Massage question: switching positions?

[WestLA]

Hey everyone. I love this board. I have a question and I would love some insight.

I heard a provider for a sensual massage about a month ago. It was a great time. He gave a very good massage, it was naked, he encouraged mutual touch, and be allowed me to suck his dick.  It was really hot and I really enjoyed it.

 

I am seeing him again this weekend, and I’m really looking forward to performing oral on him again. He’s got the perfect D.

The thing is performing oral while laying down on the table isn’t all that comfortable. Would it be totally weird and inappropriate if I asked him at some point in the massage, after I start sucking him,to lie down on the table while I serviced him? 

 

 

[TxDaddyBear]

I agree. Sucking while lying on the table can be a little clumsy. Some guys just want to do it a little bit, so I usually keep it on the table, but if I feel like the client wants to go to town, I suggest a move to the couch or bed for the finale. It's much more fun.

[DunwoodyGuy]

In my experience, a request like that would break the mood and change the dynamic: If he slips his dick into your willing mouth during the massage, then he's controlling how erotic it gets. If you get up from the table and climb between his legs and start sucking him, it becomes an escort session for which he deserves a higher fee. Alternatively, you could ask the masseur in advance for a rate that includes sucking his dick. (Or hire an escort.)

Others might disagree with me, but when I choose a sensual or erotic masseur, I try to choose carefully and then just let them do their thing. 

Edited Friday at 06:46 PM by DunwoodyGuy

[jeezifonly]

Probably ought to clarify in your mind why you're there, and if the provider you've got is the right match. Don't press this with the current guy unless he also has an escort ad. Sounds like what you are really after is Escort Service with Massage Elements. Rather like Hyacinth's Candlelight Suppers with Riparian Entertainments. 

[Kevin_H]

2 hours ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

In my experience, a request like that would break the mood and change the dynamic: If he slips his dick into your willing mouth during the massage, then he's controlling how erotic it gets. If you get up from the table and climb between his legs and start sucking him, it becomes an escort session for which he deserves a higher fee. Alternatively, you could ask the masseur in advance for a rate that includes sucking his dick. (Or hire an escort.)

Others might disagree with me, but when I choose a sensual or erotic masseur, I try to choose carefully and then just let them do their thing. 

I actually agree with this. During a sensual massage, the dynamic can be very different depending on who initiates. Sometimes the masseur may read the client’s reactions and slowly see where the energy goes, and if both sides are comfortable, it feels more natural and enjoyable for both.

But not every masseur offers the same kind of service. Some only provide a sensual or therapeutic massage, while others may offer full service with a separate fee. So I think it’s better to respect the boundaries, choose carefully, and let the masseur lead unless something has been clearly discussed in advance.

[Nightowl]

I agree with what others have said about being conscious of the difference between a masseur and an escort.  In your situation I’m curious whether he let you make him cum when you were sucking him.  If he did, you might be able to get him to move into a more comfortable position for you to suck him next time. If he didn’t, he may have just been offering himself for fondling/sucking because he determined that it would add to *your* pleasure.  In that case, he might not be receptive to your request for a change in position.  In my own experience, masseurs have given me a lot of pleasure and offered a lot of themselves but they tend to always lead the action.  If it’s a masseur, I’d take my queues from him.  With an escort you can ask for pretty much anything and they’ll tell you whether it’s on the menu if it isn’t explicitly stated in their RM ad.

[+ Just Chuck]

I think that after you’ve actually sucked his cock, you can communicate a little more explicitly.  I’d avoid leaving a text message history with him mentioning it, but at the beginning of another session and in-person . . . say, while you’re undressing and before you lie down on the table, you can say something like “I really enjoyed my last session with you.  I loved getting the chance to suck your cock a little while on the table.  Would it be okay for me to suck you more this time and maybe from a more comfortable position?  If there’s a limit to how much you’re okay with, that’s okay and I’m asking so I respect your limits.”  

[SecretProvider]

The best course of action, as always - is to pose this exact question to your provider. 

Enjoy! 

[WestLA]

Thanks everyone for the feedback. I probably should have included a little more context. My first session with him was pretty sexual. He went from massaging my back and my ass to gently finger-fucking me, and then when he moved to the head of the table, he took my hands and positioned them on his ass. I sucked his dick 2 or 3 times during the massage, and I think he was getting close to cumming, but i stopped sucking as he brought me to a very intense happy ending with a handjob.  When I booked this appointment with him, he asked if I wanted 60 minutes or 90 minutes, and I said I wanted the 90 minutes so I would be  able to focus on giving him a happy ending. He replied with a happy face emoji.  Regardless, I think I will follow Just Chuck's suggestion.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

[jeezifonly]

Lede. 

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[+ Jamie21]

Everyone has different levels of service regarding what’s included in a sensual massage. I’m fine with clients sucking my dick. It usually happens when they’re on their front and I’m standing at their head working their neck or shoulders. They suck it for a few minutes. But it is a massage so a whole session of dick sucking would be an escort session for which a different rate applies. If you really want a session where you suck him to completion then you should ask for that up front to ensure he’s ok with it. 

[pubic_assistance]

15 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Sounds like what you are really after is Escort Service with Massage Elements.

Exactly.

I have had many "erotic massage" sessions that were highly sexualized. 

My feeling, is that once somebody has had his dick in my mouth, or his face in my asshole, its not at all inappropriate to simply ask afterwards, (while I am getting dressed) whether or not they ever offer full escort sessions. Some say yes and some say no. Even one fellow who face-fucked me, came in my mouth and sucked me off too before bringing me to orgasm with his hand, answered no to the escorting question. So ...my impression has always been that some providers of "erotic massage" are most comfortable being in complete control of the boundaries of sexuality where a full escort session may likely move into areas where they are not comfortable with a client (as opposed to a hook up or lover) or that they feel they lose that degree of control over the situation. 

[+ Jamie21]

6 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Exactly.

I have had many "erotic massage" sessions that were highly sexualized. 

My feeling, is that once somebody has had his dick in my mouth, or his face in my asshole, its not at all inappropriate to simply ask afterwards, (while I am getting dressed) whether or not they ever offer full escort sessions. Some say yes and some say no. Even one fellow who face-fucked me, came in my mouth and sucked me off too before bringing me to orgasm with his hand, answered no to the escorting question. So ...my impression has always been that some providers of "erotic massage" are most comfortable being in complete control of the boundaries of sexuality where a full escort session may likely move into areas where they are not comfortable with a client (as opposed to a hook up or lover) or that they feel they lose that degree of control over the situation. 

That’s exactly it. In a massage session I can decide how far I go (and it regularly goes quite far!!) but the essence is that I’m in control of the content. I also do escort sessions where the massage element is very secondary or none at all but that kind of session is only ever with clients who I’ve seen previously to give massage. I’ve found that doing an escort session is too stressful for me if I’ve never met the client before, especially if he expects me to top (and most escort session clients want that).