Discussion: Stop Slander:Rejected Clients Smearing Providers

[JacOB SESSION]

I’m starting this thread because I’m tired of seeing toxic clients post baseless slander and fake reviews just because they didn’t get their way with a provider.

A few months ago someone posted this about me (Jacob_Session):

“Big time crystal meth addict and power bottom”

That comment is completely false. I’m not a meth addict — not even close. And throwing around “power bottom” like it’s some kind of insult just shows how petty and insecure some people are. Versatile providers exist who can top or bottom depending on chemistry and mood. Shaming someone for it says way more about the poster than it does about me.

What makes it worse is that right in the same thread, another member (Travpilo) left a very positive and detailed review:

“My experience was great. He catered to my desire to make out as a lead in… and his oral and bottoming skills were both outstanding. Some great conversation when we were done was a great finish. Didn’t notice any drug issues.”

One person lies to smear me, another has a genuinely good experience and says so. Yet the nasty comment stays up while the truth gets buried under “bump” posts asking for more reviews.

For the record: I have a Bachelor’s of Science in Atmospheric Science with double minors in Broadcast Meteorology and Mathematics. I’m currently returning to school for my Master’s in Disaster Resiliency and Leadership. I work hard and take pride in being a good, reliable guy in this business. I shouldn’t have to defend basic facts about myself against random anonymous attacks from people who know nothing about my life.

I’ve already reached out to the moderators asking them to remove that defamatory post. It crosses the line from opinion into clear slander, and it needs to come down.

Providers — have you dealt with toxic clients leaving fake reviews or baseless accusations when things didn’t go their way?

Clients — what do you think is fair here? How do we keep the review system honest without letting bitter people tarnish reputations?

I’m not looking for drama. I just want this community to stop tolerating this kind of garbage. We’re all tired of it.

Thanks for reading. Looking forward to hearing from you.

[Jeeper84]

Thanks for reaffirming a very important point - your humanity.  Anyone can have a bad experience, but short of having a provider become violent or steal from you, it's not cool to trash someone with smears or insults. One of the things I (and many others) carry into any meeting with a provider is respect for the person who is offering himself quite literally for my enjoyment. 

I must say your education background is very impressive AND cool. 👍🏻

Edited 17 hours ago by Jeeper84

[D21howie]

19 minutes ago, JacOB SESSION said:

I’m starting this thread because I’m tired of seeing toxic clients post baseless slander and fake reviews just because they didn’t get their way with a provider.

A few months ago someone posted this about me (Jacob_Session):

“Big time crystal meth addict and power bottom”

That comment is completely false. I’m not a meth addict — not even close. And throwing around “power bottom” like it’s some kind of insult just shows how petty and insecure some people are. Versatile providers exist who can top or bottom depending on chemistry and mood. Shaming someone for it says way more about the poster than it does about me.

What makes it worse is that right in the same thread, another member (Travpilo) left a very positive and detailed review:

“My experience was great. He catered to my desire to make out as a lead in… and his oral and bottoming skills were both outstanding. Some great conversation when we were done was a great finish. Didn’t notice any drug issues.”

One person lies to smear me, another has a genuinely good experience and says so. Yet the nasty comment stays up while the truth gets buried under “bump” posts asking for more reviews.

For the record: I have a Bachelor’s of Science in Atmospheric Science with double minors in Broadcast Meteorology and Mathematics. I’m currently returning to school for my Master’s in Disaster Resiliency and Leadership. I work hard and take pride in being a good, reliable guy in this business. I shouldn’t have to defend basic facts about myself against random anonymous attacks from people who know nothing about my life.

I’ve already reached out to the moderators asking them to remove that defamatory post. It crosses the line from opinion into clear slander, and it needs to come down.

Providers — have you dealt with toxic clients leaving fake reviews or baseless accusations when things didn’t go their way?

Clients — what do you think is fair here? How do we keep the review system honest without letting bitter people tarnish reputations?

I’m not looking for drama. I just want this community to stop tolerating this kind of garbage. We’re all tired of it.

Thanks for reading. Looking forward to hearing from you.

It is a shame that someone post bs about you.  I hope they remove the review.  A lot people don’t understand escorts have boundaries too just like us as clients.  Congratulations on your degrees.  

[musclelicker]

Unfortunately I don't think there is a way you are going to resolve something like this. You will always have petty vindictive clients that will make nasty snide remakes. Even if they had a great time. It is just the way these bitches make themselves feel better about themselves and to justify spending the money.

But I do agree with you, that claiming someone is a meth head just because they are dissatisfied is pathetic. I had a provider in Florida once that said he was in to kissing, cuddling, sucking and fucking. But when he got there he completely changed it to only a hand job, nothing else. I gave him a negative review for it but never called him names. He said he never promised any of that and that I was a liar, until I produced our conversation, then he blocked me.

I guess what I am saying is that it goes both ways, but I can see it being predominantly more against the providers.

[Pd1_jap]

Verification of facts these days is difficult, to say the least. A lie repeated often enough becomes the truth. 

As it stands, without evidence, it's your word against his. I completely agree that slander is harassment and should be stamped out. 

You could get tested for drugs and upload the results to clear your name. 

I know I would not hire a provider who is known for doing meth so you're completely justified in your anger.

[riser]

For the record, your articulateness is sexy af

But I am sorry you had to use it in this unfair to yourself context

Edited 17 hours ago by riser

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

Bozo has never met Jacob.  and as @Pd1_jap stated it is difficult to discern what is true these days. Without any other facts it really is a "he said/he said" situation. And both the member who wrote the positive review and the member who wrote the negative review have only a handful of posts between them. 

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/161383-411-on-jacob_session-new-orleans/#comment-2474650

However, in general, when trying to deny that you are a drug user, it is not helpful to your case to write in your RM Bio that you are "Into PNP". That's not a good look:

from AI:

PnP stands for "Party and Play," a term primarily used within gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (GBMSM) communities to describe the deliberate combination of recreational drug use with sexual activity. Also known as chemsex, it involves high-risk behaviors and specific substances, often leading to significant mental and physical health risks. 

BTC
🤡

[DunwoodyGuy]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

However, in general, when trying to deny that you are a drug user, it is not helpful to your case to write in your RM Bio that you are "Into PNP".

Well, that's certainly an "oops"!

[riser]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Bozo has never met Jacob.  and as @Pd1_jap stated it is difficult to discern what is true these days. Without any other facts it really is a "he said/he said" situation. And both the member who wrote the positive review and the member who wrote the negative review have only a handful of posts between them. 

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/161383-411-on-jacob_session-new-orleans/#comment-2474650

However, in general, when trying to deny that you are a drug user, it is not helpful to your case to write in your RM Bio that you are "Into PNP". That's not a good look:

from AI:

PnP stands for "Party and Play," a term primarily used within gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (GBMSM) communities to describe the deliberate combination of recreational drug use with sexual activity. Also known as chemsex, it involves high-risk behaviors and specific substances, often leading to significant mental and physical health risks. 

BTC
🤡

Very wise Bozo. You’re nobody’s clown!

[Nue2thegame]

Welcome to the forum. I wouldn’t attach too much credibility to a one sentence comment from an infrequent correspondent. Many view “power bottom“ as a desirable talent and seek them. PNP covers a lot of ground. It usually doesn’t include meth but it is a major turn-off to many of us with an aversion. The best remedy to a single negative comment is to rack up some good reviews here and elsewhere. I think starting this thread is a step in the right direction but I wouldn’t waste too much energy trying to have the one comment retracted. 

[Peter Eater]

4 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

However, in general, when trying to deny that you are a drug user, it is not helpful to your case to write in your RM Bio that you are "Into PNP".

Jeez, clown, wtf? He didn’t “deny he was a drug user.” That’s inflammatory. He said he’s “not a meth addict - not even close.” For all you know - and in fact don’t know, since you’ve never met him - maybe he sometimes enjoys a joint before sex. Relying on AI is just foolishness. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

This topic has been touched on a number of times.    In a few cases I’ve had to remind the poster that some statements can be libelous and litigated.  I think a number of folks here know that I often defend providers who are attacked - especially ones that I’ve had experience with - BUT, if I say something bad, it’s backed by fact and will be stated very clearly.

I’ll add that there are only two providers that I’ve had cause to comment about negatively and both were related to acts resulting from their meth addictions that they denied having.  If I saw a profile indicating PnP, you’d never hear from me and I agree with others that your OP rings a little hollow when you embrace that activity so openly. 

[Peter Eater]

4 hours ago, JacOB SESSION said:

I’m starting this thread because I’m tired of seeing toxic clients post baseless slander and fake reviews just because they didn’t get their way with a provider.

A few months ago someone posted this about me (Jacob_Session):

“Big time crystal meth addict and power bottom”

That comment is completely false. I’m not a meth addict — not even close. And throwing around “power bottom” like it’s some kind of insult just shows how petty and insecure some people are. Versatile providers exist who can top or bottom depending on chemistry and mood. Shaming someone for it says way more about the poster than it does about me.

What makes it worse is that right in the same thread, another member (Travpilo) left a very positive and detailed review:

“My experience was great. He catered to my desire to make out as a lead in… and his oral and bottoming skills were both outstanding. Some great conversation when we were done was a great finish. Didn’t notice any drug issues.”

One person lies to smear me, another has a genuinely good experience and says so. Yet the nasty comment stays up while the truth gets buried under “bump” posts asking for more reviews.

For the record: I have a Bachelor’s of Science in Atmospheric Science with double minors in Broadcast Meteorology and Mathematics. I’m currently returning to school for my Master’s in Disaster Resiliency and Leadership. I work hard and take pride in being a good, reliable guy in this business. I shouldn’t have to defend basic facts about myself against random anonymous attacks from people who know nothing about my life.

I’ve already reached out to the moderators asking them to remove that defamatory post. It crosses the line from opinion into clear slander, and it needs to come down.

Providers — have you dealt with toxic clients leaving fake reviews or baseless accusations when things didn’t go their way?

Clients — what do you think is fair here? How do we keep the review system honest without letting bitter people tarnish reputations?

I’m not looking for drama. I just want this community to stop tolerating this kind of garbage. We’re all tired of it.

Thanks for reading. Looking forward to hearing from you.

There’s probably no way to deter this sort of behavior by a boorish client, but it’s worth realizing that such a review probably doesn’t exist in a vacuum. In the context of other, saner reviews, like the other one you mention, it will stand out as a reflection of the guy who posted it more than it will you.

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

5 minutes ago, Peter Eater said:

Jeez, clown, wtf? He didn’t “deny he was a drug user.” That’s inflammatory. He said he’s “not a meth addict - not even close.” For all you know - and in fact don’t know, since you’ve never met him - maybe he sometimes enjoys a joint before sex. Relying on AI is just foolishness. 

You’re technically right…but I will tell you the guys that I’ve had bad experiences with ARE meth addicts and we’re in denial rationalizing their use AND - ironically - operate out of New Orleans

Edited 13 hours ago by PhileasFogg

[Peter Eater]

2 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said:

You’re technically right…but I will tell you the guys that I’ve had bad experiences with ARE meth addicts and we’re in denial rationalizing their use.  

That’s like saying “the guys I’ve had bad experiences with don’t brush their teeth” - meaning, irrelevant to the issue. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

1 minute ago, Peter Eater said:

That’s like saying “the guys I’ve had bad experiences with don’t brush their teeth” - meaning, irrelevant to the issue. 

Then I’ve been unclear and you’ve missed my point.   But I’m not trying to argue with you.   But the OP - in my opinion - has a tone of denial all over it. 

[Nue2thegame]

16 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said:

You’re technically right…but I will tell you the guys that I’ve had bad experiences with ARE meth addicts and we’re in denial rationalizing their use AND - ironically - operate out of New Orleans

I see birds on a nearby lake that look like ducks and they quack like ducks but they’re not ducks. They’re geese. Just sayin.

[Thelatin]

5 hours ago, JacOB SESSION said:

Master’s in Disaster Resiliency

Resilience is key.  Reviews happen in every line of work.  I’ve been trolled by the worst on google reviews.  Yelp - oh my goodness those poor restaurants.  A person can only be the best they can be and ignore the bs.

[+ PhileasFogg]

12 minutes ago, Nue2thegame said:

I see birds on a nearby lake that look like ducks and they quack like ducks but they’re not ducks. They’re geese. Just sayin.

Yeah.   But do they say PnP on their profile?   The fact that this guy is soooo hot and sensitive is interesting to me.   I wonder if he realizes that the negative comment would have faded into oblivion until he brought attention to it.  Just sayin’ that this thread he’s created is a double edged sword.  A well educated mature guy might have just contacted the admins and privately noted the disparaging comment and let them take care of it without fanfare…but instead he comes out swinging.

i know this - I don’t care.  I don’t know him, I’m not going to hire him, but he opened this Pandora’s box and now he owns it 

Edited 12 hours ago by PhileasFogg

[Nue2thegame]

5 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said:

Yeah.   But do they say PnP on their profile?   The fact that this guy is soooo hot and sensitive is interesting to me.   I wonder if he realizes that the negative comment would have faded into oblivion until he brought attention to it.  Just sayin’ that this thread he’s created is a double edged sword.  A well educated mature guy might have just contacted the admins and privately noted the disparaging comment and let them take care of it without fanfare…but instead he comes out swinging.

i know this - I don’t care.  I don’t know him, I’m not going to hire him, but he opened this Pandora’s box and now he owns it 

In my previous life, I would have agreed with you but I now realize that PT Barnum was right, “there's no such thing as bad publicity”.

[Savage D]

Everyone takes reviews with a grain of salt.  Both good and bad.   I’m glad people post negative reviews, I would like to know these things before hiring, it’s why I come here.  I don’t know what you mean by “rejecting” a client and on what basis you made that decision, but unless you’re sure who the poster is, I wouldn’t presume that’s the case unless you just reject a lot of clients (which is ok , but a little weird).  Best thing for you to do is just keep providing good service and ask for reviews.  Fake stuff always comes out in the wash.  Good service always shines through the bs.  But yeah, the PNP label doesn’t exactly support your case, neither does the moral outrage.  Ask the poster to remove it. If he declines, say thank you for considering it, and move on.

[TJMS]

PhileasFogg makes a most cogent argument and always provides a fine perspective on these issues. I hope that this particular provider is being forthright because the folks on this Forum are influential, decent folks and can assist in promoting an individual.  

Edited 12 hours ago by TJMS

[+ purplekow]

Going back when there was a daily review column, Daddy would takes weeks investigating bad reviews and would not post one until such time as he had spoken to the escort and the reviewer.  I do not know what criteria he used, but slanderous reviews were a minor problem back then.  So the controls may be tightened but it is a matter of whether this is a big enough problem to warrant the time and energy needed to review the reviews before posting the reviews.  

[TJMS]

I remember one fabulous escort I had the pleasure of seeing who was being trashed on this website and was very disappointed that the miscreant criticizing this lovely man is still posting his snarky comments here to this day, even though he is generally a majority of one. I know it places an additional burden on the moderators here, but I hope they will take up the challenge.  Without this forum, I would be very hesitant to engage an RM escort.

[JacOB SESSION]

7 hours ago, Jeeper84 said:

Thanks for reaffirming a very important point - your humanity.  Anyone can have a bad experience, but short of having a provider become violent or steal from you, it's not cool to trash someone with smears or insults. One of the things I (and many others) carry into any meeting with a provider is respect for the person who is offering himself quite literally for my enjoyment. 

I must say your education background is very impressive AND cool. 👍🏻

Thank you very much! It was a challenging program but pushed through it!