When do you get aroused during a massage?

[whatsinaname]

The whole time? Or does it depend on what they're doing to you? 

[big-n-tall]

It depends... mainly on what the masseur is doing and where he's doing it. It usually doesn't happen until I'm laying on my back.

If he's kneading deep into any part of my body and its causing even the slightest discomfort, I'm not aroused. If I'm aroused before then I'll lose it once that deep massaging starts.

My erogenous zones are on or near my head. So if he's gently playing with my ears; massaging my neck; breathing heavy on my neck or ears; or gently brushing my lips... I'm up. Shea in Orlando was amazing at this.

If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen.

The one masseur, who no matter what he did when he did it, I was always immediately aroused, sadly retired. I was aroused just greeting him at the door. I mean he would embrace you with a deep gripping hug and growl in your ear.

To each his own, and different people will be aroused by different things during a massage.

Edited January 3 by big-n-tall

[DMonDude]

47 minutes ago, big-n-tall said:

If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen.

This sums it up for me. They've got to actively be touching my dick, hole, or rubbing their whole body on mine for me to start getting aroused usually. Otherwise, i feel like the pressure needed for a thorough massage draws blood and my mental attention to the area/muscle being addressed and away from my dick. So i don't get hard usually until it gets more overtly sexual.

[Mark_fl]

Generally if I'm not touching the guy or girl,  I won't get aroused until my cock and balls are touched. Actually, I'm usually asked if I want a HE at massage places because I'm not hard from just the teasing.

[Redwine56]

On 1/2/2026 at 11:13 PM, Mark_fl said:

Generally if I'm not touching the guy or girl,  I won't get aroused until my cock and balls are touched. Actually, I'm usually asked if I want a HE at massage places because I'm not hard from just the teasing.

A masseur once skipped right passed the HE after saying it was included.  I asked why he chose not to go there and he said to me that since I  wasn't hard, he assumed I wasn't interested.  The reason I wasn't hard is that he was not a good masseur who would know how to arouse me.  Needless to say, I never returned.  

[Whippoorwill]

Generally, when the masseur is working at the head of the table and his dick is in my mouth. 

[+ Yellowrod]

When I was younger, I would bone up when the masseur was rubbing my inner thighs while I was face down.  Now, years on, it's only if I find the masseur attractive when I'm face up and he lets me play with him. 

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve a few clients who are hard before they get on the table. It’s the anticipation. One guy lets me deal with it by sucking him off…so it’s a happy start. He’s then able to relax and enjoy the massage and get hard again for a happy ending too. I call it a happy sandwich style massage. 

[Nightowl]

The thing that usually gets me aroused is when I’m face down and his hands start working my upper inner thighs.  If his hands slide through my thighs up toward my abdomen, I’m usually at attention. 

[+ Just Chuck]

Some masseurs add a lot more tease throughout the massage and the ending just ramps up to the end.    Some masseurs separate the session into a part that’s more therapeutic and a part that’s more erotic.  

The other factors are in my head.  How attracted am I to the masseur?  How generally horny am I?  Is the masseur talking sexy, being quiet, breathing in my ear, or asking me if I’ve tried any good restaurants lately?

I’ve been to masseur’s studios where they have porn playing on a TV, erotic art, and shelves of sex toys and BDSM gear on display.  And, I’ve been in very clinical looking studios.  

[TMB]

For some providers I'm aroused on arrival, especially those I've met with before. I am reminded of how hot I find them and I am excited about what's to come. I'm usually aroused throughout but the extent of arousal will ebb and flow around what they are doing. As @big-n-tall says, when they're doing deep work, less. When they're running their hands over my ass, rubbing my neck, making deep moaning or grunting sounds (Ahhhh, Turcoman 🥰) that definitely gets me going. I also find if they are hard it makes me hard.

[Aaron 90]

If they're doing well usually throughout the entire session. When I turn over Im usually fully erect and ready haha. Im lucky because I have found one that allows me to suck him and eat his ass before I orgasm.

[Muscleking]

For me if the masseur is really good and the touches are sensual I usually get erect immediately, and I love when a masseur picks up on and and lightly strokes me and massages my hole through out the whole massage 

[MassageCommunityMember]

12 minutes ago, Muscleking said:

For me if the masseur is really good and the touches are sensual I usually get erect immediately, and I love when a masseur picks up on and and lightly strokes me and massages my hole through out the whole massage 

This 100%

[whatsinaname]

Honestly for me it's when they're massaging my inner thigh and their hand brushes up against my balls. by the time i flip over i'm chubbed already 

[RugbyBen]

Glutes and inner thighs the big ones. Obviously a lot depends on the type of touch. 

My regular uses very deep pressure and although we have fun and then I get very hard during the massage not so much. 

But saw a new guy recently with really light sensual touch and i was hard most of the massage. 

Edited Thursday at 06:18 AM by RugbyBen

[ManTouch]

I never discuss the sensual aspects before the massage so for me, especially with masseurs I haven't been to before, it is the first time I touch them.  Even if it's just their bulge or thigh quickly brushing by my hand it gets me going based on the anticipation of what may yet happen.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Primarily the inner thighs

[simongayx]

Sometimes while he is watching me take my shorts off.....😁

[soloyo215]

On 1/2/2026 at 6:21 PM, whatsinaname said:

The whole time? Or does it depend on what they're doing to you? 

Never the same experience, never at the same point, even with the same masseur. It does depend on what/how they're doing what they are doing, but it also depends on my mood and what I intent to get from the massage. Sometimes I've stopped a masseur from getting sexual with me.

[+ newatthis]

On 1/14/2026 at 8:22 AM, TMB said:

For some providers I'm aroused on arrival, especially those I've met with before. I am reminded of how hot I find them and I am excited about what's to come. I'm usually aroused throughout but the extent of arousal will ebb and flow around what they are doing. As @big-n-tall says, when they're doing deep work, less. When they're running their hands over my ass, rubbing my neck, making deep moaning or grunting sounds (Ahhhh, Turcoman 🥰) that definitely gets me going. I also find if they are hard it makes me hard.

what he said

[RugbyBen]

18 hours ago, simongayx said:

Sometimes while he is watching me take my shorts off.....😁

Oh definitely! Particularly when unexpected. I went to see a new masseur at his home last year and he mentioned his husband was working from home so I had written off any chance of anything more. But then he stood there watching me get undressed and suddenly I was getting hard!

[CheeseBoy]

My intention with a massage is therapeutic, but I do mind if it gets sensual. So I’m not disappointed if I don’t get aroused. Nonetheless, usually when I’m on my stomach and the masseur is working on my glutes or inner thigh. Or if he allows his bulge to rub against my hand. 
 

This is about ten years ago…

One time with my usual masseur, who “pushed the envelope,” but who previously never pushed it to a HE. This must have been my tenth or so appointment with him. He always remained clothed, but we were at the comfort level where he stayed in the room while I disrobed and we made small talk. Since I was not expecting any extras, I was usually flaccid. But this particular time I was fully erect. He’s seen that before, but usually after I flipped onto my back. He definitely noticed but didn’t say anything.

Massage proceeded as usual, but when he was massaging my glutes and inner thigh, I was hard (like usually), but he seemed to be bumping into my sack a bit more than usual. Nothing overt, but seemed more than accidental. He took me to the edge a few times, but always seemed to back off just in time.

He asked me to flip over, and I was clearly aroused. At some point he had taken off his shirt. How’d I not notice that? And he’s never done that before. Well, this was the only time that he didn’t massage my quads or pecs. But I left happy and he was asking if I had any breath mints.

This never repeated with him again, although I keep going to him for massage. Continued to be a good massage, but was always strictly therapeutic.

[BeHappy]

On 1/4/2026 at 6:46 PM, Whippoorwill said:

Generally, when the masseur is working at the head of the table and his dick is in my mouth. 

Yep, that does it for me as well!  Love doing that!