The caveat of same day appointments/available now:

[JB_Studio38]

I’m sure this has been brought up before, but it always seems to be a new dimension to it each year. I been finding the same day meetups to be more common lately. I used to get emails asking about my travels in advance, now it seems mostly people texting the day of looking to meet. 
 

I have across all my ads that I prefer 24 hours notice. If I take on a same day meet, 2 hours notice is the minimum but: people don’t understand that if it takes an hour or 2 to confirm, that is then added to the amount of notice I need. For example: If someone texts me at 4 PM, but doesn’t complete confirming along with address and/or deposit until 5:30 p.m. (likely due to asking questions, breaks in texting, etc etc) I’m not going to meet them at 6 p.m. The amount of notice will start from the 5:30 that they confirm. Which could mean 7-7:30 IF I have nothing else going on at that moment.

But what happens? The person may not be willing to meet after such and such time. So wait: you wanted to catch me off guard and be available, BUT you’re also limited on time that you can meet. How does that work 🤔 For example, some people ask for same day appointments but then attach conditions to it like, “but I have to meet before 3 p.m. or 4 p.m. or 9 p.m. Well, if timing was so important, why try and do it at the last minute to begin with? Why not ping me the day before or atleast EARLIER in the day (I had one recently text me at 6 pm on a Friday asking to meet tonight…how many people do y'all know, that can be available at the last minute on a Friday evening?). When I suggested it would be 2 hours at least before I could be available, the plan fell thru. 

In regards to “available now”: I sincerely wish all sites removed that label and changed it to “available today”. It’s not that same day appointments are so bad, it’s moreso people expecting NOW. It’s not possible to stay ready for an appointment 24/7, especially if like me: you’re only used to seeing clients 2-4 times a week max. So when someone pops up asking to meet right away, I don’t know to expect that.

Part of me wants to do away with all same day appointments, but I can appreciate the unexpected earning (and a nice alternative to cumming 💦 , that doesn’t require going to a cruising bar or using a hookup app…which is tempting on days I don’t have clients) it can bring. They certainly come in handy, but I also don’t like cancelling what I have going on, to accommodate.

Sometimes same day isn’t a problem at all really. The problem is I find, once I agree to a same day appointment one time, there’s an expectation that I can do it ALL the time. And usually I’ll allow it once but the 2nd time they ask I’ll usually have to say no. It’s like: I’ve mentioned during our last visit the amount of effort it takes to do an appointment same day.

My Solution: I wish all same day/same night appointments would CONFIRM by 12 p.m. Why 12 p.m.? Well if I’m in a hotel, it gives me time to extend a day. Even if I’m not in a hotel, confirming by noon ensures I can make plans early enough that won’t interfere with friends or family. I just don’t want it to be confused with “all same day appointments must MEET by 12 pm”. No, it’s like a cutoff time for a utility/credit card bill: But instead have it to book by noon, for your appointment to be had that day. 

And to the ones who “don’t know my schedule/just had time pop up”…you know you like to look at escort/masseurs. Even if you have to wing it and put down a retainer of $50/100 to someone you’re familiar with, in the event you may be free but aren’t sure.

[jeezifonly]

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

[mike carey]

I seem to recall something like that as well.

[+ nycman]

[JB_Studio38]

32 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

No idea who you are referring to but, not sure that has anything to do with same day/available now appointments.
 

If and when you do have something relevant to say about that, you can continue. 

 

[56harrisond]

A few "same day" related threads

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

Click the profile link and you’ll see that @JB_Studio38 is Jarred.

JB, you’ll need to figure this one out.   I have thoughts, but alas, history would suggest you don’t want to hear our thoughts and advice. 

Edited Thursday at 10:13 AM by PhileasFogg

[Nue2thegame]

Many of us do prefer to schedule in advance and, to that group, you’re preaching to the choir. The other group operates differently and while your proposal makes sense to me, it probably won’t have much impact on them. Some are always going to wait for the first sign of an erection to schedule urgently. 

[JB_Studio38]

10 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

A few "same day" related threads

Like I said, every year it needs a reboot and to be discussed again, to touch on new points 🤣 
 

10 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Click the profile link and you’ll see that @JB_Studio38 is Jarred.

JB, you’ll need to figure this one out.   I have thoughts, but alas, history would suggest you don’t want to hear our thoughts and advice. 

It’s not that I don’t want to hear thoughts and advice, it’s just that I rather not have to always decide whether to keep plans with friends/family (or even myself) or flake on them to take a client last minute.

But as a low volume provider (aka someone who doesn’t have dudes coming and going all hours of the day -or- running out for every “u available now” request) I get: I also don’t missing out on money because I don’t always have the choice to cancel such plans.

Last year was one example of why I don’t like same day bookings: I accepted a date IN ADVANCE from someone I liked who wasn’t a client, but as it always happens a client hit me up earlier in the day, but he was MIA all afternoon and waited hours to finally say, “I can send the Venmo deposit now”. By that point I had already told the other guy I was on my way. I ended up turning down $450, but the price of integrity is even more. 
 

7 hours ago, Nue2thegame said:

Many of us do prefer to schedule in advance and, to that group, you’re preaching to the choir. The other group operates differently and while your proposal makes sense to me, it probably won’t have much impact on them. Some are always going to wait for the first sign of an erection to schedule urgently. 

That’s true and I know it’s a dilemma. However, I also feel sometimes these guys get “flaked on” by another escort for whatever reason, and then try to make a last minute move (like the one guy recently who talked about deposits).

Thats why I feel the game can really use a reinvention. I can’t think of it right now but, something better than just being on the fringes never knowing when a same day appointment may come thru.

Or: like some do…

[marylander1940]

On 3/5/2026 at 1:53 AM, jeezifonly said:

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

On 3/5/2026 at 7:30 AM, Nue2thegame said:

Many of us do prefer to schedule in advance and, to that group, you’re preaching to the choir. The other group operates differently and while your proposal makes sense to me, it probably won’t have much impact on them. Some are always going to wait for the first sign of an erection to schedule urgently. 

yes, but some can't make plans in advance and even some escorts are skeptical about clients making plans far in advance because of "stuff happens and they end up cancelling".

@JB_Studio38 Many escorts are happy to get a text message: "Hey are you free now?", briefly chat about into, outcall or incall, rate, etc. and see a client in 30 minutes especially if they're going to top and just need a 1/4 pill of Viagra, a glass of water, possibly shaving and jumping in the shower to be ready. 

2 hours wait to see a client the same day to some might be too much time just wasted waiting for a client to show up. 

[JB_Studio38]

10 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

yes, but some can't make plans in advance and even some escorts are skeptical about clients making plans far in advance because of "stuff happens and they end up cancelling".

@JB_Studio38 Many escorts are happy to get a text message: "Hey are you free now?", briefly chat about into, outcall or incall, rate, etc. and see a client in 30 minutes especially if they're going to top and just need a 1/4 pill of Viagra, a glass of water, possibly shaving and jumping in the shower to be ready. 

2 hours wait to see a client the same day to some might be too much time just wasted waiting for a client to show up. 

#1 don’t compare me to “many escorts” who I have no relation to or cannot verify even exist. First of all.

2nd, it means nothing to me. Those other escorts could be doing more than just “viagra and some water” and to assume that’s all it takes, shows you may not understand the facts of what’s really involved. It has nothing to do with getting hard. 

Even when I have offered and been available “right now” to clients, it’s not always as convenient and easy as it seems. Keep in mind, most don’t know where they are going “in 30 minutes”. It’s often very rushed and even if it is a good experience, I may have flaked or pushed back on plans I had. 
 

And you won’t believe it but, the same day “right now” calls tend to come at the precise moment I’m getting ready to walk out the door to do something else. And if the tables were turned and I tried to get them to meet right away, guarantee you they would say, “oh I’m busy”. 

[marylander1940]

28 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

#1 don’t compare me to “many escorts” who I have no relation to or cannot verify even exist. First of all.

2nd, it means nothing to me. Those other escorts could be doing more than just “viagra and some water” and to assume that’s all it takes, shows you may not understand the facts of what’s really involved. It has nothing to do with getting hard. 

 

I'm a friend of many escorts, and I never heard them complain about someone wanting to hire them. They're usually grateful about it especially in what now seems to be a very competitive business. 

Getting hard is BIG part of the business and pretending to be happy also is.  

28 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Even when I have offered and been available “right now” to clients, it’s not always as convenient and easy as it seems. Keep in mind, most don’t know where they are going “in 30 minutes”. It’s often very rushed and even if it is a good experience, I may have flaked or pushed back on plans I had. 
 

And you won’t believe it but, the same day “right now” calls tend to come at the precise moment I’m getting ready to walk out the door to do something else. And if the tables were turned and I tried to get them to meet right away, guarantee you they would say, “oh I’m busy”. 

Most jobs require doing something we don't want to do, or we don't feel like doing at a certain time.

When someone is offering money for your company and you happen to be on the way out to do something, is up to you to leave that for later and miss the payment or not. Most escorts have plenty of free time for errands but when the phone rings they try to "make it happen". It's a matter of work ethic! 

Edited 23 hours ago by marylander1940

[JB_Studio38]

16 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

I'm a friend of many escorts, and I never heard them complain about someone wanting to hire them. They're usually grateful about it especially in what now seems to be a very competitive business. 

Getting hard is BIG part of the business and pretending to be happy also is.  

Most jobs require doing something we don't want to do, or we don't feel like doing at a certain time.

When someone is offering money for your company and you happen to be on the way out to do something, is up to you to leave that for later and miss the payment or not. Most escorts have plenty of free time for errands but when the phone rings they try to "make it happen". It's a matter of work ethic! 

Goodbye. Obviously you don’t want or need to understand why everyone does not operate on the same level, so you may escort yourself from this conversation. 
 

There is no “complaint about someone hiring them” and then to trivialize “on my way out to do something” being something I should drop to see a client, goes to show the type of ignorant and self centered mentality people like you have. 
 

What I want to see, is people like you: drop what they’re doing to see me. And see how they feel about it. Guaranteed they won’t because last week, I had a client tell me when I offered him a same day booking (the next day)…”oh I already made plans”. Okay fine, you don’t want to drop your plans for me so don’t expect me to do the same! 
 

Yes I am also grateful for clients who book and hire me. But, the best way to go about it is to find a mutually convenient time. Even if that does have to be 2 or 24 hours from now. The type of work we do is very personalized. I’ve done the same-day appointments for years. Don’t forget I been in the industry awhile. I’ve done same day, right now, hell I’ve done: walk right past me and let’s fuck right now. 
 

But as a matured escort, I’ve come to realize not everything is about money. Money comes and go, but the same way they can plan other things in their lives with other people: I want that same courtesy. 

Edited 22 hours ago by JB_Studio38

[marylander1940]

4 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Goodbye. Obviously you don’t want or need to understand why everyone does not operate on the same level, so you may escort yourself from this conversation. 
 

There is no “complaint about someone hiring them” and then to trivialize “on my way out to do something” being something I should drop to see a client, goes to show the type of ignorant and self centered mentality people like you have. 
 

What I want to see, is people like you: drop what they’re doing to see me. And see how they feel about it. Guaranteed they won’t because last week, I had a client tell me when I offered him a same day booking (the next day)…”oh I already made plans”. Okay fine, you don’t want to drop your plans for me so don’t expect me to do the same! 

We just want you to start seeing the glass half-full.

 

 

[JB_Studio38]

12 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

We just want you to start seeing the glass half-full.

 

 

Well every person I know that I show up at the last minute, tells me “next time give me some more notice and I can plan”. So don’t give me some bullshit anecdotes about all these other escorts you know.

If you want me to see the glass how you want me to see it, you can’t just talk about what someone else is doing and expect me to fall in line with it…when you don’t even know what I’m referring to.

If I have a Dr. appointment or some other apppintment scheduled 2 weeks in advance, do you think I’m supposed to just “decide whether I want to see the client” instead?

All of my current favorite regulars, are all guys who have been willing to book in advance. Even if I initially booked them the same day, long as they show a willingness to reserve a day or more ahead I’ll keep seeing them.

[marylander1940]

4 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Well every person I know that I show up at the last minute, tells me “next time give me some more notice and I can plan”. So don’t give me some bullshit anecdotes about all these other escorts you know.

If you want me to see the glass how you want me to see it, you can’t just talk about what someone else is doing and expect me to fall in line with it…when you don’t even know what I’m referring to.

If I have a Dr. appointment or some other apppintment scheduled 2 weeks in advance, do you think I’m supposed to just “decide whether I want to see the client” instead? Don’t even come with that.

A Dr. appointment is something exceptional. How often does someone usually go to the Dr. or the Dentist? 

Besides in most cases you'll be asked to pay a fee if you cancelled within less than 24 hours' notice. You're referring to an exceptional case. 

[Luv2play]

On 3/5/2026 at 2:11 AM, mike carey said:

I seem to recall something like that as well.

Yeah Jared. I remember him always complaining about clients who were no shows or were unreasonable in some aspect of the booking process. He served smaller markets like St. Louis or Kansas City as I recall and did a lot of driving to other locations. He ended up insisting on deposits before taking new clients. That probably curtailed his business. 

[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, marylander1940 said:

A Dr. appointment is something exceptional. How often does someone usually go to the Dr. or the Dentist? 

Besides in most cases you'll be asked to pay a fee if you cancelled within less than 24 hours' notice. You're referring to an exceptional case. 

Still assuming Dr. appointments are the only things an escort may have scheduled outside of clients 🙄 

[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, Luv2play said:

Yeah Jared. I remember him always complaining about clients who were no shows or were unreasonable in some aspect of the booking process. He served smaller markets like St. Louis or Kansas City as I recall and did a lot of driving to other locations. He ended up insisting on deposits before taking new clients. That probably curtailed his business. 

 First off: you spelled my name wrong. Nice try though to try to embarrass me 😉 But thanks for the free advertising on my behalf.

I in-fact do still travel and still take deposits. I also enjoy serving smaller markets and actually meet some pretty good clients. Kansas City and St. Louis aren’t the small markets I refer to though.

Anything else you want to ask me about my curtailed business? I’m all ears…

 

 

 

[marylander1940]

16 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Still assuming Dr. appointments are the only things an escort may have scheduled outside of clients 🙄 

That's the extreme example you provided. How often does someone your age and physical condition need to see a Dr?