Question for providers about when does service begin

[Mark_fl]

I know officially you are paid for your time. Blah blah blah 😉

But we know there is more to it than that. Especially if it is a BFE or regular client. To you ever reach out and say nice things ro a new upcoming client? Or just treat it like a professional massage studio and confirm the day before?

I'm pretty new to this game, and an escort I booked a couple of weeks out immediately wanted to chat on Whats App, which is fine with me, as I want to show the provider I'm real and not playing games, and want him to have a comfort level going to meet a stranger.

But I found it surprising that every few days I get a text,  "Hi handsome,  hope you're having a good week" or some such thing. 

Is this very unusual, or is this something you also do?

Are there other things like this that youbtry and do that set you apart?

[+ Pensant]

That’s fairly typical. I get the “handsome” bit a lot. I suppose I am somewhat handsome; however, I ascribe that to good marketing on the provider’s part.

[mtaabq]

I don’t find that unusual. I think it’s the provider’s way of keeping you engaged.  

[jackcali]

1 hour ago, mtaabq said:

I don’t find that unusual. I think it’s the provider’s way of keeping you engaged.  

I think it's particularly common given that you booked him two weeks in advance.  I'd wager that many advance-booking appointments from new clients get canceled.  He's keeping you engaged and/or hoping that if you are going to cancel, you'll let him know sooner than the day of the appointment.  Also, young people live on WhatsApp and other chat platforms and, I imagine, keep dozens of conversations going on at all times, so throwing a "hey, handsome" your way every few days is hardly a burden.  

[Braziliancutee]

He asked a deposit for u?

[Nue2thegame]

I’m also relatively “nu2thegame” but I’ve had a fair number of encounters. I’ve been called “handsome “ several times and I think it’s just a relative term of endearment like “honey” or “dear” (or papi). I haven’t had a request for a  WhatsApp interview yet and probably wouldn’t welcome it. I do get some follow up texts which mean to me, “hey I had a good time and would like to see you again”. It’s good marketing and I usually respond in kind if I want to reciprocate.I do think that escorts do a little more of that than masseurs. I think that service begins when whichever one of us (visiting or hosting) walks through the door. I often book well in advance and so far, have never cancelled. 

[jmichaeliii]

It just depends.  I see a few great providers that are business like in their messages, then I have another that knows how to heat things up ahead of time!

The ones I find to be turnoffs are the ones that act like they don't give a crap and that you are bothering them.

[SecretProvider]

For me - the service begins when I have confirmation that you are real client and not a scammer or time waster. That is that you have sent a deposit, or a premium member of rentmen, or I have met you before. 

If we have booked in advance and I may send messages touching base, to keep engagement and ensure the booking goes ahead.  

If we have already met - some times I message my regulars for the same reason - keeping that relationship engaged and staying in their mind.  I also maintain a friendly relationship with them.

 

[Truance]

On 12/9/2025 at 2:47 PM, jmichaeliii said:

knows how to heat things up ahead of time

It's really awesome when a provider takes this route. It is flirty and playful- and, for me, is a major encouragement to not forget about them in the future. 

On 12/9/2025 at 2:47 PM, jmichaeliii said:

The ones I find to be turnoffs are the ones that act like they don't give a crap

I couldn't agree more with you on this. For the amount resources being directed toward a session, a provider should engage to earn it! It's their business and the work requires clear communication and engagement. 

On 12/9/2025 at 5:46 PM, SecretProvider said:

I may send messages touching base, to keep engagement and ensure the booking goes ahead.

I very much appreciate this approach. Once I confirm I'd like to engage services, the follow through is on the provider. If I never hear from them again, I move on. 

[BeHappy]

On 12/9/2025 at 8:23 AM, mtaabq said:

I don’t find that unusual. I think it’s the provider’s way of keeping you engaged.  

Yes I agree with that!  Communication is everything!

[+ purplekow]

As in Speed Chess, the appointment starts as soon as he hits the button.  

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

As in Speed Chess, the appointment starts as soon as he hits the button.  

Wow. A speed chess reference! Haven't played since high school. I do recall loving the partnership version more, which would make it another apt comparison.

[+ JamesB]

Very common. It’s just the provider keeping you engaged, so don’t overthink it.

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/9/2025 at 8:05 AM, Mark_fl said:

I found it surprising that every few days I get a text,  "Hi handsome,  hope you're having a good week"

If you've hired someone for a BOYFRIEND experience, then why are you questioning them treating you like a boyfriend ?

The most important skill for any provider is to create the illusion that they WANT to know you/care about you/be with you. 

[BeHappy]

The illusion is the shiny lure in the water lol!  That’s what makes it fun!  
Bump it and play with it…..but never swallow the hook!