Having a good time with a provider but not finishing?

[LuckyLechon]

Is it old fashioned of me to expect to “finish” when hiring a provider? It happened to me (or rather, it didn’t) with a a provider I have good chemistry with. We enjoyed our time with each other but couldn’t help feeling a little disappointed after despite us spending waaaaay over time with one another just cuddling and talking in bed. 
 

If you can’t tell, I’m an overthinker, so I’m thinking that’s why I couldn’t finish and now I feel some type of way. 😅

Help give me some perspective. 

[JungleForest]

Do you think you had different expectations from what actually happened? And you lost whatever momentum you had? Can you explain a little more what happened?
 

Orgasming isn’t everything but I can get why that’s something you would want. 

[LuckyLechon]

Just now, JungleForest said:

Do you think you had different expectations from what actually happened? And you lost whatever momentum you had? Can you explain a little more what happened?
 

Orgasming isn’t everything but I can get why that’s something you would want. 

Maybe, over analyzing it made me think something about pacing was off. But I genuinely was so turned on, I wish I knew what happened to I could fix it. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

25 minutes ago, LuckyLechon said:

We enjoyed our time with each other but couldn’t help feeling a little disappointed after despite us spending waaaaay over time with one another just cuddling and talking in bed. 
 

Try to enjoy the journey and not always focus on the destination.

 

Edited Friday at 03:46 AM by Vegas_Millennial

[LuckyLechon]

2 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Try to enjoy the journey and not always focus on the destination.

 

I really enjoy that gif haha. You’re right though. 

[Spikeguy]

And you get to put the memories in the spank bank.

[+ Jamie21]

4 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Try to enjoy the journey and not always focus on the destination.

 

Here is your answer. 100%. 

[Mark_fl]

I'm confused by this post. I think it would depend on WHY you didn't finish and why were you disappointed. 

We're you physically not able despite his best efforts? Were you busy cuddling and never got more intense?

You said pacing was off, but he went over time.  Did you do anything to move things along? You knew when time was almost up. Maybe he wasn't clear on what you wanted and was waiting for you to tell him?

 

Was this your first time with him? Did you discuss in advance what you wanted? 

Sorry, but I have more questions than answers. 

[jackcali]

12 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

Is it old fashioned of me to expect to “finish” when hiring a provider? It happened to me (or rather, it didn’t) with a a provider I have good chemistry with. We enjoyed our time with each other but couldn’t help feeling a little disappointed after despite us spending waaaaay over time with one another just cuddling and talking in bed. 
 

If you can’t tell, I’m an overthinker, so I’m thinking that’s why I couldn’t finish and now I feel some type of way. 😅

Help give me some perspective. 

I think you answered your own question.  You're an overthinker.  I am a fellow overthinker.  Sometimes with my regular provider (I'm only seeing him at the moment), he doesn't finish or I don't finish.  After the first one of us finishes, it's not always easy to rev up again for the other.  When that happens, I'm disappointed in the moment (whether it's me or him), but afterwards on reflection I always realize that I enjoyed the session and I was glad to see him.  Whether one "finishes" isn't the sole indicator of a good session.  

[LookingAround]

I'm still not clear what happened--"mechanically."  You didn't cum but were you topping him and could cum? Was he stroking you and you couldn't climax? Were you so busy talking he didn't jerk you off? Tell us specifically what happened. 

Edited Saturday at 01:49 AM by LookingAround

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Not every sexual encounter ends in orgasm. This is more the case as we age. And some of us can orgasm without necessarily ejaculating. 

[marylander1940]

19 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Try to enjoy the journey and not always focus on the destination.

 

Words of wisdom and experience as usual, Sir!

[jeezifonly]

This phenomenon is part of being human. Women, men, all of us experience disappointment in our sexual denouement at some point. We can will our bodies to do most things but not every thing.

If you both enjoyed the time you spent together, and the provider is being paid for his time, you, as the client, got what was offered, right? 

[jmichaeliii]

22 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

Maybe, over analyzing it made me think something about pacing was off. But I genuinely was so turned on, I wish I knew what happened to I could fix it. 

It happens I hate to say.  I sometimes go into a meet all amped up only to have the switch turn off for no reason.

Then the next time I see the same guy, it's all good.  It used to get me upset, but my good regulars know how to change things up and turn it into a positive.   That trait is a big part of what makes them providers to value.

I have one that is smoking hot gorgeous and its happened.  He will then suggest we shower together and sometimes that gets things going, or it doesn't.   But he always makes it Ok.

All I can really say is dont get overly stressed..its not the end of the world.  Make the best of it.

[soloyo215]

On 2/5/2026 at 10:20 PM, LuckyLechon said:

Is it old fashioned of me to expect to “finish” when hiring a provider? It happened to me (or rather, it didn’t) with a a provider I have good chemistry with. We enjoyed our time with each other but couldn’t help feeling a little disappointed after despite us spending waaaaay over time with one another just cuddling and talking in bed. 
 

If you can’t tell, I’m an overthinker, so I’m thinking that’s why I couldn’t finish and now I feel some type of way. 😅

Help give me some perspective. 

Not a big deal to me. I have experienced that and I'm ok with it. First, I respect my body, so I don't force it to finish if it's not getting there. Second, not finishing doesn't diminish what I have already enjoyed. Third, I am a customer and I don't owe "finishing" to anyone.

The times when I've experienced that, however, seems to have planted doubt on the provider, probably thinking that he didn't do the work right or something along those lines. Not only I have reassured the provider, explaining to him what I just wrote, but I have returned (and finished, and FINISHED, sometimes on/in him).

Of course, I prefer finishing but if it doesn't happen, I'm fine with it.