Seeking arrangements success!

[jjkrkwood]

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[+ muscleboyinsd]

I've had three very good experiences on Seeking Arrangement. I was a regular, so to speak, of the first one on-and-off for about two years. He just wanted cash. The second one lasted for six months, and he just wanted me to take him out on a big shopping spree regularly. The third kind of fizzled before we got serious, but it was still very sweet and hot... They were all young - 19 to 22. I did get hounded buy a lot of "sugar babies" I really didn't want to meet up with though. But then I just made my profile hidden and that solved the problem for the most part. I took a break from that site, though.

[+ Keith30309]

I continue to be surprise. I've met a professional ballet dancer (definitely bucket list material), FTM TG fella, a young guy who has a very kinky sub side and a sweet guy who has some keen daddy interests.

Explorations continue.

[CBA]

I have used SA for 4 years. It does take some time and effort to find a decent sugar babby. I usually ask how the site is working for them. Most say they have had little luck or never met anyone. I then ask to be specific in what they are looking for out me and what they want. Some are wishy washy and others are very clear. Most want me to offer them something. I don't want a live-in or a monthly arrangement so I state I want a casual thing that works when we both can match up our schedules. I offer a one night $$ amount and a weekend (two nights) $$ amount. It is not a lot but it seems to satisfy most sugar babies. The ones that want thousands of dollars are not even chatted with again. I say that is too much and leave it at that. Some do negotiate and I listen to their offers. Sometimes we come to an agreement and other times it does not work. What is the best situation? It is a young man who digs older men and does not want any money but just expenses paid...or minimal amounts for spending. They basically use SA to find cool and sexy older men. Yes...there are a lot of young men on SA using it for that reason. I had a few really cool and sexy jocks that were fun and and we enjoyed our time together. I had a couple of duds that knew nothing about having good erotic sex. Then I had one who was adding money during sex in order to go on....he was sent home that day. Overall....great site but it takes work. I like to spend more than an hour with a guy and I like to connect. It works for that reason for me and is far less expensive than an escort.

[+ Keith30309]

It's absolutely a mixed bag... I had an overnight with a sweet guy who refused to take any money (I hid it in his bag anyway).

 

My limited experience is that the guys who post a shirtless pic have a fairly clear notion of what they are looking for.

 

As you say, it's intriguing in that it's a wide-open set of possibilities versus an ordinary escort experience, which has a set routine and is generally fairly predictable (which is not to say boring... just predictable).

Noone in SA is in it for the long-term (at least that I have had contact with) and don't have preconceptions about the financials. Also, the guys who post profiles turns over pretty rapidly so there's a fresh set of faces pretty regularly.

 

In a sense, it's like Grindr without the immediacy and with a built-in layer of screening.

 

I'm not thru with SA yet...

[+ PapaTony]

Thanks to mention of seekingarrangement by Keith in another thread I joined.

In just a mater of days I've had about 24 contacts by really cute looking guys of which 6 are potential real winners. (Yes there are lots of sketchy losers)

 

Today I spent time with a beauty I had been texting with for a day. We talked and talked, getting to know each other and understanding what each wanted out of "an arrangement"

 

At one point I said I really wanted to kiss him, he said ok and 4 hours later I was a puddle of gooey goodness. The boy did "daddy" real good and all he wants out of it is to see me again real soon and looks forward to going out to dinner with me. I know and I'm willing to help him out a little with finances but he's not interested in "payments". He has a full time job and is studying for his masters. he's not penniless; doesn't want handouts. But if daddy wants to treat him nicely or give him gifts I think he'd gladly accept. Trust me, the sex was so f*cking good I WANTED to pay him.

 

I think I'm going to like this a whole lot.

 

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[down_to_business]

Sounds really intriguing, but I sure have a hard time with understanding what type of privacy/confidentiality one could maintain and still get benefit out of the website.

[+ Keith30309]

Sounds really intriguing, but I sure have a hard time with understanding what type of privacy/confidentiality one could maintain and still get benefit out of the website.

 

You can PM me for details but I've the same level of privacy as I do with a RM-based arrangement, at least in the beginning and until I choose to make it otherwise.

I've met several guys via SA and what is known about me is what I've chosen to make known to them based on my level of confidence.

 

It's a more protracted process, taking days or even weeks rather than hours, and generally the guys are uncertain and need some guidance.

[MikeBiDude]

You can PM me for details but I've the same level of privacy as I do with a RM-based arrangement, at least in the beginning and until I choose to make it otherwise.

I've met several guys via SA and what is known about me is what I've chosen to make known to them based on my level of confidence.

 

It's a more protracted process, taking days or even weeks rather than hours, and generally the guys are uncertain and need some guidance.

@Keith30309 I am setting up a profile there....are you premium/paid member? Do you post your picture "public"?

I'm curious how those choices affect replies to your profile...

[+ Keith30309]

@Keith30309 I am setting up a profile there....are you premium/paid member? Do you post your picture "public"?

I'm curious how those choices affect replies to your profile...

Briefly: a public photo from the neck down in a suit. In my private photos are a few pixelated face shots.

I'm asked quite frequently for face pics - much moreso than via RM - but I never send them and it's never been a showstopper.

I am a "premium" member.

 

Feel free to PM for details.

[+ PapaTony]

You have to pay in order to interact/respond to messages

[+ PapaTony]

You can PM me for details but I've the same level of privacy as I do with a RM-based arrangement, at least in the beginning and until I choose to make it otherwise.

I've met several guys via SA and what is known about me is what I've chosen to make known to them based on my level of confidence.

 

It's a more protracted process, taking days or even weeks rather than hours, and generally the guys are uncertain and need some guidance.

 

Agreed. Same for me

[MikeBiDude]

You have to pay in order to interact/respond to messages

I need to try a different browser when I click on info for "premium" I don't get a sign up page...I'll play with it more after Holidays

[+ Steve yabsley]

This sight looks pretty interesting. Do you use it for short term 'arrangements' or have you tried for something longer term?

I have been semi looking for a longer term arrangement as I sampled from rent.men.....this looks very intriguing.....lots of guys seem to have posted.....any comments if most are "real"?

[+ PapaTony]

I'm new to it so can't determine which however my conversations so far seem to favor long term arrangements. The boys are interested in reliable, consistent arrangements, not tricking

[+ Keith30309]

For me the objective is to find someone with whom I have some chemistry and meet a couple of times a week for a couple of hours. First meeting or two is coffee or something similar to get to know each other and then a rhythm of "private time". The guys enjoy the reliable stream of cash - we agree on a set amount, or weekly allowance. For students with a flexible schedule it's great. There's always been a moment, uncomfortable for some, where the idea of exchange of money for physical intimacy crystallizes.... when they're handed an envelope, for example. My take on it is that it is no different than time for money and whatever happens happens. Every guy I have met has been sincere and non-cynical and our time like a true BFE.

 

There are downsides: the guys are inexperienced and need some gentle guidance; you have to week thru a steady stream of guys who are not a good match for one reason or another; there are some flakes . There is also the membership cost, though if you want to measure the success in purely monetary terms then a single $200 overnight with a hot jock or cute twink more than covers a momth's membership.

[+ newguy]

What I noticed is that the vast majority of guys list "Negotiable." The ones who list HIGH or SUBSTANTIAL invariably were not as remotely hot as they thought they were. I also didn't put my accurate net worth or salary on there. They don't need to know that.

 

I was surprised by the number of uglees and fatties on that site. I still ask ... who is going to pay for that?

Haha! That's very true. There are a huge number of ugly "sugar babies" on "Seeking Arrangement"--many of whom note they anticipate a "substantial" compensation. They all must be nuts. I had one partially successful "arrangement" that lasted 3 years...and am now on my 2nd, which I think will last until I "expire." However, it is sort of unusual...'nuff said.

[+ newguy]

I can't imagine many here being real sugar daddies. not with the regular commentary about high escort rates and penny pinching

There might be. It's an "alternative lifestyle" contrasted with escorting. Some sugar daddies, also, aren't part of the escorting world. It would be a fascinating research project (for some people).

[+ glutes]

So, does the 'allowance' come at the beginning of the month, or end of the month?

[+ Keith30309]

The terms of the financial elements of your arrangement are whatever is agreed-upon - weekly, monthly, ad-hoc.... I've found interest often gravitates toward the first of the month for rent and at times that school tuition is due.

[+ goosh69]

A year later and I've met one who I thought MAYBE might work out...but he lied about his age. Too young. Much too. Another would have been the one...right age, former Abercrombie model (literally an Abercrombie model) but was just soooooooooo messed up in terms of his life. Like, several CW bad boys in one. And not the good kind of bad. Arrest warrant bad.

 

But like some others on this board who have money, I'd rather find something semipermanent versus constantly seeking new rent men.

[+ Gar1eth]

Seeking arrangement is like a having a real relationship, which means it takes many tries to find someone compatible.

 

I'll agree with you that it's 'like' a relationship. But in the end it is really more like an extended hiring session. If you mean a 'real' relationship, well in my mind, while money may play a part, it's a very minuscule one.

 

Gman

[MikeBiDude]

Seeking arrangement is like a having a real relationship, which means it takes many tries to find someone compatible. Lets be honest theirs very few people we can stand to be around for hours at a time . And also most relationship don't last a month so you don't get that monthly allowance. If your looking to get some quick cash from that site your better off somewhere else, as this takes time and patience.

 

I did meet 2 people from the website. First guy we met a coffee shop we talk a little, he felt comfortable so then he took me to his lavish apartment, we had sex and he gave me $ so it was same as if he found me on rentmen lol. The 2nd guy he lived in pennslyvania so it was a few hours away, we met a few times and he wanted an actual relationship and he didnt want to give allowances as he thought it felt weird. He was fine with taking me out to dinners/gifts. So it depends on the person, just don't beat around the bush, tell them what your looking for..

[uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] is right..."seeking..." takes a bit more work than say RentMen. My experience has been that it's a hybrid of personals site and Adam4Adam and Rentmen, lol. I've chatted with guys whose "allowance" ranges from ZERO to thousand$/monthly. I don't meet the high end monthly allowance types, I prefer pitching a visit-by-visit arrangement on a semi-regular basis. Virtually all the young men I've met have been happy to meet for coffee, lunch, etc. for a first time no obligation meet, those motivated young men are as interested in a personal "connection" as I am before moving to the next step. (Honesty here - I have been stood up for that first coffee/lunch meet a couple times). Of Those that show up, a HUGE percentage are happy to head to my place for some more intimate time.

 

It's been great and a LOT of fun for me. I'm the type that is patient and I enjoy "the hunt", I know from previous postings not all of you like the "hunt" like I do. I'm still learning, getting better figuring out who is going to work out for me, and more importantly knowing when I'm chatting up a time waster or someone looking for a quick buck.

 

Best luck so far have been university students, with out-of-work actors (yay SoCal area!!) a close second. Busier student/work oriented guys my best matches so far. I'm enjoying spending the time invested in talking to these guys. In just the short time I've been on there I've made two new friends who art NOT arrangements, just friends!!

 

Currently I'm in the lunch, second date, and intimacy stages with 3 different guys. I've got my eye on "one" who might for longer term .

[+ OliverSaks]

A year later and I've met one who I thought MAYBE might work out...but he lied about his age. Too young. Much too. Another would have been the one...right age, former Abercrombie model (literally an Abercrombie model) but was just soooooooooo messed up in terms of his life. Like, several CW bad boys in one. And not the good kind of bad. Arrest warrant bad.

 

But like some others on this board who have money, I'd rather find something semipermanent versus constantly seeking new rent men.

Just FYI, I prefer longer term arrangements with clients, too - I think most escorts prefer semipermanent regulars. It's safer, more convenient, and it allows a deeper connection to build over time (for escorts who offer more than the physical).

[+ glutes]

I've only been a SA member for 2 weeks. My experiences include:

 

- being approached to help start a business in Cologne Germany, "Send 30,000 Euros so I can start a hair and make-up studio"

- after a get acquainted dinner with a ensuing massage session, the boy jumped up, blocked the door, and demanded $300 cash.

- "Send me a Uber, I am late for my first period class" via text message to my phone, with NO prior contact.

 

More to come...

Edited February 4, 2017 by Oaktown