Providers recruiting other providers for a client

[Johnnyroad]

I just saw this review of a provider I really was interested in.

“He was generous with his time but the entire time he was over he wanted a threesome with another escort. I said I couldnt pay for two and he said it wouldnt be an issue. Then the guy he invites over blows up at me for no payment. He also used needles in my bathroom to get hard I think.”

I’m baffled that clients  even expect providers to be able to procure other providers for them. Is this common practice? Why would a provider even trust another provider claiming to be recruiting on behalf of a client?

[Cretus]

The concept of a client asking a provider to recruit another provider inherently seems weird to me.

 

It seems in the above case, the client definitely wasn’t paying nor interested in a second provider simultaneously , and he made that clear, so the client isn’t in the wrong.

I don’t understand clients who do expect providers to recruit a third guy for free.
 

And even when paying for that second provider, it seems like it would be a risky thing unless that client contacted the second provider himself.
 

I personally don’t trust too many providers, and it seems the first provider described in that review was out for himself. Reckless behavior.

As a client, I always reach out to all parties personally whenever I want group fun in NYC. 

I would advise all providers to never accept any proposition from another provider, without speaking with the client himself. Period.

[ShortCutie7]

Why is this being interpreted as the client wanting the provider to recruit another provider? Unless I’m missing something, it’s pretty clear that the provider wanted to invite another particular provider to join them, and expected the client to agree to it and magically produce the money for the other provider.

[Johnnyroad]

I personally recognized this.

I'm pointing to the wider ridiculousness of the practice of clients expecting providers to recruit other providers, and the fact that some providers say yes to another provider trying to recruit them.

34 minutes ago, ShortCutie7 said:

Why is this being interpreted as the client wanting the provider to recruit another provider? Unless I’m missing something, it’s pretty clear that the provider wanted to invite another particular provider to join them, and expected the client to agree to it and magically produce the money for the other provider.

The first reply here also says that the client wasn't in the wrong, and is criticizing the practice generally.

[+ JamesB]

From what I understand, the client didn’t request a second provider and made it clear he wasn’t in a position to pay for one, so that situation really falls on the first provider. That said, on the few occasions when I’ve arranged sessions involving more than one provider, I’ve always relied on the provider I already knew and trusted to coordinate with any additional participants. I’m not saying that’s the standard approach but in my limited experience it has worked out well

[+ Jamie21]

It’s not unusual or strange. I’m often asked to find another guy to work with by clients. Obviously it has to be at the client’s request, I would never foist it on them. I usually send the details of guys who I work with who I know are good (I don’t work with guys I’ve not met before) and ask the client to pick who he likes and then I try to set it up for the client. It’s part of the service and saves the client a lot of hassle. They pay me the total quoted and I settle up with the other guy. The client gets two guys who work well together, focused on the client, and doesn’t have to do much coordination. 

[soloyo215]

7 hours ago, Johnnyroad said:

I just saw this review of a provider I really was interested in.

“He was generous with his time but the entire time he was over he wanted a threesome with another escort. I said I couldnt pay for two and he said it wouldnt be an issue. Then the guy he invites over blows up at me for no payment. He also used needles in my bathroom to get hard I think.”

I’m baffled that clients  even expect providers to be able to procure other providers for them. Is this common practice? Why would a provider even trust another provider claiming to be recruiting on behalf of a client?

Asking if they know or recommend another provider, maybe. Expecting them to do all the logistics for a threesome, that's crazy and lazy, IMO. I don't see myself letting another person choose and arrange things for me, leave alone pay.

Edited Sunday at 09:25 PM by soloyo215

[ShortCutie7]

I’m still confused how anyone can read that review and come to the conclusion that the client wanted a threesome?  I understand the question being asked, but what does it have at all to do with the review that inspired it?

[Nightowl]

I would have walked out.

[aiseeya]

On 5/11/2026 at 12:31 AM, Jamie21 said:

It’s not unusual or strange. I’m often asked to find another guy to work with by clients. Obviously it has to be at the client’s request, I would never foist it on them. I usually send the details of guys who I work with who I know are good (I don’t work with guys I’ve not met before) and ask the client to pick who he likes and then I try to set it up for the client. It’s part of the service and saves the client a lot of hassle. They pay me the total quoted and I settle up with the other guy. The client gets two guys who work well together, focused on the client, and doesn’t have to do much coordination. 

This is my common practice also (as a client). Easier and higher chance of a well coordinated smooth multi-providers session. Though I would typically tip the originator provider for the helping with logistic.

IMO my regulars prefer this approach as this allow them certain degree of control in managing the session be it to ensure client satisfaction, less awkwardness between providers (as would be expected if the providers never work in tandem prior) or just to offer an 'above and beyond client service' - all of which are very much appreciated from my end.

[DMonDude]

On 5/10/2026 at 7:21 AM, Johnnyroad said:

I just saw this review of a provider I really was interested in.

“He was generous with his time but the entire time he was over he wanted a threesome with another escort. I said I couldnt pay for two and he said it wouldnt be an issue. Then the guy he invites over blows up at me for no payment. He also used needles in my bathroom to get hard I think.”

I’m baffled that clients  even expect providers to be able to procure other providers for them. Is this common practice? Why would a provider even trust another provider claiming to be recruiting on behalf of a client?

A client asking a provider, or a provider offering to a client, to bring another provider for group play is totally normal and happens often. It's not ridiculous or crazy at all. The provider in the review you quoted also just did it very very incorrectly. They basically pressured the client into it and then lied to them about the pricing, creating an awkward situation for the client. 

Bringing in other providers to a session shouldn't happen unless the client specifically asks the provider for a group session. Or if the provider offers it, the client needs to say yes for it to proceed. You then would choose the second provider yourself or let the provider show you options that you say yes or no to. And the other provider always would be paid still. Providers don't do this work for free obviously. Every step of this was done incorrectly by the provider in the review you quoted.

In line with what Jamie21 said. Me personally, any time i have had a provider bring another provider, it's always discussed ahead of time before the session. The main provider i hire either asks me if i have anyone i want to bring or they show me ahead of time who they want/recommend to bring and i say yes or no. If i'm the one with a second provider i want to bring, i reach out to set it up. If i say i want my provider to bring/recommend someone, they show me their pick and if i say yes, they reach out to them and set it up for me. They make the offer to the other provider and they figure out pricing amongst themselves and then i say yes or no.

So far in my experience, anytime my regular provider brings another provider, the second provider always takes the same rate that i pay my regular. If the other provider needed more or whatever the case may be, then my regular would come back to me and let me know about that and i would have to agree or disagree. Communication and consent is always the key and that's what was lacking between client/provider in the review you quoted.

And my regular provider i was doing this with wouldn't just bring any one, he usually would only bring either guys he knew personally (he has a lot of friends who also are providers and we've basically run through his whole friend group together 🤣) or other guys who are very well reviewed or he's worked with for other clients who are into group sessions before. Or he also trusts my pick if i want to bring one of my other regulars (but i let him know he can veto if it's someone he has beef with or something like that).

Have never had any issues doing it 🤷‍♂️

22 hours ago, ShortCutie7 said:

I’m still confused how anyone can read that review and come to the conclusion that the client wanted a threesome?  I understand the question being asked, but what does it have at all to do with the review that inspired it?

Yeah i don't think that's what OP is saying either. OP saw the review and I think it's just maybe the first time they've heard that people are doing threesomes/group sessions in general and are simply citing the review as the source of inspiration for the question about "is this something people are doing and why?".

Edited Monday at 08:37 PM by DMonDude

[jeezifonly]

There's a mature provider I see occasionally who is well connected to others in the profession. He knows of my specific tastes within his range of services, and I asked him once if he could come up with a compatible third if I asked well ahead of time. (As a rule I am not into 3+, but there is this one fantasy scenario kinda ideal for his setup 🤔) He said he'd be happy to arrange it, as he has done for other clients, and I would absolutely trust him with both the aesthetics and the business involved. Happy to shell out money for pre-screened talent. 
Now, if he sprung a third on me in the middle of a session, it would be absolutely out of character, and indicate something is wrong, so I'd just hand him his hour's fee and leave.