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This thread inspired me to signup for a seekingarrangement account. That was a month ago and the return on my investment has been mediocre at best. I've had lots of contacts from sugar babies in other countries and distant states. But the local guys who have contacted me haven't sparked my interest (mostly too young and twinky). I did have what seemed like a good connection with one very attractive 27 year old. We had lunch and spent a couple hours talking. Although he seemed like a nice enough guy, there were so many contradictions in his story that I wondered if it was mostly BS. Or maybe he was insecure and stretching the truth to impress me. The biggest problem was that he seemed to want financial assistance without a sexual component to an arrangement. I'm willing to invest in developing a relationship/friendship if I can be reasonably sure there will be a sexual component at some point. But otherwise, it's not worth my time no matter how nice and attractive he is. I've decided to reach out to forum members who have posted about their success with site. Maybe, with their advice, I can have some success as well.

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This thread inspired me to signup for a seekingarrangement account. That was a month ago and the return on my investment has been mediocre at best. I've had lots of contacts from sugar babies in other countries and distant states. But the local guys who have contacted me haven't sparked my interest (mostly too young and twinky). I did have what seemed like a good connection with one very attractive 27 year old. We had lunch and spent a couple hours talking. Although he seemed like a nice enough guy, there were so many contradictions in his story that I wondered if it was mostly BS. Or maybe he was insecure and stretching the truth to impress me. The biggest problem was that he seemed to want financial assistance without a sexual component to an arrangement. I'm willing to invest in developing a relationship/friendship if I can be reasonably sure there will be a sexual component at some point. But otherwise, it's not worth my time no matter how nice and attractive he is. I've decided to reach out to forum members who have posted about their success with site. Maybe, with their advice, I can have some success as well.

Mama always said you gotta kiss a lotta frogs to find your prince

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Interesting. The seeking arrangement profile allows you to display your net worth and annual income. Where I raised, it is considered crass to tell your income and talk about personal wealth, so I left these items blank... until 2 hours ago when I filled in the numbers. And suddenly, I have a huge influx of new messages. Not quite sure what to think....

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Where I raised, it is considered crass to tell your income and talk about personal wealth, so I left these items blank... until 2 hours ago when I filled in the numbers. And suddenly, I have a huge influx of new messages. Not quite sure what to think....

 

I repeat!

 

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I have used SA for 4 years. It does take some time and effort to find a decent sugar babby. I usually ask how the site is working for them. Most say they have had little luck or never met anyone. I then ask to be specific in what they are looking for out me and what they want. Some are wishy washy and others are very clear. Most want me to offer them something. I don't want a live-in or a monthly arrangement so I state I want a casual thing that works when we both can match up our schedules. I offer a one night $$ amount and a weekend (two nights) $$ amount. It is not a lot but it seems to satisfy most sugar babies. The ones that want thousands of dollars are not even chatted with again. I say that is too much and leave it at that. Some do negotiate and I listen to their offers. Sometimes we come to an agreement and other times it does not work. What is the best situation? It is a young man who digs older men and does not want any money but just expenses paid...or minimal amounts for spending. They basically use SA to find cool and sexy older men. Yes...there are a lot of young men on SA using it for that reason. I had a few really cool and sexy jocks that were fun and and we enjoyed our time together. I had a couple of duds that knew nothing about having good erotic sex. Then I had one who was adding money during sex in order to go on....he was sent home that day. Overall....great site but it takes work. I like to spend more than an hour with a guy and I like to connect. It works for that reason for me and is far less expensive than an escort.

BINGO

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[uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] is right..."seeking..." takes a bit more work than say RentMen. My experience has been that it's a hybrid of personals site and Adam4Adam and Rentmen, lol. I've chatted with guys whose "allowance" ranges from ZERO to thousand$/monthly. I don't meet the high end monthly allowance types, I prefer pitching a visit-by-visit arrangement on a semi-regular basis. Virtually all the young men I've met have been happy to meet for coffee, lunch, etc. for a first time no obligation meet, those motivated young men are as interested in a personal "connection" as I am before moving to the next step. (Honesty here - I have been stood up for that first coffee/lunch meet a couple times). Of Those that show up, a HUGE percentage are happy to head to my place for some more intimate time.

 

It's been great and a LOT of fun for me. I'm the type that is patient and I enjoy "the hunt", I know from previous postings not all of you like the "hunt" like I do. I'm still learning, getting better figuring out who is going to work out for me, and more importantly knowing when I'm chatting up a time waster or someone looking for a quick buck.

 

Best luck so far have been university students, with out-of-work actors (yay SoCal area!!) a close second. Busier student/work oriented guys my best matches so far. I'm enjoying spending the time invested in talking to these guys. In just the short time I've been on there I've made two new friends who art NOT arrangements, just friends!!

 

Currently I'm in the lunch, second date, and intimacy stages with 3 different guys. I've got my eye on "one" who might for longer term ;).

My experience closely echoes this... It's been fantastic. :)

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I've only been a SA member for 2 weeks. My experiences include:

 

- being approached to help start a business in Cologne Germany, "Send 30,000 Euros so I can start a hair and make-up studio"

- after a get acquainted dinner with a ensuing massage session, the boy jumped up, blocked the door, and demanded $300 cash.

- "Send me a Uber, I am late for my first period class" via text message to my phone, with NO prior contact.

 

More to come...

Reasonable vetting is an absolute requirement, obviously.

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I am not a regular poster like most of you guys, more a vouyer of this forum. Rent men, like Rentboy is fairly cut and dried, to the point. SA is more subtle, I have talked with several guys who didn't expect sex to be part of the arrangement. It takes a lot of work and there really aren't any free rides. All in all there are a lot of nice guys on there. I live in the Southeast so there is not a lot of talent here, but NY is a quick flight away. I move the age slider up to about 26 to eliminate the guys who are too young. Yes there are some you wonder why they think someone would compensate them for anything. All in all I have met 3 great guys. We arranged for an "eposodic" amount for the first meeting. Dinner a great hotel and 500-1000 in comp and everyone walks away happy. Another weekend of the same, I think all would say yes. PayPal eliminates the envelope. All in all a great site but it takes work. I had so much on my plate I had to take a break. I think the secret to any arrangement, or hire or whatever or how every long you want to call it is a sense of mutual respect. If you respect these guys as equals and treat them with kindness and some courtesy it is amazing what happens. If you're a nice guy (not stupid or naive) there are a lot of nice guys out there. I am 60 years old. I'm having more fun with more hot guys than I ever did in my 20's and 30's and was cruising around.

Exactly! Wonderful...

Have a great time :)

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My listing emphatically states that they must be local and must want to meet in person ASAP so I've had basically no fakers from the US. From Russia, yes.

There's a "filtered" folder in the SA "inbox", I tried setting a distance filter using a slider control there, so only messages from profiles <xx miles go to "inbox" and from profiles >xx miles go to "filtered" folder.

 

Didn't really work as I thought it should. Anyone else try that?

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Ok, how's this for "best of the bad" SA messages:

 

 

"hello my name is Andrew almanza I'm a really famous celebrity and I'm being held hostage by my father who is trying to have incest with me I'm married to Justin Bieber can I please get a loan of 100k and I will pay you back double or triple the amount and set you up with any celebrity you want please it's an emergency"

 

He's blocked

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Ok, how's this for "best of the bad" SA messages:

 

 

"hello my name is Andrew almanza I'm a really famous celebrity and I'm being held hostage by my father who is trying to have incest with me I'm married to Justin Bieber can I please get a loan of 100k and I will pay you back double or triple the amount and set you up with any celebrity you want please it's an emergency"

 

He's blocked

Holy crap! You Blocked Him?!! But he can set you up with ANY celebrity you want! It's like having your own personal genie in a bottle.

 

(I've not gotten any that creative - I tend to get the "my parents found out I'm gay and cut off all my money and my rent is due" messages.)

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There's a "filtered" folder in the SA "inbox", I tried setting a distance filter using a slider control there, so only messages from profiles <xx miles go to "inbox" and from profiles >xx miles go to "filtered" folder.

 

Didn't really work as I thought it should. Anyone else try that?

 

I hadn't seen that but just set it so we'll see.

 

I also see there's a "block messages with less than X words". I gets lots of "sup" and "yo" messages; my game (yes, I know - too much time on my hands) is to respond with fewer characters. That seems to spiral into a black hole where messages are compressed into shorter and shorter lengths: "Yo - wassup".... "Not much"... "HMU on txt"...." No"...." ? "....<no response>.

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I hadn't seen that but just set it so we'll see.

 

I also see there's a "block messages with less than X words". I gets lots of "sup" and "yo" messages; my game (yes, I know - too much time on my hands) is to respond with fewer characters. That seems to spiral into a black hole where messages are compressed into shorter and shorter lengths: "Yo - wassup".... "Not much"... "HMU on txt"...." No"...." ? "....<no response>.

I'd like to block messages where the opening line is the SA stock "request your private pictures..."

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Holy crap! You Blocked Him?!! But he can set you up with ANY celebrity you want! It's like having your own personal genie in a bottle.

 

(I've not gotten any that creative - I tend to get the "my parents found out I'm gay and cut off all my money and my rent is due" messages.)

If he'd offered to bring his bride to the party I probably wouldn't have blocked him...o_O

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The ones that make me laugh are:

 

1. Giving the finger as a profile pic.

2. Sticking their tongue thinking that is attractive.

3. A picture of them at least 300 feet away or more.

4. The need for lots of money but they want nothing sexual. "Just looking for a mentor and friend."

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