sugardaddy relationship as you don't know what the person is about yet.

 

I haven't been on a date in so long so I don't know what thats like anymore :( lol. I hope your not too mad at me papi for speaking up, you can spank me and choke me a little for being a naughty boy if you want but just know I respect you even if we have different opinions as your a client and Im an escort so our experiences are different :)

 

With the guy I met on there who I am currently in a relationship with ... we didn't have "sex" until the 3rd or 4th time we me and, by that time, we both knew that we wanted something more than an arrangement.

 

But even with the other guys I met there ... sex wasn't a component on the first meeting. I need to get to know someone, ask the right questions, see if we're compatible. I didn't got to that site just for sex. I can get that other places. I wanted an more "meaningful" arrangement.

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+1

 

I went through a few good guys and a few rotten apples before I found what I was looking for and, as it turned out, it ended up being way more than an arrangement so I can't complain. There are also lots of guys on there genuinely interested in older men. It's not really a site for escorts, which the site actually makes clear.

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which was exactly my point in the first place, if your trying to get to know me and make this a longterm arrangement or whatever you don't take me to your bedroom first time you meet me. Thats called a hookup to me lol. I already do that by escorting. Get to know me instead of my ass and dick because in seeking arrangement my goal is ultimately to look for something longterm.. correct?:D

 

Yes, absolutely.

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I wouldn't be interested in someone long term if there was ZERO sexual connection. So I slept with everyone who I've met on SeekingArrangement.com after our first date.

 

Well, call me old fashioned, but I can't make a sexual "connection" with a person until I've connected to them on all other levels first. Then it flows naturally. Unless this is only about sex for some and that's not really an arrangement. That's a hook-up.

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Haven't commented in a while, but I would concur with the guys who have said signing up for SA has been worth it for the short period I signed up as a paid Sugar Daddy. I'd give the site a B/B+. Since I travel around the upper Midwest a lot, SA gave me a chance to meet some nice younger gents in areas where there wouldn't be other providers. Still chatting off the site with a couple of guys who I plan to meet up with again when I happen to pass through town.

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