Colder and Short DMs on RM

[Guav_42]

So I’ve been DMing some people on RM and I notice the DMs are a little short and cold. I would think they’d be a bit warmer and enthusiastic considering they do charge quite a bit. Sometimes I get like one or two word answers.

I’m new to this so is this typical for RM? Is it really just more straight and to the point? Just makes me feel a bit uneasy since I haven’t done this before.

[jmichaeliii]

11 minutes ago, Guav_42 said:

So I’ve been DMing some people on RM and I notice the DMs are a little short and cold. I would think they’d be a bit warmer and enthusiastic considering they do charge quite a bit. Sometimes I get like one or two word answers.

I’m new to this so is this typical for RM? Is it really just more straight and to the point? Just makes me feel a bit uneasy since I haven’t done this before.

Very common and frustrating.  I move on if nothing improves on the second message.  There are many choices and many are happy to interact with you.

[DMonDude]

Definitely has been my experience so far after hiring for a little over a year. I've never really thought much of it though. I'm just trying to quickly set something up same as them, i don't need fake flowery intro messages personally. But i know many others enjoy that part.

Well reviewed popular guys are getting dozens of messages a day and, if they're properly booked and busy, don't have time write a more drawn out thoughtful message. If they did, I'd personally assume it was a copy/paste auto response or an AI generated message anyway, which would be more off putting to me than a short message they typed.

I usually get more cordial or casual messaging from them once I've booked and especially after I've hired and come back or become a regular.

Edited Wednesday at 11:51 PM by DMonDude

[+ ApexNomad]

56 minutes ago, Guav_42 said:

So I’ve been DMing some people on RM and I notice the DMs are a little short and cold. I would think they’d be a bit warmer and enthusiastic considering they do charge quite a bit. Sometimes I get like one or two word answers.

I’m new to this so is this typical for RM? Is it really just more straight and to the point? Just makes me feel a bit uneasy since I haven’t done this before.

More and more over the years, straight-to-the-point has kind of become the norm. Finding providers who take the time to be a little warmer and more conversational (within reason, of course) can take some trial and error.

I also agree with the previous comment that once you’ve actually booked, or especially after you’ve had an appointment with someone, the messaging often changes completely, usually in a good way. Finding a regular that you really enjoy changes everything and you want to keep those.

[SecretProvider]

I saw a guys profile the other day and he gave advice as to how to reach out and I thought it was fantastic - Short, simple, polite, and serious!

Hello, my name is (Desired name) 
I’m in (Desired City) and i would like to get together with you (Desired date and time) 
I’m interested in ( Desired information)

I can almost guarantee that you will get a good reply if you use this template with a solid provider. I think a good general rule is = you get the same energy back you put into the message.

[soloyo215]

21 hours ago, Guav_42 said:

So I’ve been DMing some people on RM and I notice the DMs are a little short and cold. I would think they’d be a bit warmer and enthusiastic considering they do charge quite a bit. Sometimes I get like one or two word answers.

I’m new to this so is this typical for RM? Is it really just more straight and to the point? Just makes me feel a bit uneasy since I haven’t done this before.

I think it's common. I'm no expert, but it could be that some guys are not that experienced. I get that type of messages from fairly new providers and some who are very young.

BTW, the opposite also happens. I've gotten long list pf services provided and other messages that could be more succinct.

Edited Thursday at 08:31 PM by soloyo215

[Cretus]

In my experience:

Sometimes, RM chat has a weird thing that clears out everything you’ve been previously typing.

More importantly, lengthy convos are things that some time-wasters jack off to. 
 

Providers want to have signs that a paid meeting will occur, and that you are not taking advantage of their time for free. I see warnings in bios now too: providers are tired of being  contacted by of scammers, free-jerkers, and time wasters on the site . 
 

Once you meet with them, they could indeed become more verbose. 

Edited Thursday at 08:39 PM by Cretus

[PedroThreeTimes]

On 5/6/2026 at 11:51 PM, SecretProvider said:

I saw a guys profile the other day and he gave advice as to how to reach out and I thought it was fantastic - Short, simple, polite, and serious!

Hello, my name is (Desired name) 
I’m in (Desired City) and i would like to get together with you (Desired date and time) 
I’m interested in ( Desired information)

I can almost guarantee that you will get a good reply if you use this template with a solid provider. I think a good general rule is = you get the same energy back you put into the message.

I honestly, gushed from reading this template message as opposed to the usual “rates?”

[TxDaddyBear]

A lot of us are probably wary because many times we get people posing as clients so they can get whack off material or SOMETHING (who knows) from us. So they pump me for information and photos, say they will be in my town in a week, and they will get back with me to book time. Never to be heard from them again, unless they are like a few of the nuttier ones I get who change emails, phone numbers, or even their voices on the phone to get their next whack off session material. Providers are not getting paid when we chat with you, so they are trying to get one over on us. Haha. So I am very cautious with who I am going to spend my time chatting with and how long, and sometimes, they don't even show up either. It's always a gamble.