How quick before intimacy with a first visit?

[Mark_fl]

I'm sure there is no playbook or standard, but what does everyone think is appropriate before kissing or contact on a first visit? Do you let the provider start after a few minutes? How long do you wait if he doesn't? 

I know I'm more comfortable chatting for a few, but does that make him uncomfortable as a rule? Or would he prefer just to get to it?

[Nue2thegame]

I’m probably as much of a newbie as you and maybe I’m seeing a different clientele but things typically move pretty quickly for me. Sometimes there’s a bit of a language barrier but talking in tongues seems to be universally understood. 

[nomad]

I find starting by taking a shower together quickly moves to rubbing and tugging. 

[+ nycman]

Instantly.

Either the chemistry is there or it’s not.

As a Grindr hook up once said to me, “I really like having sex with you, let’s not fuck that up with words”.  

[BuffaloKyle]

It depends as well on how long is your session? One hour means only time for a 5 min quick chat. Two hours more like 10-15 min chat. 

Also usually there's chatting in between some feeling up and making out for me at least at the beginning.

[big-n-tall]

Depends on the person and what services they are providing. Most providers are ok with chatting before doing anything.

Because I have a number of regulars I've known for years we start off with a chat to catch up if I haven't talked to them recently. Then the fun begins. Most of the masseurs want to chat first. Only one was quick to get sensual/erotic and sometimes sexual the moment I step into the living room of his house.

A couple of my escort regulars will make out as soon as possible when we're alone. Some as soon as I walk into their room... some as soon as we step into an elevator alone... some as soon as we get to my the car.

Sometimes I'm nervous with a first time hire and I'll want to talk a bit before hand.

[Petris Sage]

1 hour ago, nycman said:

“I really like having sex with you, let’s not fuck that up with words”.  

Best quote I've read in quite  a while.

[liubit]

In my case, we proceed very quickly -very very quickly- from a polite  greeting at the door to touching, passionately making out, undressing and jumping in bed. If he is a regular, we skip the polite niceties and start making out the moment we close the entrance door behind us. 

Edited yesterday at 05:33 AM by liubit

[+ Jamie21]

Interesting chat. Mostly clients like a bit of chat but also affectionate touch as soon as they arrive. It depends on if they are regular or not. Regulars the kissing can start at the door. One client has his cock out as I open the door…he’s keen to maximise value for money. 

 

[ACluelessGent]

49 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Regulars the kissing can start at the door. One client has his cock out as I open the door…he’s keen to maximise value for money. 

 

A kiss on the cheek at the door is perfectly fine and continental. More is rather vulgar. The client with the cock out is disgusting and desperate.

[Rod Hagen]

2 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

A kiss on the cheek at the door is perfectly fine and continental. More is rather vulgar. The client with the cock out is disgusting and desperate.

You and I would not have gotten on :-(

[Aamir]

6 minutes ago, Rod Hagen said:

You and I would not have gotten on 😞

No doubt something heard many times before 

[BeHappy]

It seems to me that friends that meet you at door with just a towel on, are eager to have immediate fun!

With just a thong is about the same as a towel!

T-shirt and thong is a bit of a chat before fun!

Fully dressed is definitely a chat session and then fun!

Just some observations from over the years of exploring this wonderful hobby!

[jeezifonly]

I like to unwrap a beautiful gift, so I request they be wearing clothes when I arrive, which I will remove for them. Intimate touch through fabric goes well with kissing, as layers disappear and we'll have discussed consent by the time we're naked. I never book less than 90m, to make sure this happens when hiring escorts. 

[+ JamesB]

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

One client has his cock out as I open the door…

This reminds me of a particular provider. The very first time I met him, he opened the door completely naked and hard. We had an absolute blast together and ended up seeing each other many times. Some truly great memories.

[jawjateck]

My fastest ever…I let a repeat hire know I would answer the door naked. He knocked, and when I opened, he was already undressing. I was all over him, and he was still undressing. We were lathering up immediately. Less than 10 seconds after the door closed, he was naked. That was an all-star night and success story.  He’s in Europe now, and man oh man, I miss him. 😍

[HockeyMan]

 

22 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

I know I'm more comfortable chatting for a few, but does that make him uncomfortable as a rule? Or would he prefer just to get to it?

It's not a big deal. You set the pace of sessions. The provider's job is to accommodate you.

Edited 9 hours ago by HockeyMan

[+ StLouisOct]

10 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

A kiss on the cheek at the door is perfectly fine and continental. More is rather vulgar. The client with the cock out is disgusting and desperate.

“Clueless” is fitting.

[PVink]

I like to chat. If it’s a new provider I want to get to know them.  I will usually greet them with an opened mouth kiss just to make sure they are who they say they are and are there to do what we agreed upon.  If they don’t kiss at all, major red flag and end the meet immediately. That has not happened to me before, but I learned that tactic from another thread on this forum.

If I know them I want to catch up. The experience I’m seeking is more than just a physical connection. I desire personal intimacy and even though I’m aware it is performative, I like the illusion of an emotional connection.

Additionally, too many providers bail when the client finishes, even if the hour isn’t up, which is irritating.  Since I’m not a marathoner in that department, there’s ample time for chat and activity in one hour.  Ideally, a good convo relaxes both parties, especially for a first meet because first meets are stressful for most people.