Blocked on RM but don't really care...

[SecretProvider]

2 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

It's the blocker's loss if they block someone who would have become a good client or provider. 

here is the thing - if you look at pages 100 times and you don't book, you are NOT a client, and you will never become a good client. 

Advertising research suggests that when someone has viewed a webpage only business 10 times, this is the most likely time that would convert to a sale. SO going over this by ten times the amount shows it is never going to happen. 

5 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

How would you feel if someone booked,  had a good time, and THEN looked 100 times to relive the experience in their mind?

I would feel annoyed. How would a restaurant feel if a customer came in and dined once, then come back every day and just looked at the menu.  

Edited Monday at 03:59 AM by SecretProvider

[Mark_fl]

7 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

How would a restaurant feel if a customer came in and dined once, then come back every day and just looked at the menu.

If they looked at the menu online, the restaurant  wouldn't be bothered in the least, and they might be pleased that they enjoyed it enough that they may return.

Especially if it was someone too far away to visit regularly, but would if they came back to town.

[SecretProvider]

1 hour ago, Mark_fl said:

If they looked at the menu online, the restaurant  wouldn't be bothered in the least, and they might be pleased that they enjoyed it enough that they may return.

Especially if it was someone too far away to visit regularly, but would if they came back to town.

don't ask questions if you don't want an answer.  I am telling you: it's annoying. 

[UncutDad]

I have two regular traveling therapists that I dearly love and trust and asked them what the blocking thing is all about.  They both told me that they do not block people.  But on RentMassuer when a potential client just even looks at a profile, it shows up as an email. So they have to scroll thru the "lookyloos" to answer people that have actual questions.  But both of these guys have been pros for so long, they just swat it away and don't pay much attention to it.  

On the flip side, I will look at profiles of guys I might be interested in and get an auto response.  Often I cannot tell if it's a legit "hello" or if it's a "here's my auto response, contact me by text if you want to know more" It's awkward, so I just don't respond. In the age of AI, I want a connection that I know is real. 

From what my regular massage guys say,  they don't reach out to clients that look at their profiles.  If someone contacts them with a specific question, they will respond and often are booked in a more organic manner.  

When AI Robots start massaging us, I will have to tap out.  I turned 70 in July.  Hopefully, I'll have "gone on to glory" if this is where the world is at.  I pray we are decades away from erotic robots doing massage.  One malfunction and your johnson could become a mangled cheeto.  Yikes!

[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

here is the thing - if you look at pages 100 times and you don't book, you are NOT a client, and you will never become a good client. 

You make a very good point @SecretProvider 

I was thinking more about those people who get blocked for only a couple of looks at the page, or those who block a provider when they reach out to the client one or two times.  I've never looked at any page anywhere close to 100 times, but I suppose there are people out there who are looky-loos, and blocking those people might make sense.  Sometimes when I see on this board that there is a name change or updated pictures for a provider, I'll check their page again.   

[aiseeya]

When I am traveling or plan to visit a city, I often browse through RM multiple times (including checking ads) way in advance (3/4 weeks) to make a short list of potential hire. I would then closer to the travel date (3/4 days) revisit the ads in that short list to make my final decision, amd only then would reach out to the chosen provider. 

[Mark_fl]

3 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

don't ask questions if you don't want an answer.  I am telling you: it's annoying. 

I got your answer,  just not your logic. I'd like to hear other provider opinions as well, since it seems pretty much everything clients do upsets you from what I've read.

[+ Just Chuck]

Sometimes I just browse RM with no intention of hiring.  I log out of the site before I do it so I can browse anonymously.  

I sometimes do that before I decide if I’m going to visit a place.  I sometimes use the search everywhere feature and adjust search terms to look for a specific rare combination of features.

[+ SidewaysDM]

10 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

How would you feel if someone booked,  had a good time, and THEN looked 100 times to relive the experience in their mind?

 

I have visited his site a 100 times before booking and an 100 times after. Had he blocked me, he would have lost a yearly booking for the weekend, which is several thousand dollars. A client who sends him cash gifts, occasionally, and gifts on his birthday and Christmas. I am also, one of his best reviewers, and have highly recommended him to men in this community.,Also, we have developed a true friendship, and text each other on a regular basis. I am comfortable enough with him, to joke about my late night visits to his site! Something for a provider to consider before blocking habitual visitors to their profile. 

[SecretProvider]

2 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

since it seems pretty much everything clients do upsets you

Wrong.

Client's who don't waste my time, and actually HIRE me - we have a great time. There has never been a post that I have complained about clients I have actually spent time with. 

Once again - this thread is not about CLIENTS. it is about people who view profiles and get blocked. Someone asked why it happens - I reply : because it's annoying. 

These people are not clients - Client's are people who have hired.

If you are doing this - you are not a client, you are not paying, so you can have a FULL REFUND if that makes you feel better. 

[Mark_fl]

55 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

Wrong.

Client's who don't waste my time, and actually HIRE me - we have a great time. There has never been a post that I have complained about clients I have actually spent time with. 

Once again - this thread is not about CLIENTS. it is about people who view profiles and get blocked. Someone asked why it happens - I reply : because it's annoying. 

These people are not clients - Client's are people who have hired.

If you are doing this - you are not a client, you are not paying, so you can have a FULL REFUND if that makes you feel better. 

You've also said you blocked those who havdn't given you a perfect rating. That sounds like a complaint about a client who wasn't 100% satisfied to me. 

 

[JB_Studio38]

On 1/4/2026 at 9:54 AM, Blnj856 said:

I had a provider I was seriously interested in hiring send me a very uncomfortable message, all because I asked another client of his a question about him out of curiosity. I guess the client must of told him what I asked (it was absolutely nothing out of the ordinary, just basic stuff)  

I’ve heard of this before with me, I don’t feel it’s anything to be upended about. It’s an open platform, people are going to ask around. 

[+ azdr0710]

wow, this got serious!.....

the answer is to set your privacy setting in the RM dashboard to "they can't see me" or similar wording...look for the field where you can do this

[savantsav]

I've been blocked too and it's fine lol. 

One time I was going somewhere about 3 weeks before so I did a first pass and looked at 6 or so profiles. A week before I went to check  them to see if they were still in the location and short listed 3. The week of I went to pull their numbers so I could reach out aaaaaand one of them had already block me. 🤷‍♂️ It happens.

The other type have blocked me after we either had a bad session, or they were fully MIA and never showed up and blocked me to avoid a bad rating. 

So yeah, it happens and is fine. Unless we've booked you don't owe me any time or attention.

[DMonDude]

3 hours ago, JB_Studio38 said:

I’ve heard of this before with me, I don’t feel it’s anything to be upended about. It’s an open platform, people are going to ask around. 

I think you misunderstood what they're saying. They're talking about when Client A asks Client B what the experience with a Provider was like and Client B goes and tells the Provider Client A asked about them. And then the Provider for some reason is mad that Client A asked for intel and sends a negative message to Client A for it. Which is bad and definitely something i would be upended about.

Asking around isn't the problem. It's the running to go tell the provider someone asked, and then the provider being mad someone asked around that's the problem.

[+ TravisChambers]

I’ve never blocked anyone on any platform. It just feels kind of dramatic when I have the option to not engage. If I see someone has viewed my profile dozens of times I may think “that’s a bit obsessive”, but it doesn’t bother me. That said, I have a much higher threshold for tolerating bullshit than the average person. As far as Client A talking to Client B… good! I know the type of experience I provide consistently, and I want people talking—tell everybody!

[Mark_fl]

16 hours ago, TravisChambers said:

 As far as Client A talking to Client B… good! I know the type of experience I provide consistently, and I want people talking—tell everybody!

Great point. Reputable businesses LOVE when their customers talk to other people about their service. Scammers hate it.  That's about all you need to know. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Mark_fl

[mrkileen]

"Blocked but dont really care", yet you cared enough to create a forum for this? Hmmmm 

 

 

 

[Elite_XL]

I sometimes check to see the profiles that visited me, if it has been multiple times, I will reach out to them. If I dont get an answer back, I will either block or ignore it as they are not serious probably.

[Nue2thegame]

22 minutes ago, Elite_XL said:

I sometimes check to see the profiles that visited me, if it has been multiple times, I will reach out to them. If I dont get an answer back, I will either block or ignore it as they are not serious probably.

I’m not sure that’s a valid conclusion. Some of us do a lot of web surfing in anticipation of an upcoming trip but plans change. Some (not me) feel contact from providers is intrusive and don’t respond until they’re ready to set up a date. Or they might have a number of other reasons to visit your profile. I don’t see the harm in letting them have access. They must see something they like. Blocking them might ultimately result in a missed opportunity.