Escorts asking for financial help between meetings

[+ PhileasFogg]

21 hours ago, Nightowl said:

No one has ever asked me for a loan and if one did, it would have to be someone I trusted  and had seen many many times before I’d even consider giving him anything.  Even then, I’m not sure I’d give him anything. To me, asking for money crosses a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

Oh trust me…those criteria can still go south quickly. 
 

But if you do, get a signed note, legal address, SSN and Birthdate so you can sue and enter the judgment to credit reporting agencies 

Edited September 12 by PhileasFogg

[Rod Hagen]

Without the continual generosity of one Client/Friend in particular, no loans just frequent $-help, my life would have been entirely different in a very shitty way.  I frequently let him know how grateful I am.  There was another, also a big help to be sure.  Escorting for me was not a big money maker.  Not at all. Without the gifts, I actually would have had to work!  

Edited September 12 by Rod Hagen

[Boaxxx]

I've never been ask so clearly none of them think I am sitting on a mound of cash and if one did I would say no. I find it very odd/suspect that someone would ask their client/customer for money. Do they not have anyone else in their life that they have a closer relationship with - a friend, a family member? Asking a client for money to cover personal expenses is not not something that I would do. 

Edited September 12 by Boaxxx

[PragueMen]

This is an interesting topic. I have helped sugar babies obviously. And other providers who I have gained their trust and I know are being honest.

I have extra money and I’m willing to help a struggling male model if they are doing the right thing. It’s hard to know in this industry fraught with drugs and other problems if they are telling the truth. I would say just don’t be stupid and naive and that people lie.

Edited September 12 by PragueMen

[Nue2thegame]

On 9/12/2026 at 6:25 AM, PhileasFogg said:

But if you do, get a signed note, legal address, SSN and Birthdate so you can sue and enter the judgment to credit reporting agencies 

I’ve “loaned” or “given in advance” modest amounts but I wouldn’t ever think about loaning an amount that would necessitate those considerations. I’ve never given more than I would realistically be bothered to lose. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

9 minutes ago, Nue2thegame said:

I’ve “loaned” or “given in advance” modest amounts but I wouldn’t ever think about loaning an amount that would necessitate those considerations. I’ve never given more than I would realistically be bothered to lose. 

 

On 9/12/2026 at 5:25 AM, PhileasFogg said:

But if you do…

😉

[+ Topseed]

Short answer: No.

[Vulgarii]

On 9/9/2026 at 4:33 PM, viewing ownly said:

I feel it takes some nerve to ask you for money instead of going a loan center route if they are short on cash. However, if they reach out for you to see them for the purpose seeing them is for (escorting) in the first place more often, that's reasonable. 

Asking to begin with means they aren't responsible enough with the money they are already getting, and they shouldn't have it become your responsibility to know it's likely never going to be returned if you offer "help". This is really no different than convicted criminals - most people in jail aren't there only once, and never again. Once you give, there's almost no chance you won't be asked to give again. I'm sorry these guys think of you as an ATM. 

 

Sex workers often cannot qualify to get a loan, or even unemployment and other welfare services. 🙄

 

I would work something out like give him an advance on his services that I should get for free until the debt is paid.

Even if it's for family, only lend, or even invest, in what you can afford to lose. 

Edited September 13 by Vulgarii

[Vulgarii]

I would have a serious talk with clients that I know very well and have known for years, if I needed to.

I would at least work out a payment plan or give them a number of free services. 

 

I still remember what Heidi Fleiss would say about her ladies being taken care of.

If you really like and enjoy your providers/masseurs and want them to stay in business then you'd at least consider trying to help them, unless you'd like to be back on the carousel trying out new providers.

 

[rickster]

On 9/9/2026 at 4:33 PM, viewing ownly said:

 

Asking to begin with means they aren't responsible enough with the money they are already getting, and they shouldn't have it become your responsibility to know it's likely never going to be returned if you offer "help". This is really no different than convicted criminals - most people in jail aren't there only once, and never again. Once you give, there's almost no chance you won't be asked to give again. I'm sorry these guys think of you as an ATM. 

It's a bit harsh to say people who are irresponsible with money - and this is a large group and by no means confined to providers - are "really no different than common criminals."  You can loan/give them money or not, as you wish, but don't need to be so judgey about it.

[MxB]

I had one guy I really liked that I was seeing regularly.  I was pretty sure he was not good at managing his finances.  He asked for advances on our next session a few times, and I was willing to do that for him.  We also had a few extended chat sessions and I tried to be on the generous side of fair for his time.  At least once he asked me for money for gas.  Given that he was driving about 90 minutes each way to see me, I thought that was fair, and offered to pay for his gas a few more times.

He left the business at a time when we had arranged an advance on our next session.  That next session was supposed to be covered but it never happened.  He offered to repay me in a few weeks.  The reality was that it was a hardship for him and a minor amount for me (that I'd already disbursed) so I told him to keep it and wished him well.

I still miss him, and hope he's doing well.  I've tried to find him on social media but have only found accounts that have been long dormant.

[+ FrankR]

Like the French, I believe in taking care of my mistresses! 😉😉

[+ PhileasFogg]

On 9/13/2026 at 5:55 PM, Vulgarii said:

Sex workers often cannot qualify to get a loan, or even unemployment and other welfare services. 🙄

 

Maybe.   But if they don’t, it’s likely because they aren’t bothered by a pesky thing called “taxes”

[Vulgarii]

14 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Maybe.   But if they don’t, it’s likely because they aren’t bothered by a pesky thing called “taxes”

 

What are those?

[+ Just Chuck]

On 9/13/2026 at 6:53 PM, rickster said:

It's a bit harsh to say people who are irresponsible with money - and this is a large group and by no means confined to providers - are "really no different than common criminals."  You can loan/give them money or not, as you wish, but don't need to be so judgey about it.

I met a person who became a sexworker because they are mildly autistic but have pronounced Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and had a very difficult time maintaining any other job.  They had the financial troubles of someone who had a hard time both holding down a job and remembering to pay bills.  To meet up, they were upfront about their neurological condition and asked for SEVERAL reminder messages before an appointment.    

I hope I never judge a person for financial troubles caused by a medical condition.

[+ JamesB]

Some people are bad with money because their brains, habits and environment are poorly matched to modern personal finance. Humans naturally overweight immediate rewards and discount future ones. A dollar today feels more real than $1.20 a year from now. Financial literacy is also low and apparently getting worse. Adults in the U.S. correctly answered only 47% of basic personal-finance questions in the 2026 P-Fin Index, the lowest score in its 10-year history. Add poor planning, weak impulse control and inconsistent follow-through, and the problem becomes even harder. Meanwhile, the financial system is designed around these weaknesses: instant credit, one-click purchases, buy-now-pay-later, and marketing built around immediate gratification. Easy access to debt can turn small present-bias mistakes into large, compounding financial problems.

[DunwoodyGuy]

Absolutely NOT. This is the oldest scam in the book. It's the only thing WORSE than upselling while you're hard. Immediate block, no matter how good or hot or whatever he was. Immediate block.

[+ PhileasFogg]

On 9/15/2026 at 9:02 PM, Vulgarii said:

 

What are those?

a penalty on success 😉

 

[Thelatin]

Can I borrow some money?
Yes.
Omg, I love you so much, Daddy. ❤️

Can I borrow some money?
Yes.
Ooooh Daddy, I can't WAIT to see you. 😘

Can I borrow some money?
Yes.
Daddy, clear your schedule. I'm about to ROCK. YOUR. WORLD. 🔥

Can I borrow some money? I'm really short this month.
Sorry, I can't this time.
Wow. Just WOW. I can't believe this is who you really are. After everything we've been through. You're selfish, toxic, emotionally unavailable, and frankly I don't even recognize you anymore. I KNOW you have the money. Don't ever contact me again.

Three weeks later...

Hey Daddy 🥰
Whatcha doing?